Low self esteem has a language : a reaction to ohStephco's new york storytime...

Added: 2026-06-01

[00:00:00]So, it was midnight in Germany and I was in bed when I received a notification for Ofco's latest video. Actually, I don't think it's her latest video anymore. I think she's released another one, but I haven't watched that one yet because I'm still traumatized from what I heard in the last videos of her that I actually listened to. So, like I said, I was trying to sleep and I didn't really understand the title of the video as I often don't. I'm not even going to lie.

[00:00:26]Like I don't know about you, but I don't often understand what StephO titles are about. Like I don't feel like the titles often really um are a good representation of what or explanation rather of what the video is actually about. So I didn't really know what I was about to listen to to be honest and I didn't really care because most of the time I enjoy her content nonetheless. So I was listening and and drifting, you know, kind of sleeping honestly. And I finally got engaged like in the story when she talked about him giving her a call. Okay, that's when I understood what the video was about that it was about this guy that she wants my in New York etc etc. So now I'm more listening to the video than I am actually sleeping. And my first thought was of course he'd give you a call. You're in New York and he's going to hit. Okay.

[00:01:14]And then, you know, she went on the tangent that I'm sure you know about. If not, you wouldn't have clicked on this video about how, you know, uh, they were on this rooftop and all the horrible, horrible things that he told her. How she was not the only woman that he was dealing with and that he was working three jobs. He gets three jobs to provide for his baby mom, which I personally think is a woman that he is still currently in a relationship with.

[00:01:41]Like, you can't convince me otherwise.

[00:01:43]And you know what happened and she she slept with him like actually I'm going to rephrase that. She let him use her body as a comebacker. She let him use her body as a sperm toilet. Okay, that is how the whole thing seems like to me.

[00:02:02]And you know I know that low self-esteem is is really something especially when you experience colorism very early on in life. I myself also experienced you know a lot of charism early on in life and that really you know did uh for a long time play a role in me having low self-esteem or at some point you have to heal you know you have to do therapy medication something anything because this is not it you know the things I've heard Stephanie say in this video literally made me cry you guys like I was going to sleep at 12 you know I do most nights and I was up until 3 in the morning and I was sobbing I I cried right for her because it was just a lot, you know, her calling herself a donkey from the south and her telling us how dissociated she was from the whole thing like the fact that, you know, he bought her one rosé, you know, so so half of the bill. So after she spent all this money going to New York to to visit him, I mean to see the play, whatever, um he still only also paid only half of the bill of when they were on the rooftop.

[00:03:07]So she had to pay the other half. She had to cover the other half, right? And the fact that she would come on the internet and tell this story, the KGB, the FBI couldn't get this information out of me. Okay? Like you couldn't waterboard this information out of me.

[00:03:24]There is no way in hell I would tell the world if I've done something like that.

[00:03:28]This is something I would take to the grave. I've done a lot far less embarrassing things and even those things I would never share on Carol's internet. I'm taking them on the grave with me. And then she somehow explained why she was sharing the story by saying that it was equivalent to her not telling him that she was on YouTube.

[00:03:48]Like baby, you not telling a guy that you do YouTube for a living doesn't give him the right to use your body as a comebacker. But did he even use your body as a comebacker? or did you want him to do it? Because the reason why I was up until 3 3:30 is that after listening to that story, I went onto her Patreon and listen because I am a Steph Co patreon even though I rarely ever listen to her Patreon videos. I'm not even going to lie. I just want her to have the $15. So, I went back and listened to that because in the YouTube video, you know, she mentioned that she shared more details on her Patreon. So, I went and listened to the Patreon video, and I'm not going to tell you what she says in in that one because she has been very clear about not wanting people Patreon to share what she shares on Patreon with YouTube or with the rest of the world. But baby, just when you think it can't get worse, it gets so much worse. So, so horrible.

[00:04:43]Like, you know, I'm convinced that Stephanie needs to be on medication. And I I don't say this to be mean. like this is there's no malice in what I'm saying.

