Why the Narcissist comes back after no contact

[00:00:01]By popular demand, this is what you guys are going to get.

[00:00:09]You guys have a lot of questions regarding why your ex probably narcissist has come back all of a sudden started talking to you once again.

[00:00:19]So, I'm going to answer this in German.

[00:00:24]Basically, bro, if you were ever with somebody and it ended and it ended kind of bad, if not very bad, unfairly, like that's probably the best word I could say.

[00:00:38]It ended in an unfair way, right?

[00:00:44]And then they have the nerve to come back. Whether it's a month, whether it's 6 months, a year, couple years.

[00:00:53]They have the nerve to come back. So, what do you think is going to happen?

[00:01:07]You think it's going to be good?

[00:01:09]That's my question to you. Like, the fact that you're all pumped up about your ex coming back, do you think this is going to be good?

[00:01:18]Do you really think that?

[00:01:20]You think it's going to be good?

[00:01:23]You think this is a good idea? You think her coming back is going to be something magic and you guys were supposed to be together all along?

[00:01:35]I hate to break it to you fellas, but >> [snorts] >> they're coming back to see if you're still as stupid as you once were or if you learned your lesson.

[00:01:44]They're coming back to see if they can take over and hijack your soul once again and put you through all that [ __ ] once again.

[00:01:51]Nothing's going to change.

[00:01:54]It happened the first time, it's going to happen again.

[00:01:59]If it If If it was meant to be, it wouldn't have happened the first time. Someone you're going to spend the rest of your life with, bro, is not going to leave you and abandon you and abuse you and manipulate you and lead you on and do all this crazy [ __ ] It's simply not going to happen. Like you just got to understand that, man.

[00:02:23]That type of stuff will not happen.

[00:02:28]A healthy person does not do that to [snorts] another human being.

[00:02:33]Not even close. So, I could never fathom doing that to another human being.

[00:02:37]To a friend, to a girl, to a family member, to anybody.

[00:02:43]I treat people how I want to be treated.

[00:02:47]I treat people fairly. I treat people with respect.

[00:02:50]I'm not going to do something that's going to hurt you or your feelings or your emotions or it's I don't even think to do something like that, bro.

[00:03:00]How could I possibly do something like that to somebody else? Why would that thought even cross my mind?

[00:03:06]To be such a [ __ ] idiot to somebody else.

[00:03:13]When it comes to the narcissist, they do have those thoughts of doing that to somebody else.

[00:03:22]Because their self-worth is so [ __ ] low, they feel the need to do that to somebody else.

[00:03:31]So, they do. And that somebody else could be yourself.

[00:03:39]So, the reason the narc the the narcissist comes back is to see if you're still as stupid as you were or if you learned something or if you're going to talk to them like it's normal and they get the the validation and the security knowing if they want to come back they can, which is abuse.

[00:03:59]You're just a clown to them, bro. That's all you are. You're just a clown.

[00:04:04]They're going to view you like a clown.

[00:04:05]Like, "Look at this guy. He's just here and available whenever I want him to be and I can leave right now and go get my back blown out by all these other dudes over here, Mr. 6'2" and 6'4" guy over here.

[00:04:17]I'm just going to go and do that and he'll just be just sitting duck waiting for me when I come back. Haha."

[00:04:23]And she's going to go do that [ __ ] She's going to leave you again. She's going to go do whatever she wants cuz you don't own her, right?

[00:04:33]But the fact these women do these things, bro, it says everything about them and nothing about yourself.

[00:04:40]But she's got to have more self-worth than that, brothers.

[00:04:48]That That type of [ __ ] cannot be going on.

[00:04:53]That is ridiculous.

[00:04:55]To allow another human being to treat you like this, it is kind of ridiculous.

[00:05:03]>> [snorts] >> If I'm talking to somebody, bro, I don't care if it's a 2-year relationship. I don't care if it's a if it's a 5-year relationship. I don't care if it's a 2-month talking stage.

