The Sacred Couch: How Division is Subtly Killing US

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[00:00:29]Heat.

[00:00:51]Good evening. Good evening.

[00:00:54]Good evening.

[00:00:55]Good Tuesday evening. It's June.

[00:00:59]already. Oh my god. All right. Uh so all righty. Just waiting here.

[00:01:13]Good evening our Elder Sharon. Waiting for this to populate. Let me move my device.

[00:01:26]Now I'm probably Let's see. Yeah, that's a little better.

[00:01:34]I can see this better, too. You're the first one on tonight. Huh. This is interesting because this is not populating.

[00:01:43]All right, Elder. Can you hear and see?

[00:01:45]Okay.

[00:01:54]Hm.

[00:01:56]This is interesting.

[00:02:02]There's always something with this. And I got ner to pay money for this. Okay.

[00:02:08]Pay money for it. All right. I don't see any of our Facebookers.

[00:02:20]Not sure what's going on there.

[00:02:29]There we go. I guess it just took a minute. Okay. Guess it just takes a minute sometimes. All right. Long as I see Duke, I know we are. Amen. So, greetings um our Elder Sherack again.

[00:02:42]Thank you. Thank you, Pastor Sa. Thank you. Amen. Mary Duke.

[00:02:48]All right. I was wondering it's just pop. Just took a It just took a minute.

[00:02:52]I just been sitting here looking.

[00:02:56]So, um yeah. Um had oral surgery today. So, my face is a little jacked up. My mouth is jacked up.

[00:03:08]I'm on pills.

[00:03:11]Oh, Lord have mercy. I just need a break. Lord, she's a horse.

[00:03:16]All right. Um, we are transitioning.

[00:03:23]Um, good evening.

[00:03:25]Amen. Our deacon Regginal Bolton, Carol Y. Sanders.

[00:03:30]Amen. Leavonne Watson.

[00:03:32]Amen. Uh, thank you, Mary Duke. Thank you, Reginal Bolton, uh, for giving. Um, again, let me say, um, as we are working on this, I was trying to see if I can find Dr. Brown. I can't find Dr. Brown, y'all. I done called this house and everything.

[00:03:53]Um, but as you know, um, thank you, ma'am. I just, it just tore my whole mouth up.

[00:04:01]Just to my whole mouth up. Um um as many of you know uh we have been just kind of praying about talking about I've even had our prayer team on it um about what to do uh with our Tuesday night sessions and um I was like just pull the whole jank down. This has been Hey Macy. This has been 6 years almost 6 years of sacred couch. Um not the sacred couch y'all. I'm a little Okay. I probably need to be on the couch. Uh I tried but my head is going. Um but we did um almost six years of the doctors are in somebody say six unmonetized years. Six unmonetized year. In other words, we came on for thank you and sometimes less than that. Thank God for the three of you about three or four of you who give um uh towards that. Um I thank God for you. But for the most part um for these six years uh we have um endeavored Dr. Thomas L. Brown I think his um doctorate is in ethics, religious ethics or something like that. Uh Dr. Steven Gardner whose uh EDDD is um I think in leadership development or something like that. And of course um my PhD is in professional psychology and my concentrations are academic and clinical. Uh so I also have taught psychology um and um um some religious studies but primarily psychology have taught it in um Virginia Union University, Virginia State University. I was there for a number of years directly under my late mentor Dr. Florence Farley. I mean for double digit years. Um uh South University taught there taught um at some of our community colleges. Um and most recently it is closed now. Amen. Uh Stratford University where I served as the um chair of um arts and sciences.

[00:06:30]Um and so I've been in higher education um 30 years or so. Uh been working in mental health over 35 years um as um doing clinical work doing clinical supervisions um actually handson with uh title one schools. Pastor saya uh working with students with exceptionalities.

[00:06:58]um I've just about done it all and um have been executive director for community mental health programs um and so forth and so on and been in ministry um not only am I celebrating um uh this weekend uh 65 years uh uh on this earth on this goround as I know it uh but also 45 years in ministry so this is a 65 45 year for me Um and so we're we're um not going to uh can uh the doctors are in um thank God um we had a great run as Dr. Gardner says. Uh but I am transitioning this to the sacred couch uh where I can uh freely uh bring in um other people as needed. I can freely bring bring together or synergize the scientific and the sacred. Uh the scientific and the spiritual uh the social and the sacred, the psychological and the prophetic. That's my niche. That's my niche. Um and so uh we'll be doing that.

[00:08:14]Um it's uh kind of makes it unique as I've researched uh to see what's kind of out here. uh makes what we do here uh very very unique to be able to blend that so that we are looking at not just our psychological um state of existence uh particularly um as a people of the diaspora but we are also looking at our spiritual formation our uh spirituality well then turned into religion that's part of the pathology but our spirituality um is still very much a part in some way or another of who we are as black people. Say it loud. I'm black and I'm proud with your bad sound. Um and so we want to look at this thing kind of holistically. So when we're talking about blending things that here to for the church and the state or the church and the system said don't blend. But I have been doing it for 40 years. 45 years almost um blending again this this this um uh scientific you know um PhDs are and we in uh psychologist not just um human services and things like that it's also considered a social science so I am a social scientist um as well so we are blending the scientific and we are blending ing the sacred, we're blending the spiritual, and we're blending the social. They're not antithetical.

[00:10:00]They're one and the same. Uh we're blending the psychological with the prophetic. One of the things that makes me a very very very good diagnostician is number one, I studied under one for 37 years, who is one of the best in her field. uh and understood the cultural, the psychological, the cognitive differences uh between black folks and white folks uh in general. Um and taught me well. She was an exceptional diagnostician uh that taught me how to develop what she called and she wasn't being deep, the third ear and the third eye. They said we hear with another ear uh than the academy has trained us with. we see with another eye than just the data uh that's in front of us or the test information that's in front of us or the psychological assessment stuff that's in front of us. And so our our beautiful niche, our unique niche is the ability to synergize both of these things that you know people say, "No, they don't go together." Sure they do. Because as we've been learning, structure does not have to give way to spirit or spontaneity.

[00:11:21]One is a a masculine energy, one is a feminine energy. They must blend. You don't sacrifice spirit for structure nor structure for spirit. You don't have to sacrifice science for spirituality.

[00:11:39]When y'all say God is omni science, omniscient, that's where that comes from. Amen. And so we're blending these synergistically, skillfully, uh, to improve the human condition. And so we thank you for your patience. Um, as I transition this, um, I ain't sure y'all. I'm just going what I know. Uh, and so we didn't feel uh led to just shut down Tuesday nights. And uh, this is a little different than unscripted now. A little different. Um, but we're going to transition it to the sacred couch. Is that all right? So, throughout this month, we'll be kind of getting our little platform and our branding and all of this stuff that I I'm too old for.

[00:12:29]But anyway, uh, we'll be doing that. So, we thank you for your patience as we're doing this. Um, and we are um going to actually expect you um to give.