[00:04:51]I actually genuinely, you know, like her. I mean, as much as you can like someone you don't know. I could very much relate to her very first video, you know, the first viral one about pretty privilege. You know, my younger child could very much identify with that. And, you know, I've had a soft spot for her ever since, I guess, like most people who watch her. But watching her has been like watching you know a gift that keeps on giving but not in a in a positive sense more like in a in a train wreck sense you know because when she said for example that she always knew that there was low demand for someone like her I mean how can you as a child already harbor that sentiment and then as an adult continue thinking that I even understand thinking that as a child you know if you've been through a lot of stuff with colorism and futurism and stuff but as a child you have to deconstruct that as you understand that whether you believe you can or whether you believe you can't you're right it way that life and death in the power of the tongue. So how can you still think that when you know how much you know when you think that that will manifest more and more in your life and then when she say that she was just a dorky from the south like first of all as a fellow dorky I'm offended what do you mean just a dorky because donkeys are bad okay I'm dy and I'm bad af okay so so what do you mean what are you talking about that was very suspect Stephanie Don't internalize that dark skindy black women are ugly. And I'm not saying this for Stephanie because I know that she won't watch this. She has been very clear about not wanting to watch uh content that people make about her even though she feels very, you know, comfortable making content about everybody and their mama. But that's another video for another day or not.

[00:06:34]Actually, probably not. Okay, this probably going to be the last video I'm going to do about her because I don't know if I'm going to keep watching her.

[00:06:40]I don't know if I can I don't know if I can stomach it. like I needed emotional support at at 3:30 in the morning after watching that video. Like no ma'am.

[00:06:48]Okay. But if you are a darkkinned black woman who watch Stephanie, please don't internalize that there is anything wrong with being dark skinned. I say this before and I'll say it again. If I went into every Zara, every mango, every H&M and it was written on dark skin black women are ugly, I would still walk out of there knowing I'm the best spread.

[00:07:05]Okay. The baddest bit in the game and that's on Marin the lamp. Okay. So anyways, let's come back to my thought on the video. And yeah, it's bad, you guys. It's really, really bad. And I don't understand why she would even sleep with him after he didn't even compliment her. Like, he didn't even tell her she looked nice. He didn't even thank her for traveling all the way from Texas or Austin to to uh New York. He he didn't even invite her. She had to pay for for half the bill. Like I I don't understand why she would then offer him her body and understand that she also enjoyed it according to what she said and and he gave her a bath or whatever.

[00:07:43]But a lot of men out there can do that for you. Like she always says how she always bump into terrible men, but that is because she keep giving a chance to terrible men. You know, we all bump into terrible terrible men. Like I feel like Stephanie doesn't understand that women who are partnered with good men, it's not because they partnered with good men now and today that they always bumped into good men. You know, they also bumped into terrible men, but they rejected those terrible men and kept rejecting and rejecting and rejecting until they bumped into a good one. And you're going to say, "Yeah, but she doesn't have as much options." You know, she's saying that most men are not interested in her. But I don't know about that, you guys. Like in a lot of her story, it seems like a lot of men are interested. She shared a lot of stories about a lot of men being interested in her whether it was in Europe or the guy from Coachella or there was another one and so I don't know if TCO doesn't have as many option as as she claims to not have. It seems to me she has, you know, an average amount a normal amount of of options, but somehow she always chooses the worst one. You know, when I first listened to her, one of her first bad story time, like she said, these are not good stories. It was about the artist in in New York. Was it in New York City? No, it wasn't. But it was about the artist guy, right? You guys remember that one probably even though I believe the video is down. And I comment on that one. You know that was a lot of people were in the comments already, you know, giving her back backlash. You know, that's when she started responding and saying she don't like that we are in her comments telling her how to live her life and we don't understand her and pa and blah blah blah blah blah blah. But initially I was like okay this is really bad but but you know it happens you know it's it's it's bad. It's the luck of the draw. Okay is what I thought. Okay. But then then she shared another similar story about sleeping with somebody on the first night and not working out and you know there was the the Thanksgiving stories. Actually I think the Thanksgiving stories even subsided that they were prior the New York one and and now there's this story like it seems like a lot and it seems like you know Stephanie dear you are the common denomination in all of these stories.

[00:09:52]You know, something that I would never comprehend is having so many people telling you something and not even being willing to consider it. Like, I don't know about you, but if two people tell me something, I'm like, h now by the time the third person tell me, I'm like, yeah, there's some truth to this. And there's definitely some truth to this.

