This is Why Women Let The BAD BOY Get Them Spread Eagled

Added: 2026-05-15

[00:00:00]Alrighty guys, welcome back to the channel. Bit more slurry research for you today. We're going to do a bit of a deep dive. Deep dive into the life of women who are chasing men who are never going to want them. Using psycho babble to expl explain their disappointment and confusion away.

[00:00:20]Limrance.

[00:00:22]Let's jump into it.

[00:00:26]>> Hi. Hello. Uh, today we're going to talk about limrance. And I'm sorry if I hurt any of your feelings in the process. Any feelings hurt are for your best good.

[00:00:35]So, let's get into it, shall we? Do you ever get stuck on someone who doesn't love you? I'm not talking about a crush.

[00:00:41]I'm not talking about butterflies and flirtation and fun. I'm talking about the spiral. The >> I probably I'll probably say uh I'm saying this in justest, but sort of not really.

[00:00:53]Most married men who have been married for an extended period of time will probably be stuck with someone who doesn't love them. But let's talk about more what she's talking about here.

[00:01:02]And for those of you who want to watch this without me talking all the way through it, you need to get used to that because that's what I do here. The link is in the video description if you're new to the channel. So you can go and watch the whole thing. Go and support her channel, give a review, all that sort of [ __ ] So limmerance, what is that? Those are the chemicals that go through your brain essentially that that really gives you that um lightning in a bottle feeling both as a woman for a man and a man for a woman. That's when you're going to make really stupid decisions in your life. Limrance, I'm going to say 6 to 18 months. Really depends on the person. Obviously, I'm not a psychologist. I'm just going off gut feel. I've been experienced with women that have been completely head over heels for me before to the point where they'll just really really full on. And it's because they get this chemical just surging through their brain and they will say and do anything to try and lock a guy down who they're feeling that way for.

[00:02:05]And if I can talk about my experiences with these, I didn't even know them. The women off dating apps who I'd known for two or three weeks. They're telling me they want to have a kid with me. and these really long long- winded, you know, text messages you wake up to in the morning, you know, 300 words or the max characters for a message and a huge love letter and telling me this and and that and blah blah blah. And I could really see you fathering, you know, my children. I think I found you. I found the one for me. Blah blah blah. Yeah.

[00:02:37]See how long that lasts when you sort of don't go along with the flow. They'll just tell you to straight up go and get [ __ ] Guys, put in the comments if that's happened. A go girl is head over heels for you.

[00:02:49]Basically telling you she wants your kids and to get married. You sort of go, "Ah, you know what? You don't really say it, but you're giving off the energy where you're not looking like a, you know, the right horse to back in this race." And they just turn turn absolutely turn on you.

[00:03:06]Complete 180. But I'll talk about limrance. That's when guys are going to get do stupid things. They're going to move in with women really quick.

[00:03:16]You might not have had much experience with women. You finally got this woman in your life. She's just flooding you with sex. She might be head over heels for you, too. It doesn't matter what you do, she likes it. Any joke you say, any inappropriate [ __ ] you might say, she thinks it's the best. Your hobbies, you like collecting stamps. You like collecting butterflies and you know, putting them in a little book and collecting them or pinning them to a wall. Oh, she loves that, too. You love going uh to the cricket or the footy with the boys. She wants to come, too. She loves that. Uh you like playing PlayStation 5. You got Battlefield 6 on the screen. She wants to play. She loves She loves those games.

[00:03:54]You know, she's bouncing up and down, deep throat, assmouth action is happening. You are just getting the absolute king treatment.

[00:04:04]And she is willingly wanting to do this because she's head over heels for you.

[00:04:08]and you go, "You know what? This is it.

[00:04:10]I need to take my chips off the table right now. Right now, I'm never getting this deal again." And what do you go and do? You go and, you know, get a rental. You sign the lease.

[00:04:20]12 months. You put her on it. And once you're in that house, it might be one week, two weeks, maybe a couple months.

[00:04:27]You start to see a bit of a different side of each other.

[00:04:31]Things start going downhill just that little bit. That fantasy has worn off.

[00:04:35]And guess what, mate? you just signed a 12-month lease. And she's then what do you go and do?

