When the Streets Talk Back: What Black Families’ Pain Says About America’s Gun Obsession

Added: 2026-05-18

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[00:00:57]Yeah. So, we're gonna bring in Babasar.

[00:01:01]So, yeah, I just wanted to talk a little bit about that. Um, yeah. So, how are you doing today, Babasar?

[00:01:09]>> Dari, um, all is well. All is well. Uh, thank you for having me. That was a a quick intro. You usually have a lot more to say.

[00:01:24]>> I know.

[00:01:24]>> But you know, all is well. Before we get started, I always want to give reverence to the ancestors, olders, and elders for all they have done and are doing. Peace to the Tik Tok family right here. I know you all can hear me. Like I said, uh Red Se won't be able to see her on Tik Tok, so you'll be seeing me and hearing me today. Um uh peace to the Facebook family to the J&J life ITNs on YouTube and on Instagram. You know we we we're going to have a a beautiful discussion on those other platforms. And the reason why we wanted to stream live today for the Tik Tok family is because of what I'm going to be saying. So just uh just check us out family, listen to us. If you want to see Ry a segment on the live as well, you know, uh stream us from YouTube, stream us from Facebook or Instagram.

[00:02:19]You'll be able to see us over there, you know, with both of us on the on the live feed. Um but, uh rea you know, um today's going to be a powerful discussion, right?

[00:02:31]>> You know, because >> yeah, >> outcomes matter. I mean, real outcomes, family. You know, I'm talking about lost lives, families broken, communities altered. And believe me, family, I speak from experience, right? You know, my perspective carries weight in this discussion. You know, Rya Segmet's perspective carries weight in today's discussion. And we're talking about, you know, how black families are connected, you know, and how black families are, you know, really uh sitting here going through a lot of trauma when it comes to gun violence in this country, right? You know, so >> so I do want to say scholars like brother Zo Williams, you know, he pushes accountability, you know, not comfort, right? You know, and definitely not illusions, right?

[00:03:32]Seekment.

[00:03:33]>> Yeah. This is Ray Sema, my family, and this message is for anyone who has heard a phone call that changed everything.

[00:03:39]Today's discussion is serious. It deals with gun violence because it shows what families lose. This is not entertainment. This is about real people, real laws. Decisions made cannot be undone. And from a nish's perspective, losing someone means growing up with questions. Questions that may never get answered. It means learning a person through stories and not through shared moments. It also means carrying a name forward without building new memories. From siblings perspective, loss may reshape identity.

[00:04:09]It removes a voice that understood you without explanation. It leaves behind finished unfinished conversations. It creates a space that no one can fill.

[00:04:19]And from a parents perspective, which I cannot imagine, but from a parents perspective, losing a child may disrupt everything. It doesn't resolve. And from what I've been told, time doesn't fix it either. And on the other hand, time moves around it with each day continuing and not in the same way either. And family, gun violence doesn't end with one life. It spreads across families, across years, and across generations.

[00:04:43]Because I've come to know it creates absence where presence belongs. So this conversation, family, this conversation is about responsibility, discipline, and it's about protecting and preserving black life, not ending it. So, I recommend listening with full attention.

[00:04:59]Like really, family, listen with a third ear. Process what is said and apply what is necessary.

[00:05:06]>> Yeah, >> that's facts. A sec, man. That's facts.

[00:05:09]It is.

[00:05:09]>> And you're coming a little low, >> you know. Try to put that mic a little closer to you.

[00:05:16]>> Say something. This is a little mic test.

[00:05:20]>> Can you hear me?

[00:05:21]>> Yes. Yes. Let me see if we can bring up your audios.

[00:05:26]family. We we are we running live on on on today. You know, you guys are going to get to hear me talk a little bit and share a little bit about uh um the loss that I and my family have had, you know, with losing uh a family member to gun violence, right? And this is I'm my uh Tik Tok family right now. And you know we about to get into this discussion and you know it's I'm going to take you on a journey family.

[00:05:58]>> Yeah. A and Baba I want to add that life holds value before opinion emotion and even reaction and that is foundational not optional because scholars like Michelle Alexander expose systems and system shape outcomes. But behavior behavior family it still matters. And Gail Garfield addresses justice. And I come to understand justice requires clarity, not confusion. And Tamika L.

[00:06:27]Gillum studies harm patterns, which are patterns that reveal truth. So, so from my studies, gun violence doesn't appear without cause. It follows conditions like access, emotion, environment, lack of guidance. It's also connected. Right?

[00:06:45]In any troll ending life requires structure like really family clear structure I mean think about it training is required restraint is required and accountability is definitely required but without these family ownership becomes negligence not protection and negligence spreads harm not safety so babble let's examine it for the family with care and with sensitivity right so I want to add to that list of old age questions like who is teaching the youth who was modeling their restraint who is correcting the behavior and or is that the silence answers loudly or is it the absence teacher teaches also? I mean if no one is teaching or instructing correctness then confusion may fill those spaces and if confusion grows the risk increases that progression may become predictable and from my research it's not random and I'm taught that curiosity must be guided not suppressed or ignored >> children yeah children observe my fault man go ahead finish >> yeah they interpret therapy. So if violence is normalized, it becomes acceptable. It becomes acceptable. It becomes repeated. That cycle family that cycle must be interrupted deliberately, not passively. And responsibility begins with awareness. Awareness requires honesty. Honesty requires courage.

[00:08:12]Courage requires discipline. And that sequence matters because each step builds or breaks outcomes. So again family this discussion is not a casual stroll in the park discussion. I know it's necessary it's corrective and it's protective and I if I understood applied and it's respected that then life depends on that right.

[00:08:37]>> Yeah. Yeah. And a that was beautiful.

[00:08:40]Um, that was beautiful. And Ry Sec met >> H.

[00:08:46]>> We got we got me streaming on Tik Tok.

[00:08:50]We got us streaming on Facebook, YouTube, and Instagram.

[00:08:57]So, I just want to sit there and give a shout out to all the J&J life that are taking the time out of their uh day today and and and watching us talk about something that really matters in the black community in the African village, right?

[00:09:13]>> [snorts] >> and >> and you know uh family there was a time that I used to say what's understood needs no explanation but that statement doesn't fit in this discussion it doesn't fit in this discussion today family you know so I'm glad uh rea you're breaking it down to the grassroots because the family needs to hear it >> you know it >> and hopefully hearing it from the youth family may put it into uh thought and and perspective for our greater family, the Africans, you know, around the diaspora, you know, to begin thinking in a different perspective. But today, family, we're talking about those in this country. We're talking about those in this country, family, in America.

[00:10:03]>> [snorts] >> and you know to think differently you know and put it all into a different perspective when it come to gun violence in our community you know so that one could take action take selfrelect selfassess and hopefully self-correct family because it all starts with us you know it starts from within the home >> yeah ash let's keep building. Let's define the problem or at least what I've come to know as the problem. We can clear as clearly as we can. And believe me, there's no confusion about it.

[00:10:43]>> Let me let me let me let me put a pause in that red segment. Back up a little bit, you know, because I want to make sure that you put your disclaimer out there, you know, letting everybody know what time it is as far as whether what terms we use. It doesn't matter what term we use, how we define it. Okay.

[00:11:01]>> Yeah.

