Tom Bower’s “Betrayal” 👀 Meghan’s Speech & 3 Narcissistic Traits Explained

Added: 2026-05-06

[00:00:00]I finally got my hands on Tom Bower's betrayal. And the very first story has to do with Megan in Manchester 2022 just a couple of days before the passing of her majesty the late queen. Now, there's a lot of stuff that was happening in the background here. A couple of days ago, maybe last week at some point, I did a collab with Michelle from Royal Daily Tea talking about the speech that she gave. Now, this is part two of that video where I want to go into what was happening behind the scenes. How many times did Megan say I in that short 8 minute speech? We're going to get into all of that and more. But before we begin, here's the intro. Welcome to Revealing the Narc. Join me as I highlight narcissistic traits and celebrities and public figures.

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[00:00:55]Okay, everyone, let's get right into it.

[00:00:57]I'm going to read some excerpts from the book, and I'm going to be looking down when I'm reading them, but here we go.

[00:01:03]It says, "In the countdown to the big moment, Ella Robertson read Megan Markle's proposed speech on the auto quue. She's effed it." The f-word, I don't want to say it. Groan Robertson.

[00:01:14]Instead of speaking as agreed about the charity, Megan's speech was focused on herself nearly 50 times in 10 minutes.

[00:01:24]She intended to say I. And this was actually something Michelle and I talked about when we walked through or went through this speech. What I will do is I will link the video of our analysis of that speech in the description of this video. But that speech was meant to focus on this new generation of one young world leaders. And Megan was talking about herself and her experience and everything really centered. She had some false humility. She was putting in pauses for so that people would clap for her. I mean, it was really ridiculous.

[00:01:59]Horrible speech. So, check out that video. Then, at one point, it says, "The co-founder Kate Robertson and her daughter Ella had been nervous about inviting Megan to Manchester. Megit was still a hotly emotional topic." So, this goes into what the organizers were thinking. So, a lot of times, and let me put my phone down because I think this deserves some some discussion.

[00:02:24]A lot of times us on the outside, we're like, "How can Netflix sign a contract with them? How can Spotify sign a contract with them? How can Ted Sarando say she's a rock star?" Here's the thing. Just because they say something like that publicly doesn't mean that that's how they feel personally about Megan. And here's the thing, Ted Sarandos, he had no choice until that contract ended to speak positively about Megan. Because if he came out and said, "Megan is horrible. Her jam is terrible.

[00:02:56]Her show was awful," would you watch it?

[00:02:59]I mean, we might, but it's not good for business. He wouldn't say anything negative about her publicly. It's the same thing I always say about defense attorneys. Defense attorneys will not say anything negative about their clients, right? because if they do, that ruins their reputation. And once the trial is over, who's going to want to hire a lawyer that previously had said something negative about a client? So, it's the same type of thing. So, we always wonder, why are these organizations working with Harry and Megan? It doesn't necessarily mean that they like them. It means that maybe they want the publicity. Maybe there's something going on behind the scenes.

[00:03:35]Maybe there's money being exchanged and not in the direction that you think that is happening. Okay, so let's continue the passage. Okay, it says, "During endless conversations and emails with the Sussex's staff in California, Ella had sought guarantees that there would be no explosions to distract from the conference." So the reason this was said, so remember this is September of 2022. The Oprah interview had happened March of 2021 and that really threw uh that that threw the world by surprise, I think, because no one was expecting that that would happen. We've heard historically that Megan would make agreements with people and promise no, nothing else is happening behind the scenes and then all of a sudden something would come out. And and the the thing I remember most recently was when they were talking about I think it was the most recent Variety article, I think it was the most recent Variety article where Harry had promised I think that there was going to be nothing new.

[00:04:38]H Oh no, it was Netflix. They promised Netflix that there was nothing new that was going to be coming out and nothing would outshine the Netflix mockumentary.

[00:04:47]But then there were announcements of I think the cut interview and the um Harry's autobiography spare. So that left the people at Netflix really upset because they wanted their show to be the one making the waves about Harry and Megan at the time. So this is around the same time now, right? Because this is September 2022.

[00:05:10]Moy came out December of 2022. So, makes you think actually if one of the things Netflix may have been upset about is this Manchester event. So, it says, "Ever since Megan's interview with Oprah, everything she said had become sensational. Although sensitive to criticism, Megan was proud of the Oprah interview, not least because the reward for denouncing the royal family was renewed global stardom." So, then it goes on and says that Robertson spoke to James Holt. James Holt is the man that we've seen previously that had been supporting the Sussex's. He was I think um I don't remember exactly what his role was, but he quit a couple months ago and then he showed up again. So he I think I'm sorry everyone, I'm drawing a blank on what he did, but feel free to drop in the comments if you remember what it was, but essentially Robertson reached out to Holt and was seeking reassurances. And Holt says, "Nothing's coming up that I'm aware of." Right? And then it says Tom Bower says Hold evidently forgot to mention that Megan would be hosting a series of podcasts and the imminent publication of an interview with the cut New York mag the cut of New York magazines. Holt's priority was to fuel Megan's celebrity.

[00:06:32]So, that was the passage I wanted to read from the book. And now I want to go into some analysis because there are three narcissistic traits that I'm seeing just in this segment of Tom Bau's book. And you guys, we are just on page three.

[00:06:48]That was just page one to page three.