[00:04:44]What do you go and do? You go and [ __ ] get engaged uh in in 12 months and then you're married in 18 months from from go to wo.

[00:04:55]And as you walk in, as you walk in after the wedding reception and you go to the hotel room or you might go home, whatever it might be, and you close the door, she walks in. She walks in the house in front of you. You walk in, you close the door behind you. And as you close the door, she turns around. She goes, "Fucking got you, [ __ ] whit.

[00:05:14]You're mine.

[00:05:18]Limrance's worn off."

[00:05:22]In this in this particular term, what I've noticed is it's women who want to speedrun. Guys, Limmeridge is really happens from a female perspective, from women who really want to speedrun a guy. He's ticked all the boxes. He has the good job. He looks stable. He's relatively well put together.

[00:05:45]You He's ticking a lot of the boxes here. She just falls head over heels.

[00:05:49]Creates a fantasy in her mind about this guy that's probably not even true.

[00:05:57]She wants in. She will make lifech changing, lifealtering decisions without even really considering it.

[00:06:04]She's in love.

[00:06:07]She's drunk with love.

[00:06:10]And so are you. And you're drunk with getting your ball sacks drained every day.

[00:06:16]You can't believe it. You think it's going to last forever.

[00:06:22]I love it. But chicks getting caught up on Chad, Steo, and Bryce. Now, this is a different thing because these guys know how to play that game.

[00:06:32]They do have Mavelian tendencies. They do have that dark triad of behaviors.

[00:06:38]Some might use it, some might not use it, but it comes natural to them. It's not a game. They don't give a [ __ ] They get that much action, they know there's always another one coming. They don't care. And these women get caught up on them.

[00:06:54]get turn themselves inside out because this guy is different. He's not treating her like the other men are.

[00:07:02]He's not giving her anything.

[00:07:04]He's not even messaging her. He's not even calling her. She doesn't see him for two weeks. She has to message him to chase him up.

[00:07:13]And and in a particular kind of woman, now this doesn't work with every kind of woman.

[00:07:18]A lot of women will tell you to get stuffed if you do things like that. But there's a certain type out there, that real anxious personality type, I guess you'd call them.

[00:07:27]They just fall hard for that. They fall hard. They will chase harder than what you've ever been chased. Guys, put in the comments if you explain that. It's very hard to put a description on what's that that's like. It almost doesn't feel like it's real.

[00:07:43]It feels like you're in a movie or something. Just the way that these women attract are carrying on.

[00:07:51]because you've starved them of attention. You've starved them of what they really thrive on.

[00:07:58]Men's worship. You don't give them nothing. So they they're now chasing you. That's lirance. That's you make they make some dumb decisions.

[00:08:10]Life changes. They get knocked up by Chads and Steos and all that sort of thing.

[00:08:16]That's why there's a single mom epidemic out there.

[00:08:20]Anyway, I'm going to let this video play out for a little bit, but I'm pretty sure I'm going to stop pretty quick and just absolutely start ranting again. I'm in the mood today, guys.

[00:08:28]>> The allconsuming obsession. The I hope they text back, checking your phone every two seconds feeling. That that mental loop where they say one nice thing and it lives rentree in your head for the next six months. That's not love. It's lirance.

[00:08:44]And limrance is both desperately wanting to be loved and feeling like you do not deserve to be. That contradiction, that psychological split that keeps the addiction going. Because that's what lirance really is. It's an addiction.

[00:08:59]Not to a person, but to a possibility.

[00:09:02]the possibility that if someone just loved you enough, fought for you hard enough, saw you deeply enough, maybe you could finally stop hating yourself.

[00:09:14]>> Because that's what hurts the most, isn't it? It's not just >> it's these women, man, they're absolutely cooked, aren't they?

[00:09:23]When you peel it all back, you get these women on the dating apps. Now, for women watching, I'm not saying this is all women. my experiences meeting absolute units of the opposite sex, like just just straight up strange people, women who get really caught up on you, head over heels type stuff, stalkerish behavior. It's been off dating apps. I'm not saying every woman around is doing that or they are that.

