Forget the pope, come to Off Air

[00:00:00]We're also going to try and help out uh Caroline's husband over his choice of knickers. So, actually, this has turned into a very helpful to men podcast.

[00:00:09]We've only ever wanted to be helpful to men.

[00:00:11]>> Is that true, Jane?

[00:00:12]>> Not really. No.

[00:00:16]>> Welcome to Offair with Jane and Fe Mondays. Mondays.

[00:00:19]>> Welcome visualized episode. Um only to those of you who want it visualized. If you don't, you don't need to visualize it.

[00:00:26]>> No, just listen like normal. But do you wake up on a Monday morning and think it's visualization Monday?

[00:00:31]>> I kind of do and I always have a wash.

[00:00:33]>> Okay. So, do you?

[00:00:35]>> Yes, I do. Hard to believe.

[00:00:37]>> Um I'm having a few issues with the shower clogging. So, um it has to be quite a brief wash these days. So, thoughts and prayers. Any tips? I'd really welcome them. Just a quick one because people might know more about this than me. You know, when your shower drain >> Do you think?

[00:00:51]>> Yes, I Yes, I do.

[00:00:53]when your shower drain gets clogged with human hair detritus and >> conditioner and shampoo and you can you can put the um stuff down to uh help with draining >> stuff, can't you? That was such a technical sentence, but other people have told me that corrods the pipes.

[00:01:11]>> Yes, I believe that to be the case.

[00:01:13]>> What's the solution? Well, the solution would be to get somebody round who's got one of those very, very effective power tools or possibly investigate the possibility of a new shower. I do think my shower has done it done its time.

[00:01:25]>> Well, if I'm honest, >> but why don't you just get a a nice local plumber round to examine your pipes?

[00:01:32]>> A local plumber?

[00:01:34]>> Thank you very much for you. You're suggesting that I don't pay full for that company that we all know. Um, that used to be run by that chap. Yes, that one. Although my most recent shower was put in uh by those people >> was it?

[00:01:49]>> It was and uh it has proved to be magnificent. I had the same problem with mine because I believe that I had a slightly corroded trap. Right. Okay. Now we actually we need to apologize because the hung over episode of Thursday of last week. Can I just say I don't think there is any way of two middle-aged women having a conversation about plumbers and pipes without it massive festival of euphemisms.

[00:02:14]>> But we we just need to make clear Thursday's hangover episode was certainly for me a one-off and it will never be repeated.

[00:02:19]>> Well, I think the problem is Jane, your hung over if you've had one glass and I've had several more than one. Um yeah, so it will happen again.

[00:02:26]>> Apologies. Professionalism has returned to off air. Not for long, but not for very long. No, cuz we've already talked talking about corroded uh traps >> uh and other plumbing women's parts.

[00:02:39]>> Yeah, moving on.

[00:02:39]>> Related. Yes, absolutely. Let's quick one. Um this is Lizzie. I was wondering if you were going to reschedule the interview with Lisa Juul. I cannot see that I've missed it. Uh okay, Lizzie, don't worry. You haven't missed it.

[00:02:50]We're doing it tomorrow. Brilliant. So, for anyone who was really interested to hear from Lisa, whose book um it could have been her. I hope that's right. um is already I think number one in the hardback bestsellers. So she's had another hit and she'll be talking to us tomorrow.

[00:03:05]>> And we've talked to her before. She's very very she's a very good interviewee, isn't she?

[00:03:09]>> She's she's very she's very giving, darling.

[00:03:11]>> Yes, darling. She is.

[00:03:12]>> Yes. And we appreciate that.

[00:03:14]>> It's not always the way.

[00:03:15]>> Uh it isn't as we >> But we do our very best to pull things out of people.

[00:03:19]>> Discovered to our cast how ungiving some people are. On that topic, are you in admiration of Claudia Wkelman for saying I don't want to do my chat show anymore?

[00:03:28]>> Oh, good for her. Yeah.

[00:03:29]>> Are you? Yes.

[00:03:30]>> Well, I think I I think um one her kind of authenticity, I will be reasonably frank with you, stick has served her well, hasn't it? Um and I I didn't I must admit I didn't see the chat show, not because I don't like her, but because I don't really like chat shows. Um, and I think she's probably realized that I don't know. Do you think there's Do you think it the chat show has legs?

[00:03:54]>> No.

[00:03:55]>> No.

[00:03:55]>> I think it's become I mean it's not a chat show anymore. It's a It's a little kind of performance >> Yeah.

[00:04:00]>> nugget show, isn't it? And there's only a certain type of entertainer who can really do it. And I think it actually only is Graeme Norton because lots of other people have tried it. And it used to be the the kind of the the great big grand from thing that you could be given. You know, it it was it seemed to be what people wanted to head towards in a entertainment career that you get your own eponomous chat show. But I think, you know, for all of the very obvious reasons that everything is tightly guarded by PR, everything is agreed beforehand. And and also most stars have now accepted that they can control their lives more if they tell their audience things directly. They don't have it prized out of them. And in fact, it's the direction of travel for politicians as well, isn't it? Yeah. To just grab some chairs, >> get it filmed on, you know, whatever social media platform and send it out to the world. So now I think it's a goner.

[00:04:56]And but I I really admire her for just saying, uh, it wasn't for me. I've tried it. I don't want to do it. And actually, I wish more people could do that in the world. And it would be nice if she could kind of set a new bar for people who aren't particularly It's not that she wasn't good at it, but it obviously wasn't her massive kind of forte. She had decided that be lovely, wouldn't it, if people just said, "I haven't done this job particularly well and now I'm off."

[00:05:26]>> I can't see it catching up.

[00:05:28]>> You could transfer it to politics.

[00:05:29]>> Well, that's kind of where I was. Oh gosh, we're get I've forgotten what what today is.

[00:05:33]>> Well, this is a massive week in our political life, >> but it's not that massive because it happens every now and again. Yeah, another Yeah, you're right. Another mahusive week. Okay, >> so Andy Burnham will probably take the reigns.

[00:05:45]>> I think he is Britain's certainly Britain's first Catholic prime minister, which actually is incredible. That's >> and a bit weird >> and a bit strange. Um, not that Catholicism is strange. Hey, you can write in about that if you like. Some people might say some aspects of all religions are a bit strange, but the fact that we've never had a Catholic prime minister before is a bit mind-boggling in the circs. Uh, and also the first Scouse prime minister, which obviously although he is a woolly back.

[00:06:13]I mean, he's not actually. I mean, I know I'm a some people object to my Scouse credentials or lack of them, but I'm more Scouse than he is. I really am.

[00:06:21]He was from where was it? I think he was born in a tree, so I suppose technic.

[00:06:26]Anyway, let's not get picky. It's too early in his too early in his premiership for that.

[00:06:30]>> He bought it. I know. I did. Uh and he's an Evertonian. And he still he thinks, by the way, he'll be able to go to Everton matches >> and do you think he do you think he will?