[00:12:44]All right. I'm trying not to go to Patreon. Um I might have to take this thing underground. Still may have to go to Patreon. Um we're trying not to do subscriptions, but we may have to do that. Uh so that um you know, we can we can do right. We just keep getting stuff for free. Amen. Um, and so, um, we give you this disclaimer. Uh, you know, what we're going to, uh, give you, um, is not to substitute for, um, or to advise instead of, uh, a a physical couch.

[00:13:19]Um, it is not a substitute for medical advice or even psychological advice, even though I'm a psychologist. Uh, you're not in my office. We're bringing the office and the couch to you. were bringing a couch to you um in an unofficial capacity. So, we want you to know that some things may be a little triggering. Uh we also want you to know that we'll try to warn you um when uh we know that could be the case. So, we're just so glad to see you on um tonight um as we get this together. Please begin to spread the word. I know some people we going to lose some people cuz the brothers may not be on here. You know, almost like this is part of the pathology, ladies. You know, you're not legitimate unless you surrounded by men validating it.

[00:14:08]Uh so we expect some shifts. Um and we hope more of our brothers, we thank God for our consistent ones, uh particularly our deacon designate, Reginald Bolton.

[00:14:19]Um because we're all in this together.

[00:14:22]We're all in this together. And we need to be better for our life's assignment.

[00:14:28]We need to be better for those with whom we're in relationship with. Uh I'm working on a few things. I'm working on a book called The Rules of Relationship.

[00:14:39]Um I'm so tired of working on it till I'm getting bored. That's my Gemini nature. Getting bored with my own stuff.

[00:14:45]But we are in the editing phase. And um uh as I've been contemplating and even uh being stretched and pressured greatly um pressure sometime make you see and um I said h I need to do another book and you know the books are just the book titles are just coming uh sometime they go on my mind quick as they come but um we just need so much we just need so much um when I was with um my sister um Dr. Corleta vaugh um Apostle Corleta vaugh um last week uh week before last now uh during Pentecost week uh she cautioned the people as I got got up to teach she said I'm putting her first because we need um uh grounding and we need correction and she said bad doctrine has got a chokeold on us bad doctrine and we need correction and something she said that was profound to me, probably simple to y'all, but it was a little profoundity to me. Um, she announced to the people, don't don't jerk, you know, don't knee-jerk response. Don't get offended because something doesn't sound right to you. Uh, listen all the way out. And, you know, and um, she said because uh, one of the areas that's hurting us is, thank you, Tracy, for giving. Thank you, precious. Um, one of the areas that's hurting us, she said there is a gap. This this was revelation. There is a gap uh with our people between this church and this this scholarship. There's a gap. And she said this woman is a scholar, you know, and what we need is scholars.

[00:16:33]What we need is uh academicians that can do the research, who have the apostolic revelation and insight and who who can hear what God is saying and who have the knowledge and the intellect and the scholarship to bring us greater truths than what we are used to. She said, "There's a gap there, and that gap is hurting us." And so, you know, I'm going to try to man the gap.

[00:17:05]That thing almost took me somewhere. I'm going to try to man the gap um and bring that to us. Amen. Amen. Uh so, here we go. Uh let's see who else we got tonight. All right. Carol Sanders. Amen.

[00:17:20]I mean, Elder Vicki, God bless you. Um, we'll see. We'll see some of you Saturday at my my parte. Amen. Somebody just sent me. It's probably my um niece Sean sent uh little Zel. Thank you, precious. Um, I was Sharon Lane. God bless you. Amen. Uh, okay. Hey, I ain't seen you in a minute.

[00:17:42]Um, is it a Ruth or a Ruth? Uh, Samuels, haven't seen you in a minute. God bless you. Amen. Pastor Hines, blessings to you. Good evening. Amen. Our evangelist Kiana Ellis, I'm telling you, our clan family is in the house praying and fasting. Good to see you tonight. Amen.

[00:18:02]God bless you, Shante Marie again. And welcome on board. We're going to get you straight. Amen. Our you know what?

[00:18:11]And I almost picked the phone up today, but I fell off with that phone in my hand. Amen. To call you, Bishop Johnson, just to check on you. And so our bishop Michael uh Johnson is with us tonight.

[00:18:23]Amen. Clam is in the house. He says, "I'm I am Clam. I am Clam forever, Clam." Amen. Good to see you tonight, man of God. Amen. Um yeah, it's so true about that gap. It is. It is. And so we need more scholar practitioners who are uh walk in prophetic uh didactic and apostolic realms where they can tap into realms of truth. Bring it back in the scholarship and correct the narrative, enhance the narrative, restore the narrative, um deconstruct the narrative, obliterate it and rebuild another one. Amen. And that's what prophets do. Amen. Um, and so, uh, we want to we want to jump off a little bit tonight. Uh, we've been talking about, um, and you can thank Bishop, you thank Bishop a little bit, too. I just mentioned you on Sunday, Bishop um, uh, um, Bishop Michael Johnson, uh, Bishop said about three or four years ago, he said, "Apostle, we don't need the church." Now, he ain't saying throw away the whole church, but we don't need the church. We got that and we still crazy.

[00:19:37]He said, "We don't need a church. We need a couch." Amen. And so we're going to we're transitioning this from the doctors are into the sacred couch. Thank you, Bishop Johnson. Amen. Amen. Um so uh I want we've been talking about this um um resentment.

[00:19:59]I think it is unconscious. I think it is not intentional. I think it is bred. I think it is sown by discord.

[00:20:09]I think it is sown by religious um miseducation.

[00:20:16]It is sown by patriarchy and understand again uh Islam uh Judaism as we know it, Christianity, these are all patriarchal religions.

[00:20:30]They come from Abraham as though Abraham's seed alone could do something.

[00:20:35]Abraham seed couldn't do nothing. Got to have a carrier. The carrier is even dismissed. Ain't even mentioned.

[00:20:42]It's all male seed. That has it is such an anomaly.

[00:20:49]It is such an abnormality.

[00:20:53]It doesn't fit anything in the cosmos.

[00:20:56]It doesn't fit anything in uh kingdoms and species and films. It just does not.

[00:21:05]It just does not. Um Okay. Okay. All right. Thank you. All righty. Um thank you. Amen.

[00:21:16]All right. I think I said a Ruth. Did I get it right? I don't what I said. These comments are coming in so late. I I don't know. But we want to look at um and I told you all um how the Lord showed this to me and what happened um so that I could see this resentment and um I'm also working on that book um the eraser of the black woman. I'm working on it. Um and it it done drawn all kinds of warfare uh to me. Amen. God bless you Bishop Johnson. Thank you so much, honey, for giving. Amen. Amen.

[00:21:56]Givers will give, won't they, Bishop?

[00:21:58]Um, and there's a sthing resentment. Um, it is collective. It doesn't mean everyone, but it means pretty much most. We don't know what's there because it's in the unconscious.

[00:22:14]We don't know what's there because it's beneath the conscious level. Amen.

[00:22:20]Though this this this lie this lie, Apostle Tangerine, that's my baby sister. No, this is the real Jay. All right. Um there's a sthing resentment.

