Women BREAK DOWN Over Being CONSIDERED UGLY!

Added: 2026-05-30

[00:00:00]Reaction.

[00:00:01]>> What's up, YouTube? It's your girl Dee.

[00:00:03]Welcome back to the channel. So, I'm back with another reaction video for you guys. Now, I came across this video on YouTube where these women were talking about being not the most desirable um and kind of, you know, feeling a certain way about their looks or, you know, putting out there how they feel about being or not being the most conventionally attractive or, you know, conventionally attractive women. So, listen, I want to get into the video.

[00:00:31]Y'all chime in in the comments below.

[00:00:32]Hype up the video. Let me know your thoughts on this. What do you think about these women and how they feel about themselves and society and how society view them? Make sure you chime in. I want to hear what you got to say.

[00:00:42]But let's go ahead and get into the video. I am not conventionally attractive.

[00:00:48]And I don't mean that in a bad way. I just mean that I there's no beauty standard that I check any boxes of. I don't fit the overarching white beauty standard and I definitely don't fit the black beauty standard, which we know is like light skin. looser hair texture. I have very dark skin. I have distinctly African features and I have very kinky hair.

[00:01:12]Now, I'm saying all that, but I don't subscribe to beauty standards anymore. I saw this Tik Tok once of this girl and she was like, "Fuck these beauty standards. I'm my own beauty standard."

[00:01:21]And I was like, "Period. I'm going to be my own beauty standard, too." But for the sake of this story, we're talking about beauty standards. So, I've always been told that I was ugly. I was told to me as a child. It was told to me as an adult. And then I gained a lot of weight. So, not only was I ugly, I was fat as well. I honestly didn't like myself very much. And I thought that I was ugly, too. And if you think you're ugly, then you're ugly. Now, I've been in therapy for the past 4 and 1/2 years, and I've managed to like rewire my brain. So, I don't think that anymore.

[00:01:58]But there is one thing that has been at the back of my mind that I'm bringing to the forefront now. And I really feel like being considered ugly and unattractive has has kind of helped keep me safe because I used to be really really naive and I also had very low self-esteem and I used to just really want male attention so bad. I used to wish that I was like one of the pretty girls that would get attention and I was like, "Oh, it's never me. It's because I'm ugly."

[00:02:36]But, you know, since I've been on Tik Tok, I got on I when did I get on TikTok? I think I got on Tik Tok in 2021. And this app has made my world so much bigger and opened my eyes so much and it's made me aware of the sinister nature. if you will, of men. And now I'm like looking back and I'm like, man, being ugly has like kept me safe. Like the fact that no one has ever wanted me because I feel like if anybody would have wanted me, I would have been just like, "Oh my god, I'll do anything." I mean, even things that I didn't want to do, like maybe get pregnant, cuz Lord knows I don't ever want kids or like maybe marry like a bum or something just to have some type of attention because I've never had any of that. Like I have just been kept safe. And I say that because I looked, you know, at a lot of you women who are telling your stories about things that have happened to you and I'm just like, I've never experienced any of that.

[00:03:46]But I'm looking at so many of you tell your stories and I'm like I don't I I don't want those experiences.

[00:03:54]>> Listen, and I don't want to minimize her experience because it's her experience and it's unique to her. I get what she's saying, but there are women who are who have been considered conventionally attractive but still have not gone through horrible things. I think the focus because people we have social media and people can come out and tell their stories. A lot of people like to tell their negative stories, but people don't want to hear positive stories.

[00:04:15]There are a lot of positive stories of healthy relationships with individuals who have not experienced the harshness of dating and all of that, but we don't hear that cuz when when we have negative when people when most people have negative experiences, they want to share that. They they're not quick to share positive experiences because they know the masses don't really care. People like to trauma bond. They like to gravitate to things that are negative versus positive. This is why uh reality TV and drama and fighting and all that kind of stuff is very very popular because people thrive off of negativity.

[00:04:50]So it doesn't that mean that and I personally don't think that she's ugly at all. I think she's an attractive woman, but you know, once again, if you've been taught this or told this as a young woman and you've grown up with that mentality, it does play on your insecurities and it does, you know, make you believe that. And so then you in in in turn respond and and and act and move in a way that shows your insecurities and that plays a lot on who you are as a person and how people view you, too. I do not think that she's ugly at all. And you know, she's saying she's happy, you know, in hindsight of the fact that nobody's ever cared to date her or be with her. That that can't be a good feeling within itself to not have ever experienced some love or somebody who really, you know, uh somebody who really cared about you and and and wanted to take you seriously. That's that that's not a good thing either. And I think that will play have an effect on on people who like that as well because I it it doesn't make you feel good that nobody's ever wanted to approach you.