[00:11:03]Look family for those of you who still point out words when we use the term African we're talking about black people. for the use the term kush African African-American foundational black American more Hebrew 5 presenter comedian [ __ ] [ __ ] however you identify with your blackness in and around the diaspora I want you to know we as a people have some serious work to do and though we know the creator has many names we witness of detachment it doesn't matter whether they say god Allah Yahweh or amar they don't want to get into the mess but like fummer heyr said and peace for the ancestor but if you're born in this country with a black face, then you're already in the mess.

[00:11:43]Or whether they say God, Allah, Yahweh, or Amarra, the moment a person claims a higher power will take care of everything for them or they want to stay on the sidelines, they have quietly removed you from your own responsibility. And right then, you are supposed to kick butt out of any positional leadership in your society and recognize a deeper truth. Because anyone who abandons their own action or work cannot be trusted to guide a people. True leadership and I mean true leadership family. True leadership requires accountability, clarity and courage because liberation doesn't arrive through waiting. We must free ourselves, our minds, um our bodies. And we have to do this for ourselves, family. No one is coming to save us or teach us the truth about who we are. And we must have to know what to do to break these metal chains that's holding us back and holding us down.

[00:12:39]>> There it is. There it is.

[00:12:42]>> Let's now problem.

[00:12:45]>> Yeah. Let's find the problem. Okay.

[00:12:47]>> Take your time segment. Take your time.

[00:12:49]It's We want clarity, you know, for the family so they make no mistake about, you know, how Rey Seekmet is is is hitting right now. You know, if y'all want to hear Rya Secmet, you know, I'm talking to the our family on Tik Tok. If you want to hear Rya Seekmet speak the truth when it comes to gun violence in this country, >> head over to uh YouTube. You can check the whole video with both of us on there, you know, um to where you can hear Ray Seman and me talk in this discussion. We're having some technical difficulty with Tik Tok getting Ray Seekman on over on Tik Tok. But for my Tik Tok family, you can check us out on YouTube. You can check us out on Instagram and Facebook, you know, to to join us there so you can see what Rya Semed is bringing to the table as well.

[00:13:38]>> Yeah.

[00:13:38]>> Continue, Miss Rya Semed.

[00:13:41]>> Let's keep building. Let's define the problem or at least what I've come to know as the problem as we clearly as clearly as we can. And believe me, there's no confusion about it here because gun violence exists in our communities. I didn't learn this from looks at books. I learned it through family stories, through news, through losing my uncle.

[00:14:03]>> So I know this is real, not something people made up and usually hurt who is close to them, not strangers, people they know, people they trust. And where you live matters a lot. What you see every day matters too. So if guns are So if guns are easy to get, then the risk goes up. If problems don't get solved, then they can grow real fast and sometimes they can turn deadly.

[00:14:28]Understanding why something happens doesn't make it okay. It doesn't excuse it. Um people are still responsible. And now there's something else I want to mention and that is violence from outside. Violence from outside of our communities is treated differently. I mean it's like if the problem if it's like if it gets protection it gets explained differently and if it gets enforced differently right I've come to know through my studies that laws haven't always been equal protection hasn't always been equal and that definitely affects how our people think and how our people react and act.

[00:15:05]>> Let me let me let me let me put a pause right there for a second. So, I just want to repeat something you just said that I want to make sure that the our Tik Tok family get to hear if they aren't able to see you on uh Facebook, Instagram or on YouTube right now. Rya is streaming live. Rea Segment is streaming live on all those platforms to where you can see both of us family that are on Tik Tok who are only able to see me right now. But what she just said was, and correct me if I'm wrong, Rehea segment. Um, you said that you've come to know through your studies that laws haven't always been equal.

[00:15:47]Protection hasn't been equal. And that definitely affects how our people think. Am I correct?

[00:15:56]>> Y'all catch that uh on Tik Tok family.

[00:16:00]>> Okay. And you were talking about scholars like Michelle Alexander who talk about this type of stuff. Was that was that where you was at?

[00:16:10]>> Yeah, I continue through my studies.

[00:16:14]>> Yep. Go ahead and continue. Continue. I just want to make sure I brought the uh Tik Tok family up to speed with where Ry Seman is talking about right now.

[00:16:22]>> All right. I've come to know through my studies that laws haven't always been equal. Protection hasn't always been equal. And definitely that definitely affects how our people think and how our people react and what our people expect.

[00:16:37]We have scholars like Michelle Alexander that talk about this and it matters. But even with that harm inside our community still needs to be addressed. Both things can be true at the same time, but we have to separate them. If we mix everything together, most of the family might get confused and confusion stops solutions. So if we want real solutions, we have to be accurate. And being accurate takes discipline. So again, it makes me wonder who benefits when we're confused. Who doesn't get corrected? Who avoids responsibility? Those questions are important. At least to me. Because when we name things wrong, nothing gets fixed. But when we name things clearly, I believe we can step in. We can help.

[00:17:22]We can protect our people. And that's the goal, right? Protecting black life, that has to stay at the center of the mission.

[00:17:30]>> That's facts. You are. You know what?

[00:17:33]I'mma say it one more time for the family on Tik Tok.

[00:17:37]That's the goal. You know, we can't, you know, we can step in, family. We can help. We can protect our people. And that's the goal. That's what Rya segment just said because protecting black life that has to stay at the center of the mission. That's what read that just ended on that segment with >> and I just want to uh you know uh say do I to you Ray segment for you know being bold and being courageous and taking this leap to have this much needed and powerful discussion and just for our Tik Tok family and again for for our Facebook and YouTube and Instagram family that's listening I want to build on that what Ray Seek just laid you know the foundation for and you know and I'll keep I'll keep my language as plain as possible family. I see you all. I see Miss JV and everybody over there on TikTok, >> you know. Um but you know if if you name it wrong, you fix nothing. You just are talking right and talking doesn't save lives.

[00:18:49]>> Clarity saves lives, family. Clarity save lives.

[00:18:54]>> Say one more time.

[00:18:56]>> Clarity. I'mma say it one more time.

[00:19:00]Clarity saves lives.

[00:19:03]>> One more time for the family way in the back.

[00:19:06]>> One more time for the family way in the back.

[00:19:09]>> Clarity saves lives, family. You know, I've listened to people debate definitions, deflect on responsibility.

[00:19:21]Meanwhile, families bury people. That gap matters, right? And again, people like Tmaine Lee tracks these cases.

[00:19:32]Real names, real timelines, and real outcomes. No confusion there, right?

[00:19:38]Just straight up loss of life.

[00:19:41]>> And I know family. I know. I know family. I see you all out there, you know, scratching your head. Some of you, you know, you can't group everything together, but we >> But let me say it this way. But we're aware that internal harm needs internal correction and external pressure needs external resistance. And mixing them together may create excuses.

[00:20:10]>> And excuses, family, may certainly protect ill behavior. And that ill behavior mostly will stay on change and and just like that the cycle will continue.

[00:20:24]>> Yeah.

[00:20:25]>> A a yo >> I say that because maybe that's the pattern family.

[00:20:34]You know let me ask the the family. Let me ask the family you know something real quick right? If someone close harms you or if someone close causes harm to you, do you address it or do you protect it?

[00:20:54]That decision matters because silence isn't neutral. Silence protects dysfunction.

[00:21:02]I've seen it up close, not from a distance.