[00:06:41]>> I think it's problematic because Karma wanted to carry on going to Arsenal and in fact his security detail >> said you can't carry on going as a normal punter. You're going to have to go in a box. and then he was, you know, slightly ridiculed for suddenly appearing in the VIP box. But I think these days, I mean, especially given what's happened uh recently. I I I can't see that he can saunter in in the same way that he used to. And and the huge problem for him now, I mean, aside from any personal danger that he would be putting himself in, is that he draws massive attention to everybody around him. You know, that's hard to manage. It is. So, it's very hard.

[00:07:25]>> Do you know what I do admire about him though is he's already said, "I'll be at number 10, but my family's not moving here. You know, they live in Manchester.

[00:07:33]That's where we're based. His wife's going to carry on working there." I think, good for you. It has always seemed to me very strange that you have to get your family to come and live at number 11 down street. It is, isn't it?

[00:07:49]Uh especially if the you know if you've got kids who are still living with you.

[00:07:54]What a ridiculous ask. It's such an odd part of town, isn't it?

[00:07:57]>> Yes. It's not I mean it's handy for Westminster Tube, I suppose, but that's about it. It's not a place to live.

[00:08:03]>> It's not a family place to live.

[00:08:05]>> I think his children are in their 20ies and and presumably they just want to stay um close to where they >> and I think his wife wants to >> she wants to carry on working. Good for her.

[00:08:14]>> So I think that's fine. You know, we've got lots of emails about different ways of of working which we'll get to in a sec.

[00:08:21]>> Uh but I think you should be able to say I'm going to be there and then, you know, I'll scoot home when I can. That's the way of the modern working world.

[00:08:29]Also, I do admire the fact that he has talked about his dad having Alzheimer's and you know, let's be honest, the really it's just very poignant, isn't it? That I think his dad was quite pivotal in his career and now his dad just won't know that he's become prime minister. That's that's that's a tough one, isn't it? So, well done to him for talking about that because as as I think he's already said, that's a situation so many people in the country will find themselves in or have been through or so I'm glad that's been aired and acknowledged and it's just it's just very poignant, isn't it? Because we all we all want the very best for our children and in British public life.

[00:09:05]Unless you're royal, you simply can't get any higher than being prime minister. So, it's sad that his dad doesn't know about it, >> but anyway.

[00:09:16]>> So, we'll see how long his vibes last.

[00:09:18]And I wish him well. Yeah, >> it's so easy, isn't it, to become incredibly cynical about anybody's chances of success in politics and and it does seem to be true that we live in a political system that is incapable of serving the needs of the political masses, us, you know, it it just doesn't seem to work on so many levels. But I do wish him the best before we start throwing >> Yeah. Well, where are we now?

[00:09:47]>> Potato peelings from the sidelines.

[00:09:49]Yeah. So what would you give him until you find something different?

[00:09:52]>> I think Wednesday afternoon when the proverbial hits the >> So will No, no, Parliament's not sitting now. No. So his first PMQs won't be until >> he's going on a tour of tour of the country.

[00:10:04]>> Yeah.

[00:10:05]>> Whether the country wants him to tour it is uh is a and also >> I'd be excited to see him in person.

[00:10:11]>> Would you? Okay.

[00:10:11]>> If he pitched up in the East End of London, I would definitely be there for him.

[00:10:16]>> I'd like to see him in the flesh. Well, yes, I've met I have met him, but I can't remember. I was really racking my brains. He must have He appeared on Woman's Hour, but why? I don't know. Um, I might see if I can go back and find audio proof of our encounter, but I know I've met him.

[00:10:31]>> How did you find him?

[00:10:32]>> He very, very friendly. Of course, you'll never guess what we talked about.

[00:10:36]>> Okay. We made a bit of small talk about you know what.

[00:10:38]>> Yes.

[00:10:40]So, do you ever worry about the reaction that the I'm from Liverpool thing has?

[00:10:45]>> Because any any this is where I'm from and you know I'm going to state it as my identity first. I think isn't it deliberately designed to make the other person feel inferior? Aren't you always saying I'm from Liverpool, I'm slightly better than you?

[00:11:00]>> No, that's not what we're saying. It's a it's a tribal affiliation. In fact, did you read Charlotte Ivers in the Sunday Times yesterday?

[00:11:07]>> I didn't.

[00:11:07]>> Okay. Well, she basically made the point that um I think she said she'd grown up in the south of England and then then spent time in Cambridge. I think I think we know what that means. And um she was a bit cheesed off by the whole idea of northern identity. And this is where Andy Bernham's on a little bit of a sticky wicket because Liverpool is not that far north. I mean, it's it's northwest and it pokes out into the Irish Sea, but it's not Dumprey. Um and it's not, you know, it's not Invenesse.

[00:11:36]It's it's it's northwest and about 2 hours 20 minutes on a vanty west from London. So I think if I lived in the far north, Newcastle, North Northumberland, I might I might slightly take issue with this whole I know the north thing because he knows the northwest and that's not quite the same thing, is it?

[00:11:55]>> Let's do some emails.

[00:11:57]>> Well, it's not. I mean, you've I mean, it is it isn't that far from Londo. I I I'm by the sounds of it I I may be slightly with Charlotte on this. I think when you put your when you make your identity something that is exclusive to the person that you're talking to, I think you're you're out to cause a bit of immediate.

[00:12:18]>> But if you met someone from slow >> Yes. would you would you talk about it?

[00:12:24]>> Uh no, not from slow because we moved around so much. I don't you know I don't remember slow. If I met somebody from Hampshire, I I honest to God, and I mean this, you know, this does happen quite a lot. Uh somebody might say where they're from and I'll say, "Oh, I went to school in Winchester." And then that's just it because it's not my identity. I I don't have a geographical cultural identity, you know, as with a lot of people because you moved around quite a bit or you then feel that your identity is where you've chosen to live. So, you know, I I I feel like I'm more from London than anywhere else because I came here when I was 17. Yeah.

[00:13:03]>> And I'm 57 now and that's 40 years.

[00:13:06]>> So, what happened before was, you know, where my parents had chosen to live, but neither of them were from Hampshire. I can't do the uh the reform plumber. You know, my family have been in the region for 200 years, so we don't have that kind of identity.

[00:13:22]>> We haven't heard much from him lately, have we?

[00:13:24]>> No. I should get him round to sort out.

[00:13:27]Why don't you phone up and say, "You're not busy. Would you like to come and look at my trap?"

[00:13:30]>> On your rhinos comes in from Giles Shepherd, who describes himself as a converted listener. Have you come over from Catholicism to join this faith?

[00:13:40]>> So, he's left the pope behind and come to a fair. Fair enough.

[00:13:43]>> Longtime listener, first time emailer, or rather long time hearing about your podcast from my mom and sister that I know. So, they wore you down who are utterly obsessed. Uh, but first time emailer. I'm writing because you briefly talked about your rhinals in your latest episode.

[00:13:59]>> That was court. I was going to say courtesy of Glenn, although really were we grateful to him for that one.

[00:14:05]>> I like Glenn's contribution.

[00:14:07]>> They're always brilliantly written. But this one I I thought about it afterwards and made me think funny thoughts about men's trousers and just just how often some of them are washed.