[00:05:15]If that ends on bad terms, they're dead to me.

[00:05:27]Cuz I'm not I'm not the reason why this is going to end on bad terms.

[00:05:32]I'm a mature dude, but if you do something where it ends and I feel like this was unfair, I got done dirty here, you are dead to me. We're never going to be together again. And I I hate you.

[00:05:46]I'm not going to hate I don't hate anybody, all right? I don't hate anybody.

[00:05:50]Nobody.

[00:05:53]But, I want nothing to do with you, and that is that. I I don't feel nothing for you no more. You're dead to me in that kind of a way. You're not dead to me as a oh, you're dead to me cuz I'm so bitter and you're dead to me. It's not like that.

[00:06:09]It's just I can say hello to you, but the part of us that could be together, that that part is dead. We are dead.

[00:06:17]>> [snorts] >> Cuz here's the truth.

[00:06:20]If you react in a crazy kind of way like, oh, you're dead to me and all this kind of stuff, you're in your emotions.

[00:06:28]Which means what they done seriously bothered you.

[00:06:33]And you you can allow you cannot allow yourself to go to that place.

[00:06:39]You have to just kind of breathe.

[00:06:42]Like some [ __ ] happened.

[00:06:44]>> [sighs] >> It is what it is. They have their issues. I'm me. They're [ __ ] up. They have issues. It is what it is.

[00:06:53]I wouldn't treat them like that. They treated me like that. Okay.

[00:06:58]Well, you're dead to me.

[00:07:00]I'm not bitter. I'm not upset at you. It is what it is, but you are dead to me.

[00:07:05]And that's just the way it has to be.

[00:07:10]You just get me? That is the mentality, fellas.

[00:07:13]Cuz I'll guarantee you something.

[00:07:16]In today's day and age, you're going to deal with women that are going to do you dirty.

[00:07:21]Whether it is talking stage for 2 months, whether it's a relationship for 2 years, you're going to get done dirty, and you don't take these narcissistic women back in your life or vice versa. You don't take these narcissistic men back in your life who only want to use you for something. You don't do it.

[00:07:45]The difference between, bro, the difference between me and and and some men out here that might be nerks, is if I'm dealing with a woman, I don't lead her on to make her believe that I actually want to be with her and stuff just because I might want some sexual access.

[00:08:02]I am always honest with any single woman in my life that I've ever dealt with.

[00:08:06]I've always been honest. There wasn't one single woman I've ever just crossed the wrong way and a lied to and all that kind of stuff. Not one single [ __ ] time. Not one time. And I'd tell you so if I did. I have no reason not to be honest and tell you so if I ever screwed somebody over before because maybe I went through something and yeah, I did that to her, man. I would admit that. I swear to [ __ ] God. I never did it one time.

[00:08:32]I'm always honest with people I deal with. Always, bro.

[00:08:37]I don't see why it's so hard for some people to just be honest.

[00:08:45]Like I'm able to have my way in life >> [snorts] >> by being honest. I don't see why you got to lie.

[00:08:53]Now, I've I've had women that I was honest to before and things didn't end up going so well because they may have caught feelings that I didn't, but I let them know since the very very beginning I did not want nothing serious.

[00:09:07]So, I didn't lie, but eventually if you deal with a woman long enough, she is going to gain some sort of an attachment, for sure.

[00:09:16]All women are like this, bro. They can't just bang all the time. Some women can think they can be like us and just get railed by the same dude over and over and over again and not gain some attachment. They absolutely will.

[00:09:29]Absa-fucking-lutely they will.

[00:09:32]That will happen.

[00:09:35]They will get attached.

[00:09:37]>> [snorts] >> So, maybe not just from one time, but if it continues to happen, it will happen. I've never seen a girl in my life that I've ever had that kind of a thing going on with >> [clears throat] >> and uh that did not end up happening.

[00:09:58]Every single time.

[00:10:01]Here's the thing. I was honest with them.