[00:21:08]Brother Zo Williams speaks on accountability. I mentioned that earlier and he speaks on consistent accountability consistently you know no selecting and not being selective and that's the standard emotion family emotion is not enough these days you know and emotion without clarity creates a lot of chaos and a lot of noise and noise and chaos doesn't protect anybody's life.

[00:21:42]>> Structure does. Especially when it comes to black life, family.

[00:21:46]>> Yes.

[00:21:46]>> We need structure.

[00:21:48]>> You know what I'm saying? To help correct that ill behavior to protect life.

[00:21:53]>> We need correction and we need truth. We have to be honest about this family. We have to be honest.

[00:22:02]>> And honesty, family, everything else follows honesty. Right.

[00:22:07]>> Yeah.

[00:22:09]And it's very important.

[00:22:11]>> It's very important. It's extremely important. And that was so beautifully stated, Baba. And here's something I've been learning about. And that is African center thought teaches something different. It teaches that life is connected, not separate or disposable.

[00:22:25]So when one person is lost, it doesn't stop there. It affects families. It affects communities. It spreads outward.

[00:22:32]I've been taught it affects communities.

[00:22:34]It spreads outward. I've been taught that balance matters how we treat people. It matters how we um handle responsibility as well.

[00:22:44]Force isn't supposed to be emotional or about ego or proving someone or something. It's supposed to protect life and keep balance, not break it. I'm also learning that discipline comes from power, not after. Because if someone leaves with emotion, things can go wrong very quick and people can get hurt. I learned that a long time ago. Tools like weapons had rules that they weren't showing off. They weren't used for image. They had a purpose. And that purpose was protection, nothing more. If someone couldn't control themselves, they weren't allowed to carry weapons.

[00:23:19]That part really stands out to me because it means control started inside, not outside. So now for me, the question becomes, what changed? Why does it feel so different now? Where did the discipline go? who stopped teaching it.

[00:23:34]Those questions feel important because >> let me let me put a pause right there.

[00:23:37]Put a pause right there. Re segment. I just want to make sure that the Tik Tok family, you know, hear the type of questions. Now bear in mind family on Tik Tok Rea Seek is nine years old and she's grappling with this topic today on gun violence and the questions that she's saying over here on and you can check out the us live where you can see both of us on YouTube, Tik Tok, Instagram. You know, we're having technical difficulties for Rya Segment to join the live on Tik Tok. That's why you only see me. But I just want to make sure that the Tik Tok family knows that the question that she's grappling with is why does it feel so different when it comes to black life or any you know compared to any other life here in this country you know where you know what what else resemmet uh who's teaching it you know things like that so >> where did the discipline go >> continue r segment >> yeah those questions feel important because when structure goes missing behavior behavior changes, too. I've heard people like Gail Garfield again talk about justice and how clarity is important because if we don't have clear standards, then anything can start to feel okay. And that's where danger grows. So, correction can't be random.

[00:24:57]It can't be delayed. It has to be on purpose and consistent.

[00:25:02]>> That's facts. And I like um I like what you just said and how you ended that piece. um you know family you know you got people like Gail Garfield is who Rya Seek said talks about justice and how clarity is very important because if we don't have clarity you know as a standard then anything can start to feel okay and uh as um as Dr. uh Reverend Phipe Shock Matthews, the bald wonder, the metaphysical morpheus, you know, those are his other attributes. You know, he says that there's nothing wrong with black people. Something happened to black people, >> you know, and that's the premise that we're standing on. But but let's be honest, family, most people are not living according to those standards. Not even close.

[00:26:02]And that's sad.

[00:26:04]That observation may be accurate.

[00:26:07]>> That observation may be accurate, but when it comes to deviating from the plan and if someone is off course, lack of a better term, then the correction is required.

[00:26:19]>> The correction is required. See, see, see, Ray a sec, man.

[00:26:23]Every time you know I think that I know you're going to say something that is profound, you find another gear, another level to get up on cuz see that what I mean. You said correction. People may hear judgment then they shut down.

[00:26:42]That's nothing.

[00:26:45]That's nothing, right?

[00:26:47]>> Yeah.

[00:26:47]>> You know, because nothing changes when they shut down. Nothing.

[00:26:55]Absolutely nothing.

[00:26:57]>> Nope. So what I mean >> misinterpretation, Baba, misinterpretation doesn't remove necessity because in my book, correction still remains require required.

[00:27:08]>> Yeah. And that's fair and I give you that. That's fair. So for the family way in the back so the family on Tik Tok you know what what what you're saying rea you're saying discipline comes first before the weapon before the reaction and before anything correct am I correct >> I'm sorry I didn't catch you >> that's correct baba from my studies discipline precedes power without sequence outcome comes degrade.

[00:27:42]>> Go, you know what? Don't don't leave a family just on that cliffhanger right there. Go deeper. You know what do you mean when you say without sequence outcomes degrade?

[00:27:52]>> Well, >> wait a second. Going deep over here, Tik Tok. You know, you know, if you all can get over to those other platforms and check her out, you know, she she she dropping gems right now. But go deeper for a sec, man. Go deeper. I got you, Baba. So family, when I say discipline perceives power, I'm trying to point my message to the order that protects families. I'm naming the structure that keeps decisions steady. And I'm trying to remind the African village that emotional stability must exist before any form of power enters the home.

[00:28:30]Because without sequence, outcomes are great. I say that because I come to know through my research that this is a way of showing how skipping steps can create harm. So when adults move with unregulated emotions, us kids absorb that instability. Or when adults carry power without clarity, us kids inherit confusion. And I land with this. When adults ignore the order at hand, families feel the impact.

[00:29:00]Yeah, that that that's facts, you know.

[00:29:03]Um that right there, Ray Seek, that's the part people skip. They want access, no structure, they want power with no no accountability, right? Then something happens. Then everybody's confused when that something happens.

[00:29:26]It's just >> you wantanna, you know what? You want to take a pause for a minute and and and and just kind of uh you know, point out the the QR code in the corner that we got tucked away.

[00:29:40]>> Yes. Go ahead.

[00:29:42]>> Can you see it? Yeah. Yeah. family, you know, >> if you feeling what Ry segment is and Raasar is talking about today, and this goes to the family that can see us on YouTube, uh, Instagram and Facebook, scan that QR code, you know, go over to Ray Seek website, you know, and and check out, you know, her her authorship. And to the Tik Tok family, you feeling what you've hearing me say? Check out Rehea Segment's website. It's www.reascment.com and that's www.re y s e khm t.com.

[00:30:27]>> Yep.

[00:30:29]>> All right, let's get back.

[00:30:30]>> How you feeling? Wait a second, man. You want to continue?

[00:30:34]>> Yeah.

[00:30:34]>> We're just getting started, you know.

[00:30:36]Let's let >> confusion off often follows lack of preparation and preparation >> I'm sorry I couldn't hear you. What what' you say?

[00:30:47]>> Confusion often follows lack of preparation and preparation real preparation family reduces errors.

[00:30:55]>> Well, you you are you know you know and let me ask you uh let me let me just ask you something directly rare segment. one simple question, you know, with you being only 9 years old, what are your thoughts as to if somebody can't control their anger, should they carry a weapon?

[00:31:19]Come on, family.

[00:31:22]>> Absolutely not. I believe emotional instability invalidates judgment.

[00:31:29]>> There it is. There it is. Now, I'm just going to share that with the Tik Tok family. Rea Seek said absolutely not.

