being alone for the first time in 2 years...

Added: 2026-05-23

[00:00:00]Mr. and I have been together since 2024.

[00:00:02]We have traveled around Japan, the Philippines, New York, Hong Kong, Singapore, and you guys know that we have literally done every single thing together. We eat every single meal together. We go shopping together, go out together, of course, except for the times I hung out with my friends. Even then, my friends are also friends with Mr. So, we all end up gathering together. Not today.

[00:00:29]Sorry if I scared anyone. Hi Sans. My name is Tan. Welcome to the world of extra. As I was saying, M and I would always do everything together, but I really wanted to film a vlog where I'm completely alone for the entire day.

[00:00:42]It's just going to be you and me today.

[00:00:43]You guys remember back in like 2022 or 2023, I love just like vlogging around Tokyo alone. And I think we should bring that back today. I also got some comments, although rare, saying I'm codependent, that I don't know how to be alone anymore. Uh, you don't know me.

[00:00:59]Well, you you kind of do know me, but I have a lot to talk about today. With that said, let's go.

[00:01:06]>> See you later.

[00:01:08]>> Have fun. Okay.

[00:01:09]>> Thank you.

[00:01:10]>> I love you so much. I love you, >> mama. See you later.

[00:01:18]I'M IN THE CAR ALONE.

[00:01:20]This honestly feels weird. I know I'm sounding very dramatic, but I haven't driven alone, especially in the daytime, for a long time. And I'm sure you guys know that Mr is always to my left and mama and Stewie are always in the back.

[00:01:32]But I'm genuinely also so excited to have this alone time with you guys as well. I know you guys love the videos with my family, but today is just you and me. And the first thing on the agenda might be a little bit nostalgic to some of you.

[00:01:46]Let's go. Oh my god, you guys. We have made it to our first stop of the day. I feel like it's been a while since I've talked to the camera by myself. We are literally going to Italy for lunch.

[00:01:56]Let's go. Oh my god, it's been a while since I've been here.

[00:02:02]>> Oh [ __ ] they only have a seat where the sun is. [ __ ] This is lowkey a vibe. I haven't done a table for one meal in so long. Like, we're talking literally 2 years. I need to get my usual. Thank god it's a little bit windy today so it's not too hot. I am in the sun and I am burning and the metal seat and the metal table are [ __ ] me up. It's literally cooking me alive. But today is a solo date day.

[00:02:34]Can you hear me? I feel like people think it's toxic to always be with your partner, but I feel like there's no one guide book or blueprint to how relationship should be. Nothing doesn't have to be inherently wrong or inherently right. Take for example monogamy versus polygamy. I feel like both are valid if it works for that specific couple. And that's okay. But why is it not okay for couples to always be with each other and always be together? Why do we have to label it as codependent when it's not even rooted in insecurity, but rather in genuine enjoyment of each other's company. Just because a couple is always spending time with each other and they live together doesn't mean they're not independent.

[00:03:06]Because independent doesn't have to mean you do everything by yourself. It can also mean doing what you think is best for you regardless of what people think or regardless of what the norm is.

[00:03:15]Independence is being able to think for yourself. And I as a couple, what we think works for us is doing everything together. And that's okay. It's not a bad thing. I have so much to say about this and I'm definitely going to get into it more. But my salad is here. I feel like I need to eat quickly because what possessed me to wear black today on a very sunny day.

[00:03:34]Oh my god. I am really enjoying my own company though. I was never the one to be ashamed of eating alone in public, let alone vlog and eat alone in public.

[00:03:42]See, I'm not like always with my boyfriend or with my family because I can't be alone. I love being alone. Is genuinely just like enjoying people's company because I'm an extrovert.

[00:03:57]>> We have so many things to do on our agenda. We're going to go to a museum that I've never been to. We're going to get a new iPhone 4.

[00:04:04]iPhone 4. You guys will get it later.

[00:04:06]Anyway, let's just quickly eat so we don't sweat and cook ourselves to death.

[00:04:10]And let's move on to the next activity.

[00:04:16]The next thing we're doing is we're going to this place called 2121 design site. I think it's a museum, but I think the architecture of the building is what's really popular there. It's $10 to go in. I haven't been to a museum in so so long. I think today is a good opportunity. I'm so happy today.

[00:04:33]Honestly, I've honestly just been having so much fun. It's only the second activity, but while I was eating at Italy, I was just reflecting on how happy I've been recently. I'm in such a good place in my life. A lot of loving people around me. I am enjoying my career so much. Obviously, in the past when I would go through something difficult, I would start going to therapy. I would start journaling. I would even start meditating. But I think what I failed to realize in the past is it's extremely and honestly equally as important to strengthen my mental health when I'm at my best. Because what I notice in myself when I'm feeling really good and happy and productive, I almost forget to take care of myself because of the high from everything combined with a mentality of I'm feeling good. I'm not sad, which means I don't need therapy. I don't need to journal. And that's when I go months and months and months with no therapy, no journaling, and it gets bad.