[00:05:56]And then you got to ask yourself was is it is this what she believes or is this a reality? Is it is it that maybe she's isolated people because of that very thought process that no one would take her seriously because she believes she's ugly and that's what she's been taught or and and and has she kind of uh alienated herself from potential relationships believing that she's ugly and nobody really wants her cuz I don't think she's ugly at all. And I think sometimes you can, you know, bring certain outcomes on yourself believing certain things about yourself. Um because once again, I think beauty on the outside is only a part of attraction. But who you are as a person also has a lot to do with who you attract as well. And so if you are you've become a negative, and I'm not saying she has, I'm just giving a little nuance to what she's saying and and possibilities of what could have occurred. It may not be the fact that she didn't have anybody to really be there for her cuz she's so ugly, but maybe it's the mentality that you have along with that that you've built up because of that idea. You know what I'm saying? And a lot of people don't realize that sometimes that it's not that you just think it is. So, it makes you insecure and you kind of, you know, isolate yourself because of it. So, that maybe it could be that or it could not.

[00:07:13]You know, I don't know her entire experience, but I personally don't think she's ugly at all. And I think once again, it's an insecurity that some people have for whatever reason. Uh but it's not it may not be the reason why she doesn't get the male attention or have relationships because it it also could be based on how she's built up a wall because of what she's been told and and and the fear of of having negative experiences uh that she's, you know, uh seen on social media. All of that can weigh heavily on how you present yourself and how you show up and why people may distance themselves from you.

[00:07:51]You know what I'm saying? All that has and I think social media could be a gift and a curse. You know, because it it draws you to all, like she said, these negative experiences that these people who are conventionally attractive have gone through. But there are lots of good experiences that people in general have experienced, but those don't get shown and those don't get publicized as much because people like to draw to the things that have hurt them, not the things that actually could help them.

[00:08:14]Uh, but let's continue.

[00:08:17]I don't want them. And I'm I'm glad that I've never had them. So, yeah, I've never never been hurt or damaged by a man before because they've just never dealt with me.

[00:08:30]So, I say all that to say as much as it used to bother me to be considered like ugly and unattractive, now I realize it was my safety net. Like, it it kept me safe.

[00:08:41]>> There's no amount of plastic surgery that's going to make me beautiful. And it's not because I already think I'm beautiful. It's cuz I'm a black woman and the beauty standard wasn't made for me. There is no thinning, ass slimming, hair straightening cure for me being black. Once you start to deconstruct and understand the politics of beauty, it makes sense why all the Indian actors on American TV are significantly darker than their counterparts on Indian TV. It makes sense why a white woman would get big lips and a big ass but not a big nose.

[00:09:15]Curious, huh? And that nose thing didn't come from me. That came from Chad. That [ __ ] was [ __ ] brilliant, by the way.

[00:09:21]All this to say, this current round of discourse regarding beauty standards, the fake outrage for one person's plastic surgery, the fake praise for another person's plastic surgery isn't actually going to get us anywhere because it's not actually the plastic surgery that's the problem. It's everything behind it. And nobody wants to talk about that.

[00:09:42]>> A lot of men believe that if a woman is not their type, that she shouldn't be anybody else's type. As a socially unattractive woman, I feel this on a spiritual level. And not only do they think that no one else should be attracted to you, they also feel like you shouldn't have any dating expectations and you should just be grateful for whoever is trying to talk to you.

[00:10:02]>> This is 100% because men decide that if you are not the beauty standard, you're not even worth humane treatment. Often times, they've been conditioned in such a way that the world doesn't even treat society unattractive women correctly. As a woman who is society unattractive, this is the treatment that we received.

[00:10:21]We are looked at like, "How dare you have standards? How dare you think highly of yourself? You're not even like," this is a mind you, these are subconscious beliefs. They will project onto us and and make us feel like we're wrong for saying, "Hey, actually, you can't treat me like that. You can't cheat on me." No, I have preferences, too. You know, I will say this, you know, and once again, I don't want to diminish what they're saying, but I think a lot of times it's not completely honest. I think a it's not like all men are walking around thinking this way, and all men aren't pro putting projecting their a lot of men don't even think like this. In fact, there are a lot of women who treat men this exact way, who treat men as if how dare they have standards and they want a certain type of woman. And so I think if we going to say it's a projection of men and we could very well say that it's a pro projection of women onto men the way the women think because I hear a lot of women who have this push back against men having standards like how dare you don't want a single mother when you're raised by one. We see this all the time.