[00:22:31]Um we talked last week about um how many of our men will form what we call in um psychology a reaction formation where the resentment is secretly there. It's been bred for years since slavery. The it's there. Um the religion enhances it because the the scriptures become tools weaponized to oppress women and to keep them at the bottom of the hierarchy. All right. Um but this thing is unconscious.

[00:23:06]It's at an unconscious level. It's not uh people feeling it uh people seeing it, sensing it. They don't they don't know it. But we will form a what we call again um a reaction formation.

[00:23:20]And what uh um that reaction formation is it is a defense mechanism. All right.

[00:23:27]It is a defense mechanism. Freud call them ego defenses. Uh a defense uh mechanism whereby you have um an instinct or an impulse um that doesn't work for you. you know, it it it's way down up in here, you got an impulse and an instinct that morally doesn't work for you. And because of your moral upbringing, because of your religious upbringing, you can't tolerate the fact that you have this, the oppressor have it bad. They got cognitive splits and cognitive dissonance all over the place. Why many of them can't even mature. But you got this over here, but your conscious and your teaching and your value over here is against this. And so what a uh um the reaction formation is you will unconsciously transform this unacceptable thought, this unacceptable impulse, this unacceptable feeling or desire or attitude.

[00:24:35]um you will kind of transform it into the opposite the total opposite reaction. In simple terms, a person that feels one thing but expresses the exact opposite because the original feeling or the original impulse creates guilt, anxiety, shame, fear or cognitive dissonance that this internal conflict.

[00:25:00]All right, let's do a couple examples.

[00:25:02]Like a person who feels hostility towards somebody becomes excessively kind, complimentary, flattery, uh, or overprotective towards that person.

[00:25:14]Sound familiar?

[00:25:16]They feel hostility towards that person, but it ain't cool. So, they go overboard to be excessively kind, complimentary, protective towards that person. Um, I think we have reaction formation when it comes to white people. I really do. I really do. I think down in your DNA, you know our history. You know our oppression. You know our affliction. You know the injustice. You know the rapes, the robbing, the stealing, the lynching, the mobbing, the burning. You know all of it. You know all of it down in your knower. You know all of it. It ain't it ain't cool. And your Christianity or your whatever teaches you that you're not supposed to feel that way. Love everybody. forgive everybody. Let everybody off the hook. Let God deal with everybody. Let God let God I mean, you know, we got all this stuff that we do. We're taught to do that so that we won't ever retaliate black people. We won't ever demand reparations, recovery, restitution at today's market price. We won't ever do that. And so, uh, it it is conflictual, uh, with the way we've been taught to be black. Uh, Lord Jesus have mercy. That I said I said I'm I'm going to write a book, uh, and and and talk about the the whitening of black America. Lord have mercy. All right. Um, but we will go out of our way to be courteous and to protect. Um even uh sometimes when I am uh uh preaching and teaching and I start talking about our people and what's wrong with us our people are yes sir come on man if I start all you got to do is bash black people and the rest you know half of us going to get up and start shouting that pathological all right um but the moment I start talking about oppression and white injustice and white violence and Christian violence if there's one or two white people in the audience my people going to give the side eye like this and the room get real tight because they are one thing there's a fear that's bred into us. There's a fear that's bred into us. So that's part of it. The other piece of it is we want to protect their whiteness. We want to protect their feelings. This is also why um Apostle Hope um why uh critical race theory they keep trying to squish it because it's going to bother the people who ancestors and their mas and daddies are still doing it.

[00:27:56]They can't take it. And so we got to protect their whiteness. Okay? We don't have to protect the fact it's still happening to us. We got to protect the people that's doing it, you know. And so you'll see a lot of us in on that. We don't need to teach it. It's a reaction formation. Okay? Because internally we really are angry. We really if y'all tell the truth, the real truth and nothing but the truth. You will be able to admit that you just waiting for God to get them.

[00:28:26]Some of you waiting for God to get him, but you're too scared to even pray about it. And so uh we use the religious part, the moral part as a reaction against the instinct of rage, the instinct of reform, the instinct of revolt, the instinct of of retribution. Uh uh and so we we we're nice and overly protective even of our um oppressor. Here's another example. Someone who struggles with feelings of insecurity presents as overconfident, superior, and arrogant.

[00:29:07]All right?

[00:29:09]And we see this a lot also in men. It's a reaction formation.

[00:29:15]I'm insecure. And I can tell you why.

[00:29:18]Our insecurity and white male insecurity not the same insecurity or we don't have the same history. Listen, the pathology of the oppressed can't be the same pathology of the oppressor.

[00:29:31]But we take the the pathology of the oppressor because this is all we know.

[00:29:36]We were born into it and we normalize that then once we normalize it, then we begin to idolize it and we assimilate.

[00:29:46]That's pathological and in spiritual terms is a bit idolatrous. All right.

[00:29:52]Uh, okay. All right. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Uh-huh. Y'all talking.

[00:29:58]Uh-huh. Y'all talking. Uh-huh. I'm going let y'all talk, too. All right. Here's here. I'm going to give you two more. A person raised to believe that anger women is unacceptable.

[00:30:11]So, people who remember now the impulse is here, the thought is here, the attitude is here, the feeling is here.

[00:30:17]But your moral values um your conscience your beliefs say that this is unacceptable. So a person raised to believe that anger is an unacceptable impulse or instinct may appear relentlessly cheerful, relentlessly optimistic, relentlessly like heron.

[00:30:39]Okay. They are suppressing significant resentment.

[00:30:45]All right.

[00:30:48]They begin to later on describe the reaction formation as one of the ego's, not the the ego like we said, but one of the ego's ways of protecting itself from uncomfortable emotions, uncomfortable impulses. The original feeling remains unconscious. You don't see it. You don't feel it. You don't know it's there.

[00:31:09]While the opposite behavior, the reaction that is formed against that becomes visible and oftent times socially acceptable. Okay, let me let me do another one. We did this last week. Um uh uh and God knows what we did with this in Pentecostal churches um in churches in general. Um but another uh reaction formation is people who have uh what my late uh mentor Dr. Farley called latent homosexuality.

[00:31:45]It's not active. It's not conscious.

[00:31:48]It's dormant. It's latent have a latent homosexual drive urge feeling fantasies.

[00:31:56]But your culture, no. Your church, no.

[00:32:01]Uh society, well, not society no more.

[00:32:04]Uh well, society, no. That thing is so opposite that you will see people become homophobic.

[00:32:14]You will see them bashing homosexuals from the pull pit, bashing homosexuals, beating them. Uh uh and really what they doing is they are beating themselves.

[00:32:25]It's a projection and it's a reaction formation. Uh, and so you get the homophobia in all of this. Uh, am I endorsing homosexuality?

[00:32:36]I'm neither endorsing nor condemning.

[00:32:38]All right. I have my own beliefs and some of this was engineered and manufactured. Um, and some of it is traumainformed and related. Now they everything is you born that way. Amen.