[00:05:18]I feel like this is so obvious to a lot of people already, but I realized that you have to do things for yourself to keep yourself in check even in your highs. And for me, that's journaling all the good things that happen in my life.

[00:05:28]Journaling is not only about emptying the negative thoughts in your mind. It's also about remembering the good. And also, online therapy is really good because it's so easy to fit in my schedule and it's not intimidating. So, I want to quickly thank and introduce to you guys BetterHelp, the paid partner for this week's video. Through all my years on YouTube, I've been super transparent about my mental health. And Better Help makes starting therapy way easier, especially for people who feels intimidated by going to therapy. You just have to take the quiz and get matched with a credentialed therapist quickly. And my personal favorite thing about Better Help is you can communicate however you feel comfortable. Be through phone, through video, or even through text. And on top of that, you get to switch therapists anytime with no extra charge if it's not the right fit. Asking for help doesn't mean you're dependent.

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[00:06:21]With that said, let's continue on with our solo day. Let's go to 2121 site museum.

[00:06:28]2121 design site. Let's go.

[00:06:32]>> Shop museum shop. I have made it to Tokyo Midtown. I realized I was just here last week when we did the Ritz Carlton video and the museum is in the exact same place. I mean, right away the architecture goes crazy. This is such a throwback. I'm just like walking around and exploring by myself, like getting lost by myself. Damn, that's cool. I love the vibe of this area. If you guys are looking for like a high-end mall as well, I would definitely recommend Tokyo Midtown. I do you guys see this vibe?

[00:07:02]The [ __ ] bamboo. This is a cute date spot. I wish Myrr was here. See, that's what happens every time I do things without Myrr. Wait, I think we're in the right place. I feel the vibe. Oh [ __ ] I think I found it. When you think of Tokyo, I know you think of Harajuku or Shibuya, but recently this is what Tokyo is like to me. Or maybe because it's spring and this is the vibe I'm getting.

[00:07:23]You know, this is like very like nature and outdoors and like good architecture and birthday celebrations. Okay, let's go check out the museum. 2121.

[00:07:35]>> Is it 1,600?

[00:07:37]>> 1,600. Got it. Thank you. This is kind of cute, huh? A little solo museum date.

[00:07:44]This is bringing me back to all the museum visits I had to do when I was in uni.

[00:08:04]I'm uncomfortable.

[00:08:50]You guys, the museum was so fun. I love that it wasn't like a massive huge museum. It was literally just one floor.

[00:08:57]Let me know in the comments. Are you the type of person to like look at every single thing and read every single thing? I don't really like reading a lot of things at museums. I'm just going to be honest. I'm more of a performative museum go. I love just like looking at the vibe. I'm there for the vibe. With that said, right outside the museum, there's this beautiful park and everyone's just having their little picnic. It's a weekday. It's so chill.

[00:09:18]The picnic field extends all the way there, but everyone's scared of the sun.

[00:09:22]This feels so nostalgic. Do you guys remember that video where I sat right outside the Imperial Palace and I'm just like yelling about spelling. I don't know why I remember that so vividly. But while I'm chilling here, I wanted to show you guys what I got from the museum cuz I love shopping. I ended up not getting anything for myself. I got something for Myrrh and Mama. For a mer I got this foods of different seasons. Mama has been cooking a lot for us and sometimes mama would say a specific Japanese ingredient and Mr. doesn't know it. So I think this is perfect for my to learn about the names of Japanese foods. And mama recently started using a pedometer.

[00:09:54]Those little keychains that track how many steps you get. She's been trying to do 10,000 steps every day. We are trying as well, but we're failing. And she said she wanted to make her pedometer a necklace. So I got her this. This is a YKK zipper necklace. I think it's perfect. She can attach her pedometer and she can always have it around her neck. She has an iPhone. I don't know why she's not using the health app on the iPhone to track her steps. The entire time I was there, I was just thinking about, I wish M was here to see this. I wish Mr was here because we would laugh about this. And see, that's one of the main reasons M and I are always doing things together. It's because we genuinely love the exact same things. We both love Pokémon, Sanrio characters, and makeup, shopping, skincare. We love clothes, coffee, matcha, find a lot of the same things cute and funny. We love the same foods.

[00:10:36]So, like why would I go to the Pokémon cafe for example alone if I know Mr would enjoy it with me and I would enjoy it more if Mr. was there as well. You know what I mean? But yeah, it's all coming from a place of actually wanting to experience things together. It has nothing to do with attachment issues.

[00:10:50]With that said, I'm probably coming back to this museum with M because I know he would love it as well. They have this food place at Tokyo Midtown, but I can't find like a good smoothie place. But I do know there's a Dean and Tiluca here.