[00:31:36]You know, if a if a person, you know what I'm saying, is um if a person can't control their anger, she's saying absolut they shouldn't carry a weapon. And she believes that emotional instability invalidates judgment. Did I get that correct, Ry Semit?

[00:31:55]>> Yes.

[00:31:57]>> Okay, then there it is. You know, but you know, I would say that the crazy thing is is that people fight and people will fight that, right?

[00:32:09]>> Because they might let their ego get involved or their pride get involved and that's the danger of it. You know, I've seen what happens after that reality happened, you know, and that's the reality of it, you know, the aftermath, that chaos piece that we're going to keep diving deeper into, family.

[00:32:32]>> Yeah, let's keep building. I want to talk about us, the children, and the conditioning children learn through patterns. Like really, it seems as though children learn these patterns before language forms and before choices even exist. I mean, just observing many of the kids around my age, it seems as if their minds absorb everything around them and not select not selectively either, but completely. And with that, one could argue that gun violence gets shaped early. Well, let me say it this way. The good sister Michelle Alexander's lens or viewpoint lives inside me. I say that because I've come to know that perspective shapes understanding of early conditioning. For instance, systems teach children long before schools, long before laws, and long before adulthood. Kids feel systems through daily um stress through neighborhood, through their neighborhood attention, and through adult behavior.

[00:33:35]And >> stress facts.

[00:33:36]>> Yeah. And through this type of repeated trauma, kids may indeed normalize chaos.

[00:33:42]Not by choice, but by survival and by adaption. Baba, >> can I say something real quick?

[00:33:48]>> I just want to make sure that Tik Tok family stays up to up to what you're saying. So what Reya is saying, Rehea Semman is saying, systems teach children long before schools and long before laws do, right?

[00:34:03]and long before they get to adulthood.

[00:34:06]And kids, and we're talking about children, you know, feel systems through daily stress. And that stress and that tension can come by way of the neighborhood, by the what was what's happening in the home, their peers, you know, and especially through adult behavior, you know, and and through this type of repeated trauma.

[00:34:31]That's what rea segment is talking about.

[00:34:34]>> Yeah.

[00:34:34]>> You know, >> it's not by choice, but it's more by survival and by adaptation. So, please continue r segment.

[00:34:43]>> On the flip side, at the Amu Institute for Ancestral Learning, we're taught that restoration of knowing. If we want to survive, to survive environments, excuse me, not just survive, but actually thrive and to endure.

[00:34:57]But we actually have to thrive and we have to endure. One more time for the family, for the Tik Tok family, for the family.

[00:35:04]>> Say it one more time. Say it one more time.

[00:35:08]>> But to actually thrive into a dur, we must be clearminded because clear guidance interrupts this type of chaos.

[00:35:17]And it's done not with yelling, not with threats or shame, but honestly, with structure, with being calm, because awareness protects children. And don't get me wrong because I've been taught that it cannot happen through just being hyper vigilance but rather grounded percept yeah perceptation because I found out that awareness says this danger exists here step back now stay stay safe first and family intelligence intelligence supports that because it's pri because it prioritizes survival so essentially baba if adults cannot explain calmly first then power fails and misuse begins and us the children deserve clarity, safety, truth and real guidance. Right.

[00:36:03]>> That's facts. That's facts. That's facts. So look like So someone is asking, do you think emotional control should be part of the conversation before someone else decides to carry a weapon?

[00:36:20]That I would say absolutely.

[00:36:23]you know, you you have to have emotional control. But that's what we're addressing uh today is that most of the time we are seeing in our neighborhoods that people are using these weapons and these guns recklessly.

[00:36:44]You know, somebody stepped on my shoe, somebody looked at me wrong, somebody had an itchy trigger finger, or somebody just maybe just feeling like they just want to take a life. You know, there has to be levels to this on self understanding that which we talked about earlier with being uh selfassessing or excuse me self-reflecting, self assessing and selfcorrecting.

[00:37:11]And if you do not have the proper understanding of all of that to be able to go into how to properly maintain, hold, and use a weapon and not just going off of impulse, then we can't even have the conversation. So yes, long story long, emotional control is part of the conversation, you know, before someone decides that they want to carry a weapon.

[00:37:43]>> Yeah, >> that was a great question.

[00:37:46]>> It is.

[00:37:47]>> Yeah.

[00:37:48]>> So, >> I feel as though I've been doing a lot of talking.

[00:37:55]>> I'm saying that one more time.

[00:37:57]I feel like I've been doing a lot of talking. So, how about we slow down for a moment so I can drink some water?

[00:38:02]Actually, how about we share with the family about memory loss and the continuation when it comes to losing a loved one by way of gun violence.

[00:38:11]>> Okay, I got you. So, this the part that the family on Tik Tok has been patiently waiting for and obviously on YouTube and the other platforms, you know, Facebook and Instagram. So basically uh Tik Tok family resemmet is asking me to discuss you know memory loss and continuation when it comes to losing a loved one by the way of gun violence right >> all right so so bear with me family you know I don't I haven't discussed this type of stuff in >> in in a while and and when I do discuss it it's very few and far between and I'm discussing it in my inner circle, you know, those that are closest to me. But my granddaughter Rea Sekmet thought that it would be a a story that may help somebody that may listen to this today or at some point in the future. So >> and again ray a sec I'll do my best and and and again bear with me family as I will need the ancestors and the nectaroo to help me through some of this as I'm still processing loss you know in the best way that I know how but you know I will say that this part matters because most people forget right they forget the person, they remember the incident, they remember headlines, but over time they forget the life that was taken.

[00:39:53]Right.

[00:39:54]>> Yeah. You know, you know, which is why we say their names like Trayvon Martin, Tamir Rice, George Floyd, Tasha Weathers for my East Molen family, you know, and so many other black bodies, you know, no longer here and gone too soon. Kelton Trice, you know, another East Molen, you know, family member, you know, for the most part, you know, and but the one that I want to talk about is my brother, my brother Kelvin, because Kelvin wasn't just a headline or just a courtroom case. He was family.

[00:40:41]He had presence. He had habits, right?

[00:40:46]Kelvin had always had a way about himself, you know, certain things only we knew that matters, you know, like myself, my mother, his sister, and shout out to who she know who she is, you know, we call her Pooh though, but don't say that, right? But shout out to the family, you know, and peace to the ancestors because when we because when loss happens, family, people reduce everything to one moment, one action or one mistake, right?

[00:41:27]>> Yes.

[00:41:27]>> But but that's not a full life at all.

[00:41:31]Not even helping laugh different. And I, you know, and if there's any family members out there catching this piece right now, you know, chime in, you know, put put it in the comments. Join the live. You know, I'm saving space for family to join me on the live. Whether it's video to video, person to person, comment in the comments section or even a thumbs up if you feeling this.

[00:42:01]>> Yeah, >> Kelvin laughed differently. He moved differently. He handled people differently and for me that's what stays. That's the part that truly hurts.

[00:42:14]Rec >> not just the loss but the absence of everything that came with him. A >> a that distinctance is necessary baba because a person must remain whole not reduced to incident or outcome because memory preserves identity. Identity preserves connection and connection sustains love and family that doesn't end even with death. That's exactly you capture what I just said exactly segment you know and and that's what people miss right they ask about what happened >> but they rarely ask >> who he was and to me that imbalance matters because healing starts with memory right >> not just trauma family >> healing starts with memory not just with trauma And my brother Kelvin trusted who he was with that night. You know that part matters because sitting in a car early morning comfortable enough to stay in that car that trust was broken and that changes how you see people forever.