[00:32:53]Uh, I had my own stuff. All right. Um, I'm not going to superimpose that on y'all, but those are reaction formations. Now that we understand that, uh, now that we understand that, um, what I've learned is that black men often have a reaction formation. They carry a deep resentment for black women. They may overcompensate that with being charming and then the next minute behind closed doors abusive.

[00:33:28]Um they may be um you see this a whole lot. Facebook has become the place to lie. Social media is the place to lie.

[00:33:38]People lie about marriages. And I know cuz I done counseledled them and kept them out of divorce court and on on on social media. Oh, this is the best thing. They are portraying the fantasy, the fanaticism of marriage, but they live in something else. Lord Jesus have mercy. They forget that that that that we done counsel some of them or we know the stuff. Um, and so they're forming this image. This is part of now narcissism. We're performing this image, this narcissistic image of this is how I look. This is how I teach. This is how I this is how I present. This is how I'm in love. This is how you know and we got all this fairy tale stuff and they living in hell with each other. Um and and so we got all of this stuff and we really don't even know what's going on inside of us. Elder Vicki, we almost and and and and it came to me last night after our talk and our prayer last night. Uh something my late bishop, my late father in the gospel, the late bishop James Ferguson Brown Jr. uh preached in the early 80s that we are past feeling. Elder Vicki, past feeling so that we no longer feel what's inside of us. Uh we can feel the anger, we can sometimes feel the rage, we can feel the sexual desire, we can feel, you know, but to actually feel many of the things that God intended human beings to feel, they have been masked. They have been suppressed. They have been pushed under.

[00:35:10]And so uh we talked about um this this resentment. Part of the resentment again comes through the teaching of patriarchal religions that place women um at the feet of men that place women uh as those who are supposed to um cater to them, cater to their sexual needs, cater to their dietary needs, cater to their emotional needs and push and uh promote their vision and their mission.

[00:35:46]Uh many times we have been taught that we are supposed to get behind the man and push the man uh uh into what God has assigned them to do as though God only assigns people with penises. Make that make sense? Or the assignment women is to take care of your man. So what do you do for those who don't have no man? if that's God's original intent is it's make it make sense. Make it make sense.

[00:36:17]All right. Um and so that's part of it.

[00:36:20]So when we when we exalt a male to godness, you know, even whoever made this up and put Paul's name on it. Um cuz we know Paul didn't write that letter. Uh but you know there's there's God like God's a dude, right? Then there's Jesus, a dude, right? Then there's the man, a dude, right? So you got all of this top part of a hierarchy based on male gonads.

[00:36:52]Male gonads.

[00:36:55]Okay.

[00:36:56]All right. Then at the bottom, then there's the woman on the bottom of the totem pole on the bottom of the scale because she does not have male gonads.

[00:37:10]All right? So, God is a dude. He has a son by himself.

[00:37:16]Although Mary had a son by herself.

[00:37:21]I ain't messing with y'all with that tonight. All right. And the women are at the bottom. And so um men identify their gender, their sex, their biological sex with a God who also has the same stuff.

[00:37:38]A Jesus who becomes God only after several years after he's no longer here. But a Jesus who becomes God and then God now becomes a male again and a white male at that. You need to go back and look at last week's we got deep with it. How even y'all's terms for your male genitalia is often the names of white males and the women's genitalia is often depicted as something in the animal kingdom.

[00:38:16]And the words we use for kitus or the words we use for intercourse are often violent.

[00:38:26]Violent. They're violent. Okay. And so how do you domesticate an animal?

[00:38:35]You take your tool white maleness, white names, and you domesticate an animal with violence and force. This is the stuff y'all talking in your bedroom. You don't even know that in your most intimate moments, you are debasing women. We And we talking the same trash cuz we've been taught. Y'all be watching at le saints of God. Amen. And otherwise, if you going to watch porn, why is you looking at white porn?

[00:39:12]Them pathological savage stuff that we look at and then we bring that into our bedrooms.

[00:39:21]And if our women don't capitulate to it, then there's an anger. And then we're taught, listen, if you don't do what you need to do in the bed, he going to get it from somewhere else. Then we teach that it is okay if you don't give me what I want. I can break covenant because I'm God. And like 47, I do what I want to. I exploit who I want to. I can't be stopped. And so this now begins to seep into the conscious and the unconscious of our men. Another reason why there's a resentment there um is because um of this discord that was sown um all the way back from slavery is okay. You giving us you forcing Christianity down our throats. You beating the spirituality out of us.

[00:40:16]You're beating the culture out of us.

[00:40:18]You're beating language out of us.

[00:40:19]You're separating families. You're raping on women. uh you putting your genes into our DNA and our babies. Come on. You're doing all of this and um you know the women try to keep the children from being sold. They holling and screaming and and you know when the husbands are being pulled away. Um and when oh Lord Apostle Apostle fell out and and when um um uh our men were getting beat and whipped, we hollering and screaming and they snatching us and pulling us and you know they're there when the white men are raping our women and they cannot stop them. they cannot do anything because then they're going to get lynched. Um, and so this fight ni flight, freeze or fawn response is a response to danger, is a response to trauma. It is instinctive. It is in every animal. It's in every animal. It's nothing new to us. Um, and so our men would have to be there. And here's another woman that another reason that white women uh historically have uh uh resented black women is because their men raped us. Now this is to according to my late mentor Dr. Florence Farley say their own men don't think they nothing. Uh and the reaction formation is to make them princes. They ain't nothing. They raped the people that they call three-fifths of a human. They raped our women many times with our men um on site, but their their wives were in the house while they were brutally raping black women cuz they not like us.

[00:42:11]I'm sorry, this stuff ain't quite the same.

[00:42:15]All right. Um and so that paralyzing fear now is changing uh the neurological pathways of the brain. is changing um how DNA is expressed. Um they're changing um Hey there, God bless you. Um bless you, Clinton Lane. Good to see you tonight, man of God. Amen. Amen. Um there it it changed things. And so they're helpless and hopeless to do anything about our lynching, about our beating. They didn't just beat men, people. That's part of the patriarchy.

[00:42:52]That's part of the lie. It ain't just police brutality on black males. That's part of the lie, the misorientation, the disorientation. That is part of uh part and parcel to what they have fed us. And we have bought it hook, line, and sinker. There is police brutality on black women. There is sexual assault on black women, even in the backs of uh police cars. There's sexual assaults in the jail. What are y'all talking about?

[00:43:22]You think they just hung black men, they hung black women, they hung black children. Are you understanding this?

[00:43:28]There is no uh uh there is no hierarchy of suffering. Um this is um uh the black males cry that the black females got it better, they get better jobs. Well, look at the the education rate. Look at the advanced degree rate of black women. The other thing is you hire black women because they have a work ethic that follows them all the way from slavery.

[00:43:55]They got a work ethic. All right. Um uh even their men, our men had to watch as we breastfed the baby. Uh uh uh sometimes our baby was second. We had to breastfeed. It's called wet nursing.