[00:10:12]Because if one person tell you something, you can be like me. Another person tell you you're like but a third person tell you you cannot no not deny that there must be some truth to it. Now I think has been to therapy before I think from your contact. I'm not sure but I I think whether she been before or not I think she need to go back. I personally think that she needs to be on some form of medication. I don't know exactly what type of medication because I am not a mental health professional. If you are a mental health professional who happen to bump into this video, feel free in the comment section down below to let us know what do you think she suffer from and what type of medication do you think could help her and I think that her parents need to to intervene and like she seems to have active parents like an active father. She talks about her father a lot in her life and and I think they need to be worried about her. I think that a lot of isolation is going on and we know that loneliness is terrible for your mental health. We know she lost her friends, you know, due to her sharing the Las Vegas story time on Patreon and, you know, all that debacle.

[00:11:16]If you are somebody who follows uh Steph Co's content, you know what I'm talking about. So, is it like, you know, she's spending a lot of time now with cement and the other dog, I don't know his name. Just drinking veno. Too much veno, by the way. Too much mimosa, way too much with medication. Which brings me to another thought that I had is why would you exchange term with somebody who is coughing and sneezing like we have an antivirus around like I like to call it corona too like what if that is what he was suffering from. I mean at the end of the day she says that he work in a hotel or something and you know a lot of people come in and out. What if someone who was on the boat uh the antivirus board now came into the hotel and and give him I know this is farfetched you guys but I'm just saying what if he had something serious? So you see this man is he's coughing and and he's sneezing and you would exchange saliva with him like why would you do that? Like and you know this is why Steph will never beat the the self love allegation like the not loving herself allegation because no one who loves herself would do that.

[00:12:18]Like why would you praise your own health? like this is crazy. You know, the whole entire situation was very very sad. Why would you even ride back and forth for two years, 24 months with a guy you've seen once with someone you've let it once? This is a limrance, you guys. Like, she need to watch um the childhood fairy. I think that's the name of her channel. She her channel is centered around childhood trauma and and limrance and stuff. And you know, there's so much to say here, you guys, because there's so much going on. Like, but the whole thing was just, it was excruciating. It was hard to listen to it. It's clear he hates her. It's clear he's still in a relationship with that woman because I mean, men provide for women, they're no longer with, but working three jobs to provide for a woman, you're no longer with, that's a stretch. That That's perfect. I I I don't believe in that. like she said they were in a open relationship, but I wonder whether she knows it's open. You know, this is what I always wonder about when I'm swiping on Tinder and men say that claim that they're in open relationship. I always wonder if the women that they in the relationship with know that the relationship is open. And I definitely wondered here, you know, whether she knows about it. I'm not sure. I'm not sure she knows the relationship is open. Maybe it was just plain out cheating, you know. I don't know, you guys. But it was a lot. But it was a lot to listen to. I felt very sad for Stephanie. Very sad for her. This is heartbreaking. Excruciating, heartbreaking. I don't know what to say you guys. I'm lost for thoughts. Uh but if you have low self-esteem, please address it. This is what I would say in closing of this video. Somebody who used to have low self-esteem. Now, it was never this low. It was never this low.

[00:14:04]Okay? But as somebody who used to have low self-esteem, I can tell you low self-esteem will ruin your life. and and their signs and it's a language and and we are seeing it here you guys like I mean this loop of the same thing happening over and over again with just different men but same story more or less you know meeting these people sleeping with them on the first night contacting them over and over again after they stated they don't want you know anything else I mean at they got what they wanted right I mean you let them hit on the first night what else would they want right men caught women because they want access to their bodies if it's a haste to you and you give access to your body then what else does he have to you know um chase you for or cut you for rather sorry but yeah this is a lot it was a lot I just can't you guys I I don't know what to say if you seen the video obviously you did otherwise you would have clicked on this please let me know in the comment section down below what was your thoughts and again if you're a mental health professionals please let us know what you think Stephanie is suffering from and which type of medication could help her so that maybe hope hopefully she can at least read the comment and and try. I don't know, you guys. I don't know. I'm going to go. Uh, thanks for watching and bye.