[00:43:34]Family forever.

[00:43:35]>> Forever. That was a permanent life choice.

[00:43:40]>> Mhm.

[00:43:41]>> Facts. No need to apologize, Barbara.

[00:43:44]Take your time, but allow me to bring it back. What do you mean when you mentioned until accountability came?

[00:43:52]>> I'm sorry. Um, well, let me say this.

[00:43:55]>> Let me let me back it up. Let me back it up. Baba, you all have you all have taught us trust violation creates deeper harm. not just physical, relational, um, psychological, communal, that type of loss expands outward and it doesn't stay contained, right?

[00:44:14]>> No, you're exactly right, Reacet. Um, Kelvin fought to live. You know, that part stays with me heavy. And give me a moment.

[00:44:23]>> Heavy. [snorts] Take your time. You know, Kelvin fought, as I said, you know, he fought to live.

[00:44:32]You know, doctors said he had a 1% chance to live from the initial impact of that gunshot wound, you know, and he beat that.

[00:44:45]He had then they said that uh the doctor said that he had a 5% chance to live after the first 24 or 48 hours. He beat that.

[00:44:57]For me, that tells you something about his will, about his strength, and about his life force that was inside of him burning, you know. And we as a family, my mother, my sister, and others, we fought too, you know.

[00:45:19]>> My family fought. And peace to Darlene and Sanja T. Yeah, >> you know, who we call poo.

[00:45:27]>> But don't don't say that to her, right?

[00:45:30]You know, but we didn't sit still at all, family. We showed up every step of the way and showed out, you know. You know, until until that day came, until that accountability came. And what I mean by that when I say that accountability day came family and pardon me as I'm skipping around real segment but um but thank you for for bringing that question to the table and keeping me on task with it. And again, I'm skipping around a bit, but during that court trial, during the sentencing part, you know, that's what I'm talking about. They gave the person that showed my beloved brother 50 years on the sentence.

[00:46:29]>> You feel me?

[00:46:30]>> Yeah.

[00:46:30]>> That's it. 50 years they gave him >> for mortally wounding my brother who succumbed to his injuries. But let me be clear and make no mistake about it. That doesn't fix anything. Like you just said, that's it. You know, it doesn't restore Kelvin. It doesn't replace Kelvin. It just puts a pause on one chapter.

[00:46:59]That's all right. But no need to apologize.

[00:47:02]Take your time, but allow me to bring >> That's okay. I got you, Red Se. I got you. Come on down a little bit. You know >> what do you mean when you mention until accountability came?

[00:47:15]>> You know what that's um I would say this, you know, I would say and I would say people need to hear this. People need to hear a story like what I'm telling, you know, my story, at least a fraction of it. And maybe it might help somebody, you know, maybe it's, you know, somebody might be going through something right now and just need to hear >> what other people have experienced, you know, just to kind of relieve that pain, even if it is for a moment, you know, to help them get on the right track, >> you know. and peace to anybody that is going through any sort of grief right now that's dealing with losing a loved one, you know, by way of a gun. But, you know, grief doesn't end. It it shifts. It moves around your life. You adjust to it. You don't get any ease from it. You know, there's no day without memory, no day without thought.

[00:48:17]Not one because they will always be your loved one.

[00:48:22]>> Yeah, a that is a hard truth. A very hard truth.

[00:48:30]An extremely hard truth. And I've come to understand justice doesn't equal restoration. It provides structure, not replacement and emotional repair. That distinction must be understood.

[00:48:44]>> Yeah. I'm not I'm not uh I I feel you. I feel you. I feel you. We're going to take a moment and um you know, talk about your uh you know, what what are you feeling right now? Um because we are we are at the halfway point and I just wanted to check in with you and and just check in and seeing how you doing over there, Miss Recmemed.

[00:49:13]Well, this truth is hard, but it's necessary. So, I'm doing good. And I'm also in a position where I need to sit for a second.

[00:49:25]>> Yeah.

[00:49:27]Yeah. Uh, mention your website. Let people know about your website.

[00:49:33]>> All right. Well, my website is www.rescmat.com.

[00:49:37]For the people who don't know how to spell it, it's www. R E Y A um apostrophe. S E K H M- E T.

[00:49:50]>> Yeah. Yeah. Say it again without the apostrophe, though. And you can tell everybody to kind of look down below in the ticker.

[00:49:58]>> Yeah. Look down below on the ticker, fam.

[00:50:01]>> www.

[00:50:03]E y a um s k.

[00:50:08]>> So, let me say this.

[00:50:14]Everything good over there, Miss Red Se?

[00:50:17]>> Oh, thank you so much for sharing, guys.

[00:50:20]Go ahead and keep on sharing.

[00:50:24]>> What?

[00:50:25]>> So happy.

[00:50:26]>> So, so you were saying something about continuing life requires adaptation.

[00:50:35]>> That's where you were at.

[00:50:37]You were saying something about continuing life required adaptation. I just want to hear what you was going to say.

[00:50:43]>> I want to hear the rest of that.

[00:50:44]>> Continuing life requires adaptation, right? Not denial nor suppression, but support systems matter. Environment matters and language matters and family negative influence must be removed and positive structures must be built.

[00:50:59]>> Yeah. Okay. That's what it was. Yeah.

[00:51:01]No, that's deep. That's deep. And and and for the Tik Tok family, what Rea Segmet just said is that and correct me if I'm wrong, Rey, but continuing life requires adaptation, but support systems matter and environments matter as well as language matters and family need uh and families need negative influences removed and positive structures must be built. Is that what you were what you were saying, Miss Red Se? Okay, exactly. Red Se was saying >> that that's deep. And I appreciate you, Miss Red Se.

[00:51:43]>> Thank you for You know what? Do I to you, Miss Red Sea, for allowing me to uh time and space to come on your platform and share a piece of this this story, you know, that happened in in our family's life >> because it did affect a our family, you know, because and that part is real because after loss, people come around with wrong energy, you know, start talking revenge.

[00:52:15]talking retaliation.

[00:52:17]That's not support. Putting all that pressure and on my mother, you know, and shout out to Darlene, you know, for for being such a strong black woman, you know, to to have to deal with that type of grief. No mother, no father, no sister, no brother should have to bear that type of pain.

[00:52:40]Family.

[00:52:41]>> Yeah. You know that's that type of of negative energy and wrong energy that comes around family members when that time is upon somebody or some group of or family member that's destruction you know I had to re I personally had to reject all of that completely you know because I've seen where that leads it leads to more loss more funerals more broken families and the cycle ends nowhere, right?

[00:53:17]>> And and here's something else for a sec, man. People think strength means not crying. And family, I can tell you right now, that's false because pain is real and emotions are real. You know, you don't hide that.

[00:53:32]You manage it. You move through it, but you don't pretend it's not there because it is, family. It's there every day.

[00:53:43]>> Yes.

[00:53:45]>> And it makes an impact every day.

[00:53:47]>> Exactly. And you still find ways to keep going. My mother is definitely a strong woman as I mentioned earlier, you know.

[00:53:56]I give her all the praise.