[00:11:21]I don't think men are walking around saying oh my god you shouldn't have standards. But what I do hear them saying is that a lot of the standards for women are unrealistic. And this is women who are conventionally attractive and women who may not be considered convent. It's all women. Not all, but a lot of women. Not all, but a lot of women who do this very same thing. So, I don't know if that's completely honest that men are walking around saying, "Oh, if you're conventionally unattractive, you can't oh, you can't have standards."

[00:11:51]No, you should have stand. I don't think men are pushing that. I think what they're pointing out is that women are unrealistic in their standards and they don't think that men should have standards. In fact, and I'm g say it again, this is the this is the positioning that a lot of women have.

[00:12:07]They are pushing back on men who have standards. So, I don't know if that's completely honest. It may exist, but exists on both sides because women are the ones who don't feel like, oh, if you got a single mother, you should want a single mother. you you should be you you're shamed into wanting to date a single mother and oh my god how dare you do that. So I yeah I don't know sis that this this sounds like a pro projection uh here in my opinion. Let's continue though. And I have standards. They will look at you like how dare you. You're fat. How dare you? You're ugly. How dare you? So you're pretty much stripped of your humanity when you don't match what society tells people is beautiful. A lot of people are brainwashed. They're caught up in group think. So, they only want someone who their homeboys agree is attractive. The women only want to hang out with women the world finds attractive. They wouldn't want to be caught with somebody who's not society attractive. Most people are brainwashed.

[00:13:01]And that's something we need to remember. So, I really don't want y'all to take it personally. If you are a woman who is or even a man who is society unattractive, you will be treated differently. And that's just what it is. It's not fair, but it's reality. And you have to learn to get your confidence from within. You have to learn to do your own thing and not be fixated on other people accepting you and accepting your attraction. You are attractive if you decide that that is what you are. But understand that world is going to be separate from the real world that classifies you as someone who is ugly or unattractive. You just have to understand there's a duality to you existing in this plane. It just is what it is. It's unfair, but that's life. How do you love a face that's been considered ugly your entire life? How do you find a face, your own face, beautiful when everyone else considers it to be ugly? It's not that I think I'm ugly. It's I basically know I'm ugly.

[00:13:57]How, you may ask? Well, when a boy spits on you and calls you ugly, that's how you know. When the boys in school would ask you out as a joke during their truth or dare games, that's how you know. When the mean girls would ask you to your face, "Why is your nose so big?" That's how you know when you'd be the only one sitting alone at the table while everyone else has a date for prom.

[00:14:17]That's how you know when you're so ugly that people feel the need to come and tell you. You know, I tried to use makeup to beautify myself. But when I put on the eyeliner, all it does is emphasize how one eye is bigger than the other.

[00:14:30]>> Some of these women have some deep-seated issues. Now, if she's talking about in school, you know, prom, that means that would be considered high school. You know, look, I probably what wasn't considered conventionally cute in high school. You know, that's a phase that a lot of people go through that you your nose may look bigger then because you're younger and as you grow older, it grows into, you know, I say you haven't grown into your facial features yet. I don't think it's fair to compare your childhood, you know, um, puberty stages, uh, compare that to your grown adult phase. You know, we all go through those awkward stages as young people, but then we grow into our looks and then, you know, then I don't think she's ugly at all. You know what I'm saying? I don't think that these women are ugly. I think it's something that's been told to them.

[00:15:18]Hell, I was told I had a big nose at nine. Okay. So, am I going to take that that that that that idea when I was nine? cuz I probably grew my nose was big and I was still growing and and and you know I could take that into my adulthood and say, "Oh my god, I'm ugly cuz I have a big nose." And use those things. I think that's something as individuals you have to work on and not take it. So I I get it's hard and I get that people can scar you when you're young, but that's you have to work on those things. I don't think she's ugly at all. I think a lot of these women can get the outcomes that they want, but they're so still stuck on or scarred by these experiences that they're probably the ones holding themselves back. This is just my opinion. I'm not a therapist or anything like that whatsoever. But I think a lot of times people hold themselves back with these insecurities.

