Rules In Their House That People Think Are Extreme

Added: 2026-05-12

[00:00:00]There are some rules I have in my house for my kids. And once again, this is my house and these my kids.

[00:00:04]>> Will I apply all of those rules? No.

[00:00:06]>> These are rules at my grading house that would send some of y'all into a common.

[00:00:09]>> These are rules I have set in place for my little boys. I'm a single mom. If you don't know me, you do now. But >> oh no.

[00:00:16]>> Part two came early. If you guys want to see part one, make sure that you tap on the video on the end screen that I'll have. It'll lead you directly to that video and you won't miss anything.

[00:00:26]Anytime you guys see a green border, just know that I'm reading a comment from part one and I'm answering it. So, stick around and let's get into this mess. I grew up in a very strict household and these are the rules that I have for my 12 years old. No phone or laptop is allowed in her room. No phone from Monday to Thursday. Friday afternoon when she comes back from school, she can have her phone. During the weekend before she has a phone, she needs to be doing some kind of intellect activity such as reading a book, doing homework. She cannot be on her cell phone for more than 2 hours at the time.

[00:01:01]>> The no phones Monday through Friday. I understand. At the same time though, I know some parents like to be in contact with their kids when they're in school just in case something happens, they're able to communicate that. Now, I know there's going to be somebody say, "Oh, the teachers can communicate that."

[00:01:14]Times of change. Sometimes the teachers don't do it. Sometimes the nurse doesn't call when a child's sick. It happens. Or maybe your child is just not comfortable talking to anybody but you. She needs to clean her room every single day. She currently has a board that she's talking to and I'm only allowing it. But I told her he's not your boyfriend. He's just a friend. She's not allowed to delete messages. I don't really care about like having friends over. Uh she's never gone to no friend's house. Typically, there's no phone in TVs during the week, but if she comes back with good grades, I let her watch TV up to 30 minutes before her bedtime. The whole boyfriend girlfriend topic is always a little sticky, and it truly does depend on the parents. For the fact that she said her daughter isn't allowed to delete messages, I think could be helpful, but 12 years of age, I don't know. I don't know. At the same time, though, strict parents do create sneaky kids. So, I'm not going to comment much on that, honestly. Two showers a day is a non-negotiable because I want her to go to school with a fresh mind. Once a week, your sheets got to be clean. Your bathroom tubs have to be scrubbed. Your toilet, all of that. I used to not let my daughter do any chores around her house because I wanted her to feel sheltered. And one time she told me after I politely asked her to clean the dishes. She told me that she was doing me a favor by washing the dishes. And she doing me a favor.

[00:02:33]Now you going to be washing the dishes every single >> It shouldn't be a punishment though. The whole teaching her how to clean is very essential. I think whether you have a girl or a boy, you need to teach them that. But once you make it sort of a punishment, that's when bad habits start forming. And she may never want to touch a dish in her life ever. You have to be careful with things like that, especially raising children. If she has clothes in her bedroom for more than 2 to 3 days, and she needs to do her own laundry, but for the most part, I do her laundry. I fold her clothes. She's not allowed to touch none of my stuff. You should have your own stuff. So yeah, these are my rules for my pre-teen. Let me know if they're too strict. Bye. Do y'all feel like her rules were strict?

[00:03:14]These are rules at my grading house that will send some of y'all into a coma.

[00:03:17]Number one, you need to be up early because you need to make sure you get your breakfast order in. She going to make you whatever you want. I'm talking hot sausage, regular sausage. You want sausage patties instead of the links, she got that. I will be up before grandma gets up. if she can cook me whatever breakfast I want. I'm up 400 a.m. waiting for grandma. Was anyone else's grandma up really early? Mine was for my mother's side. She was up before the sun comes out. She is up and doing things. Hey, so far that's not a red flag. If you're going to cook me anything I'd like, why not? You also need to let her know what type of eggs you want. Especially if there's a lot of people in the house. You want fried eggs, you want scrambled eggs, you want sunny side up, you want it a little runny. She got all that for you, but you need to make sure you let her know cuz she ain't trying to do it last minute.

[00:04:06]She will, but it's disrespectful. You know what I mean? Number two, dinner is going to be at 3:00, but you need to let her know if you coming. Like, if my niece coming, she need to know that so she can make an extra gluten-free mac and cheese in addition to the mac and cheese that she making. If all the kids is coming, she going to make a little side pot of spaghetti cuz she knows what they like. Now, if I'm coming, I need to let her know like a week in advance so she can make sure she can make me a roast.

[00:04:32]Number three, if you are under 10, you will be going to church with her. None of us can save you. We're old enough.