[00:53:59]My sister all the praise. You know, because when I talk about still finding ways to keep going, my mother embodied that. She embodies it, you know, because she embodied that through helping other people, staying active, showing up, and actually building something from losing her son.

[00:54:26]you know, not because she want to or wanted to, but because she had to. We have to because doing nothing is not an option. Family, that's the reality.

[00:54:40]>> Check this out, family. I want you to understand, understand, and over because individual loss connects to one experience can inform many. This is responsibility. This is um continuation and family. That's the pre we're talking about.

[00:54:58]>> That's facts, family. That's facts. And and my brother Kelvin is still my brother. That didn't change. Not ever.

[00:55:07]And he's he's a he's not was, he is.

[00:55:12]And just not here physically. And that matters because love doesn't stop family. Even when you lose a loved one, that love doesn't stop. It shifts forms, but it stays. It always stays >> a a and baba that's a great segue into what I want to genu gently talk about and that is learning uncle Kelvin through loss because I didn't grow up beside him I learned through his stories through memory through pain and often kids like me and me family in pieces we hear names moments we and we hear loss I said it because I want us I want to think about how He trusted someone enough to sit in that car. Trust feels simple to kids like me. But trust is dangerous.

[00:56:02]>> Take your time. I I I think I know where you're going, but take your time.

[00:56:06]>> Take your time. I know I know it bothers you. I know it bothers you and I know you get getting excited. So, just just take your time. I'm here for you. You here for me.

[00:56:15]>> Yeah.

[00:56:18]Trust feels simple to kids like me, but trust is dangerous when people carry pain they never talk about. And that matters deeply. Kelvin's story shows that he didn't get safety. He didn't get clarity. He definitely didn't get protection. What did he get? He got a moment that changed everything. And I carried that as a young girl trying to understand loss. I never saw it happen.

[00:56:40]And I think about how his death shaped my family's path, my and my path and shaped my own path, my own awareness.

[00:56:48]Cover story teaches me that violence is not random, but it grows from pressure, from confusion, from pain. And kids inherit that if adults don't speak honestly first. And I and even though I never got to fully know him, I know he mattered. I know his life carried weight. I know his story shapes mine.

[00:57:08]And I and I speak today so kids like me don't grow up learning family through loss alone. Kelvin's life deserves memory. He deserves truth and honor. And I carry that with care always. So with that, if you're okay sharing um if Kelvin felt safe that night and harm still found him anyway, what exactly happened to him that day he was harmed?

[00:57:34]>> What exactly happened to Kelvin that day?

[00:57:37]>> Yeah. you know, that was that was a beautiful setup. Um, the way that you set that up for me and, you know, do out to you for that. I appreciate you. Um, you know, I I do want to take time just to say um you're doing a wonderful job uh in this interview and you know, I know sometimes we talk about a lot of topics and and some topics have some serious meaning that hit home like today's topic. And you know, I just want to again say thank you for the allowing me the platform to be able to share Kelvin's story and you know, which is a a beautiful story and and and so yeah, so I do want to say that um family, if you're out there and you watching from afar, you know, today's discussion, if you have questions, send your questions. You know, that's what we're here for. We're answering all questions. There's no hoes barred.

[00:58:38]Whether you agree with this or not, you know, send your questions. Uh same with you family on TikTok. You can't see red segment over here, but if you have a question and you want to ask us a question, by all means, you know, ask us a question.

[00:58:57]>> Yeah.

[00:58:59][snorts] >> Right. Right. A segment. I'm just over here trying to um make sure the Tik Tok family is uh is uh still with us.

[00:59:13]>> Yeah. Um yeah.

[00:59:14]>> Yeah. Just bear with me and I'm going to answer your question uh red segment. You know, I just want to make sure the Tik Tok family is still with us. But um Okay.

[00:59:26]So, you were saying for me to give you some background on what happened to Kelvin, correct?

[00:59:34]>> Yeah.

[00:59:36]>> Okay. Again, all right. Bear with me, you know, as I haven't really discussed this outside the comfort of those closest to me, as I mentioned earlier.

[00:59:46]But on the night of January 23rd and and and Darlene, uh, Sanjay, if y'all out there listening and watching this, you know, you know, help me tell this story, right? Um, so if I have a date or time kind of off, um, yeah, let's talk about it. But on the night of, uh, January 23rd, Red Sack met, uh, 2021, Kelvin got into, you know, a little uh, situation. But again, on the night of January 23rd, 2021, Kelvin got ready to go out and celebrate his father's birthday as he always did. It was like a yearly ritual for him, you know. You know, from the time his father passed in 1993 until 2021, uh Kelvin honored uh that day the same way he did every year. You know, going out and riding around the city, you know, while spending time with uh people he fully trusted and family, loved ones, things of that nature. But that particular night, he went out with someone who was supposed to be a really good friend he trusted.

[01:01:05]>> They went to some clubs and drove around the city while moving through different uh spots that entire night, right? You know what was what we later learned uh was that this so-called friend had been doing a substance, a drug or drugs for a couple of days straight, >> hadn't slept, you know, these are all things that we find out in hindsight, you know. And in the early morning hours of January 24th around 1:20 a.m., my mother received a mysterious phone call or a phone call from that matter from Kelvin phone or from Kelvin himself. And she didn't hear anything on the line at all. She called back that number which was Kelvin's and Kelvin answered and he said in a calm voice, you know, he said, "I'm sorry, Mom. I didn't mean to call you and wake you up." You know, that was the last time my mother uh ever heard Kelvin's voice clearly again.

[01:02:15]And according to what the so-called friend later claimed in court documents, he and Kelvin had been riding around together and Kelvin wanted to keep riding around more. But the so-called friend said he was tired and wanted to go home instead. So, the so-called friend allegedly drove to his house and parked his car out front, you know, before getting out of the car and walking around to the passenger side where my brother Kelvin was sitting. And while the so-called friend was standing outside in the snow with the passenger window still rolled up, the so-called friend pulled out a 9 mm or 40 Glock. It was one or the other, but he pulled out a gun and pointed it directly at Kelvin.

[01:03:07]And bear in mind, family, Kelvin is sitting in this passenger seat of this front, sitting in the front seat of this on the passenger side of this car, minding his business in a chill mode.

[01:03:21]You know, the police later found an unspent case at the scene, you know, which meant the gun jam and the so-called friend had to rack that gun to to, you know, remove the jam, you know, and and and that and then and then after he racked it a sec and get rid of the the jammed shell, you know, after that the next shot was the one that struck Kelvin in the head directly. So, Kelvin was shot in the head. Family, you know, the the so-called friend tried to claim in court documents that he went in he went inside the house and went to sleep with his wife or with his family and that Kelvin stayed in that car the entire time. He also claimed that uh Kelvin, excuse me, the so-called friend also claimed that he and his wife or girlfriend drove to the gas station in another car in another part of the city across town to get some cigarettes.

[01:04:36]basically buying time, you know, and dis, you know, when they came back from getting those cigarettes across town almost in another city, they came back and discovered Kelvin had been shot in the car outside, had been shot in the head. You know, that was the lie that the so-called friend told, you know, to detectives during the investigation, interrogation afterwards as they started peeling back the onion and finding a lot of holes in his story.

[01:05:09]You know, the truth is family that my brother suffered for 45 minutes before anyone called for help or contacted authorities at all that night, you know.