[00:10:05]Honest since the very beginning.

[00:10:09]And yeah, things might have ended a little bit bitter because they get upset that you don't want them and >> [snorts] >> they feel "He doesn't want me." So, she feels upset, she feels angry, she feels kind of worthless, too. Which is sad cuz you didn't intend for that to happen.

[00:10:30]But the fact that you don't want her and she's attached now, I'll tell you something, boys, that does not go over well with these women at all. It never has ever not one single time has I ever have have I ever seen it where something like that went well.

[00:10:46]It goes over bad every single time. So, you got to be careful who you're dealing with at at the same time.

[00:10:55]>> [snorts] >> Women are definitely not as tough as us, either. They do [ __ ] all the time to screw us over, to lie to us and [ __ ] like this.

[00:11:03]>> [snorts] >> And uh they can't handle the the simplest little thing that doesn't go their way and they just it bends them out of shape. They'll leave the situation with you, they'll go on to a bunch of other different people, and they'll play a bunch of people and they won't be honest about it, and that's exactly what I mean. You can be an honest person with these women. The second something doesn't go their way, the way that they intended it to go, now they're going to go to others and play everybody else. They're not going to be like you and be honest. They're going to lie to everybody. They're going to play everybody. They're going to lie to everybody. They're going to be cold-hearted. They're going to be heartless.

[00:11:42]But, you didn't lie to them.

[00:11:44]You see how this works?

[00:11:46]We can be honest with them and tell the truth about everything.

[00:11:50]They will not do the same.

[00:11:52]Some women lie to dudes, bro, for a full year to be in a relationship with them.

[00:11:57]The whole time the guy be thinking he's or going all These are going the distance and you're going to be together forever.

[00:12:05]Uh it was just a year. It was just a year thing. She got what she wanted. She is out.

[00:12:12]So, you spent a whole year doing [ __ ] for her, taking her here, taking her there, buying her [ __ ] everything.

[00:12:19]Buying her flowers and then it just ends for no [ __ ] reason.

[00:12:26]>> [snorts] >> Yep. There's definitely women who do this, bro.

[00:12:33]But, anyways, I don't see a point. I don't see a scenario where you should ever take a woman back who's already done you dirty, left you, left it at that, didn't care, just gone.

[00:12:48]And wants to come back, shut the [ __ ] door.

[00:12:51]You don't got to be bitter about it. You don't got to be mad about it.

[00:12:55]Be mature about it and just shut that door. You're not welcome here. It is what it is. Not mad at you, but get out yourself.

[00:13:03]Like I'm going to do for me. You get out of yourself. I'm going to get out of myself and that's how it's going to go.

[00:13:13]>> [sighs] >> Fool me once, fool me twice, fool me three times, shame on me.

[00:13:23]Yep.

[00:13:27]That's the thing, brothers. It gets to a point where you have Someone is a dirty human being if they do you wrong the first time, but if you keep letting it happen, there comes a point where you got to take accountability for that, and it becomes your own fault for letting someone who has consistently showed you that they're not about that life.

[00:13:45]And they even lied to you. They're not about that life.

[00:13:50]Honesty goes a long way, and you're not going to find many women today who are honest. You're going to find many women today who lie and manipulate their way into getting whatever it is that they want, and they're very good at it, bro.

[00:14:01]They're very crafty. Women have so many tools today to make this [ __ ] happen, so you just got to be prepared for some crazy [ __ ] to happen.

[00:14:12]Cuz women have the tools to make all this crazy [ __ ] happen.

[00:14:16]So, be prepared.

[00:14:21]It's going to be bad. It's going to be bad.

[00:14:25]All right? They're throwing hands today, emotionally.

[00:14:29]They're trying to get in your head.

[00:14:31]They're trying to get you in your feelings. They're trying to get you upset. They're trying to knock you off your square. You just got to stay solid as a man.

[00:14:39]Push forward. Do the [ __ ] you got to do.