[00:16:08]And you know, just cuz you had some experiences in growing up or in school does not dictate the experiences that you would have as an adult. But I think if you carry that with you and the mentality that you have behind it, you could find end end up holding yourself back because you're still insecure and you're stuck in this box like, "Oh, I know I'm ugly and nobody wants me." And so you you you carry yourself a certain way that says that and it throws men off. You have to be confident and you have to have some type of level of confidence within yourself in order to attract anybody. But if you're walking around like you're in this cocoon because of what was told to you when you were younger, that is definitely going to hold you back in my opinion. Y'all let me know what y'all think though.

[00:16:49]Let's continue.

[00:16:49]>> I put on the lipstick, but all it does it it reminds me of how lopsided my lips are. I put on the contour, but all it does it reminds me of how big my nose is. It just doesn't work. And then sometimes I think and look into the ceiling in a days and I just think that how cruel people are for the simple act of simply being born as an unattractive woman. And you know some days it hurts knowing that I am going to be nobody's somebody that I have a lot of love to give but it will never be received by anyone because they won't notice my warmth. They'll probably notice my as asymmetrical face, my PCOS hair basically, and how one nostril is bigger than the other. And I'm pretty sure if I were to find my old my soulmate, his friends would basically make fun of him.

[00:17:38]As soon as I leave the room, they'd probably be asking him like, "What are you thinking? Why her out of all people?" And I've quietly accepted my fate into this. But then I think about is think about this is that why should I continue to hate my face because everyone else hates it. I agree with everyone. I am, you know, quite hideous.

[00:17:55]But should I hate it? Like this hideous face was the face that quietly stood her ground when everyone in school called her ugly. This is the face that fought back tears when no one, you know, asked her to prom. This is the face that accepted all sorts of cruelty. Yes, it is ugly. It is an ugly face. But should I just be as cruel to it as everyone else? You know, I do believe my face deserves some affection from myself at least for being all that it's been through as some sort of reward. Yes, everyone else hates it, but should I really hate it? I think I deserve to be softer on myself, and I'm going to try to spend the rest of my life loving my face, even though they're going to be difficult days. Do I hate this face?

[00:18:39]Yes. But do I want to waste my life hating it? No. I saw a couple videos talking about this, but I just wanted to throw my two cents in on how frustrating it is not to be conveniently attractive in this day and age specifically and also not knowing anything. So, I'm 21. I don't know how to do my natural hair. I don't know how to do makeup. I don't know how to dress. And it's not that I don't want to do these things. I want to, but no one realizes how hard it is.

[00:19:07]Especially like when you ask for help and people are just like, "Well, do what makes you happy. Where would you want to be happy? But the point is, I want to be happy wearing new things and not look like a fool. I want to wear make I want to wear makeup, but not look like a clown. I want to do my hair, but I don't want it to look bad, you know? And when you ask for guidance and stuff like that, it's just so hard. And you try to look up online and when people don't look like you, they look conventually attractive. It's so much harder cuz you're like, "This will never look as good on me than it does on them." As someone who was never considered pretty, um, going to school, and that was usually because I was dark-kinned, I'm realizing how much of that played into how I see myself with other people, specifically men. Now, a lot of my friends have this great way of carrying themselves when it comes to men and entering certain rooms that I've always been like, "Gh, I love that. That's so beautiful." But I realized that I didn't carry it the same because I was still holding on to the younger version of me that didn't feel like they were attractive enough. Even so, when it came to men approaching me, I felt like I had to entertain them because who knew if it would happen again because, you know, kind of felt like an ugly ugly girl syndrome. Like it would not happen. It was once in the blue. Even to the point of dating attractive men. I was like, damn, how'd I land him? the But now that I'm older and I am so aware of myself and so aware of all of this and the rest of the body cuz I know y'all seen it. I have now come to the point where I'm just like what are you doing? But it's in the sense of I'm very proud of myself. I'm like yes fab. Now we're aware of who we are. We're aware of how we are presented in this world. So let's change how we do things. So if you are a man that had access to me in a certain way, please know it's now revoked. I know what I deserve.

[00:20:51]And it's not crumbs. It's not the bare minimum. And it's not [ __ ] So, I'm sorry to you, but I'm thankful to me that she's aware. Dear, if you're a girl that's not aware, a girl, guy, gay, they, whatever.