[01:05:23]So roughly 10 to 11 hours later that afternoon or evening on the 24th, my mother received a a call telling her she needed to get up to the hospital immediately and that her son had been shot in the head.

[01:05:46]So that's a piece of the story right there.

[01:05:51]>> And this is where we're at. you know, this would be a good time for a break, you know. Um, let me know if you're still with me, family. Let me know. Send your questions. Like I said, if you have questions, I'm here to answer them.

[01:06:09]>> Um, >> so we got a question.

[01:06:14]Somebody, it's all good says, "How do unhealed trauma and anger affect decision making in our communities?

[01:06:23]unhealed trauma. Well, think about it.

[01:06:28]Hurt people hurt people. So, if you are dealing with unhealed trauma, you're destined to give more trauma to other people.

[01:06:43]And you have to be able to self assess, self-reflect, and self-correct.

[01:06:52]And there's a lot of doctors and people in that profession that you can talk to. And that's the one misconception that black people, black, the black the African village have is that we don't want to talk to nobody.

[01:07:12]You know, it's okay to talk to somebody.

[01:07:14]You know, you got people like you, like I said, I mentioned earlier, you know, uh, Baba Reverend Dr. Shock, you know, he he is somebody, you know, he says there's nothing wrong with black people.

[01:07:29]Something happened to black people.

[01:07:32]So once you accept that you have trauma, then you seek how to heal from that trauma.

[01:07:44]And we'll talk more about that. Great question.

[01:07:48]Great question. All right, Red Se on you. Where where you at? Um, yeah. Hearing what happened to Kelvin that night changes how I see everything now because he was not afraid that night.

[01:08:01]>> Oh, hold on. I can't hear you. I can't hear you.

[01:08:05]>> What about now?

[01:08:05]>> Talk a little louder. I wasn't able to hear you.

[01:08:08]>> Um, coming in loud and clear.

[01:08:11]>> Hearing what happened to Kelvin that night changes how I see everything now.

[01:08:15]Cuz he wasn't afraid that night at all.

[01:08:17]He wasn't running from anything then. He wasn't in danger. and he wasn't in danger in his own mind ever. He w he trusted the moment he was sitting inside of that car and riding the so-called friend.

[01:08:31]He trusted the person beside him. He trusted the space he was resting inside of and harm still found him that night anyway without warning. That truth hits hard for kids like me today. Because we grow up thinking danger feels obvious every time or that thinking danger comes with warnings that we can see. But Kelvin's story shows something else entirely to kids listening. Danger can look calm on purpose. Danger can feel normal in moments. Danger can quietly sit beside you without any signal. And that change is how I understand safety in my life. It all changes how I understand our families. Because after the incident didn't just face loss and shock, we faced hours of not knowing what was going to happen. We faced confusion. So I need to ask this. What was the hospital like?

[01:09:19]for you in that long first moment. How long was Kevin fighting for his life in there? Was he any was he conscious? Was he ever conscious at any point of time?

[01:09:32]>> That's a beautiful question and thank you for that question.

[01:09:37]So family on Tik Tok reseekment is asking she wants to know like what was the hospital environment like during that time period from my perspective or and how long was Kelvin fighting for you know for his life. You know what was um was he ever conscious at any point is what Rya Segmet is asking for those that are on TikTok. Um the irony rea is that that week you know was like I said was um January 21st 2021 you know I was already in the hospital myself I had gone down uh to a funeral and as we were leaving the funeral I got rear ended and end up with a back fracture.

[01:10:31]So, so um it was it was a it was really a it was really a mess. But, um I what I remember about that time was that as I was sitting uh laid up in the hospital and then when I got released and they put me in a back cast because of a back fracture. So when when I got the call from my sister that Kelvin had been shot and to meet them at the hospital, I was laid up in the bed with a back cast on.

[01:11:11]So So you know um my wife and shout out to Nana Amu Sa for being such an amazing divine reflection. But um my divine reflection had to had to drive me from you know the house to the hospital you know and and you know where Kelvin had to be transported to the university to you know for him to have emergency surgery you know and and which again um my feeling in that moment was a disbelie belief, a numbness, like it wasn't really a thing like like it wasn't it wasn't real, you know? I was um I was having a hard time processing the fact that I couldn't lose my brother, you know. I couldn't lose my brother like that. Not in that way, right? you know, and even though, you know, I felt all over the place, you know, with emotion and high anxiety, you know, I I I did my best, at least I I believe I did my best by staying strong for my mother, you know, you know, breaking down only in private moments, you know, it was a lot of chaos and a lot of dissension, a lot of strong disagreement during that time period. around around us then, right?

[01:12:47]But by the time I got there, you know, I met my mother in the lobby and we went we both went back to see Kelvin. He was connected to a lot of tubes and wires and on heavy medication and he was in an he was in a a medically induced coma.

[01:13:04]You know, the gunshot wound caused severe damage throughout his body. He was paralyzed along the entire left side of his his body. You know, the doctors told us that when people sustain an injury like Kelvin's, there's only 1% chance of a person survival, the actual gunshot uh wound itself. You know, Kelvin did that. You know, you know, I said that earlier. You know, Kelvin, you know, he beat a lot of the odds, but you know, you know, he had fluid on his brain. You know, then there's the the paralysis in the right eye.

[01:13:41]um which had to be sewn shut completely, you know, losing hearing, you know, both ears, you know, followed by strokes, followed by a wired jaw, followed by blood transfusions, feeding tubes, you know, it it was a mess, red segment, it was a mess, you know. So, you know what I was thinking for a sec, man? You know, we may have to come back and do another episode to to finish this, but >> you know, how about we jump into community mic check?

[01:14:13]>> Um, >> a couple of from We have some comments.

[01:14:24]>> Oh, well.

[01:14:28]Yeah. Yeah, take your time. Why you why while why while you getting yourself prepared to go into the community mic check, you know, family, if you are hearing us right now, if your spirit is moving you, show some love, show some heart, some thumbs up. Check out Raycmet's website, www.raycmmet.com.

[01:14:52]www.raycet.com raycmet.com three times so you can understand, understand, and overstand.

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[01:15:02]That's www.

[01:15:04]Eye kh.com family. Show some J&J life. My it love to rea fact Ra segment.

[01:15:22]Okay. Um, yeah, I got the community mic check. Um, we're already in stock now.

[01:15:28]Okay. So, we can do the community mic check by community mic check. And this is where we take questions or comments we've received through email or direct messaging and address them on the show.

[01:15:38]Yes, family. I see the comments and thank you to who to those who all support the Jang life a mission. The first comment comes from someone named uh first immediate Bob and he says, "Look, I'm just trying to say what nobody else wants to say. Every time something happens, it turns to black this, black that." Like the whole country is supposed to stop and feel guilty. But your but all lives matter, not just yours. And at some point, you can't keep blaming history or the system or the government. Well, thank you. the first immediate Bob.

[01:16:13]>> Can I can I say something to that for a sec before you go on? I wanted to make sure that the Tik Tok family know what that question was. And you said that was from first >> immedic Bob.

[01:16:29]>> Uh immediate Bob. I Yeah.

[01:16:33]>> Okay. Um uh so family on Tik Tok Reyes said that we got a question and and I'm it says uh somebody from Amitic Bob he says every time something happens it turns into black this black that like the whole country is supposed to stop and feel guilty you know because all lives matter not just yours and at some point you can't keep blaming history or the system or the government, you know. So that's what the question more of a statement than than a question. But go ahead red segment. You want to respond to that?