[00:44:09]Look it up. I'm not making up anything.

[00:44:11]We had to wet nurse white babies because after they would have they little different, you know, babies. Many times they would go into postpartum depression. They couldn't produce milk.

[00:44:27]They couldn't, they didn't even understand the pathology of the tension and the hatred and the stuff in their own house, how it even affected their fetuses. All right? And we would actually have white babies on black tits. Come on. Sometimes you have one on one and one on the other. And if the left one produced more milk, ladies, you know, most of us that the left breast is larger near the heart. Uh but if that produced more milk, we would have to put the white baby on the one that produces more milk and our babies would get less or sometimes we would have to to to feed them first. And our men have to watch this and can't do anything about it. And so uh something begins to develop here.

[00:45:10]Uh is this kind of making sense? Is it making sense a little bit to you? Okay.

[00:45:15]Um listen to it now. Listen. So now this thing is in the DNA. Okay. We talk about epigenetics. It means that we are finding out now that even traumatic words, traumatic memories are are recorded in the DNA and it is passed down epigenetically through the bloodline.

[00:45:37]So in all of our DNA is memory. Some of it is scarred memory. Some of it is sacred memory. Much of it is ancestral memory because they passed down their genetics and their DNA and the material to you. This is why Dr. Cindy Trim says your issues are in your tissues. what's wrong with you physically will really reveal a whole lot. Not of just what's going on around us or what is happening uh as we are in inflation and oppression and all of the stuff that they're putting in the foods and all of the the the drugs they keep making us sicker and sicker and changing uh the medical standards for what is abnormal. um you know like they did with the with with the blood sugar you know uh if you had 61 62 63 you were okay you had maybe 6'4 to 70 you were pre-diabetic 70 you're diabetic and your A1C now they done took it all the way down to 5 something why so they can push pharmaceutical push push push push pharmaceuticals all of that's real but it is coupling it is it is married to what's in the genome what's in your DNA and So that fear uh that freeze response that if I do something this is going to happen to me.

[00:46:59]If I protect him you you know and so if I protect her this is going to happen to me. And so a lot of it is still there.

[00:47:09]It is suppressed. So that that thing let me let me let me do it this way. That thing is there right?

[00:47:17]uh because I I feel I feel insecure about it. I feel ineffective at it. I don't feel powerful enough. I don't feel this enough uh to handle this woman's greatness. Lord have mercy. To handle her God assignment. Cuz we've been trained again that the God assignment of the woman is the man. That ain't no no ma'am. No sir. No ma'am. No sir. No ma'am. No sir. As we wouldn't have had no souljourn truth, we wouldn't had no shotgun Mary. We wouldn't had no uh uh Harriet Tubman with her apostolic exploits uh called black Moses. The first Moses was black. Stop lying. Okay.

[00:48:01]Went no Charlton Dag on H. You know, so we have all of these women uh uh uh even the women in hidden figures. The our women have with withtood and withheld everything. We're holding everything up at the bottom. Come on. And so, uh, men are here because they're next to God.

[00:48:22]And so, if you don't have that, you don't have power. All of this stuff is is incorporated, uh, very often into the male psyche. And understand also that when women uh, want to be accepted, the same way when black folks want to be accepted by white folks, they assimilate and they take on the oppression. It's called internalized oppression. They internalize that oppression. They assimilate into that system and that makes them good wives.

[00:48:53]That makes them good mothers. That makes them good lovers. That makes them good workers and assistants. Uh but it also they begin to weaponize scripture, weaponize culture against other powerful women.

[00:49:08]All right. People calling folks Jezebel the most probably is other women.

[00:49:14]cuz they got that from somebody who wrote a book about Jezebel Allison and made a whole lot of money off some bad exesus of the scripture. All right.

[00:49:24]Um, understand also uh uh Darin, you can either way, baby. Uh but understand also um that that um the way women are portrayed from Genesis to maps almost every woman in that Bible is portrayed with some kind of flaw and even women are blamed for the fall of humanity.

[00:49:50]Now if a woman can make a whole humanity fall, please tell me this. How in the world is somebody so weak, such a weak vessel, so inferior, so this and so that, how in the world does she have the power alone uh through enticement and seduction uh to make humanity fall? It doesn't fit. Lord have mercy. It doesn't even fit. It it it doesn't even fit. It doesn't fit. It doesn't fit. And so um this um uh resentment now is fostered and bolstered by making men equal or certainly um the same as God because of their gonads.

[00:50:38]They're higher in the hierarchy.

[00:50:41]However, they don't have no God skills.

[00:50:46]We don't have to teach them God's skills. They're men. You heard this saying, "Boys will be boys. Let them off the hook." Do you ever hear girls will be girls? No. No. Do you hear uh black women? And maybe this is part of a sisterhood. I don't know. Um it unnerves me a little bit. Um especially when you don't know me like that. But girl, let me tell you, girl, you know, Apostle uh um I I have a lot of people uh you know, cuz I be, you know, I'm just kind of regular, like kind of sort of regular, you know, and I'll be cutting up and cutting the food and whatever. Uh and my field of energy is very open. It's very big and it's expansive. It's very open.

[00:51:28]And so, you know, the women will get very comfortable with child, girl, they come shake my hand. I'm telling you, woman of God, you preach girl, girl. But I don't hear a whole lot of them, a whole lot of men saying, "Boy, boy, boy, boy." Because see the difference? It's everywhere. It's in the sex. It's in the bedroom. It's in the Bible. It's in the courtroom. It's in the school room. It's in the uh uh corporate America room. Uh all of this stuff. So, it comes from everywhere. But we don't give you God's skills. And so this is a fact. Women typically mature. This is across the board. This ain't black women. Women mature quicker than men. Women mature emotionally quicker than men. Uh women tend to this not every but women tend to develop uh uh vocabulary to develop articulation uh skills faster than boys. Women tend to use more words to describe things more than men.

[00:52:32]women had this is ain't no it just is.

[00:52:34]Dr. Brown said women are smarter than men.

[00:52:38]I don't know. Uh that's my elder. I'mma leave that out there. But in terms of emotional and relational intelligence, women soar at that. Um and black women soar at that. All right. So you have the God position and the God authority and the God uh privilege, but you don't have the God skill. You don't have the God psychological and emotional maturity.

[00:53:09]You don't You got the You got the God anointing, but we ain't got the God mentality.

[00:53:19]And so we see the discernment of women, the intuition of women. That's that feminine energy. Uh the prophetic insight of women. We a woman just know can walk in a room and a woman just know they ain't got to be saved. She they ain't got to be saved. No, it's that feminine energy that emits from the divine feminine. And uh as Carlton Pearson told me, you wear your masculinity. Well, I told y'all I was like, "Um, Bishop, what you try?" I thought trying to call me little butch or something. I ain't know what he was saying. The Holy Ghost said, "Shut your mouth. You don't know what that man talking about."