[00:14:17]>> It was about Yeah, it was about the splashback on the lower leg area. Uh I've just graduated my BA from design academy Einhoven and one of my two graduation projects has made me something of an expert on urininals in one very specific manner. I wrote a thesis which I will attach. Well well thank you Charles looking at urininals sideways posing them as sacred ritual sites where masculinity is produced and upheld. I ramble about various ideas that all point towards the urinal as devotional architecture. I hope it can contribute to your questions as to why the urinal still exists.

[00:14:56]>> I do think this is genuinely fascinating. I think it's brilliant.

[00:15:01]What was that phrase again? What was it?

[00:15:03]Architecture.

[00:15:04]>> Uh devotional architecture.

[00:15:07]>> Devotional architecture, >> which is something that we don't talk about often enough on this podcast.

[00:15:11]>> No, it's a first. But look, welcome devotional architecture. I I need to know so many more things. Uh I mean, what is the the exact title? Uh I mean, I didn't open this this morning. It was too early for a thesis.

[00:15:24]>> I feel I feel really bad. I didn't either, but I would like to know at least the title of the >> Should we ask Eve if she could read it tonight? Yeah. Yeah.

[00:15:31]>> Read the thesis. Yeah. Eve's not allowed to speak today. Um but we we will hear from her tomorrow, we hope, on the podcast. She's had another of her frantic weekends in which we're told she's been involved in a record-breaking attempt So, full details tomorrow.

[00:15:46]>> Yeah. But it involves pirates.

[00:15:48]>> What? Don't give any more away.

[00:15:49]>> And Hastings. Yeah. And she's almost lost her voice. Yeah. Yeah.

[00:15:53]>> We traveled up to Norfolk this weekend.

[00:15:55]The beautiful beautiful big skies of Norfolk uh for a friend's 60th, which was a festival chain.

[00:16:02]>> She's a Is she a popular lady?

[00:16:04]>> Very very popular. So, it was a massive thing and all hail to her and her family for the planning that went into it. So, loads of people were staying on this campsite, really lovely campsite outside Darham. Uh, and everybody had an absolute blast. Two days of mad mayhem, uh, and celebration of Sophie. I don't think she'd mind me saying happy birthday, Sophie.

[00:16:26]>> When was her birthday?

[00:16:27]>> Uh, I don't got absolutely no idea, but this was the weekend that we were celebrating it on. Uh, they served a magnificent curry as the main meal, which was such a good idea in those those containers. Do you ever do a Farmer Jay meal? I'm I'm sorry. I don't understand how it works. We've got one in East West Kensington. Oh my goodness.

[00:16:45]I know. I may not be there every day.

[00:16:47]>> I go past it and I'm just I stand outside in complete wonderment, but I don't know what you do. You You have to fill up. I mean, it looks a little bit like how they serve food in prisons in those >> well or in primary schools or Yeah. Some secondary schools still have the >> compartmentalized the rectangular tray that just has Yes. kind of, you know, six or seven in this case. And it was all disposable because it was very eco-friendly.

[00:17:10]>> I was going to say it's not cheap.

[00:17:12]Farmer J. I'm sure she No. No. And it wasn't Farmer Joe. It was just in those.

[00:17:17]So you So you had all of these. It was a tally. Um it was it was absolutely beautiful. Absolutely brilliant. Um we went in a camper van uh because we went in a camper van. That's what we decided to do. We rented a camper van. And there's a very funny picture.

[00:17:31]>> What she's not saying is she didn't want to camp.

[00:17:33]>> I know. Well, we didn't I'll be honest about that. I'm not terribly good at camping. I I don't I don't find it very restful.

[00:17:40]>> Well, it's that's because it's not >> I think it suits the under 18s, but >> Well, I mean, everybody here was, you know, entering their third age and doing it. They went for it, did they?

[00:17:50]>> Yeah.

[00:17:50]>> But we had a feeling it today, though, weren't they?

[00:17:53]>> Quite a big camper van. And and I'm very happy to put this picture up on on the Instagram. Uh so, my partner, he took a picture of me driving it. Obviously, I have to be so close to the steering wheel. I think I need to rethink my late in life career change to Road Holage.

[00:18:09]>> Can we just hear the make of the camper van, please?

[00:18:11]>> It's a VW California.

[00:18:13]>> Just so people can look it up because this is a long way from the Scoda Monte Carlo.

[00:18:16]>> It certainly is.

[00:18:17]>> So, how did you find it?

[00:18:19]>> So, my feet couldn't reach the floor.

[00:18:22]>> So, it was a bit like playing an organ.

[00:18:24]I mean, it was it was an automatic, so I didn't have to do lots of gear changes because actually it would have been very good for my diaphragm.

[00:18:30]>> Um, but it it was like it was like playing an organ. Have you ever played a massive organ?

[00:18:36]No, I haven't. I'm determined to be mature this week. No, I haven't. Okay.

[00:18:41]Well, you would do it with the same kind of tippy toe action. So, I had to drive with my tippy toes, which was fine. I didn't do all of the I didn't do the big motorway driving. I leave that to my man.

[00:18:51]>> That's not for women. Ladies, I should have said, no, I don't think ladies should drive on motorway.

[00:18:56]>> But the the picture is just ridiculous.

[00:18:58]I'm very happy to share it.

[00:18:59]>> Well, we need to stick that up.

[00:19:00]>> It is just dafted.

[00:19:02]>> Yeah. Okay. And uh there was one point where we approached uh entering a dual carriageway. I think these are very very badly designed. You know when you you approach a kind of T junction onto a dual carriageway on the other side of the dual carriageway, there's also a T junction. So even though you know it's going to be clear, you got to factor in the person who's decided it's clear on that side who's going to come around that side. Absolutely terrible. And we were going to go to the coast and I was so terrified by the junction, we went inland instead. We spent we spent a very nice lunchtime in Swafam.

[00:19:34]>> Swaffam.

[00:19:35]>> Yeah.

[00:19:36]>> Yeah. I mean the trouble is when you say Norfolk now I think of two things. Um Dr. Ruth Galloway in the early Griffith books and just and Stigs books >> and just general murder really.

[00:19:48]So it's a good job that I didn't know that you were in Norfolk at the weekend.

[00:19:51]I'd have been worried sick.

[00:19:52]>> No. There was plenty of life.

[00:19:54]>> Was there?

[00:19:54]>> Yes.

[00:19:55]>> No. You didn't find any old bones or No.

[00:19:57]>> No. Okay. Okay.

[00:19:58]>> You didn't.

[00:19:59]>> Right. Well, I'm glad you had a good time and we do need to see that image.

[00:20:02]Make sure make sure it goes public.

[00:20:04]>> Happy to do that. And I do think 60ths are interesting these days. People seem to be really putting some well into them.

[00:20:11]>> I think 60 is the new whatever.

[00:20:14]>> Um.

[00:20:15]>> Yeah. Is that why do you think that is?

[00:20:17]Is it I suppose we have Have you heard that expression 10 good summers?

[00:20:22]>> Yes.

[00:20:22]>> Yeah. I I'm hearing that a lot.

[00:20:24]>> You've got 10 good summers left.

[00:20:26]>> Yes. Well, exactly that. And then there was that before that we had 18 summers.

