men are obsessed with other men

Added: 2026-05-22

[00:00:00]I've had a very interesting opinion about something for the past few years.

[00:00:03]I don't know if I'm the only one noticing this like that, but it feels like guys care more about gains on men than women do.

[00:00:10]Someone reminded me of this in the comments. I I can't find the comment, but he was saying something like, "Go to any guy's Instagram where they post their gym workouts or their gains. All you'll see is other men in the comment section hating." And that is exactly what is going on. I see that all the time. I'm sure you've seen it, too. Men tear down other men more than a lot of men like to believe. The worst of the worst men just blame women for everything on their own inadequacies, but men will tear down other men faster than you think. And I think it's normalized and subconscious to a point where even {quote} influencers will purposely spread very toxic and unhelpful information about being a {quote} true man or how to be attracted to women, but all the advice that they give is very impractical and blatantly unattractive to all women except women who have no father in their life and deep exploitable insecurities.

[00:00:59]So, y'all just creating monsters here.

[00:01:01]Am I lying? Am I for Am I Am I lying here? Does it not seem like it it For real, it seems like men care way too much about another man's physical body and what they put their thing into.

[00:01:12]Like, you want to talk about masculinity and alpha male this and that. That seems very sus to me. It's like y'all look at men more than y'all look at women. It's obsessive, too. For people who say they're masculine and alpha, it doesn't seem to align with what you're characterizing yourself as. And that comment is 100% accurate, and I noticed it years ago. All I see is other men mocking other men for their physique, their technique, their efforts to become better and more independent, but those comments offer zero correction, zero reinforcement. It's just let's just make fun of this guy for having gains or working out or trying to make his life better. Oh, let's just make fun of him.

[00:01:54]You know what? Let me not add anything constructive. Let me just You know, it's you know, it's got to be a pure defense mechanism because, yes, it's important to have a physical it's it's important to be physically fit, right? And to have physical strength. It does contribute to a certain perception within social structures. Obviously, this has been proven throughout history and it still consistent today. However, when a man shows progress, I feel like it's a defense mechanism when you devalue him because he started to get gains or he might be getting bulkier than you. At least he's hitting the gym and getting results. Do you feel threatened or something? Do you feel like he's a competitor to you? Maybe subconsciously you feel that way, which is probably why these things start start happening. You start hating on somebody.

[00:02:34]Here's what's really funny about this, and I also had this opinion a few years ago as well. It feels like a lot of people only will listen to a man's advice to attract the approval of other men.

[00:02:48]And I said a lot of people to start that, right? I feel like a lot of those people are men. The truth is, and this is might hurt someone's feelings because it's true.

[00:02:58]Insecure men will only listen to other men and refuse any advice from women because they only want to attract other men.

[00:03:07]Not romantically, unless that's the case, but they deeply want to be approved by other men. Now, I don't know what the psychological breakdown of this is for certain people because everyone's different. Maybe your father wasn't around and never gave you the validation you needed as a kid. Maybe you never succeeded or was accepted in male groups like, I don't know, a baseball team or a football or a soccer team in middle school or high school, Boy Scouts, nothing. So, maybe this lack of approval from other men or boys is the reason why this projection comes out. What I think is more important is respecting another man's gains and efforts, encouraging them. Yes, women do also pay attention to a man's gains, but instead of hating or obsessing over what another man is doing to their physical body, a yo, like promoting each other's success and recognizing each other positively is more beneficial to both parties. I said insecure men because I also feel like some men don't say positive affirmations to other men because it feels emasculating to them. Like, yo, you you scared to compliment the homie? What's wrong with saying something nice to the homie about his progress? "Hey, bro, I see you've been hitting the gym."

[00:04:17]"Hey, hey, hey, bro, looks like you lost some weight. Good for you." Like, y'all scared to say stuff like that?

[00:04:24]You resort to flaming someone's progress? It's very sad.

[00:04:27]Like, for real, this whole people want to be manly so badly, then they do the complete opposite.

[00:04:35]They look more insecure about their masculinity than anything.

[00:04:38]I'm just saying. I'm for real, I'm just saying. Like, it feels like it's like y'all can't even communicate to people positively cuz you're so manly and you're so this and that. Okay, you can't you can't So, being manly means you got to be negative, right? You got to be you got to be toxic. You know, you got to do all this stuff. I mean, I listen, I'm just saying, do y'all agree? Does it seem like men are more obsessed with the physique and progress of other men more than women are? Not saying that women don't notice, but like men seem to care way more than women seem to care nowadays, more emotionally invested nowadays into another man's gains. Like, like, is that is that not sus? Okay, so, you're emotionally invested into another man's physique.

[00:05:19]You're worked up. You mad right now. You feel envy.

[00:05:23]A- another man is making progress in their life, so you emotionally invest yourself. That's like, hey, like, yo, you emotionally invested into a man's body.

[00:05:32]Yo.

[00:05:33]Hey, yo. Pause. Like, like, yo, like, I I'm just saying. I'm just saying. I I I I'm I don't know. I'm just saying.

[00:05:45]Let me know what you guys think down below. I love you all. I'm out.