[00:53:57]And as they begin to explain uh these uh masculine energies and feminine energies and characteristics that make up the fullness of the divine, the fullness of God, the cosmic balance, the spiritual balance, he says you walk with very heavy authority, heavy knowledge, revelation is feminine, insight is feminine. You see that even the prophetic flows on a feminine frequency just as a frequency. Uh wisdom as we saw um in the scripture is personified as she you know. So you have these structures uh sometimes male uh uh this uh loia or logos or bringing thought into word um is considered maleness you know. So we have all these different pieces but we are taught to suppress that part of God and men are taught to suppress the feminine part of God. My bishop taught in the 80s is like prago is all in there. All of it came out of the one. So the one is in all of it. Lord have mercy. All right if that's making a little bit of sense. Yeah. Some of y'all may be pulling back on that but it's okay. Uh so so now we haven't given you the God skill and we know this this this this women across the board, black women probably at the front of it that women are t or tend to be more spiritual and more spiritually in tune. All right.

[00:55:41]So if you have to if you're God, but many of the women are carrying the some of the things that we attribute to God, then if you're in the position of authority, but they're in a spiritual position, you have to resent that they have what you do not.

[00:56:07]And you have to control them in their ability to carry what you don't carry.

[00:56:13]And that division right there is killing us. When a woman's femininity becomes toxic because of trauma, because of sexism, and we're at the intersectionality of racism and sexism.

[00:56:29]So, we are twice oppressed. But ain't nobody really talking about that because again, even the suffering uh of of black people, of oppressed people, is the suffering is male. All right? You don't even hear nothing about women. We're just not even there. Okay? So, you have a reality you see working in this woman, but your everything at a conscious level says, "I'm the head of the house. I'm the priest of my house. I'm the all of this stuff of my house, but she carrying something different.

[00:57:09]Then either you're going to unhealthily submit to it. All right.

[00:57:18]Whether she healthy or not with hers, and we just call that hack. That ain't healthy.

[00:57:24]It's a way of kind of letting her have her way to keep peace. That's not peace, brother. If you can't be who God made you, if you can't excel um in your own greatness, if you can't learn to be comfortable in your own skin, and you can't be equal in your own house, that ain't healthy.

[00:57:45]It's just as unhealthy as you dominating women in your house. It's unhealthy. So, we choose these opposites. All right. Is this kind of helping a little bit? I'm trying to explain it. This is look this is the sacred couch y'all. This is the couch. This is the couch. All right.

[00:58:03]And so many times uh because again now this is a reaction formation then. Now I envy and resent you because you're carrying something that I'm supposed to carry because I'm closer to God than you. I am in the image and likeness of God and you're an addition.

[00:58:22]You're a help meat. All right. um that resentment is there. Um our ability to be resilient even after all of it is there. Um one of the things that happens um men when we have children um whether we married or not when we have children um and the relationship doesn't work out. Okay? because we're both power tripping.

[00:58:49]Uh trying to get our needs met rather than trying to supply need rather than trying to put put this out. Supply so I can receive. All right. All right. So that I can give so that I can freely receive. Most of us work in opposite pattern against nature. Um we believe that um uh the woman is the giver. That that don't even make sense. You don't even have an apparatus between your legs to give nothing. You can't give woman until you receive and what you push back out is a combination of you and what you have received. So could it be sometime, brethren, that some of the stuff that we're getting back from the women is seed that we've seown into them. Yet we give me some, give me some. I got that.

[00:59:40]I hit that. I, you know, I smashed that.

[00:59:43]I slammed that. I totally all of this violence.

[00:59:49]You don't even know that you're reducing, as my spiritual dad says, the Dr. John W. Kenny, you're reducing your woman to a zero. Um, and then when you are insecure and frightened and fearful, now you must blow her up to be your protector. Black women have always been a protector of black men. This is why uh many times we don't report um rape, we don't report molestation, we don't report date rape, we don't report um abuse, we don't rep we don't report it because we already know what the system going to do to you. And so we don't we don't we don't we want the children to have a daddy. We don't. And because we don't, we keep on doing and perpetuating this division. Okay? And many times what happens um is that when that relationship breaks up because we're not trying to sew into the needs um the healthy needs, you don't sow to unhealthy needs cuz you're going to get unhealthy fruit. Okay? And we don't want bad behavior because you're going to get more of it. You're going to keep positively reinforcing the bad of it.

[01:01:05]But uh uh more of it but this this kind of um my needs my needs my needs my needs and women are taught to try to supply those needs and but when they don't get the return well you know uh uh I was um uh counseling a couple. This is when I pastored. I was counseling a couple and um on the outside they just looked ideal. You know two kids, a nice house. uh you know uh he's working on his own and she's working in corporate America um the ideal and I stopped her one day I walked past her and I said God said whatever you're doing don't do it she was like apostle what you said what God says whatever you're do getting ready to do don't do it and she was like oh my god and she said I was on my way to divorce court I can't take it another day I said let me explain to you let me explain to you um your kids and all of that. You're the only estrogen in that house.

[01:02:09]That's why you're on your way. You're the only estrogen and estrogen is supposed to cater to them boys, cater to that man, cater to this and cater to that. When I begin to um counsel them, he was like, I don't I don't understand.

[01:02:21]You know, I I put rose petals in her bath water and you know, she took a bath and got out and just said thanks and got in the bed. at me. I said, "Oh, you was expecting something." Mhm. All right.

[01:02:35]Um, you know, I bring her flowers and, you know, she say thanks or whatever, kiss me, but it's some I don't know. I mean, you can't satisfy her. That is a black female negative trope. It is a stereotype.

[01:02:51]Okay. How do you know? How do you know number one that your wife likes flowers?

[01:03:01]When she come home, is your room clean?

[01:03:05]Well, you know, no. I try to pick up behind myself. Most of the time, you know, she do whatever. She wash. Okay.

[01:03:11]She work longer hours than you. I understand. See, he was bringing her things because the model was things, gifts is going to make up for what I emotionally cannot will not give you.

[01:03:33]I don't trust you to be vulnerable to you.

[01:03:38]Because as a male child, my vulnerability was stomped on. My vulnerability was frowned upon. Suck it up. Be a man. You seven. You the man of the house now. Your daddy gone. What?

[01:03:53]I'm seven. What the heck you talking about?

[01:03:57]Man up. The all this stuff that we teach you not to even be human. And so you learn to push it, stuff it, suppress it.

[01:04:07]We beating you on do black people. We beating the up Jesus out your hind pots and say shack that noise UP FOR I GIVE YOU SOME more ma'am you're beating the blood out of me sir you uh tear my tail get out of here and so we've been taught you know plus they ain't want nobody hear us holling so they wouldn't call the people all right u so we've been taught to suppress to repress to hold back to not be vulnerable and so how much appreciation do you show her for number one having your babies, for messing her body up, for sex she may not even have enjoyed.

[01:04:48]How much do you appreciate the stretch marks on her or the fact that that her cervix is not quite the same anymore or her hormonals are shifting? How often do you show her appreciation, honor, respect of her opinion, her insights, her genius.