[00:20:31]The summers you might have reasonably with your children if you have them, >> right?

[00:20:36]>> Um I find both of them I wonder what other people think. Just make me feel a bit melancholy.

[00:20:41]>> This is quite winter exclusive, isn't it?

[00:20:43]>> Yeah. Well, it's not fair to winter. No one thinks about all those November you'll have.

[00:20:50]>> But do you think the 60th is because >> I don't know. Are we are are we feeling younger in ourselves at 60? I've got a feeling that both my parents maybe felt that 60 was the beginning of something different that you didn't you wouldn't have a massive party for.

[00:21:08]>> Well, I think that based on statistics and life expectancy that wasn't unreasonable.

[00:21:15]>> Yeah.

[00:21:15]>> But now we know people live longer, but it's how well they live, isn't it?

[00:21:19]That's what that's what really matters.

[00:21:21]Um people are you're right they're having big blowouts for their 60th. I mean that's if you're fortunate.

[00:21:25]Obviously some people couldn't dream of doing such a thing.

[00:21:28]>> Yeah. But also I mean it is as you know it it is also a time that is often laced with loss and you know quite often and challenge of one sort or another. You will be having conversations with so many people who have just buried a parent who are dealing with unruly teens or you know difficult early adult life in their kids. I mean there's just so much swirling around.

[00:21:50]>> Yeah. So, it's quite I suppose it's quite sees the day, isn't it? You're right.

[00:21:53]>> Yeah. Seize the day and serve up a tally.

[00:21:56]>> A tally. Yes. That is a good idea.

[00:21:58]>> Just magnificent. Claire says, and we'll pump this out. I listen to your houses and places coincidence stories. I thought I'd add mine. My ex-husband and my subhusband have the same initials as each other.

[00:22:12]>> That is quite That's quite a lot of spooks. the same birthday, albeit a year apart, >> and both have a sibling with the same name.

[00:22:22]>> Yeah, that's almost too much, isn't it?

[00:22:24]>> Both, of course, have married a woman called Cla. I added that bit. Uh, Cla, thank you. That's very strange.

[00:22:31]>> Yes.

[00:22:32]>> What What is the universe telling Cla?

[00:22:35]>> That she's got a kind of doppelganger on the go.

[00:22:39]>> Yes.

[00:22:39]>> Yeah.

[00:22:39]>> Yes.

[00:22:40]>> Yeah. Um, can I just say because I'm just going to tip my coffee out. Giles had a addendum at the end. Uh I have to shout out my mom Nicola who listens to your podcast and sketches as she listens often posting to her Instagram at movement makerpace and my sister Rosa who's a brilliant artist in Amsterdam who I know has gotten through many a stressful period with the help of a bit of Jane and feet in the headphones. So, and we're going to Eve is going to read your thesis tonight, Giles. And she will come back with um I mean, she's a very intellectual person, Eve, as well as, you know, having a splendidly sexy voice.

[00:23:18]>> Yes.

[00:23:18]>> Uh so, she can do both things >> and a social life that could best be described as lively. And let's just leave it there. But she's we're living vicariously through Eve social life, so I'm actually madly jealous. Um lost things. Uh this is from Sig. This May, I left an inflatable lumber pillow on an Aian flight arriving at KFU. I duly completed a lost form on their website.

[00:23:43]When leaving 10 days later, I asked the airport staff if they'd found it. Of course, they had. I was taken to the lost and found room and happily retrieved it. And that is why we love Greece, says Sig. Well, there are many reasons why we love Greece, but that will add that to the massive pile of reasons to love Greece. But you came back from France rather loving France.

[00:24:04]>> Yes, I like France. I like France very very much. But I love Greece.

[00:24:11]Okay. Can I just ask a supplementary question on this? So in France when you were musing about the fact that you were in quite a rural place and you could see twinkling lights of something a bit more urban off in the distance but perhaps that level of rural existence wouldn't be great for you in Greece. Aren't you looking across massive great big areas of the Pelpinesise before you can even see a twinkling light? Why would that feel less in the middle of nowhere?

[00:24:44]I It's a good point, but I I don't want to I don't want to live in the middle of nowhere. I never want to live anywhere again where I can't walk and get something to read and milk in about five five or six minutes. I re I really do mean that. So, these are just places to visit Fee.

[00:25:02]>> Okay.

[00:25:03]>> Yeah. I am never living in the middle of nowhere as we all know. Um if you're a woman in fiction, that's a very very dangerous thing to do.

[00:25:11]>> Oh my goodness.

[00:25:12]>> Yeah.

[00:25:12]>> Yeah. Actually, we could talk about that to Lisa Ju, couldn't we? Because there's been quite a a talking point and it's been said before, but so many of the bestselling books, I think last week, >> I think nine out of 10 of the bestselling books feature dead women.

[00:25:25]>> Yeah. And it's we we have discussed it.

[00:25:27]>> Well, we've discussed it before. I mean, we've been banging on about it for years, actually.

[00:25:31]>> It's just deeply peculiar.

[00:25:33]>> Yeah.

[00:25:33]>> But it's something that we obviously feel the need to read about. I mean, and I'm not disassociating myself from this.

[00:25:42]So, let's talk about it to Lisa tomorrow. See what she says.

[00:25:45]>> But both you and I, I think, have come to really, really lovely authors who don't.

[00:25:50]>> Well, yes, but they're just they're not as successful the ones as the ones who do.

[00:25:54]>> Yeah. But the more we talk about them, the more successful hopefully we could make them. So, let's only talk about them.

[00:25:58]>> Okay.

[00:25:59]>> Yeah. uh now the working from home debate because we were quite firmly on the side of it doesn't suit us and uh we've had some very very thoughtful emails from people who'd like to point out uh that it does suit them. Uh this is going to remain anonymous. I wanted to write in to contribute to the working from home conversation. I'm a 35year-old woman in London with a 2-year-old toddler. I've spent the majority of my working life so far based in an office until COVID changed that and now only go in once or sometimes twice a week. I genuinely cannot get my head around how working mothers used to and many still do have to go to the office every day and keep up with having children to do the nursery drop off followed by a London commute, a dare to desk, making it back for pickup before the nursery shuts, home for dinner, bath time, bedtime, and that's before the food shops, laundry, and tidying up the house. Uh, thank you for what then continues to be a very thoughtful email.

[00:26:56]I'm just going to jump to the end for time purposes. Uh, so it's all very well saying how nice it is to go into the office and see people in the flesh, even just to enjoy being irritated by your colleagues. But it's just not that simple when you're juggling small kids and everything which comes with it. I am so grateful that I can enjoy seeing my daughter when I pick her up because I've already managed to unpack the dishwasher over lunchtime. Massive respect to those parents who are still having to go in five days a week and juggling all of the household chores and the kids too. I realize I'm very lucky with the setup and flexibility I have. That is um that's it in a nutshell, isn't it? Um that email, the struggle to keep on pursuing a reasonable working life whilst feeling that you are doing the right thing by your child who's howled too.