[00:21:07]It's okay. It'll take time sometimes, but start looking at yourself in the mirror. Start being aware of how you carry yourself. Start being aware of like, "Wow, I'm amazing. Why wouldn't somebody want to be with me?" So then you can act accordingly and not put up with the [ __ ] Cuz going forward, I'm very much staying present. I'm very much being aware of who I am and what I deserve. And if you cannot come with all the goods, it's been real. Yeah. But you know, this is this is there's a fine line between understanding your worth and what you deserve than becoming delusional. And I think there are women, no matter how you look, of all walks of life, all different looks, shapes, sizes, it it doesn't matter. There is a delusional aspect that is out there that is causing women to to not get what they want. So, I think it's very important and you should always feel confident within yourself and you should always know your worth.

[00:22:03]And I think you should always know what you should expect from especially if you're talking about from a relationship and a man. You you deserve respect cuz you respect yourself. You carry yourself in a respectable manner. You should always expect and you should always look for a person to respect you. That's the basics just as much as you will respect them. You shouldn't allow anybody to take advantage of you, abuse you, just accept anybody who doesn't really want to measure up or do the things that are necessary uh for a relationship. Those are the basics that you should expect.

[00:22:36]But when we talk about what you deserve, now that's a whole different thing. I don't think you I don't think I don't care who you are, how you look, where you come from, you deserve what you're willing to give out.

[00:22:49]You should you deserve respect cuz you going to give it. you deserve those those things but you don't deserve anything from anybody that you you know what I mean you you shouldn't expect anything from somebody because nobody owes you anything and I think that is the difference where where a lot of women get it twisted because they realize oh I should have respect for myself and others should respect me or I you know that's basic things but then you know you should demand respect and you should demand certain things from anybody but to say what you deserve from somebody that's something different and I think a lot of times these women who have come from this place they go way over to the other delusional aspect and then they still end up losing out because you got to understand the difference you know I don't feel that I deserve anything from a a person that I will be dating just like they don't deserve anything from me but who am I as a person do I understand my my respect level and what I what I will and will not uh accept from a person yeah meaning I will not tolerate disrespect I will not let you take advantage of me I will not let you abuse me I When I stay in something that I know is toxic and does not bring me, you know, any anything that, you know, anything of value, just like you want something of value from me, I expect that from you if we're trying to build something. But but a lot of these people are taking this whole I know what I deserve thing to a whole another level that now becomes a delusional uh situation. And I think we got to be we got to understand the difference. Let's continue.

[00:24:15]>> Clear. I'm not saying in the sense of oh I'm a gold digger this that and the third. I'm saying in the sense of >> emotional wellbeing, >> feeling safe around you and protected around you, >> feeling like I actually want to be my full self with you, not parts of myself.

[00:24:29]And I don't if I don't feel that way, then again, message was for all the girls that have been like me, girls, guys, gays, and they that have felt like me and been where I've been. I promise you it'll change. Give it time. But when you enter in that space, I promise you it's going to be amazing. It might be a little bit harder dating, but it's going to be amazing knowing your worth and not putting up with people's BS cuz you can be done with it that much quicker.

[00:24:52]>> I grew up being told I was fat, dark, and ugly, and I have literally built my confidence brick by brick. If you struggle with confidence, here are some tips that helped me. Number one, stop being your own belief. The way you talk to yourself and the way you see yourself matters more than anything. So if you're constantly telling yourself that you're not enough, that you don't look good enough, that you're not beautiful, that you're too big, what do you think is going to reflect to the outside world exactly that you feel those things? I used to think words of affirmations and like saying good things to yourself was very woo woo, but that woo woo is true.

[00:25:21]What you say, your brain starts to believe. What do you think will happen if you start literally saying out loud the positive? You'll end up believing it. Two is going to be owning your look.

[00:25:29]If you know there's a part of your body that you are genuinely uncomfortable with, you don't have to show it. Outside of that, I would say make sure that anytime you are wearing clothes or stepping out the house, not only do you like your fit, but you're also comfortable in it so that you can just move around freely. Third is to take pride in your personal care. I'm not the hygiene police. I'm not about to tell you to shower three, four, or five times a day. I'm not telling you to do that, but what I am saying is that I found when I've showered, when I've done my skin care and my skin is glowing, I genuinely feel better about myself and I genuinely feel good. Fourth, walk tall.