[01:05:13]We're taught to affirm you. Y'all are taught to affirm us because we're emotionally jacked up. Here's the bottom line.

[01:05:23]All of us after 400 years of oppression are jacked up.

[01:05:31]These things are taught to us to divide us to keep your strongest points your weakness.

[01:05:44]The strongest point of the family is not the father.

[01:05:52]It's the one that brought life here out of eternity into time.

[01:05:57]It's the one who carried and reproduced and almost at the point of death pushed a whole human being.

[01:06:08]A whole cow if that's the species. A whole elephant if that's the species.

[01:06:14]Again, this is no curse. All mammals holl and scream when they put the Don't bleed this hype.

[01:06:22]If it's a curse, then every female species that's got to push something out of her body of her own kind would then also be cursed. That's part of the weaponization. And so there's a resentment and then the women will begin to resent that they have to play the role in order not to be slammed. They got to play the role in order not to look like the stereotype. They got to play the role. Uh, and you know, some of them I I love him. He doing real good with his money. But all this diary of a mad black woman, okay? Uh, uh, black women are angry. You dag on freaking right. Black people are angry. But it's a reaction formation. We can't afford to express it because it's taboo. Males can express aggression because we tell you that's natural. Okay. Mess with a lioness cub in the go to go to Africa. I ain't talking about no jungle. We ain't in no jungle and all that stuff. But mess with a lion's cub and see what you get. Mess with a bird's nest and certain type of birds. See what you get.

[01:07:33]It's this separation and division.

[01:07:37]It's not even natural. All of us, all of us are protective. Mess with my mama. See what you get.

[01:07:51]Now that my daddy is, you know, uh, older and frail, mess with my daddy.

[01:07:57]My brother tell you say, "Now, Re would fight before I would.

[01:08:01]Re fight better than My mama taught me how to fight. Re fight better than I do. Boy, you ain't take care of your sister. Why? Boy, you ain't you you you you ain't protect your sister. She out there fighting. She was beating the man. Mom, she you know, I was like, why? But why should I have to what even on listen even on platforms usually I'm the only female in this men and they be like watch them watch she going to take them down she going to take them down this is not a contest I'm not here to take them down I'm here to collaborate here to communicate here to to cognitively copulate come on and to produce something to bring a balance but it's almost like a show it's like sport, you know, watch what she do. I shouldn't have to.

[01:08:54]I shouldn't have to. And so now we've got this resentment even of ourselves because we have to play the role to keep from being stereotyped, to keep from being labeled. We have to play the role to keep from being victimized. We have to play the role. And then we angry at other people who ain't playing a role.

[01:09:16]See, the division continues to just spread and spread and spread and spread until we almost don't know. Um, uh, I'mma put this one up. We almost don't know how divided we are.

[01:09:36]And because it's not cool to feel that resentment, we either go overboard or we have these narcissistic fits of rage.

[01:09:49]Whenever that ego is challenged or that authority is challenged or or we hit a trigger and we don't know it's your trigger cuz you don't talk.

[01:10:02]Don't worry, there's women who don't talk.

[01:10:05]They don't talk because it's not been safe to do so. Men don't talk because they've been taught not to do so. Oh, but they talk to each other. Some of them talk worse than women. And y'all know I'm right. Y'all know I'm right. Um and so, you know, we're kind of killing it. Thank you, Precious. We're kind of killing each other softly.

[01:10:29]Come on, Roberto. Killing us softly.

[01:10:33]The division is killing us softly. It's bred into us. Um um and we have shown that historically. Uh we are showing that biblically. We're showing that culturally. Um we are showing that psychologically.

[01:10:52]Uh we are showing it uh religiously and spiritually.

[01:10:58]Okay. I want us to um I said I was going to do this last um week, but I want us, you know, some people say, "Well, this this this ain't this ain't real. This is fake." Or whatever. It don't make no difference. Uh half the stuff you're reading um in your scripture is not literal.

[01:11:14]Okay? Um I'm not going to do all of it. I want to do some of it.

[01:11:24]Uh so we can see um where some of this comes from or again um how um they do it. Okay.

[01:11:36]All righty. Uh all right. um you know to just kind of see um I want to pull some pieces of it.

[01:12:05]Okay.

[01:12:09]you know. So, this is um a part of um the Willie Lynch letter. Sometimes it won't even let you it it'll keep trying not to give it to you um because they talked about the authenticity. But again, uh we know six other pastoral letters, many of the pastoral letters and six other letters attributed to Paul was not authentic.

[01:12:36]Okay? So, um, let's not go there, people. That's not real. All right. Half of what you're reading, um, is not real.

[01:12:44]So, we want I'm trying to pull up a piece of it so you can see, um, you can see where some of this comes from.

[01:12:56]Okay.

[01:13:02]Uh, okay. Yes. Try not to give it to me.

[01:13:07]U but I'm going to give y'all a piece of it. Some of it I know by heart. Let's try not to uh do it. All right.

[01:13:16]So, um part one of it of this Willie Lynch letter um the Willy Lynch uh is purported to um address slave owners concerning how they're going to control their [ __ ] All right. Um he argues that physical force alone is expensive.

[01:13:39]Um the lynching is good for evoking fear, but you're actually losing money and property. Okay, that still didn't stop him. All right. Um he argues that physical force alone is expensive and it is inefficient. Instead, he proposes a psychological system. All right. So now we got a physical fear system that changes the neurological pathways that keeps cortisol um you know producing in your body that keeps your adrenaline or your epinephrine up and all of this right. Um he says but now we need to we we we got stuff in the laws we got stuff in the land. We got stuff in the lies. Now we need to put something in their heads. So he proposes this psychological system that will cause the slaves to police themselves and to police one another to guard themselves from one another and to look at others with hypervigilance and suspicion post-traumatic stress disorder or joy deg post-traumatic slave disease. According to the document, the key to long-term control is not just whips or knees on necks or the use of weapons or nooes or the use of your penile tool as a method of domesticating an animal.

[01:15:18]The key is to conditioning the mind.

[01:15:21]So Willie Lynch or whoever wrote this argues that enslaved people can be taught if they can be taught to distrust one another, to compete with one another, to fear one another, to distrust one another. They will become easier to control than through direct violence alone. Not instead of. All right. The letter repeatedly emphasizes psychological control is more powerful and enduring than physical domination.

[01:16:02]We kind of know this. This is why we're getting a whole lot of stuff now um about all this violence against black women. The violence is there, but the emotional abuse, emotional abuse um and I talked about this on um unfiltered um on Roland Martin's platform. Um the emotional abuse starts with words, starts with gaslighting, starts with um uh uh diminishing you, making you doubt that you see as you see and you feel as you feel and you discern as you discern.

[01:16:41]Uh that's gaslighting. Uh it it starts um with the name calling. It starts with emotional abandonment. Uh sometimes by physical abandonment uh And let me circle back cuz I remember talking about a lot of time when the man leaves and the women that the kids stay with the children, the men get very very resentful and swear out that that woman is poisoning the children against them.