[00:09:46]You go on any dating, you're going to find people you go, "Fuck, how does that person operate in the real world?"

[00:09:51]Because they're just [ __ ] off their head.

[00:09:55]Put the comments if you've had that. You just come across someone, you might have hooked up with them and you're just thinking to yourself after that, you know, then you know, you've witnessed some behavior, some erratic behavior, they gone off the [ __ ] deep end with you, you know, how how is this person a functioning adult, 35, 40 years old, like [ __ ] how have they made it here?

[00:10:15]And probably got kids, half of them. But let's talk about the dating apps.

[00:10:20]So she's saying here the you they just want to be loved so badly and no one wants to love them and it's and they're chasing love and and acceptance and someone to truly want to respect them.

[00:10:35]Like they just talk [ __ ] Let's just say this woman here is maybe talking from her own personal experience. I don't know from a bar of soap. I don't know what her story is, but say she's talking from personal experience. She's okay. She's she's pretty not bad looking.

[00:10:50]She would have that many guys wanting to go out with her, take her out, be a real gentleman, be the gentleman these women all ask for. The good man.

[00:10:59]Not every dude's unplugged. Not every dude sees the world for how it is with women. Most guys are walking around with [ __ ] blindfold on their whole life.

[00:11:07]like a little toddler walking in the middle of the road. You know, a little toddler escaped from the playground and it's running on the freeway and the cars are just missing it, but it doesn't realize, you know, goes to pick up its little toy that it dropped on the ground and the big 18-wheeler runs over the top, but it just misses hitting this kid by 1 centimeter. Doesn't even realize, stands up, giggles, and walks along. That's most BS out there.

[00:11:30]Those kind of guys, they're a dime a dozen for these women. But these women don't want them. They're chasing the elusive white unicorn, the great white buffalo, the big white elephant, Chad, Steo, Bryce, Dino, Chang, Sergio, whoever it is, wherever they're from.

[00:11:48]The archetype, the guy who is just not tameable for most women. They cannot get him because he can't be got. He's born that way.

[00:11:58]And it just sets them off.

[00:12:01]So, they're chasing these guys. They do get involved with them. uh Chad Steo Bryes, they'll gas them up. They'll tell them what they've got to tell them. They'll give them the fantasy. They know they these women want to hear. They know the playbook. They are Skynet. These guys learn. They're just born that way. They just get it.

[00:12:21]They'll say [ __ ] They'll sell the deal.

[00:12:23]It's high it's it's high pressure sales.

[00:12:27]It's high value sales. These guys know how to close the deal.

[00:12:32]But these women then get confused and they don't understand why this guy then all of a sudden isn't talking to them.

[00:12:38]He's not being responsive.

[00:12:41]They start getting angry. They start getting stalkerish. They start trying to hunt for information on him on the internet. They start trying to find out where he works. I want to cause trouble.

[00:12:50]They're upset. They're angry.

[00:12:53]But the moment he gets back in contact with him, that all goes away because I really value his attention and love.

[00:13:01]Love in terms of the big dim sim.

[00:13:05]It's interesting because it's female nature which creates most of the dating problems. I'm going to say, look, yes, there are guys like I used to do this stuff, right? So, you can call me a hypocrite.

[00:13:16]That's fine.

[00:13:20]But I would say for the most part it's women that are causing these issues who are chasing around a smaller portion of men.

[00:13:27]Most men, my mate Larry, everyone knows a Larry. Everyone knows the average Joe Blow next door who's not getting any action, any attention. They could be the best bloke ever. They got best guys, you know. They are what these women say they're looking for. They don't want them. They completely chew them up, spit them out because they're not exciting. They're not fun. They don't know how to keep up a mystery.

[00:13:46]They don't know how to get the feelings going, the emotions running.