[00:27:44]>> Uh yes. Yeah. and and and also I really do sympathize with that and I suppose we were rather glibly just talking about our own lives because our kids are much older but also Jane I just really really struggled when my kids were tiny particularly that age I really struggled with not being in the same vicinity as them >> um and I I I don't think you're allowed to say that very often actually and for all of the liberation that you might then feel when you get to your desk at work and you can choose your prep sandwich and all that kind of stuff. I I genuinely sometimes had to make myself stay on the bus cuz it just felt like I was going in a direction I didn't want to go in geographically. It just felt far away from my kids. So, props to the parents who are getting on trains, you know, to go hours away from where their kids are. I think this there is still quite a quite often you have quite a visceral connection >> Yeah.

[00:28:38]>> to your kids when they're absolutely tiny. So, I completely hear you on that.

[00:28:42]Um this is from uh Pat. The main reason we should welcome working from home is that it allows parents, mainly mothers, to stay in work and earn and pay the bills. Of course, the social side of office work is great, but not everyone can afford this. Allowing working from home has actually been a major liberation for many. It must have rescued a lot of family budgets, especially for single parents. And finally, if Jacob Reese Moog doesn't like it, it must be good for normal people, right? Okay. Um, yes, he's a Oh, no, we have heard a little bit. I was going to say he'd gone a bit quiet, but we we we have heard a little bit about him. Um, this is from Karine. Um, working from home has been transformative for my ability to earn decent money and balance work with home life. I live on the coast and the salaries available for my profession, communications that is in this area, are significantly less than what I could earn in land. This does however mean at least an hour's commute. Without working from home as an option, I'd be faced with the choice of earning less and not being 50/50 with my husband, something that is important to me, or earning more and missing out on an awful lot of family life due to leaving early and then getting home late, which is something I'm prepared to do, which isn't something, sorry, I'm prepared to do if I don't have to. I really like going into the office. Really enjoy seeing my colleagues. wouldn't want to lose that and I understand that if you live alone being in an office environment could be vital. However, being able to work a good chunk of my week from home means I occasionally get to do the school drop off can get to some after school clubs and have time to exercise before and after work without that eating into family time. Honestly, thank you for that Karen. more I think about this um the the more respectful I am of those women and and it is largely women who are trying to juggle all this stuff right now. It feels like a long time ago that I was attempting to do it and that's really because it is a long time ago and I must have been knackered.

[00:30:46]I really must. But I only worked half the day.

[00:30:49]>> Yeah. When Yes. No, you were lucky. You had a you had a job that that actually really fitted into having kids.

[00:30:56]>> Pretty much. pretty much because I could spend the more when I was working um at the BBC I could spend depending on where I was working crash um I could either be at home with the children in the morning and then go to work in the afternoon or I went early in the morning when I was at radio 4 and I'd be home school pickup so >> and it's so rare to have >> it's incred it's incredibly rare and I you know I was I never I don't think I took that for granted even then actually I mean don't get me wrong I was absolutely knackered >> I used to fall asleep at my desk >> quite a bit actually when when I went back after my younger child because it's you you're probably you're sleepd deprived to the power of however many children you have.

[00:31:36]>> Well, yeah, because you don't sleep at night either. Really, do you?

[00:31:38]>> Not really. Not really.

[00:31:40]>> Just a I have to say a huge thank you actually. My colleagues are always very understanding about it and wouldn't draw it to the management's attention.

[00:31:48]>> Well, not not that the time you fell asleep on the radio was was actually noted. Um, no. Um, have you seen Adam's email about being having insomnia?

[00:31:57]>> Uh, yes, we can do that. And then we're also going to try and help out uh Caroline's husband over his choice of knickers. So, actually, this has turned into a very helpful to men podcast.

[00:32:08]We've only ever wanted to be helpful to men.

[00:32:10]>> Is that true, Jane?

[00:32:11]>> Not really. No. But Adam, um, it makes me sad this actually because he does say, um, that as a bloke, he can't discuss it with his mates. This is the fact that he's really struggling to sleep. And whilst my wife is supportive, she's skeptical. Um she's skeptical about the fact that he'd like to do some craft. Anyway, let let's just hear the email. I've followed all the sleep advice, limited myself to one coffee a day, abandoned the iPad after 7:00. I've stopped eating at 5. I've given up alcohol, and I take magnesium. I will fall fast asleep quicker than you can say House on the Prairie when I settle down in front of the TV and when my head hits the pillow. But after three hours, I'm as alert as a mircat.

[00:32:55]>> That's it. That's exactly what happens to Adam. As a child, whenever my dad or granddad were slumped in front of the telly, I used to wonder how it was possible, whether it was Coronation Street, Porridge, or The Good Life, which were, of course, incredibly engaging and essential family viewing.

[00:33:11]Nowadays, I'm in awe of anyone who can stay awake. Meanwhile, my granny and my mom were formidable knitts, and so I'm wondering whether I can attribute their wakefulness not only to being in charge of the remote control, but to keeping their hands occupied. The problem is, as a bloke, I can't discuss it with mates.

[00:33:30]And whilst my wife's supportive, she's skeptical as she's not a knitter herself. I come to you and your listenership then for advice over three things. Firstly, are there any further tips on my sleeping problem? But secondly, if keeping myself passively occupied in front of the telly is the answer, should I crochet or knit? Right.

[00:33:51]There's a lot there's a lot going on in Adam's mind, isn't there? Um, so I think he wants advice on two things. Taking up craft as a man in I'm guessing approximately midlife and how can he stop that that do that waking up in the middle of the night thing again that after two or three hours sleep. now um that we're not as women we're not unfamiliar with the idea of sleep sleeplessness not just with small children but also >> it's a massive menopausal huge menopausal thing Adam as I'm sure you're aware um and there are those not long dark nights of the soul I think that's slightly overgging it but times when you do think >> am I ever gonna get a night's kip again but we don't often think about men and insomnia and interestingly um I was talking to a colleague here at work this morning who just says she gets she's lucky if she gets 5 hours sleep a night.

[00:34:43]Um now I couldn't function on 5 hours.

[00:34:46]Could you?

[00:34:47]>> No, I do I do like my sleep very much.

[00:34:51]>> But I think also as anybody who has real insomnia knows when you mention insomnia to people, it is one of those weird things where people always say, "Oh, you should try this. You should try this.

[00:35:04]You should try this." It is a world of recommendation >> out there. And I bet Adam has already tried >> well a few things >> and and that kind of and there's quite an obsession now about sleep hygiene >> isn't there and your tracker apps and all of that which personally I think must be a little bit counterproductive.

[00:35:23]>> I think they're probably incredibly counterproductive as by the way is the notion that you quotes need 8 hours sleep. I don't think everybody does need 8 hours sleep. I think if you get 6 and 1 half 7 hours you are supposed to be able to function. Most people can. So, if you're not getting 8 hours, park that and then you might be less stressed about the fact that you're not getting 8 hours.

[00:35:42]>> But why don't we just compile a helpful list of kind of 20 things that people have done that have cured their insomnia.

[00:35:48]>> I mean, he's done a lot. Um, doesn't drink, doesn't eat after half five.

[00:35:52]>> Y, >> that'd be hard for me cuz I do like a nibble later.

