This video panel discussion explores how self-esteem issues among Black communities are deeply connected to cultural identity, with many individuals seeking external validation through Eurocentric beauty standards like bleaching skin and wearing wigs rather than embracing their natural features. The speakers argue that self-love and understanding one's history are essential for personal empowerment, and that society's teachings often prioritize external appearance over inner development, creating confusion about self-worth. The conversation emphasizes that while personal choice in appearance is valid, widespread patterns of self-alteration reflect systemic issues of cultural identity and self-acceptance that require conscious effort to address.
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[music] [music] >> Yeah, nobody never verbally tell you in a yourself, you have to feel it. You know what I mean? Everybody have that.
They call it the gut feeling. You know what I mean? Recognition of your head when you talk to you. Tell you say yo, this wrong, you know? But >> [music] >> and all the time we listen to it, so what means is just a social conditioning. Everybody looking for validation, you know what I mean? And nobody have the self-confidence [music] and self-love within themselves, you know what I mean?
Everybody looking externally and not internally, you see it? Yes. I know. Let me add something. You see female daughter, you know, you remember daughter them at the end. She's going to be a doctor. She's studying to be a doctor. What I'm trying to say is the regular ghetto girl them beat out and done out because of female influence on them. But female daughter, a man maybe she have she going to be like 20 and four a virgin to take. The all she's protected and pampered and pruned up to be that doctor. So I'm saying these men have influence over you know on the little girl them and them beat them out and them batter them out. And still female daughter is protected. So me want to know if you know can protect your own self and your own children against these people.
Can female daughter protect her?
That away.
That that away thing come in you know they say me and soul.
Cuz he know what he want to do but he wish not to as long as he not a female kid in a day offensive side I put at the situation.
Yes. No matter what you want say to me my girl always telling daughter say that no right. Yes.
>> You know for watch that. You You just a do it for the money.
So why you put so influence upon other people daughter? You see you remember remember The girl them walk out and walk out.
But female [laughter] daughter people daughter female daughter will never live that life. Her parents to be blamed. Her Her parents to be blamed. Yo, you remember this.
>> blamed. Cuz if you raise the pickney right, you know say the pickney can't strain up. But if you raise the pickney right, them would have gone astray. You know what I mean? hear me? You know at the end of the day just come out and say yo I'm not going to take the blame and think the parents them always say different things. So I mean I know what he is saying.
I mean I know this famous line when he does say live my life, swing my swing live my life, swing my gun, swing my knife, bust my gun, [music] bleach my skin, I know I'm wrong, but I'm in raw, bust bless the king. So I'm going to basically I say yo dog he knows say No, yeah he say he lose touch with the Afrocentrism in Afrocentricity. So he knows say yo he might kill off the African part of himself and what makes him African is what I mean I say he knows say he sin. But and he hide from his son, but I'm in raw, bless the king.
Raw which is the god of the sun. So just pray say the money exactly what the money say.
You you know what I'm saying I don't really come up on people. I don't really come up on live and talking about about 1 month now me I watch the Empress and me I tell her.
Yeah man me I fully in a language and I see enough people not understand. When you are going to disagree with the lady because you know don't ask what she say you don't know which you don't know which way to go do the real research on yourself and read. Cuz bro you don't care and just say you don't know say you not say oh we feel live good but I don't know the history. You don't know the history You have to know what happened bro from the beginning till in the end.
If you don't know them things there bro you are going to always in a puzzle [music] and in a argument with people. That's the truth. I mean I see nothing the lady I talk about when nobody was in argument with. Me and her just talk with the lady and I ask if you have understanding.
Know your know your history bro.
Yeah man can I chime in for a second?
Yeah man fine. But no no for them not really know the word where word colonialism mean you know. So to understand with them, [music] too.
Yeah, because how can you expect some Jamaicans who don't know themselves?
Yeah. So.
>> Yeah. Somebody who never talk before can go ahead and and get pissed at it.
Uh I don't know. Peter, the guy at the bottom, I don't know if he wants to chime in.
Cuz I would like Wait, wait, wait. I'm at the bottom still, but I'm there cuz >> [laughter] >> All right. Let Let me chime in still because I'm you know So, everybody and and and Yeah, me can't me can't not talk.
Like just Like Give me a Give me a Give me a minute right now. Give me a minute.
What I'm saying is What I'm saying is I am in agreement with a lot of what is said.
And and I'm going to support what Oracle is saying, right?
Self-esteem is and has been a serious issue for us for as long as we can remember.
Mhm. Right? And I will and I will say this because I don't know anywhere in the world that black people have control of any systems.
Right? That them can say, "Well, boy, this is us for us by us operating solely complete.
That that a code.
Yes, that is true. Yeah, and that's why I would say listen to a woman them come here. I show you powerful a woman is to man. A man help. Me I show you how powerful a black woman is in here. You see when them come enslave black people, they write a book where they say, "How to make a slave." And what you have to do to the black woman. Once you break the man wife, the man have to submit.
