You aren't defending the truth—you're defending this #mindset #psychology

[00:00:00]You don't argue an idea because it's right. You argue it because it's yours.

[00:00:04]You argue it because it's yours. Here's the key thing. During that argument, it's not like you decided at 8:00 today, I'm going to turn on having an argument and then at 8:07 I'm going to turn it off and I'm going to switch sides. No, you just find yourself having that argument, taking that side that you always take.

[00:00:22]Let's not intellectualize here. We get stuck in the content. Let's look at it simply as a phenomenon. You do not choose to be right, proven by the fact that you're not able to give up being right about the things that you are right about. It just happens.

[00:00:37]Automatically defend your position. You automatically select the evidence that supports it. You automatically find yourself arguing for that position. Just like I gave the example earlier when I was in the house and things weren't in place. I didn't decide at 10:00 that at 11:00 I'm going to get upset about this.

[00:00:54]No, I just found myself arguing that things should be a certain way. Same thing. No different, just different content. That's a little bit scary. It's like you've got your own internal AI system going on inside and it's just responding to the same prompt over and over again. But when you see that phenomenon, when you see it as a phenomenon, then you gain power over it.

[00:01:15]It's like gaining balance for the bicycle. And don't confuse that with having a balanced point of view. That's not what I'm saying. I'm saying you gain a capability that wasn't there before.

[00:01:24]Balance if you're on a bicycle, which gives you the possibility of riding a bicycle, and the ability to give up the need to be right in the case of an argument, which puts you into a completely different space. A space that we find scary, which is the reason why we don't do that. I'll get to that in a minute. But that's the power that's available to you.