[00:04:39]We're going to like go to my dad's church or whatever, but you will be going to Shallow Baptist and you will be wearing a slip.

[00:04:47]There are no musicians.

[00:04:50]So, sorry. Can't win at all. You will be at church at Shiloh Baptist. Number four, family reunions are not negotiable. They're not negotiable. She don't even care if you, her child, are coming. The grandkids is going to be there. She ain't ask you for no money.

[00:05:06]She ain't ask you for no money. She going to pay for that. Okay? All you need to do is make sure them kids is available.

[00:05:14]Last but not least, my granny was going to make sure you got picked up from wherever you needed to be picked up on time. Unless you ain't let her know the night before. Because one thing's for certain, the two things was for show.

[00:05:26]She was going to make sure my granddaddy plate was ready on time. Because back in the day, my granddaddy was working and I kid you not, 80 hours a week at the factory. If you ain't let her know in advance, you was just going to be sitting there till 4:00. I don't know what's going on with y'all granny's.

[00:05:41]I don't know what's going on with y'all granny's. Y'all need to send them back to the store and get your receipt. Shout out to Big Nana.

[00:05:47]>> Shout freaking out to Big Nana. She seems like an extremely loving grandma, but also a very strict one in a healthy way. I'm still stuck on the food. Can y'all tell that I'm a foodie? You know what's sad though? Oh, I'm not going to say that. Never mind. I'm That's going to ruin the mood. What I will say is though, typically grandma's like that.

[00:06:10]They're the ones holding the family together. I'll leave it at that. Anyone else's parents wanted the numbers of your friends and their parents? Or was my mama doing the most? She was not doing the most. You have to know where your kid is at, who your kid is with. If you can't reach your kid, who you need to contact in order to reach your kid.

[00:06:28]All safety is priority for your mom. She was not doing the most. I'm trying to think if my parents did that. I don't know. I can't remember. I truly think they just trusted at a certain age. They started trusting that, you know what, the values and morals that we instill in her, she'll do good. But now I'm thinking about I don't think they asked for their number. Actually, one with all Yeah, one. That's about it.

[00:06:53]>> These are rules I have set in place for my little boys. I'm a single mom. If you don't know me, you do now. But my kids are six and seven.

[00:07:00]>> I'm sorry. I'm so sorry. 67. Brain rot.

[00:07:03]>> Brain rot.

[00:07:04]>> I'm raising someone's future husband, a future father. And I don't take that lightly. So, I'm going to tell y'all some of the rules that I have for them.

[00:07:10]Uh, number one, you are helping me. Oh, I'm cleaning up the kitchen. You want to go watch TV nerd? Nar, you're helping.

[00:07:16]You're so help. I have to do something like put some of their laundry up. Even if they can't reach it, I make them come with me and help me like hand me stuff.

[00:07:22]Yes, ma'am. No, ma'am. Always. They open doors for me if we're somewhere. If I'm getting like a grocery cart and stuff like that, like they're pulling that out for me. Done with their dinner. They already know that they have to go to the sink and put their dirty plate in the sink. They can't reach it to like rinse it off and wash dishes yet, but like you're picking up after yourself.

[00:07:37]They're only allowed to have one girlfriend at a time. If they try to come home and be like, "Oh, I got three girlfriends. Hannah, Emily, pick one. Pick one." We don't talk ugly about anyone like that. They're not allowed to say that someone is like stinky, ugly, anything mean, they're not allowed to say it in this house or they are disciplined unless somebody comes for them first. And I said if they take it low, you take it to hell. Thank you.

[00:07:57]That's another rule I have for them. If somebody swings on you or something else, you don't tell the teacher, you swing back, but you win. Period. Tell them no a lot. Whether it's like getting a treat or like getting a toy at the store, things like that. My kids don't get something every single time we go into a store. Uh because they need to know that it's not just yes, yes, yes in life. Smith's like, "No, if you do something good, you get a reward."

[00:08:15]Besides that, we're not doing treats every single day. Sorry. That's just some rules I have in place for my kids.

[00:08:19]I'm trying to raise good humans. Okay.

[00:08:21]>> For once, I actually don't have anything to say. You can't stand in the doorway.

[00:08:25]You're blocking good fortune from coming in. Yeah, I think that's probably the reason why my grandma didn't want me to stand in a doorway. Or you're telling me that that's what they say, too. Cuz I've heard that, too. Do I believe it? No.

[00:08:38]But I've heard it. I'm glad I'm not alone.