Mhm.
But that's what I'm saying. You see what I'm saying? The book did have you know you can go read bro. Let me tell you bro if but if you know lazy and just want to listen to what people say bro, you not going to really learn. That's what I'm saying. If everybody wife.
Yeah, yeah, >> [music] >> Whatever reason Ask the woman Hear me out. Hear me out.
Yeah, hear me out. Hear me out. Hear me out. Hear me out. Hear me out. [music] What me I say to you is I went to this event and I can count on the hand right, how many women were wearing their natural hair. To the point of what Oracle was saying about self-esteem.
Because enough of we don't like with natural hair, with kinky hair because we have to say you have bad hair, bad hair and all kind of stuff.
And for you to have nice hair, you have to have the curly hair and the one of them called straight [music] hair. So when me go at the event to me I tell them I see over 200 women. I could have barely find five women who have their natural hair because that is not what they want to be walking around with it because that is not the way you you getting a big respect from.
I I am going to challenge you too.
Anybody who's on this panel. Hold on.
Hold on.
>> [music] >> I'm going to challenge anybody on this program who want to just do some homework. Go to the graduations that are going to be coming up in June and see how many of those young ladies are going to be wearing their natural hair to graduation versus putting in a weave or hair piece.
So the issue of self-esteem and value system have to be evaluated.
Let me Let me I don't know Let me ask you. So you think it's a self-esteem issue when women wear false hair?
For the most part, yes.
>> Yes. They trying Not yes. Not really, you know.
I'm saying for the most part is yes because them not going to think they look good if they not putting a hair piece at their graduation.
Me I tell you if you wear your natural hair, matter of fact, if I right now if you ask a girl hold on hold on hold on.
Right now if you ask any girl out of a married or a regular negro hair or call negro hair kinky hair and a man with straight curly half in there looking kind of hair. Which one of the guys you think have better hair?
Do the survey and come back Watch out now. Let me Let me show you something. It all have to do with the teachings where the woman them get and the man them get. You see?
Listen to me now. We get teachings that we should pretty up the outside, you know? But we not get the teachings that we should pretty up the inside and all who give us the teachings who give us the teachings Who give us the teachings?
Thank you.
Hold on all right. On the wigs on the wigs when I wear my wig, are you saying that on that wig I have low self-esteem?
No, I'm not saying that I'm not saying that you have okay. So I'm not touching you now so you see if No man if you touch all woman you touch me too cuz I am All right all right when I get touched then when I get touched.
Me not say you have low self-esteem because obviously you on the program to a point and you feeling yourself. I'm not saying I'm saying hold on hold [clears throat] on hold on let me ask you a question let me answer now.
>> [music] >> Yeah. I am I am going to say right? You see if you know yourself to a point if you if Oracle know herself to a point where Oracle is using hair pieces to just be like how that one just just to want to be a better term a shape shifter then or for create different kind of vibration at different time that's fine.
Yes. I am saying I am saying that there are a lot of young ladies a lot of women are bleaching them skin wearing these hair because them don't like them natural self. And you are choosing this case.
That is true but all >> can tell me now why you wearing the hair where you wearing the pieces that you All right, let me out let me let me say I wear what I want because I want to do that. There's no system. Let me answer you please. There's no system that can tell me what not to do or what to do.
Let me just say that. And there's no man that can do that as well.
So when I wear my wig like last year I was wearing a wig because I want to wear a wig because I want to wear it. Today me in a head wrap because I want to do that. So there's no system that govern nothing that I do. I live my life for me and me only.
Let me just say that. So now when you say that women predominantly women who wear wigs have low self-esteem then you can put me in that bracket too. What if you never know me? You just say oh so she without even speaking to me they automatically think that Exactly. The double standard is crazy. So you're trying to put everybody in this bundle and say oh low low self-esteem.
Let me say myself me have long big long hair natural hair. I mean I can say honestly me hair hard to comb. Me not going to lie to you.
So sometimes what I do when I wash it I just comb it care and I put it away and I throw it away and I throw it away because it's hard to comb. Me not like you. So me not in the self low self-esteem batch because you don't know me. So you're judging people.
You're judging.
I am a just wing go out No to be fair you say you never see it.
You never say it don't happen. To be fair.
So, you're saying the melanated woman is predominantly low self-esteem cuz I saw her with her hair. Never said Yo, me no like me no like confusion certain way you know, bro. You see it.
So, nobody confuse the lady as me tell you you know, bro. We no fight Listen, brother. We no no listen. There no no no wrong with if a woman want style up in here or if a woman want put on one little makeup. Bro, that no really matter, bro. Yes. Are the teachings, bro, we in our heart, bro.
