Women's Sex Drive As We Age

Added: 2026-05-09

[00:00:03][music] >> Hey everyone, welcome back to my channel. And yes, I know I've been MIA.

[00:00:14]I started a different schedule at work where I work longer hours, but I get every other Friday off. And then also, I had to put one of my dogs down. And leading up to me having to make that decision, I was taking care of him and trying to rehabilitate him, but then come to find out he ended up having a brain tumor that was pushing up against his eyes. And so, I just had to make that decision to let him go. So, this video is for my pup Wags.

[00:00:48]Woo!

[00:00:49]But with that said, and in case you guys are wondering what I'm drinking, that was Jack Daniel's 10-year, the new batch, and it's not that good. Uh, I think last year's batch was much better.

[00:00:57]So, back to the topic at hand. I'm doing this video for a Patreon member who asked me, "How did my sex life change or my sex drive change as I aged?" So that way he could get a better understanding of what is going on with his wife.

[00:01:12]So, I read an interesting article on Google on WebMD about women's sex drives as we age.

[00:01:20]And it says that, of course, it starts to ramp up in our late teens as we go through puberty and our estrogen and testosterone levels go up. Of course, we're also learning about sex, and we're wanting to experiment with sex. And we're trying to figure out men, who we want to partner with, who we find attractive, all that stuff.

[00:01:42]And then, our sex drive tends to peak in our 30s and early 40s, and then it goes down into our 50s as we go through menopause and our estrogen and testosterone levels go down. For me, I can say that it coincides with the psychology that we're all just basically animals. And in our late teens and early 20s, women want to procreate.

[00:02:11]Naturally, instinctively, we are trying to procreate. And as we are going through our 20s and early 30s, that is our natural instinct is to procreate.

[00:02:22]Once we hit our late 30s and early 40s, it is our body's last-ditch effort to have a baby. And so, our sex drives are innately high at that point in our lives because it is our last-ditch effort to procreate and have children. And then, of course, as we enter our 50s and then into menopause, we know we can't have children anymore, and our sex drives tend to decline.

[00:02:51]That is my personal theory. It's also what I learned in psychology. Now, in the WebMD article, it also says that they think that women's sex drives in our 30s and 40s tends to be high because of increased confidence in ourselves.

[00:03:06]And I would say that that is true to a certain extent. And I can just tell you personally that's sort of the case with me that I became more confident in my body and in confident in my abilities to please a man, in my my confidence in knowing what a man was looking for. Now, naturally, how you have sex changes with every partner that you have because you have to figure out what your partner likes and dislikes, and then you try to go with what your partner likes and doesn't like.

[00:03:40]So, now let's get to my personal sex drive story. When I was in my late teens, I was not interested in sex at all. In fact, I didn't have sex until I turned 18. And even then, I it wasn't super sexually active.

[00:03:54]And then, I met my husband at a very young age when I was 19, and into my 20s and 30s, like I was not super interested in sex. I felt like it was some somewhat of an obligation to do just to feel connected to my husband, and of course to have, you know, my two beautiful children. But, it wasn't something that I initiated or something that I looked for. And once we had children, I had my daughter when I was 29 and my son when I was 33, it kind of changed because I was in mom mode. I wasn't interested in having sex or I mean, really, I I felt bad because I wasn't really interested in pleasing my husband either because I'm just in mom mode. I'm tired, I'm exhausted. And for you men, you need to know this. And so, if you want to have more sex with your with your wives, help out more around the house. Get the chores done so you both can go to bed early, and so she's not so tired, so, you know, she can give it up and give you some. That's my advice to you for that. Now, when my kids got older and I got into my late 30s, early 40s, that it was when my sex drive hit an all-time high. It was also when I got divorced from my husband. I was 36 when we divorced. And from I would say from 36 to about I'd say 50, like my sex drive was like on on overdrive. Like I was in overdrive mode, uh felt like I wanted to have sex all the time, super interested in having sex all the time. My my sex drive was just off the charts. Now that I'm over 50, my sex drive is starting to decrease, and I'm just not so much interested in having sex anymore. And probably part of it is like I just don't want to deal with men that much. I don't want to have to text men. I don't want to have to worry about who's going where. I don't want to have to deal with any drama, arguments.

[00:05:56]I don't want to have to do any of that.

[00:05:57]So, uh I've kind of just been laying off on the on the sex or just chasing men in general, dating in general.

[00:06:05]Uh I'm just not about that life right now. So, just kind of taking a break from from having sex, from men in general, and I'm just focusing on myself. I'm focusing on my son who's in his last year of college, focusing on my pets, gardening, my career, and my my bourbon hobby, and and that's it. So, I hope this helped you guys just figure out like how women change through the years as we age. So, we start off interested in sex in our 20s, whether we have kids or not is going to affect our sex lives. You know, cuz we go into mom mode, and then we peak like in our late 30s to 40s, and maybe even in into our early 50s, and then we start to decline in our mid to late 50s, and then after that. Now, do I know older women who still have sex? Of course I do. But, is it And I'm not saying it's like a generalization.

[00:07:05]I'm not going to tell you that older women over 50 or 60 stop having sex cuz that's not true. Women still have sex in their 50s, 60s, and 70s, even into their 80s, but it definitely declines as we age. So, that peak age frame is or that peak time frame is from like I would say our mid 30s to late 40s, and maybe into our early 50s, and that's about it.

[00:07:32]So, anyways, I hope this helped. I hope I answered my Patreon members' questions. And if you guys have any video ideas or anything that I can answer, please leave them in the comments section below and I'm happy to do a video on it. And until next time, happy hunting.

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