[00:11:00]And I know they have this new drink with literally malongai. Malongai is moringa.

[00:11:05]It's like Filipino leaves. It's literally right here. It has banana, kale, and moringa.

[00:11:11]>> Moringa.

[00:11:13]>> Wait, the salad looks so good. It has a bee. I feel like the pasta earlier was not enough. We definitely have to go to a nice little cafe later for a nice little afternoon pickme up cuz I'm like hungry.

[00:11:25]>> Why is this giving? I think this is their take on a airwan smoothie. I think Dina Duca is an American brand so they know the tea. Let's try it. I hope it's disgusting.

[00:11:36]Ooh, I thought it would be really bitter because it's both kale and moringa, but it's like nice refreshing grass. I feel like a cow. I don't hand a banana. I thought the entire thing would taste like banana. I really want to go shopping next. And I can't believe I'm driving 5 minutes. I could have walked there, but we're going to Aabai Hills. I feel like I haven't explored or shopped enough at Aabai Hills. Aabai Hills is the tallest building in Tokyo and highkey. I want to live there in the future. Manifesting. Manifesting.

[00:12:00]putting it out there that I'm going to live in Aabai Hills in a couple of years. Evil evand, the camera on my left, this the steering wheel.

[00:12:18]We made it to the mall and I just placed my drink on top of the car and I'm like getting the keys and [ __ ] I felt the vibe. The girls that get it get it.

[00:12:28][ __ ] I'm having so much fun. Oh my god. I remember coming to Aabai Hills the first week it opened. I need to see if there's any new perfume that I want.

[00:12:37][ __ ] that's one of the things I should stop doing is buy perfume. I probably have 30 35 perfumes. That's sick. That's crazy. Do you guys see the vibe? Are you [ __ ] kidding me? The first store I see when I walk in is the nose shop.

[00:12:51]After I complain about buying too much perfume, I feel like I'm going to get yelled at for filming. So, let's do a little voice over moment so I can film secretly and I can take you guys around all these stores. The first store I visited was Weirdly Uggs and they had really cute clogs, but I'm not trying to buy shoes two videos in a row. Remember these slippers I've been wanting from Kabango? They have this really cute color, but I stopped myself. I'm trying my best not to spend money mindlessly.

[00:13:12]Okay, you know what? [ __ ] this. These perfumes look so cute. Let me just smell them. I hope I don't like them. Well, [ __ ] I like them. Is this a bong in my aesthetic? The worst combination is me plus a furniture store with really colorful things. Like, do I need placemats for the dining table? For $30 each, though, I don't think so. They do have these round ones, perfect for our round table, colorful throw pillows, colorful vases, cute cafe selling cute plants, cute my cute bag, cute pot, cute lamp, cute chairs, cute dolls, sonnie angels, cute fan, cute wallet, dream book, dream book to be in. Get me out of this [ __ ] store.

[00:13:47]You guys should be proud of me because I did not buy a single thing. Isn't that amazing? I was just window shopping.

[00:13:53]Didn't force. Shut the [ __ ] up, [ __ ] Don't ruin my moment. Shut the [ __ ] up.

[00:13:59]I'm so excited though because we are going to a really beautiful cafe I found on Google Maps. I was just looking for cafes near me as I do all the time.

[00:14:07]There's a really cool looking place. I really want to try their sweets. Me getting sweets alone without my feels criminal. It's a 13-minute drive from here. Let's go. And then let's get a new iPhone after. And by new, I mean old. We have made it to the cafe, you guys. And I didn't realize this is literally where the premiere for the boyfriend was. You know, the very first one. We had the watch party for both episodes one and two right here. This is such a massive coffee shop. Wait, I [ __ ] love the vibes here. I want to come with M.

[00:14:37]Look at the vibe inside, you guys. And they have like really yummy looking cookies, and they're massive. I got the matcha and raspberry cream cheese scone.

[00:14:46]Scone? Wait, I thought it was a cookie.

[00:14:49]>> You're never wearing your knife.

[00:14:50]>> There's not a single tourist here. I kind of feel bad for like putting this place on blast or whatever the [ __ ] I feel like the locals would hate me, but like you guys should come here. There's like no tourists. This is crazy. There's also a plant store in the back. And look how big the [ __ ] lawn is. I feel like it's the perfect cafe time right now.

[00:15:08]It's crazy that like barely anyone is here. What's crazy though, they don't have milk alternative. It's all cow's milk. If I made such a cute [ __ ] massive cafe, [ __ ] I'll serve goat milk, cow's milk, soy milk, human milk.

[00:15:21][ __ ] No comment. That literally just tastes like cow's milk. It doesn't even taste like matcha. Anyway, let's try the matcha cream cheese raspberry scone.