Look how much woman Look how much woman we natural. We claim to say they natural and and they still are doing some evil things. Brother, we no we we bro, we no talk about appearance, bro. Appearance is nothing. Appearance are something we are going to rotten away. And go away, bro.
and bro, we no deal with confusion, bro.
we been a talk about, bro. No, yeah. We no say appearance No, that's the important question. Yeah, but that was not the topic.
We no know We no know how to communicate, my friend.
We are talking about the If you no know how to communicate, just stop communicating, my friend. of the woman [music] and that is all appearances. So, the bleaching stem from You must say the blood clot and the ear things stem from that, too. You see me?
And that we been a talk about. So, no Yeah. And do you know do you know that a lot of men like them woman that them naturally because them cannot afford them the wig? So, you got to say that's a So, them like put them woman natural because them knows they cannot I agree.
I agree with you.
Yes. Yes. I agree.
And then we wrap up and then we wrap up and then we could All right. All right. All right.
We can always have the conversation.
We can always disagree. Right? And but we don't really have to get rowdy and get a certain kind of way. I am saying I know based on my experience a lot of these women because of self-esteem issues they're wearing these false hair and If If If If you are wearing it and you know yourself and you overstand yourself and inner stand yourself, more power to you. Yes. [music] >> Right? And And And it it may seem it may seem like I am being [music] judgemental.
But I'm not necessarily being judgemental. It's >> [music] >> I do that.
You understand? Because yes, I may have been judgemental and I realize I have to correct myself. So when I walk even a month time when I walk you know in the park and I see certain people, I stop and have a conversation. Why you do this? Why you do that? Come on now.
I want to know.
>> You want to empower the female now so you can get the powers and show her certain things and then she can become powerful now so you can do that Yes, so you're saying your woman is 100% natural.
My woman? Not every woman out there with 100% natural. No, they're never 100% natural. As a matter of fact, it's just over the last How do I say? Year, my wife embraced her naturalism because you have now she used to go to hair dresser all the while and then she come back and I to "Oh, this burn me and that burned me." I said, "Hey, listen, try one at a time now then now for give yourself a break wearing a natural vibration." And she's been doing it now for over a year.
I mean, I ain't going to burn no burning no going again. I mean, I say, "Look at your hair now. How do you feel about yourself now?"
>> [music] >> Yes. Do you understand? And nothing wrong with the styling and all these kind of things. Don't get me wrong. But me I say, "When you're doing it, remember who you are supposed to be as an individual. Do you understand? And don't get caught up in a this Eurocentric culture where you don't know yourself and you only love yourself or you only love this other look and that other look because you really don't know who you are."
You forgive them grace knowing that we were always criticized up here. Yes.
Yes. I agree. I agree.
Yeah. Yes. Yeah. Yeah.
Yes. Yeah, man. Yeah, man.
Yeah, man. I fully agree with you. Yes.
Yes. Yes. Yes. Agree. Agree, Orville.
Agree, Orville.
Like, think about this as well. From the my teenager, >> [music] >> if their mother have to comb their hair three week in a row and she decide say, "Yo, it is getting [music] too difficult and it is going to take up too much time." You know what mother going to do?
Mother going to buy one jar of cream, cream out that backside and tell him to get up and go on to school.
And that is a 13-year-old or a 12-year-old we are talking about. So, tell me now how that 12-year-old going to do nothing other than cream out the thing and get up and go on to school like what I am telling him to do.
So, on a on a low self-esteem, sometimes I just I can't go. Freestyle.
Yes. [music] Yes, you know, just a while ago we categorized all I bleach them and say they hate themselves. And nobody have a problem with that.
Actually, if you would have listened, you would have heard when me come out and say me not think it that deep where all of them hate them.
Or to say everybody have to trip on it.
You have to say everybody.
Bleaching is not a necessity. When you can't see without cream my hair because you want to move quicker in the morning time, bleaching is not necessary. So, yes, low self-esteem across the board.
Bleaching is 100% low self-esteem. Can't not necessary.
Can I do that? Suppose there are people them style, like how you want to wear a different hair than what we are different skin color. It's low self-esteem cuz it's not necessary.
>> Oh my god. Okay.
>> It's not necessary.
So, so Christian One question I want to ask One question I want to ask the whole panel.
>> [music] >> Yes. Including Oracle.
So, as Africans or as as black people, let's say black people, not Africans cuz not all of us want to be Africans.
Right.
>> As black people, I want to know how the system stay against we. What is it that we can commit to do like to improve our human conditions?
Your self-love.
>> Going forward. Going forward.
All right. And you And then we say self-love. What What else can we do, Oracle? When you are unapologetic about how you look, the person on the receiving end have no choice but to accept you for you. Okay.
>> By just crumble the game. So, when you have to rub on the cream for get acceptance, you have to keep the narrative of you're ugly or you're this or you're that because you are feeding to it by changing you. When you accept you for who you are and stand firm business, the other person have no choice but >> [music]
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