[00:35:55]>> Well, I suppose I mean, if it's not helping, you could try just flipping that on its head and have a big cheese sandwich and a glass of red wine at 10.

[00:36:05]>> Yeah. you know, when news at 10 changes into less Armageddon gear, uh, and see whether or not that helps. And also, as anybody who's had insomnia will know, it just becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

[00:36:18]You know, you you fall asleep so worried about the time that you're going to wake up, then something in your brain wakes you up at that time. So, but let's try and be helpful and compile a list in terms of keeping your hands busy so you're not just kind of in a a slightly um you know somulent state when you're watching TV. Definitely just just get some needles and try some knitting or try quilting. My quilting is going very very very slowly.

[00:36:47]>> Yeah. Well, but it is it is it it def I think it does help actually because then you feel productive not completely and utterly >> kind of supine. So that might help and go for it. I've never been able to crochet. I don't I I watch people crochet. It just seems interminable. But but uh have you ever tried crochet?

[00:37:06]>> You'll be amazed to hear I haven't. I'm not even sure what the strict definition of crochet is.

[00:37:10]>> Well, it's one needle, not two.

[00:37:12]>> It's a it's a needle with a hook on it.

[00:37:14]So you're constantly hooking through.

[00:37:16]>> But what do you make? everything. You can make absolutely everything. But >> you could make a scarf.

[00:37:21]>> You could make a scarf. You could make a doily. You could make I have a friend who makes amazing kind of uh scarves, but they're they're almost like roughs out of crochet. Absolutely.

[00:37:32]>> Like a Puritan style.

[00:37:34]>> Yes, they are quite oldfashioned.

[00:37:35]They're rather lovely. Yeah.

[00:37:37]>> Okay.

[00:37:37]>> Uh >> let's bring back rough.

[00:37:39]>> Bring back the rough. Something Andy Burnham could focus on.

[00:37:43]>> Come on, Andy.

[00:37:43]>> I think we're slightly heading towards it. There's definitely a Victorian feel about the maxi dress at the moment.

[00:37:51]>> Victorian?

[00:37:52]>> Yes. What do you mean?

[00:37:53]>> Well, dresses are very long and they do I mean, I'm kind of wearing the the right shape today. You know, they're in at the waist and then they're flared out. It's quite a Victorian look.

[00:38:04]>> Okay.

[00:38:05]>> Yeah. I'm very glad that the the bodycon dress >> has had its day. The 1980s were very unforgiving for anybody apart from those five supermodels.

[00:38:16]>> I think I wonder whether bodycon might make a bit of a comeback. You most >> It's over there in the MAGA land, isn't it? That's the uniform of the the MAGA White House employee. It's the very long blowout hair as they call it in America.

[00:38:32]>> And the very very super tight dress and the very high heels.

[00:38:35]>> Yeah, he got a bit of booing, didn't he?

[00:38:37]uh don't want to mention >> well can we just have a brief conversation not about the football itself but just about the behavior around the World Cup final and then the interval now you said that you went so you went to bed in the second half did you see the interval spectacular >> I actually didn't see it because I timed my Sunday night wash to coincide with the halftime show because I knew it would be crap >> so you didn't see Wayne Rooney's >> I know what he I know what he said and I think he speaks for many.

[00:39:09]>> We were all in that moment.

[00:39:11]>> So it was Madonna and who else was in it.

[00:39:14]>> So uh Robbie Williams, Nicole, >> that was before the >> Thing me Jiggy and what's it? They did there before.

[00:39:20]>> Well, that was at least in tune, I thought.

[00:39:22]>> And they looked like they were all they had all just come off an Avatar set. It was a very very odd I mean >> Robbie Williams has a sense of humor, but even that tracksuit was beyond him.

[00:39:33]I don't think he could pull that off.

[00:39:34]Was he not wearing it ironically?

[00:39:37]>> I That's what I mean.

[00:39:39]>> I credit him with >> I don't think he managed to convey that he was wearing it ironically. It was It was a kind of very very odd bright blue and it had sparkles in it.

[00:39:47]>> Yeah. Right.

[00:39:48]>> Yeah. It was the kind of thing that if your child, you know, you're walking through the shops and they said, "Mommy, mommy, mommy, I really want that." You know, you would pretend that there was an emergency in another shop and that you had to leave immediately. Yeah.

[00:40:00]>> And then the halftime was Shakira Madonna. uh Burner Boy and oh I can't remember but I mean it was just the Muppets were in there.

[00:40:09]>> Oh I didn't see the Muppets >> and Wayne Rooney for people who didn't see it. Uh Gabby Logan went round the houses around the table asking uh all of her pundits what they thought of it and there were some very polite answers from the other two. They really just went it was crap.

[00:40:26]Well >> and we were like yes it was terrible.

[00:40:32]Then Donald Trump wouldn't get off the stage and the Argentinians were just awful.

[00:40:38]>> They were utterly classless, weren't they? I think with the exception of um Messi who did cry.

[00:40:43]>> He did. Yeah. But then he did shake the hands of the Spanish players.

[00:40:46]>> But the rest of them just went up to the the Spanish team, pushed them, slapped them, shoved them.

[00:40:51]>> It's awful.

[00:40:52]>> It was just horrible. It was really horrible. Tom Cruz had done this great big thing at the beginning about the unity of football and how wonderful it was for everyone to come together in this stadium tonight. You know, we're kind of part of a religion. And then along comes the Argentinianap.

[00:41:11]>> Can I apologize?

[00:41:12]>> Anyway, they didn't they didn't win.

[00:41:13]>> They didn't win. Uh so, uh I need to find the right email here because I want to get my apology specific. Uh so, we ended one of the podcasts last week with me saying something about the Malvas.

[00:41:23]What I was trying to do was make a what is admittedly a very niche joke about another podcast host.

[00:41:30]>> Oh yes.

[00:41:30]>> Who has got into a lot of trouble for doing that. But I didn't correctly identify that uh this was what I was trying to do. So it just came across as me saying something quite offensive. And as our correspondent pointed out uh this is from Emily. Uh I am the child of a military family. So I wouldn't want to say that in all seriousness but there has been a right old ding-dong. And I don't think we want to send people in the direction of that podcast to listen to it.

[00:41:57]>> We certainly don't.

[00:41:58]>> One of the great great big podcasts about sport got into trouble for exactly that. But I'm sorry it was too niche. So I I need to identify that this is an attempt at sarcastic, sardonic, slightly pointy finger humor. Yeah.

[00:42:16]>> If that's going to happen.

[00:42:17]>> Well, you know, we're both we're both guilty of that from time to time. You've clambered out of your niche, I think, very successfully in that beautiful dress. So, we're absolutely fine. Um, what was I I'm sure I've got an apology to to issue. Well, I must have I there must be some deep down some something.

[00:42:36]Um, the World Cup is over.

[00:42:37]>> Oh, no. But also, um, once again with my unring sense of judgment, um, I went to bed at halftime on Saturday night when England were 4-0 up against France, thinking there can't be any more action in the second half. Another error.