[00:26:02]Walk into every room with your head held high. Make eye contact with people when you're having conversations. Smile. Be present because you deserve to be in whatever room it is that you are in and whatever space that you're in. Act like it. Let's be real. You can still do all of these things and still not be received in a way that you like, especially if you are fat. You might get stairs. You might get people purposely excluding you out of conversations, especially men. Remove yourself from any room that you genuinely feel like is not safe for your mental health. If there's anything I have learned to do, it is to walk away. Surround yourself with people who think highly of you. One of the things I did as a teenager was self-deprecate because it was almost like I'm going to talk negatively about myself and my size so that you can't.

[00:26:43]And any friend that I had during that period of time that used to laugh or take joy in the fact that I was self-deprecating. We are no longer friends. I keep myself around people who in my moments of insecurity will remind me, you need to stop. You're that girl.

[00:26:55]Who remind me of my beauty, who respect me and demand respect for me. even when I'm not there.

[00:27:00]>> But also too, if there's certain things that you know could be holding you back, do things to change it. Don't just sit there and accept it because you'll never fully be happy with your outcomes. And that's what we see a lot of people who push this body positivity and push this idea that no matter what, you're just this great person. It's great to think highly of yourself and and command and demand respect and go places with your head held high. You should think highly of yourself. But if there are certain things about you that's just not getting the you outcome that you want, then you have to do something about it. And if when we talking about weight, if you know that you're overweight, you know good and damn well that that weight is holding you back. It's hindering from opening certain doors that you would like to be open for you. And I think that's the delusional space that a lot of women are in, especially when it comes to weight. You know that your weight is holding you back. So why not do the necess take the necessary steps to get you into a healthier body and then you'll start to see those doors open up and then that way your inner will match with the outer and you'll feel even more confident about yourself.

[00:28:00]But for some reason because it's a struggle with the weight thing and a lot of people don't want to put in the work.

[00:28:06]They try to justify it and make it feel okay when they know it's not. And a lot of those doors that are being closed in your face, you know, it's directly uh correlated to your weight, but they'll try to make themselves feel okay with that part of it. And but deep down, you know, you're really not happy with that.

[00:28:23]So, I would say please add that weight factor into there and work on getting your weight down because you know that that will definitely make a big difference and you'll feel better, even more confident about yourself just as others will look at you in that way as well. Let's continue. Confidence doesn't mean you'll never feel insecure. It doesn't mean you won't ever question yourself. It doesn't mean you'll always think highly about yourself. But what it does mean is that you don't allow those thoughts to linger for too long. It means doing whatever you can even in those moments of insecurity to remind yourself of your value and who you are.

[00:28:56]I truly hope you know how worthy you are, how beautiful you are, how deserving you are of a good life, how deserving you are to feel confident. I love you guys so much. Yeah. You know, I think she made some valid points, but I also think that a a little it could be a little bit delusional in a sense. And I think a lot of people who talk like that, they know what's necessary to do, but they don't want to do it or don't feel like they have to. Uh I just think that, you know, once again, people don't owe you anything. They really don't. The only thing that you are owed is is is what you've put into a situation yourself. So what you put into it is what you get out of it. And if you are, you know, only going at it halfway, then you get halfway results. There are a lot of women who are overweight and they just believe that they can just stay where they are as long as they're confident. But they still are, like I said, are unhappy with their results because they know that, hey, if you're looking at other women who are slimmer, women who are, you know, conventionally beautiful, they get so many other opportunities that you lack. And part of that is because you could be overweight, not the fact that you're the ugliest.

[00:30:01]Because I don't think any of these women were really ugly. I think it's how they present them. Well, you know, I most of them I don't think was ugly. And I think this last woman, I don't think she's ugly at all. I just think that you're trying to convince yourself of a certain standard and that you have it where you are when you know that it could be there could be so much more and there's more that you can do personally to make it better. But a lot of times they they they they want you to believe that they're they're happy with where they are. Uh and that they've come from a because you've come a long way from where you used to be. You you kind of feel, you know, want people to believe that you're comfortable finally where you are in your own skin, but a lot of times they're not cuz it's always something that reaffirms that you are not completely where you could be. Um you could be a lot further, but there's more work that you would have to do. You know what I'm saying? So listen, I want to hear your thoughts on this video.

[00:30:49]This was very interesting. And shout out to all the women in this video. Let me know your thoughts in the comments below. Comment, like, subscribe, hype up the video, you guys. Y'all chime in.

[00:30:57]What's your thoughts on this? Um, I definitely want to hear from you. So, make sure you let me know your thoughts in the comments below. And I will catch you in the next