[00:08:40]>> I grew up in a very strict household there. But these four rules here make a lot of sense. I'm not I'm not saying that I'm going to do them with my kids, but I completely understand. And some of them I just might. Especially the third rule. The first rule was 13. I was not allowed to get my ears pierced until I was 13. Now you're like, that's excessive. My mom had nothing against kids getting their ears pierced. She said it was just I wanted you to be responsible enough to clean them yourself. Then she made a big deal of it because she knew that I wanted to get my ears pierced. So the Christmas after I turned 13, wrapped up a box underneath the Christmas tree. She put tons of tissue paper in it. And it was actually these earrings right here. These things are almost 18 years old now. So the day after Christmas, my dad took me to get my ears pierced, let me pick out the studs that I wanted. And it was special, and I'll never forget it. Another rule, I was not allowed to wear makeup until I was 16. I was allowed to play with makeup. My mom showed me how to use makeup, all that kind of stuff. But she didn't allow us to wear makeup until we were 16. And the reason I didn't let you wear it until you were 16, she says, because being a teenage girl, a young teenage girl, it's a very crucial time in your life as far as you accepting who you are.

[00:09:53]>> Now add social media to that. The world right now where it's at when it comes to your appearance, what beauty is. Oh my gosh, I just thought of the lip king.

[00:10:02]That just ruined my mood. There's nothing that hurts more than seeing a girl or even a boy talk about how they think they look ugly because of what they're seeing on Tik Tok and what Tik Tok is telling them and it just destroys the self-esteem and my heart just shatters. Get your kids off social media. Honestly, get your kids off social media. Let them know that they can watch influencers once they're 18 or something. I always say kids are like sponges because they just absorb whatever you show them as a parent and also what they see on TV or social media or it's a lot. It's a whole different video topic, but please help the kids.

[00:10:42]>> Natural beauty of who you are. And she said, "I didn't want y'all to think that you had to wear makeup." She said, "I allowed y'all to wear makeup." She said, "But I pushed the date to where you could wear it out to about 16." And she said, "Because your skin was beautiful.

[00:10:57]I didn't want you to cake it on. I wanted you to understand how to apply it, but also I didn't want you to think that you had to have it." And now as a mom, I'm like, "That makes a lot of sense." I look at my daughter, but looking at her face, I'm like, "She's perfect. She doesn't need anything." And then again, she made it really a big deal. She made it special. My 16th birthday, she took me to a makeup artist to get my makeup done. She bought me a couple of just high-end makeup products from the store and then she took me to Walmart and let me pick out some stuff that I wanted. But it was a huge deal and I looked forward to it and I'll never forget it. Just like I'll never forget getting my ears pierced. It was a big deal. She wanted us to understand that we don't need these things to be beautiful.

[00:11:43]Okay, moving on. The third thing, and this this just made sense, and this is one that I'm trying to do with all of my kids. Um, I was not allowed to have a cell phone until I started driving around 15 or 16. That was about 2009, 2010.

[00:12:00]All I could do on it was call and take pictures. Like I think I think it took pictures. I stayed out of a lot of drama because I wasn't texting. Gets to rule number four. Now, this one you're going to be like, "What? I was not allowed to date or have a real boyfriend until I graduated from high school. Yes, you heard that correct. My mom was strict about that. She said she had a boyfriend and she went on dates when she was 13 years old and she said that is unnecessary drama that you do not need in your high school life. And I was homeschooled so I didn't have things like prom and homecoming. And you're like, "Oh my goodness, that's a crucial part." And in a way, I get it. And there were times when I felt like I was really missing out. But now as a grown adult, I don't know. I I don't feel like I really missed too much. I had friends. I had lots of friends. I had guy friends. I had girlfriends. I had all of it, but I just didn't have a specific boyfriend. And I wasn't allowed to date.

[00:13:03]>> I may be wrong, but isn't it even easier to not date when you're homeschooled? I know you'll meet up at some point.

[00:13:10]like the students that are homeschooled to take a test or whatever the case is.

[00:13:15]But I feel like it's easier. But then also my parents didn't play that the whole dating thing. Now did I date? We going to keep watching the video.

[00:13:23]>> Graduated early cuz you know there was an incentive. I graduated not 17.

[00:13:28]Graduated a few months early there. Um and my mom she said the reason is not because I think that having a boyfriend is bad or that dating is bad. She said it's not that. She said, "I just don't want you to think that you have to keep up and maintain a relationship while trying to finish your high school education." Were some of the rules that I had growing up. And I think that I turned out okay. A little crazy maybe, but okay.

[00:13:53]And as a parent now, I understand why she was so strict about things. Will I apply all of those rules? No. But at the same time, I get it. Mom, >> I understand that she gets it. But I guess my question would still say, why don't apply those rules to your kids if you didn't find a problem with them? I'd be interested in that answer. Maybe y'all can answer in the comments section below. Um, homeschooling though.