[00:42:49]Anyway, I watched the highlights first thing on Sunday morning and um uh it was great that game. It was it was so entertain I mean we sometimes we get so pfaced about oh well it was you know it was one for the purists I mean the defense were brilliant some you just want to see goals for god's sake that's why we watch football and um that England France game was just absolutely one for the ages it was fantastic entertainment >> and afterwards weren't they all lovely >> you see that was the anton cordial >> it was the hundred years war is just forgotten >> it's long forgotten and it is actually long forgotten uh so well done to us >> yes Um, now I have tried the new Netflix Little House on the Prairie. It's no good for me. Uh, Jane and Farum, my advice is steer Thank you. My advice is steer well clear if you've got fond memories of the books. The Netflix interpretation is even more saccharine than the original TV series. The Dad is again easy on the eye, but the rest is rubbish. You'd think that the simple written stories would be perfect for adaptation, but Netflix has Netflix has other ideas. I managed 15 minutes before I switched off. Jane, I think I did about the same actually. Um, and I although the dad is is as you say easy on the eye, he's actually not a patch on the Charles I fell for Michael Landon.

[00:44:06]Although I did read a TV review over the weekend, and forgive me, I should remember who wrote this, who said that Michael Landon looked like a an LA hairdresser.

[00:44:15]>> He did have a very luscious booof.

[00:44:18]>> He just had good hair.

[00:44:19]>> Yeah.

[00:44:20]>> Uh and how he kept it going on the prairie there, I don't know. But I think he must have been ahead of his time in terms of products.

[00:44:25]>> Do you think that he was old enough to have had all of those children?

[00:44:30]>> I don't What do you mean? He only had three.

[00:44:33]>> Oh, I thought he had many more. But in the show?

[00:44:36]>> Yeah.

[00:44:37]>> No, there were three little girls.

[00:44:38]>> Okay.

[00:44:39]>> Yeah. Yeah.

[00:44:40]>> I don't know.

[00:44:40]>> Because But Laura is the pivotal daughter, isn't she? She's the middle of the three children.

[00:44:44]>> I just found it so boring to >> Oh, no. She was the one who had all the adventures. Her little sister wasn't old enough to have adventures, and the older one was a tiny bit of a goodie two shoes.

[00:44:53]>> Okay.

[00:44:54]>> I remember we were allowed to watch it as a kind of special TV treat. And >> yeah, this this new iteration isn't a treat. No. So, uh, don't bother with I just used to long for Swap Shop to come on.

[00:45:09]>> Swap Shop was on the Saturday and wasn't Little House on the Prairie on on Sundays.

[00:45:14]>> Not in Granada.

[00:45:16]>> Okay.

[00:45:17]>> It was different ITV. You see, >> it certainly would have been. Uh, love to you all comes in from Allison uh who says, "I stood behind Stanley Tucci in a cash machine queue at Pisa airport about 20 years ago. I didn't know who he was until later, but standing waiting, I couldn't help but notice his skin, jacket, jeans, shoes, nails, everything was perfect and just glowed. And he smelt delightful, too.

[00:45:43]>> Here's a really lovely thing as well. A lovely man with his parents and children enduring a delayed flight along with everyone else. He didn't disappoint.

[00:45:52]Well, that is lovely, isn't it? Good to know. If you've stood behind a celebrity and they were pleasant to their relatives and smelt nice, let us know.

[00:46:00]>> Yeah, we'll compile a little league table.

[00:46:03]>> If on the other hand, you've stood stood behind a really smelly celebrity who was vile to their family, we'd really like to know.

[00:46:09]>> Well, we've got an email about something smelly in a very well-known person's toilet. Uh we can't >> whilst viewing a house. Uh we're very grateful to you for sending it in. Uh but you're absolutely right. We can't we can't read it out. It's a little bit too close to home.

[00:46:28]Uh, let's talk instead about Sarah's email. I was interested in the episode with Amanda Wakeley, the fashion designer, um, where she referred to not liking buttons. Now, this really interests me because, um, >> the fear of buttons as a thing.

[00:46:42]>> Yeah. And I kind of knew it was because I had a friend who worked in a school and she told me that they once had to repurpose a school uniform for a child who simply couldn't have buttons on their uniform. And this was I mean I know phobias exist, but I didn't know that that particular one was such a thing. Anyway, Sarah says, "My 14-year-old daughter has what I would have to describe as a button phobia.

[00:47:07]It's I'm going to try and pronounce this com. Actually, I can't pronounce it.

[00:47:12]It's spelled K O Co Punophobia.

[00:47:18]Comunophobia.

[00:47:20]You've got another pronunciation hurdle to get over in a moment as well. But yes, let's just call it that. Fear of buttons. Okay. She's had it for many years now. Outside of school, she never wears buttons and certainly wouldn't consider giving me a hug or getting too close if I was wearing a cardigan or something with buttons. Instead, instead she has uh a special word she uses in order to avoid saying the word. She refers to what she calls bleetons.

[00:47:47]Now, there's a real irony here as my maiden name is >> Bleetens. No button.

[00:47:52]>> Oh.

[00:47:57]Anyway, I'd be interested to hear from other listeners who have this phobia or maybe had it as a child. I'm hoping to hear stories from people who've grown to be more accepting of buttons and can manage them as an adult without being quite so restricted with their wardrobes. Uh cuz my daughter really is restricted at the moment. Well, I can imagine she is. I mean, I suppose these days there are there are plenty of sweatshirts and t-shirts that are without attachments.

[00:48:23]>> I think you could get through life without buttons now.

[00:48:26]>> You probably can, but a school uniform is can be certainly used to be a bit tricky in that area, didn't it? Yeah.

[00:48:32]>> Um yeah, it's a it's a phobia that um clearly is is quite common which I didn't appreciate.

[00:48:39]>> I suppose I wouldn't I wouldn't choose anything with big buttons and I >> Well, and we were talking about this with Amanda Wakeley that big buttons on small people. Yeah. Just makes you look very very comically childlike. same reason I wouldn't go for, you know, those really big chunky necklaces, um, you know, with great big objects which quite a lot of, I'm going to say more mature mature women favor. Well, you're advised to, aren't you, by those stylist people, so you know, when you're when you're natural youthful because of your decolletage.

[00:49:15]>> Yeah. when that starts fading and and I suppose it's just it's a it's a little bit like Donald Trump's foreign policy.

[00:49:21]It's a distraction mechanism, isn't it?

[00:49:23]From the troubles at home.

[00:49:24]>> So if you wear a great big statement piece of jewelry, uh people won't notice that you're 103.

[00:49:32]>> I just think they I mean you I'd look like the mayor of Campberwick Green or something.

[00:49:36]>> This is the problem.

[00:49:36]>> Um it's just stupid. And and if you've got a bit of a bust and you try and wear a very very big chunky necklace, >> uh I don't know. I mean, you know, especially if it's gold, the temptation for people to come along and pull it so it flushes, I thought would be a little bit overwhelming.

[00:49:55]>> So yeah, it's not for us. No, it isn't.

[00:49:58]But um button phobia, please. Um do you grow out of it? What can be done with it?

[00:50:03]>> And also, is there the equivalent in the rest of the habedasherie department? Is there a zip phobia?