[01:17:08]Sometimes they do. Most often they don't. They want the children to have a relationship with their father but on a respectful balanced level. Sometimes do they use the children as control? Sure they do. They lose use children as control. They use coochie as control.

[01:17:27]Come on. Sometime they do. But more often than not they are not poisoning their children. That is a man projecting his guilt. He can't handle his guilt.

[01:17:40]And so he's got to project that guilt.

[01:17:43]He can't handle it. He project that guilt onto the woman and then begin to demonize the woman. And then when he puts that seed in her or in them children and then she gives that baby, she gives that uh uh harvest back to him. Remember now, you reap what you sow and you reap where you sow. All right. I wanted to put that back in there. Uh all right. And we only got a few minutes.

[01:18:10]But this whole thing of dividing and conquer, they know that proper conditioning once it is established, future generations will maintain that same system. All right. Here is part of uh the most famous part that we see a lot. All right. Uh what you do is you divide like this based on multiple factors. You divide age, old against the young. This chicken has come home to roost. The intergenerational divide among black people looks like it's almost unhealable.

[01:18:48]But there is a remedy.

[01:18:51]Skin color, light against dark. I'm still dealing with that stuff. Like, ma'am, you don't have to uh grab your husband when I'm talking. I don't want your man. I mean I mean just crazy stuff. Oh, she thinks she this. Oh, she pretty to be black. What do you mean pretty to be black? Black is beautiful.

[01:19:09]I I It just, you know, that colorism still is among us. Girl, don't you marry no don't marry no black man cuz you don't want no black children. Uh honey, uh uh you need to get you a lighter woman cuz you don't want your children dark. I mean, all kinds of stuff. A lot of it was to protect. But the colorism, uh the color line, uh uh Spike Lee did it best. All right. Uh the gender the gender compartment male against female not female against male. Male against female that's the order. Okay.

[01:19:49]Status house servants against field servants. House [ __ ] field [ __ ] And a lot of time the house [ __ ] was uh sometimes like her because they were the results of rape. They even called them ulatto, a mule. A mule. Lord Jesus have mercy. Um, intelligence and skill, the educated against the uneducated. Now the church is doing that. I don't care how many degrees you got. I don't care. And your education don't mean you anoint it.

[01:20:22]All kind of old dumb stuff. Don't get mad cuz people chose to go and and and enhance their gifts. Don't get angry. We used to not be angry about that. We used to celebrate that. Now we got a problem with preachers having education. Lord, now you got the doc the the the ed the the the the all these D's and the PhDs and the D men's and the honorary doctorates and the doctorates from unacredited schools. Now we fighting over that. Okay. It is what it is. Don't try to play like you got something that you don't when you ain't done the same kind of work. Just stop it. All right.

[01:20:58]And it it it if if we could enhance each other, we could all grow better together. Physical characteristics, the strong uh pit them against the weak. All right? And so these this letter argues that if these divisions are carefully cultivated, carefully managed and skillfully separated, solidarity among negroes will weaken and collective resistance will become least likely.

[01:21:33]All right? And the letter places special emphasis on separating black men and black women psychologically, emotionally, and spiritually.

[01:21:49]It suggests that weakening trust and weakening cooperation and weakening collaboration and balance between them so that each group becomes suspicious of the other. Willy Lynch then argues that people who are divided expend their energy competing internally within the group rather than challenging the system that oppresses them.

[01:22:23]And I'm seeing more and more posts go up where people are say are saying, "Why don't we stop fighting each other? Y'all ain't gonna fight who fought you. You ain't gonna fight what's coming against you. Too scared to do it because of their history of violence, of savagery, of barbaric behavior.

[01:22:47]So, we ain't going to fight them cuz we know the system is against us.

[01:22:52]We going to fight each other and displace that aggression onto the weaker vessel because we think the weaker vessel is going to take it or we will try to destroy dragging our preachers and our prophets. We'll try to destroy them to make ourselves look like good Christians.

[01:23:14]As I heard one African Zulu sage say, Bishop Johnson, the more Christian you become, the more European you become.

[01:23:25]The more European you become, the more divided you you become.

[01:23:31]You heard it.

[01:23:33]United we stand, divided we fall.

[01:23:37]You heard it in the teachings of Yeshua.

[01:23:40]A house divided against itself cannot stand.

[01:23:48]Well, you have been watching.

[01:23:51]Not the doctors are in, but the doctor is in. You've been watching the sacred couch. Amen. Again, we appreciate your patience. Um, as we transition this, I thank all of you uh who are giving and who are beginning to give. Um, we thank God uh for a few new faces um that we haven't seen before. Amen. I don't think I've seen you before, Dorothy Parker, but welcome. Amen. Um uh so I want to I want to get into a little bit more of this next week. All right. get into a little bit more of this next week and kind of, you know, hone in just a little bit deeper into how deep the resentment runs, what it looks like and some things we can do to begin to bring balance intra psychically. And trauma means within.

[01:24:51]So that we have interdependence and interconnectiveness.

[01:24:57]Inter means between. If we can ever become whole within, then we can be uh whole in relationships. We can allow relationships to grow and mature us, challenge and stretch us. And we can also be beneficial to others growth and development and to their assignment because we are giving.

[01:25:27]Our goal in life is not to get get.

[01:25:31]Our objective is to give. The principle is that we receive.

[01:25:39]Freely you receive, freely you give.

[01:25:42]It's a cycle. If we could learn to do that and learn to trust each other and be willing to admit women, we ain't together as we used to be. You can't keep taking the abuse and the eraser and it not affect us. So being hypers spiritual and overly deep doesn't undo it. Men, it's okay to say, "I feel insecure cuz I ain't have nowhere to get it from, get security from." It's okay to say, "I need help."

[01:26:18]It's okay to be transparent and vulnerable.

[01:26:24]It builds trust.

[01:26:26]It's okay to let her lead when she got it, and it's okay for you to lead when you got it.

[01:26:34]We must learn the concept of mutuality and mutual submission.

[01:26:40]This has been the sacred couch.

[01:26:46]We hope you have gleaned something and gained something. We're going a little deeper in this Willie Lynch concept and construct and we'll see whether it was an actual dude named Willie Lynch or whether somebody just got the revelation just like your people that were inspired by something to write what you hold in your hand is sacred in your 66 books.

[01:27:14]We'll see you next week. Uh, I can't wait for y'all who are coming to my birthday celebration. We'll see some of you on Saturday. Um, again, this is 65:45.

[01:27:25]Um, and my birthday is actually Monday.

[01:27:28]Um, but we will see uh you on um unscripted on Sunday if the Lord says the same. Y'all pray for me. Pray for me and let's pray for each other. I'm so serious. Women, I know we pray for these men. No, no. Why don't you start praying for the women? Women, pray for the women. Don't stop praying for the brothers. Brothers, pray for the women.

[01:27:58]And don't you stop praying for the brothers. We need one another.

[01:28:04]All right.

[01:28:05]Each man as my brother, each woman as my sister, each person as my friend. See you next.