[00:14:43]Don't take them seriously. Don't take any of them too seriously, bro.

[00:14:47]Not one. There's no one that There's no girl that's that special where you should just take her seriously and forget.

[00:14:53]No. No.

[00:14:56]Because once you do, she's going to send you to Dagestan for 2 or 3 years, and you'll be forgetting after that.

[00:15:03]Which would be good, but we don't got to get there, you know? You don't got to go to that place.

[00:15:15]So, yeah.

[00:15:17]Bottom line, do not take a narcissist back. Do not take a woman back who has ended things like that and all of a sudden wants to come back.

[00:15:30]You have to shut that [ __ ] down like a defense on a football team. It's not happening.

[00:15:35]And if you let it happen, you're going to get annihilated.

[00:15:40]And you're going to get pissed off, bro.

[00:15:42]And you don't got to get to that place, you know?

[00:15:45]You got to be a man and stand on business.

[00:15:51]On to the next. You're going to deal with a many women in your lifetime, bro.

[00:15:54]If I can look back when I was younger, I never would have thought in a million years I would have ever dealt with as many women as I have up to this point.

[00:16:04]I really would not have saw that coming.

[00:16:09]But since they are the way they are today, that is why it is like this and it is what it is. They just can't make a choice. They can't make a decision.

[00:16:20]They're just going to not be able to make a decision until they get old and all of a sudden they're going to realize they don't have as much power and leverage. Oh, fear starts to kick in and now all of a sudden they're eager for commitment and Now they're reaching out. Now they're actually being serious.

[00:16:38]I need commitment from this guy. I need commitment from that guy. They're They're going to try here. They're going to try there. Yeah.

[00:16:43]You're You're a little desperate now, aren't you?

[00:16:47]Well, you know what? When we were younger, we could have easily just you know, intertwined with each other and communicated and and built something, but no. You had You all had to make us seem like we were the ones that are needy and [ __ ] like this. No, we just we we are logical. We as men are logical and we can see ahead of time and we understand what's important.

[00:17:08]We as men, bro, we were [ __ ] never needy. We were never needy. We're not needy people. Women aren't. We are not.

[00:17:18]It's just that women put us in a position to make it look like that, but we're just not stupid, bro. We're not stupid. We understand what's important in having a partner, a life partner in your own family and stuff like this. This is [ __ ] important. But modern women today, bro, they're so brainwashed, they just forget.

[00:17:38]And this is why they should be the ones sent to Dagestan for 2 or 3 years and forget because look what social media has done to the men.

[00:17:47]They live every day avoiding real life, just living in social media and all this kind of [ __ ] and it's like is her cooked? Like let's be real.

[00:17:59]Is her definitely cooked.

[00:18:04]But anyways, fellas, you should only be wondering why the narcissist comes wants to come back for good reasons, not not reasons as you you want this little you want me to say this little line that's going to make it seem like you got some hope, bro. There's no hope.

[00:18:28]There is no hope in this situation.

[00:18:31]Forget.

[00:18:33]Forget. It is the end.

[00:18:36]It was the end when she done you dirty like that, bro. Like that, it is the end.

[00:18:40]Your person would never do something like this.

[00:18:45]That's not your person.

[00:18:47]It was a Jezebel disguised as your person, and the devil wants you discouraged as a man to take you down.

[00:18:55]You got to remember this, bro. It's not real.

[00:18:58]The person you dealt with, they're not even real.

[00:19:01]They're not who you thought they were.

[00:19:03]You literally got deceived.

[00:19:05]Don't forget about it.

[00:19:09]I hope this answers you guys' questions.

[00:19:12]I will see you on the next video. I'm about to damn near pass out. I'm so hungry, so I got to get some [ __ ] food and some energy.

[00:19:18]I just got back before I shot a few videos here of my MMA training and I did not eat a post a post-workout meal yet, so I got to get that [ __ ] in and I got to get some energy.

[00:19:29]God bless and God bless. We'll see you all at the top.

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