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[00:14:41]>> Just that they don't love you back. It's the meaning that we make from that absence that maybe it confirms what you've always feared to be true. That love was never meant for you. That connection, safety, and reciprocation were luxuries that you don't qualify for. Now, now let's get into some psychology of limrance here for a moment. In psychology, I have it on my computer here. In psychology, lirance is often tied to attachment trauma, especially anxious attachment. When love was unpredictable, inconsistent or conditional. As a child, we learned to chase it. That love was not something given unconditionally. We believed we had to earn love by being enough, pretty enough, smart enough, lowmaintenance enough, quiet enough. So when someone shows us breadcrumbs, our brains light up. Like >> no one, maybe there are some guys out there who are suckers for punishment. Obviously there are because there are guys who marry these kinds of women. No dude wants a high maintenance woman. It might be fun and you might feel like you've achieved something by getting money to bed early days in a dating process, but but but beyond that, no guy wants to deal with that [ __ ] the volatility, the demands, the attitude, the frustration. No guy wants to deal with that. So these women saying, "Oh, well, I had to be low maintenance to get a man." You just had to be a normal, grounded human being. You would have 100,000 guys lining up. If you want to be a massive, see you next Tuesday and say, "Well, I don't want to curb myself.

[00:16:26]I don't want to censor myself and I don't want to change the way I am. I'm high maintenance. If a man doesn't want to deal with that, then he doesn't get me. Well, guess what? You're not getting many takers. And the takers that are going to take that deal, you're not going to want them.

[00:16:44]Like, we've hit the jackpot.

[00:16:46]Intermittent reinforcement is what it's called. The same system slot machines use to hook people is exactly what is going on in your brain during lirance.

[00:16:55]It's one of the strongest psychological forces. and lirance thrives on it. The push and the pull, the almost, the mixed signals. It hijacks your nervous system and calls itself love. It's not love.

[00:17:11]It's a compulsion to complete a narrative that was never yours to carry in the first place. That person, this person that you claim that you are in love with, that you want to love you back, is filling a hole in you. It's also taking the place in continuing the cycle of begging for love and never receiving it from a parent as a kid.

[00:17:30]It's the same cycle. It's a compulsion to carry a narrative that was never yours to carry in the first place. It's taking the place and continuing the cycle of begging for love and never receiving it from a parent as a kid. We are repeating the cycle of what is, say it with me now, comfortable, not healthy. because our nervous system gets used to what we >> How much [ __ ] do women talk to try and justify whatever goes through their heads? Like listen to this talk. For me as a logical, rational, analytical male, this makes no [ __ ] sense really what she's saying to me. It's just a whole bunch of reasoning why she's chasing around guys and getting used up for sex, becoming a human sex toy. And she can't work out why that's happening and why guys aren't hanging around. And it's narrow. It's all lirance and it's the cognitive. It's their [ __ ] central nervous systems doing it.

[00:18:27]And we marry these things.

[00:18:30]We have joint bank accounts with them.

[00:18:33]What What are we doing, boys? What the [ __ ] are we doing?

[00:18:42]Mental feed it. And if we are fed the cycle of begging and wishing and hoping that we will receive what we need from a parent, the love we desperately crave from a parent that should be given to us unconditionally just by being born. We look for that because it's what we've always known. And what we always know is not always what is healthy because we think deep down we have been taught that love is a game of endurance. that if we just hold on long enough, someone will finally give us what we have always been missing. But true love is >> he's got to be a decent person. There are plenty of good guys out there. It isn't hard. They're looking for a fantasy. Looking for a fantasy man who doesn't exist to give him a fantasy that they're never going to get.

[00:19:33]And they might get a guy who tries to bend over backwards to create that fantasy, but she's going to rip him apart and throw him bloody to the sharks.

[00:19:44]and she'll be out there looking for the next love of her life.

[00:19:49]Have a listen to this stuff they talk >> isn't earned through suffering. You think that what you're craving is them, but what you are craving is healing. If you really wanted love, you would be in a relationship with someone who loves you, who texts you back, who shows up, who is consistent. But instead, you are obsessing over someone that gives you nothing, and that tells you something about yourself. You choose subconsciously to stay in this headsp space. Because if you wanted to leave, you'd say, "I deserve a love that loves me back."

[00:20:29]>> No one deserves anything. You need to earn it. Number one, women always say, "Oh, I deserve this. I know my worth and blah blah blah." No one deserves anything.