[00:15:39]That's a gag. Obviously, I haven't tried their coffee. It's my fault for getting matcha. Honestly, come here for this and for this.

[00:15:50]Do you see how [ __ ] soft that is?

[00:15:52][ __ ] I'm going to get my one of these.

[00:15:57]It smells like weed. Which one of you [ __ ] But no, I'm genuinely loving my own company so much. I think that's also how I know I'm in the right relationship because I don't have to like overthink or over calculate anything. If I want to be alone, like for example today, I can be and it doesn't mean anything negative. If I'm always spending time with my I don't feel like [ __ ] I need to be alone. I'm genuinely just like doing what I enjoy and what I love.

[00:16:21]Anyway, let's go get two more of those cookies for Mama and Mr. cuz I'm done.

[00:16:25][ __ ] I wanted to get two, but they only had one left. Another game took the other match gone. I saw him. Look at this cute ass flower shop. What the [ __ ] I don't want to look too hard though because I promised mama we're going to go to a plant store together because we want to continue decorating my balcony and she literally wants to make like a full garden there and plant like vegetables and stuff. So, we'll save our plant shopping for when we are with mama. Anyway, let's go to Akihabara. Oh my god, I [ __ ] love driving. You guys remember when I would vlog by myself? I would always take the train and I would do like what two, three things in one day. But since I started driving, I could do like five, six, or sometimes even seven things in one day. and my vlogs are so much more jam-packed and I know you guys love that. But yeah, let's go drive to Akihabarat. I hope I find a nice iPhone 4 or like an iPhone 4S or something. I really want to use it for the camera for like the vinag. I just think it would be such a cute vibe for photos inspired by Tate McCrae. Yes, let me just say it. I know. Shut up. I'm copying her. Yes, what the [ __ ] I might instead get a Japanese flip phone though if I find a cute one as well. Anyway, let's go to Akiad. [ __ ] look how tiny parking here was and it was next to a Porsche. That was [ __ ] scary. When I get my car, it's way bigger than this. I'm kind of scared. Like, I'm used to a small car.

[00:17:36][ __ ] Anyway, I have made it to Akihabara to hunt for an iPhone 4 or an iPhone 4S. I did a little bit of research. Apparently, this store called ISIS or whatever the [ __ ] literally right here. They have so many iPhones.

[00:17:48]These are the really old ones. iPhone 8, iPhone SE. H. I don't see an iPhone 4 though.

[00:17:56]iPhone.

[00:17:59]I hated that store. It was so loud and tidy. Their oldest one was iPhone 6, but I need an iPhone 4. Apparently, anything below a five is considered a junk. So, we have to go to the junk shop. Okay, I found this store called Junk Paradise.

[00:18:12]Let's look. They have a lot of iPhones.

[00:18:14]I hope they have an iPhone 4, please.

[00:18:15]iPhone 5s. Hold on. They should have a four, right? Or is iPhone 5 good enough?

[00:18:39]Wait, I can't believe I got it. It was literally like $30. It's so tiny. Why am I like excited? Should we take some photos? Nami going to Doniote just to connect to their Wi-Fi and set up my new iPhone 4. It took me like half an hour because it's so [ __ ] laggy. But look at the camera quality. It's so [ __ ] vintage. I'm going to try to vlog with it a little bit. I'm like excited to use this for my photos on Instagram. You guys, we're in Akihabara. I'm testing the iPhone 4. What do you guys think about this aesthetic? It's kind of cute.

[00:19:12]Isn't this a gag? It's kind of cute. I honestly don't know how I'm going to get this file out of this phone because this [ __ ] doesn't have airdrop. Crossing the street. It looks like I'm vlogging in the [ __ ] '9s.

[00:19:26]This is the type of [ __ ] I do when I'm alone. This is cute. Low key, I tried to find chargers for this [ __ ] I think I have to buy it online. I also need a case for this so I don't drop it because it feels so fragile. It's literally a glass phone.

[00:19:44]Follow me on Instagram if you guys want to see photos and videos from this [ __ ] I'm excited. There's no AirDrop, but you can upload it directly to Vimeo. Who the [ __ ] uses Vimeo? I was going to go to Toyosu Gudy Park, but I'm getting really hungry. It's currently 8:00 p.m. I want to eat dinner with my family. I want to eat dinner with M. So, I think I should end the vlog here. I had so much fun today. I hope you guys enjoyed it as well because I enjoyed it so much. I feel like from time to time I should do this again. But I know you guys love the videos with my family as well, so those aren't going anywhere. This week's shoutout goes to Thank you so much for always loving and supporting. If you guys want to be nice shout out, please comment the alone emoji. Appreciate you guys so much. Thank you again so much for hanging out with me. Go to basha.com and enter your email address. A launch is coming soon, I fear. I'll see you guys again on my next video next week.

[00:20:28]Bye.