[00:06:50]And there's so much to say already. So, let's get into why the top three things that I see happening here. And then I also want to turn this into real life examples, something that you may have experienced yourself in your own life.

[00:07:05]The first thing I see is turning these shared moments into personal narratives.

[00:07:09]And we can see this by her self-referencing and spotlight reentering. So the clearest thing here is that she uses the word I 50 times in about 8 minutes. When someone is given a platform for a cause, organization, or group, and consistently redirects the focus back to themselves, this is an issue. So, this is what it looks like.

[00:07:32]Conversation circle back to their experiences. If you're talking to someone, your milestone becomes their story, and they dominate attention even when it's not their moment. In friendship, you might have this experience. You share something important and they respond with a bigger louder version about themselves and you end up feeling overshadowed. In romance, your needs or wins get minimized because everything becomes about their emotions or their perspective. You feel secondary in your own relationship. In family, at events, those events revolve around one person's mood or narrative, and you feel like supporting character energy. At work, team success becomes their contribution and you feel invisible or underredited. If every shared moment somehow becomes their moment, that's not connection, that's redirection. The second narcissistic trait I see here is agreeing to expectations and then quietly rewriting them. So, they will say all the right things up front, but when it's time to follow through, they do something different. This is how it could look like. They'll say to you, "Yes, I'll support you." but they only show up halfway. They might say, "I understand," but their behavior doesn't reflect it. They may agree, but then shift their agreement without acknowledgement. In friendship, they agree to show up for you, but they cancel, show up late, or disengage. You feel let down, but you can't fully call it out. In romance, they promise to change, but they repeat the same behaviors. You feel like you're stuck in a cycle of hope and disappointment. In family, boundaries are, in quotation marks, accepted, but then they're ignored. You feel disrespected but gaslit by the initial agreement. At work, plans are made, but they pivot last minute, leaving you to clean it up.

[00:09:11]You feel set up to absorb the consequences. When someone agrees easily, but follows through inconsistently, the agreement was never the truth, the pattern is. And the final thing I see here is prioritizing visibility over responsibility. So, they show up when it benefits their image, but not when it requires real effort or accountability. It can look like high energy when others are watching, but low effort behind the scenes. They could also be selective in their involvement based on how much attention is present.

[00:09:41]In friendship, they celebrate you publicly, but they aren't there when you need them privately. You feel performatively supported. In romance, they present as a great partner outwardly, but don't show up emotionally dayto-day. You feel alone in a relationship that only looks good on the outside. In family, they play the good parent or sibling in public, but they neglect responsibilities behind closed doors. You feel invalidated when others don't see it. And at work, they take visible roles, but they avoid the hard, unglamorous work. You feel like you're doing the real work all behind the scenes while they're the ones that get credit. If someone only shows up when it's visible, they're protecting their image and not the relationship. The hardest part about these dynamics is that nothing is obviously wrong. But over time, you feel the gap between what's said, what's shown, and what's actually done. So, I'm curious to know everybody, what do you think about this?

[00:10:39]Did you get a chance to see Megan's ridiculous One Young World speech? Have you gotten your hands on Tom Bower's betrayal? Let me know if you want more content like this, but I'm going to be honest with you. I'm going to be covering a lot of Tom Bower's book and it's going to be it's going to take us some time because there's so in every paragraph is loaded with so much that can be analyzed and broken apart. So, it's going to take us a long time to go through it, but I'm excited to do it with all of you. If you enjoyed this video, please like and subscribe. Hit that notification bell so you'll know every time I drop a new video. I'd like to ask that in lie of super chats and super stickers. If you'd kindly consider donating to the National Domestic Violence Hotline, their information will play at the very end of this video. They are available to contact by email, by chat, by text. They are a great organization aimed at helping people that are going through some struggling times. Now, this is an organization present out of the United States. So, what I've done also is I've included information for similar organizations and countries throughout the world. And again, that'll play at the very end of this video. I also want to say I have a couple of side projects I've been working on, including a channel uh that's called The Gentle Room. On that channel, I do a lot of meditations. So, I would love it if you would join me there. I just recently made a new video that I'm really excited about. It's more of a dance uh electric type music, and it's a really nice scene. It's inspired by, and I don't know if many of you will know, Sarah J. Mass's book called Crescent City. So, this is how I imagine Crescent City looks in the nighttime.

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[00:13:25]Set the highest mountain. I would like the deepest sea just so I could make you feel what I feel for the sky.

[00:13:48]Yeah, I really thought we'd make it in the clouds, but I can see the world from up here. From up here. From up here.

[00:14:02]the world from up here. From up here.

[00:14:06]From up here. Can see the world from up here.

[00:14:25]Go ahead. Call me crazy.

[00:14:28]I always see the good in blue and way up here. I can see the sun. I will climb the highest mountain.

[00:14:45]Just know I could make you feel what I feel.

[00:14:52]for the sky.

[00:14:55]Yeah, I really thought we'd make it. Got my head in the clouds. But I can see the world from up here.

[00:15:08]Yeah, I can see the world up here.

[00:15:15]Yeah, I can see the world from up here.

[00:15:19]From up here. From up here.

[00:15:23]The world. From up here. From up here.

[00:15:27]From up here. See the world from up here.

[00:15:42]Heat. Heat. N.

[00:16:09]Yeah, I can see the world.

[00:16:23]I can see the world.