[00:20:41]Earn it. And if you don't have it, there's a reason. Especially as a woman, I can understand why men are single and may not have opportunities with women and can't meet someone because the opportunity isn't there for a lot of them. I get that. It isn't. I'm not going to point the finger at guys and say, "You're a [ __ ] loser." Some guys are just going to be invisible. The 80% of guys are mostly invisible.

[00:21:08]They might luck out every now and again, snag one.

[00:21:13]A woman like this, she would be swept off her feet. As I said, any any day of the week, they're looking for a fantasy guy. Just listen to the talking.

[00:21:26]As I said, watching too many movies or something. I don't I don't get it. You know, you get these ones. I've I've put other dating coaches up on there up on the up on this channel.

[00:21:42]The reason why I do that is while I know they're not the everyday woman out there, they do say a lot of things that I've had said directly to me. I've had women talk about this sort of [ __ ] to me. I had I remember this one very attractive Middle Eastern girl that I knew. I don't know her anymore. I've lost contact.

[00:22:02]Very very attractive. Like absolutely stunning. I thought to me anyway, everyone's got a different taste.

[00:22:09]single, 34 at the time, was carrying on about all this stuff to me, would call me up and talk about attachment theory and all this sort of stuff. And I would probe and ask her questions and I'd actually hooked up with her before and all that. It didn't work out because she was complete mental case. But I I'd always give her the time a day because I'd like to do my research and learn. I was really trying to learn about women and the what makes them tick and how they perceive the world and dating as opposed to the difference, you know, of how a man perceives the world in dating.

[00:22:43]And I would have phone calls where women go around in circles like this. I didn't even know what she was talking about.

[00:22:48]I'd zone out for 10 minutes while she was blabbing.

[00:22:52]And you know what it was? You know what her problem was? It wasn't that there was some deepseated psychological wound.

[00:23:00]and her service natural her central nervous system was making her do [ __ ] She was a see you next Tuesday. She wasn't nice to guys. She wanted a lot at the start.

[00:23:16]Yeah, she could be charming and a nice person, but she wasn't datable. You couldn't you could not date her. And because the guys that she was going for, not your everyday guy. She's going for guys who can replace her or pick somebody else.

[00:23:31]That's fine. And she wasn't getting picked.

[00:23:34]Last I saw or heard of her, she's 41 now, still doing the same thing. So, they don't learn. A lot of them. That's why I talk about women getting indoctrinated on dating apps.

[00:23:47]They believe the problem is with everybody else and don't look inwards.

[00:23:51]They rely on psychology and spirituality to try and explain why their life's a [ __ ] dumpster fire >> and leave. But you don't because deep down you don't believe love is safe. You don't believe you're worthy of it. So you seek people out that confirm that belief. Limrance tells you that the absence of love is the only love you deserve. So, you wait, you fantasize, you write, you write mental stories about a version of them that will never exist. And here's the thing, you're looking for water in a dry well. And that doesn't make this other person a bad person. It means they're exercising their free will and aren't interested in you. Interest isn't cut and dry. And there's so many reasons why a person might not be romantically attracted to you. Someone not being attracted to you doesn't say anything about your worth.

[00:24:44]Let's say it again. And say it with me now this time. Someone not being attracted to you doesn't say anything about your worth. And lirance has so much more to do with you than it ever does with that other person. Because when someone doesn't like you back, it's your duty to walk away and find >> Absolutely.

[00:25:02]But what do women do? Women go full stalk mode. Uh I've told I've told you about this. There was one woman who I had in my life. Uh but it was only ever sort of in and out. It was nothing serious. We'd lose contact for a bit and we'll get back into each other's lives here and there. And this went on for a couple of years. But every time I would get back with her, she would know exactly what I was doing. Now, I didn't have much in the way of social media.

[00:25:26]And this is the person uh who was doing all this research on me and was using AI tools or some database [ __ ] She's trying to explain it to me.

[00:25:37]I was like, "Whatever. It's weird." She knew everything about me.

[00:25:42]She knew everything about any sibling I may have, where they live, where they work, my investment history.

[00:25:50]Like, [ __ ] I'm telling you now, she'd done the work. And when she told me, she was telling me like she was proud of it. I thought a nutcase would be [ __ ] be hiding that because that scared me.