[00:14:20]Nah, I'm going to switch it up and read comments from the video we just watched.

[00:14:22]Lindsay says, "Rules aren't usually the issue. It's the lack of why." So, the reason behind them. I've seen so many parents come on Tik Tok say these rules and say that when their kid asks why they have a certain rule, they always say, "I'm a parent and you just have to deal with it." They never give a reason.

[00:14:38]And I think that truly does hurt a kid.

[00:14:41]You're not giving them anything to grab, so they're going to slip and slide and do whatever they want. With the makeup rule, I heard another mama say she had to show her mother she washed and moisturized her face every night before she could wear makeup out. So good all of these. Melissa says, "I did the opposite with makeup. I let my daughter use and wear makeup as much as she wanted. No age limit. She is 19 now and rarely wears makeup because she sees now she doesn't need it. The creator of the video responds, "This is also a great approach. Letting kids experiment with safe things like this can help them learn on their own." Before we get into the next video, I just want to take a moment to say thank you so much to all my Anti-Dulu members for showing me love and support. Hope you guys are enjoying the early access and the badges. And if you're interested in joining the Anti-Dulu Den membership, please make sure that you don't have debt or else you will get booted. And for the members, get ready for extra content.

[00:15:29]I'm going to start it out nice and slow with one video um every second week, I think, and then see where it goes from there. If I decide to end up making two in a week, hey, count it as a blessing.

[00:15:42]But starting next week, don't know the date yet. It may be Friday or maybe Saturday when I post it for y'all, but there will be an extra video.

[00:15:50]>> Here are some rules I have in my house for my kids. And once again, this is my house and these my kids. First and foremost, ain't no YouTube. Ain't no YouTube.

[00:16:00]You ain't watching no kids play with no toys. You're not watching no adults play make believe with some kids pretending like they kids making weird noises. Go watch something else or go play with your own toys. Go watch something I used to go watch. Go put a movie on. Go do something else. Go outside. Next.

[00:16:16]>> Wait, I get the no YouTube thing, you know, cuz you never know what your kid is watching. But what does she mean by watching kids playing with toys and watching She said adults playing with toys. I feel like I'm going to be editing this video and I'm like, "Oh, that's what she meant." Oh, dang it.

[00:16:32]Either way, it sounds like she's just here to vent and she wants nobody to comment on her parenting. So, hey, I'm just here to listen.

[00:16:39]>> I'm in the kitchen cooking. Do not come in there and ask me for a snack cuz is you cool? Why you wait till I'm cooking?

[00:16:45]No. Get out my kitchen. Next, depending on how long we've been out, when you get in this house, go take your shoes off, go put some house clothes on, or go take a shower. Those are your options. That's it. Cuz you're not sitting on my furniture in them outside clothes.

[00:17:00]Next, that TV better not be louder than 20. Because if I can hear it, you can hear it. And if it's too low for you, then you need to be quiet. That's the only reason you can't hear it is cuz you talking. Be quiet so you can hear it.

[00:17:12]>> I'm going to make myself feel better and say that that was a skit. That definitely was a skit. Hold on. This is a look if y'all couldn't see my face.

[00:17:20]Hold on.

[00:17:22]Right. This is a look. I don't know. I'm scared. I'm scared. But also, if I was your friend, maybe I'd say, "Let's go to a therapist." And by let's I mean you. I don't know. I don't like it. It's too strict. I It seems like breathing is a crime. Also, just because your parents probably did all that doesn't mean it's okay for you to do it to your kids. Be better than your parents. That's the goal, right?

[00:17:43]>> Rules we have for our 13-year-old daughter. Let's get into it. This is one we haven't updated in a long time, so let's do it. So, she just turned 13. So, a lot of people ask, "Are your rules going to change? What kind of rules does she have now?" They really didn't change much. No, but here they are. She's not allowed to be on her phone like talking on it on a phone call past 9:00 p.m. Her bedtime's between 9:30 and 10:00 and we are not she's not allowed to be on past >> you and Felicia's dad. Twins.

[00:18:14]Felicia's dad turns off the Wi-Fi completely.

[00:18:21]Twins. I get it though. I get it.

[00:18:24]>> As someone that was a sneaky child, I get it. We have someone in our neighborhood who likes to call at 10:30, 11, 11:30, even midnight on a school night who's younger than my daughter.

[00:18:33]Nope, not allowed. That's an automatic phone revion if that occurs. We check her phone if we once a month and any other time we feel that it's necessary.