[01:17:16]>> Yeah. Um first when you say all lives matter, you erase context, you erase history, you erase the conditions we did not create. And when you say we make excuses, we confuse survival with complete excuse me there. You confuse endurance with avoidance because responsibility and blame are not the same. Responsibility looks at behavior.

[01:17:37]Blame attacks identity. And what you're doing is attacking identity while pretending you're talking about behavior.

[01:17:45]Other groups didn't survive 400 years of engineer disadvantage. Other groups weren't legally defined as non-human.

[01:17:52]other groups were not targeted by police um police, by housing, by schooling, by policing, by medicine, by media for generations. So no, we're not making excuses, but we are naming patterns, naming systems, naming the impact. But in Babu, he teaches sovereignty and sovereignty requires accountability, but accountability starts with truth. And at the Institute for Ancestral Learning, we study patterns to understand impact. We study patterns to protect children. We study patterns to strengthen families.

[01:18:24]So this is not your punishment, not um accusation and definitely not an attack on who we are. This is maintenance. This is correction. This is clarity because blame weakens us but responsibility sharpens us. And we choose sharpening.

[01:18:41]>> A okay. So we receive an email from Sir John the 237. He asked, "How do we talk to kids without fear?"

[01:18:50]>> I'll take that one.

[01:18:52]>> Um, so the second and final question, family on Tik Tok is from Sir John the Truth 37, you know, he asked, "How do we talk to kids without fear?"

[01:19:06]And um, that's a great question, you know, from the family. and dua uh Sir John the Truth 37 for asking that question. It's right on time because I'm we got some questions over on YouTube that I think kind of is in line with with the with what what Sir John is saying. And I'll just say this um it's my belief that when we talk to children, fear enters the room only when adults carry it in. Right? Yeah, >> kids read our tone long before they process our words, you know. So, the first step is stabilizing ourselves as adults, not pretending to do so or performing, just plain grounding family, grounding in ma principles. And Baba Baruti, you know, as Rya Seekmet says, teaches that clarity grows from sovereignty and a sovereign mind doesn't speak from panic. A sovereign mind speaks from understanding and children respond to that energy. You know, they trust it. They relax inside of it. So talking to kids without fear means removing confusion from the message. And I'll land with this for the sake of time. Red segment. You know, we give our children truth that fits their age. We give them structure that keeps them steady. And we give them explanations that match their world, not ours.

[01:20:41]Because fear shows up when we adults avoid honesty or when adults hide what it should be guiding, right?

[01:20:51]>> Yeah.

[01:20:52]>> Children needs adults who can hold the conversation without collapsing inside of it. and saying that it reminds me that emotional intelligence is a skill not a mood. You know, so when adults regulate their own emotions, the child feels safe enough to listen. So we remove fear by removing instability from the adult first. A calm adult creates a calm message and a calm message creates a clear-minded child. And that's how we talk to kids without fear. and rare seme >> fam. Before we get out of here, I want to let you all know I wrote a book. It's called the magical adventure of Ralina.

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[01:21:52]It's an African center tale applying the principles of my eye. It's on sale now on paper book hard coverver. You can scan the QR code embedded in this video.

[01:22:00]Mhm. Right there, family. Mhm.

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[01:22:20]E y a s e khme t.com and family sofa the idea of going back to give what was last was one of the most important pieces I wanted to put into the story a >> that's facts that's facts that's facts wow >> beautiful >> all right um I'd say let's close this out what's what's the closing r segment you over there y what's >> um >> close.

[01:22:56]>> Okay, so family as I close onto this discussion I want to leave the family with this.

[01:23:00]>> You got to remember family segment is 9 years old. So, you know, we going to get a little bit of yan every now and then, you know, not because she bored or anything, but because you know, we we already been on here for an hour and 23 minutes. We was shooting for 1:30. You know, an hour and 30 minutes is our is our closeout time, but you know, she's been up a few hours even before jumping on the live just preparing and getting ready for the live. So, you know, shout out to Red Se.

[01:23:31]>> Thank you. So, family, as I close on today's discussion, I want to leave the family with this and that is life demands discipline. Not sometimes, not even conditionally because most of us the children inherent patterns, habits and in some cases chaos. And with some adults normalizing chaotic behavior, kids absorb everything and that impact could last for generations. So now is the time to become or become wise now.

[01:23:59]>> Wait, wait, wait. Say that one more time. Wise enough now.

[01:24:01]>> Listen, put some put some sex stank on that. So now is the time to be or >> So now is the time to be or become wise enough.

[01:24:11]>> No, no, no, no. Say that one more time.

[01:24:14]Strong with it. Come on now. You You making a point now. You got to hit that strong.

[01:24:19]>> One more time for the family way in the back.

[01:24:22]>> Do it baba bat two style.

[01:24:26]>> So now is the time to become or become wise enough now. Choose intentionally now. Choose responsibility now and most definitely choose African centerness now.

[01:24:39]>> So to the Tik Tok family, what Rea Seek is saying, she said it and I'm going to say it like how she should have said it.

[01:24:47]So that so now is the time to be or become wise enough. Choose intentionally now.

[01:24:58]Choose responsibility and be responsible now and most definitely choose African centeredness now. Family, you know, we have to do better by our black children, by our Africanness. Let's do better. Let's see our kids clearer and let's protect their brilliance because the kid whether it's the kid now or the kid within you is who we're talking about because their safety, the children's safety depends on the structure we build around them.

[01:25:36]Their confidence grows when adults stay grounded. Their choices improve when guidance stays steady. And you should want this family because the children's future strengthens when our home and our communities become places of clarity instead of confusion. This episode asks us to look honestly at what children absorb from the environments we create.

[01:26:04]Their lives reflect the lessons we model family. So, let's give them something worthy to grow from.

[01:26:15]>> A shaded >> facts.

[01:26:20]>> Facts.

[01:26:21]>> There you have it.

[01:26:23]>> There you have it.

[01:26:25]>> There you have it.

[01:26:27]>> There you have it. Look, family has just hair.

[01:26:32]>> Well, huh?

[01:26:35]>> Huh?

[01:26:37]>> No. Go ahead.

[01:26:39]>> Look, family. What papa has just shared, that just wasn't a story. That was a blueprint. A reminder that doesn't grieve, doesn't end a life. It reshapes one. And I want to say this to anybody listening who's curing a wound they've never asked for.

[01:26:55]You don't get to shout out >> to Grandma Darling. Shout out to Sister Sanja.

[01:26:59]>> Cool.

[01:27:01]>> But you do get to choose what you build from it. You get to choose whether the womb becomes a wall or a doorway. Kevin didn't leave us empty. He left us with instructions. He left us with a frequency. He left us with the standard how to move, how to lead, and how to love, and how to show up when the world gets loud, messy, or chaotic. So for anyone who may have experienced or experiencing what my family had gone through and going through, don't let pain be the period on the story, but turn into a coma.

[01:27:35]or comma, turn it into a chapter.

[01:27:39]Essentially, turn it into a reason to live um stronger, love deeper, and leave with the kind of legacy my uncle Kelvin never got a chance to finish. Because the truth is, Kelvin's story didn't end.

[01:27:50]It became ours. And now the world is watching what we do with it. A >> a Well, there it is. in the successful episode. There you have it family.

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