[00:26:06]I've dated women like this. They can't let go.

[00:26:10]They will fawn over you. They will twist and turn themselves inside out. Even when you've told them directly, it's not going anywhere. I don't want anything from you. It's happened to me on multiple occasions. It's not a brag.

[00:26:24]I'm just telling you it's it's not a good thing because they don't let go and it's very hard to get them out of your life and get rid of them because if you say block them or something like that then and especially if they know where you live, they know where you work, you can you can bet your bottom dollar you're going to get some issues with that.

[00:26:45]There's a lot of unstable women on dating. A lot of them. I know I'm ranting a bit today. out of guys. I'm just giving you a bit of a insight as to dealing with these women who get really anxious and caught up on a guy cuz a lot of guys may not experience that. You might think that sounds really endearing. It's not like it's to the point of where it's a bit too a bit too full on >> someone that does, but you stay. Why?

[00:27:09]Because lirance doesn't care about truth. It wants hope. It wants to keep spinning the wheel just in case today is the day that they finally see you. the day you are finally heard, seen, expressed, loved, carried, chosen. Treat it like an obsession because psychologically it is. And believe me, I've been there. There's always been someone in the back of my mind where I'm like, "Oh, I can't go off and date because what if this person finally decides to love me today?" I didn't want him to love me. I wanted him to notice how lovable I was. I wanted him to give me the permission and the evidence that I >> This sounds really a harsh thing to say.

[00:27:55]He doesn't know you barely exist. He knows you're there for sex and company. That's it. He doesn't he's never coming back. If you think some guy is going to come back and love you.

[00:28:07]Guys don't do that. Guys don't think like that. Especially ones that have got those traits. I'm telling you now, like he just doesn't give a [ __ ] Did forgot about you the second he left the house.

[00:28:16]He blew a massive load. He said, "All right, cool. Got to go. Have a great week. I'll get in touch with you next time." Gets in his car. [ __ ] off.

[00:28:24]Punches a durry.

[00:28:27]Forgot about it. Got home and even forgot what he even just did. Goes to bed.

[00:28:37]I think it's different when men get caught up with women cuz a lot of men are romantic.

[00:28:44]These women don't do it from a romantic place. They do it from a place of emotional damage and being a stalker.

[00:28:51]Guys get really hung up on women that they've never even talked to before. The girl in the coffee shop, the girl who works at the register at the local supermarket.

[00:29:00]They have crushes on him for 5 years.

[00:29:01]Never talked to him.

[00:29:04]So, it's very different.

[00:29:06]>> Was lovable. I wanted him to make me lovable by choosing me. I've always been lovable and it doesn't matter who chooses me. I was lovable from the day I was born. Philosopher Eric from warned against this in the art of loving that most people mistake the feeling of falling for love as actual love. But real love is an act of will, of maturity, of presence. It's not obsession.

[00:29:38]>> Oh, come on. Tell us what real love is.

[00:29:39]I'm sure you've never found it.

[00:29:42]It's not chaos. It's calm. It's grounded. It's mutual. It's a decision that you make. And if you have made the decision to be in a relationship with someone, but someone else has not made that same decision, well, honey, you are living in delusion, not reality. Because you would both make a mutual decision to be in that space together.

[00:30:04]Love does not thrive only on feeling, but action. You have to feel those feelings for each other. But you also have to make the conscious action to be in that relationship. And here's the thing. When you and another person decide that you are in love, it is a decision. It is a mutual agreement that both of you choose to stay there. And with limrance, you have the feeling of love but not the action. And the other person does not have the feeling or the action. It is a single-sided interaction. And it's not that you are actually in love with them or feeling in love with them. You are in love with the idea that someone could love you. So soft.

[00:30:37]>> She's doing a little bird hands, a little pinched fingers.

[00:30:41]Really pivotable stuff here. Really groundbreaking. I'm going to leave it here, guys. If you want to go and watch her rant on, I don't even know what she's even [ __ ] talking about anymore.

[00:30:51]Hope you got something out of this one.

[00:30:52]You just got a bit of a brain dump from me. I went back into the past.

[00:30:57]Have a great day, gents. See you tomorrow's video.