[00:18:44]We also check her iPad. U we also do not allow her to have Snapchat. Uh that's not going to change. It's a rule that her dad and I decided on and it's one we are going to keep.

[00:18:56]>> I'm not on Snapchat. I've heard things about Snapchat that it's changed now. I will tell y'all if y'all don't know, keep your kids out of Snapchat. That is all I'm going to say.

[00:19:07]>> She does have Tik Tok and Instagram and we keep an eye on those too. We look at every video she posts. If we at all feel like it is not appropriate or something that needs removed, she has to remove it right away. Um, and in that we also check the comments throughout that.

[00:19:22]We also have her commenting or messaging turned off on her TikTok, so she can't do messaging. And she is not allowed to play Roblox with anybody that we do not say is okay. Um, we don't let her play with any random person. She basically only plays with her dad and her brother and a couple of our neighbor kids and that is it. No sleepovers. Um, unless it's someone that we 100% trust and there are only a few people we allow sleepovers with.

[00:19:52]>> I don't care who you are. Ain't no sleepovers. Even if I trust you, you may not be trusted around my kid.

[00:19:58]>> We are very lenient on piercings. Um, we don't mind that she gets piercings. Um, dad says no um no nose piercing at this point, but we will revisit that when she's a little bit older. Um, also again, people ask us all the time if we would let her get tattoos, and our answer is no until she doesn't need us to sign for a tattoo.

[00:20:20]We're not going to do that. Um, there'd have to be some big reason before we allowed that. Um, and then do your get good grades, turn in your work on time, keep your room clean, be a decent human. That's really about all we ask for.

[00:20:38]>> What about profanity? I'm kidding. I missed it on the other lady, but the whole piercing thing, I think 13 is a good age to see if you want a piercing or not. But at the same time, I think I got my ears pierced at 12 or 13. And now at my age, I don't want my piercing. I don't even wear earrings anymore. If it were up to me, I'd go get surgery to close the holes that I have. I just I don't know. I just don't care for them.

[00:21:01]I like piercings on other people except septums, but everything else I like. I think it's cute. My South African mom would only run My South African mom would only run my bath three inches when I was growing up because she was afraid I would drown. Hey, hey, that's not a bad thing. Wait, how how old were you? That is my question for Honey. No, I'm kidding. South Africans don't speak like that. Honey, mom's going to run your bath now. It's going to be this much. On a serious note, fair. Fair. I I don't blame her. I don't blame her. And I think everyone should practice that. Um but then again, if you're a kid, you shouldn't be left alone. Just saying.

[00:21:42]>> So, I live in a household full of girls.

[00:21:44]Let me tell you some things that we think are normal. Number one, we do not use the bathroom with the door shut. It does not matter if you're going number one, number two, number five, that door is going to stay open. And I'm not saying you can't shut the door because you absolutely can. We just don't for some reason.

[00:22:04]Number one, fine. I get it. Number two, it depends. Is it smelly? I I don't want it stanking up the whole house. No, actually, no. Shut the door. Number two, shut the door, bro. I'm not trying to smell any of that any of that crap.

[00:22:19]Literally, I get it. But no, you going to have to just yap by the door with it shut.

[00:22:25]>> Number two, we basically sit in the bathroom while each other are showering.

[00:22:30]And again, this is not on some weird stuff like if we need to go in the bathroom and do something and someone else is showering, we do not care.

[00:22:38]You're allowed to come in the bathroom.

[00:22:39]If you want to sit and have a little chitchat, that's fine, too. Number three, let's say, no, there's no secrets in this house. You can be trying to have a conversation with a certain individual in the house and another person will be upstairs and still hear what you said.

[00:22:55]And then yeah, number four, we really don't have our own things. If we're going to buy something for oursel, we're most likely sharing it with the whole house. And again, I know most people might be like, "Oh, it's mine. I bought that." That don't work here. We all share stuff and we're fine with that.

[00:23:11]All right, that's really all. And again, it's not like we're not doing this against our will. And if we wanted to have privacy, we definitely could. We just choose not to. So yeah, that's my life.

[00:23:23]>> That was cute. and her having to explain it. You didn't have to explain it. I get it. And also, as a big sister, I feel it, too. If I'm buying something, there's a chance that it may get snatched up. It is what it is. My family is American, and we were also not allowed to eat if we weren't at the table. Mom's cooking or go hungry. Also, my mom used to put vegetables on the table until it was time for dinner.

[00:23:45]Vegetables to snack. That's actually a nice habit to have.

[00:23:50]Like, you snack on them. I hated vegetable soup as a kid. If you enjoyed this video, let me know in the comment section down below and I will see you guys next time.