[00:50:08]>> Oh, good point. Or are some people averse to Velcro?

[00:50:13]It's that makes a noise. It does. Isn't for everybody. So, and it's a funny feeling. Oh, I don't like Velcro. Maybe that's my phobia.

[00:50:21]>> You know, when bits of things get stuck in Velcro, >> you know, bits of bits of hair and stuff like that >> and you think, oh, you know, that's that's my Sunday evening task to pick it all out. We're back to your drain trap.

[00:50:33]Kate says, "Keep on laughing." Uh, thank you so much for making me cry with laughter with Jane's pronunciation.

[00:50:39]Right, you got to give it a bit more of a go. So, can you remember how you pronounced with I can't actually >> wrongly clearly wive with uh is how I think I'd write it phonetically, says Kate. Why was Jane pronouncing the W as a V? Well, because I thought it was in Germany. Okay, never mind sounding French. She did make it sound German. I replayed it 10 times. I was having a thoroughly crap time after being dumped a few days ago after a ridiculously short but very fun eight weeks and it's the only thing that's managed to make me laugh since. Well, that in the chats about Fanny as a name, >> right? I'm sorry to hear about being dumped, but at least you had the fun.

[00:51:20]>> You've had the fun for eight weeks and you sound like a very amusing lady. So, uh I'm I'm sure you'll find fun again.

[00:51:28]Um here we are. I knew there was something I got wrong. Um Sarah says, "I had to laugh. I had to laugh." Uh when Jane innocently asked if the lake where Fee went on holiday was a freshwater lake. Austria is of course landlocked, so I can't think that it would be a saltwater lake. Okay. Um fair enough.

[00:51:48]That is true. Uh Sarah says she's off to Scotland near Edinburgh next Monday and visiting North Beric on one of the days with my friend who I'm staying with. She says it's a lovely place. Yes. and we're going to be there on >> August the 7th. We've got an 11:00 slot in the big tent and our guests don't get any bigger >> is going to be Jan Ravens. Yeah.

[00:52:10]>> So, that will just be superb. She's so so funny. Yeah.

[00:52:13]>> And she will do all of her impressions and impersonations throughout and we'll have a right good time. Come along if you can.

[00:52:19]>> No, I think that will be um she's a good guest and actually are we allowed to say who our guest at Chelenham is?

[00:52:24]>> Well, let's just say I mean what what can they do? What can they do? They can come for us. They could. And one day they will, as we both know, which is why we're making the most doing it now.

[00:52:36]>> Any day now.

[00:52:36]>> There will be a time when someone will gently lead us to the door marked exit.

[00:52:41]We'll be put into a bus and we'll be sent away. Um, okay. I know. Back at the old place, we just would have been led gently to four extra.

[00:52:51]Four extra. And then after that, our security passes wouldn't have been allowed to work. But then they didn't work, did they? That's what they did to us. I tell you what, cancelled immediately.

[00:53:00]>> That is so brutal.

[00:53:02]>> So brutal. There was an earlier episode of our previous podcast where we tried to gain access to radio too and I got in but feed didn't. I didn't.

[00:53:12]>> You were trapped.

[00:53:13]>> It's ironic cuz I'd worked there.

[00:53:15]>> They didn't recommend.

[00:53:16]>> Oh dear.

[00:53:17]>> Oh, show biz is so bloody cruel.

[00:53:19]>> It's very really is.

[00:53:21]>> Have you se Have you Have you seen the extended advert for the BBC?

[00:53:24]>> Oh gosh. I was going to mention that actually. Um, I did I did see it not in situ because I there was so much talk about it that I I looked at it this morning and I don't know it's really difficult. It is horribly indulgent and must have cost a fortune and I I'm sorry I do want to know how much the people who appeared in the ad were paid for appearing in the ad. And there are some weird inclusions. I mean Louis Thuru how much does he actually do for the BBC these days? But he's in it. Romesh Ranganathan is the is the host loosely speaking of this big promotional thing about the BBC and he does everything on the BBC. So I get I get his involvement.

[00:54:04]I don't know. I do you think I think it's a bit of a misstep because I can't I think it's going to irritate those people who clearly have an axe to grind with the BBC. Don't you think?

[00:54:13]>> I think so. Yeah. No, but I tell you what, I just I would love to have been in some agents offices when that first went out uh and they were on the receiving end of phone calls for people who weren't in it because there are some quite notable absent >> well people who have been appalled that they're not asked.

[00:54:31]>> Yes, very much so.

[00:54:33]>> I think I think there would be some quite stroppy phone calls made. Well, not everyone can be what?

[00:54:40]>> We've got about two minutes to say >> as soon as we start talking about the BBC.

[00:54:44]>> That's when they cut us off. You see?

[00:54:46]Okay. Very last one from me. Um Helen, if you've got bunyions, flip-flops are the answer. Fair enough. Good point.

[00:54:52]Well made. Right. Uh that brings whatever this was to a conclusion. Who are our guests this week? Harry Hardestry is a very interesting man who just started uh extolling the virtues of his own personal therapy online. and it absolutely took off. He's now got 25 billion followers and we're going to talk to him about the things that he recommends to people especially women who are uh coming out of relationships feeling a little bit rejected and dejected. That seems to be his USP. So we thought we needed to hear more from him. Satnam Sanger has written an absolutely beautiful book uh about the life and times of George Michael. Uh so he is in this week as well and much more seriously and Eve can help me out here.

[00:55:39]Uh Richard Koker is a doctor who um some people will have read an interview with him in the Times magazine over the weekend. Um I do urge you to have a look at that. Um he has he has said something in public that not many doctors have said and he has said that he helped patients on their way. he uh assisted their dying and he says all this is a direct quote all good doctors have assisted dying. Now that's quite a thing to say and of course it may very well be true. Um so we are going to talk to Richard this week as well. There's there's a book attached to the interview that he gave to the times and um well there's no dancing around this. The conversation is is going to be about death dying and our attitudes towards it and indeed towards assisted dying.

[00:56:34]>> Yeah, I'm so glad that he has been brave enough to put his head above the parapit and talk about this and there are so many questions not least how can he when there are such penalties for >> other people outside the medical profession who might be found to have done the same thing. Well, um there is there's a lot to this, not not least the >> the impact of that dreadful man Harold Shipman.

[00:57:00]>> Yeah.

[00:57:01]>> Uh which happened a long time ago now and some people may not really remember the case, but it is still having such an impact on the way we treat terminally ill people in Britain. So, uh that's later in the week. So, it is a full-on man week. Strap yourself in. Everybody's welcome. We need some thoughts about insomnia and we're very very happy to give details about your rhinals tomorrow. Anything else?

[00:57:24]>> Uh buttons.

[00:57:25]>> Buttons as well. Yes. Tell us about your buttons.

[00:57:29]>> That will really really upset people who can't stand them.

[00:57:33]>> Funny enough, I don't like saying the word either much.

[00:57:36]>> Got to wrap.

[00:57:37]>> Got to wrap. So, we don't need to find that. Bye. Bye everybody. Bye. Gosh, Eve's so stern.

[00:57:42]>> Thank you.

[00:57:43]>> Yeah. Bye.