Akon Says How Women Could Rule The World | Stepping Into The Shade Room

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[00:00:00]You come from a culture that um it's normalized to have multiple >> yeah. It's tradition to have multiple wives or you know, polygamy.

[00:00:11]And in the American culture, it's not Yes, it's it's not accepted. It's not as accepted, but he's living that lifestyle now. Right.

[00:00:19]>> So like what what are your your your thoughts on that?

[00:00:22]>> I applaud him for doing it because he's doing what a lot of guys wish and would want to do.

[00:00:26]>> Uh-huh. They just know how to balls to be honest with the girls that they're dealing with.

[00:00:29]>> Yeah. Every dude, I mean, think about it. They got their main chick, then they got their side chick, then they got their little jump-off. Mhm. And it's very few that's actually faithful. Like I'm being completely honest. Like men and you know, let me let me rephrase that. That's committed.

[00:00:44]Okay. Cuz men uh Just No, let me not even say that cuz it's going to create a whole another thing, but I honestly believe that men are the most faithful men on the planet.

[00:00:51]They just not committed. But don't worry about it. We got the >> Faithful to who?

[00:00:54]To their woman.

[00:00:55]>> To their homies.

[00:00:56]>> No, to their woman. Okay.

[00:00:58]Okay, let me show you the difference between faithful and committed, right?

[00:01:00]>> Okay. Okay.

[00:01:02]Men aren't committed. We're not built to be committed. We're natural breeders by nature, right?

[00:01:06]>> Okay. We populate because that's how God created us to be. So we can't be committed to one or two or three or whatever. That's not our We're not wired to be committed, but faithfulness is a something totally different. I could be with a chick and be with her forever through all the problems.

[00:01:23]>> Mhm. No matter what, I can find the the baddest chick alive and have my main chick and I'm and just I'm using this as an example. Could be in the hotel Mhm.

[00:01:32]and she bust down the door and I'm knee-deep in there and I'm a jump-off like Babe, [laughter] I don't even know her. She out of here. Like I wouldn't even know her. She means nothing to me because this is what I'm FAITHFUL TO.

[00:01:43]>> NO, WHAT?

[00:01:44]BUT JUST HEAR ME OUT.

[00:01:46]HOW MANY MEN do you know will fight for that one because of the mistake they made with something that didn't matter to them? To me >> That's faithfulness. That's make that's creating that energy to fight for it.

[00:01:56]Now, commitment we we are guilty. We're not committed. We're going to be with multiple women. That's just who we are.

[00:02:03]We can't That's nature. Nature didn't created that. We didn't create that.

[00:02:06]Otherwise, it wouldn't be a coincidence that every single woman on this planet, if they have a a problem with their spouse, it's over another woman.

[00:02:15]Think about it. Every chick that got a problem with their man is over another chick. No, not every. OKAY. 99.9%.

[00:02:22]>> [laughter] >> DO YOU THINK that's a coincidence?

[00:02:25]That ain't no coincidence. That's nature. No, I don't like that. I don't think that has >> like it because unfortunately, you never took the time to understand nature cuz if Listen, women, first of all, are the most smartest human beings on the planet.

[00:02:38]>> Uh-huh.

[00:02:39]You guys can multitask better than any anything and anybody on this world, right?

[00:02:44]>> One thing about women is that you guys know us better than we know ourselves.

[00:02:47]>> Mhm. And you outnumber us. There's 15 women for every one man on this earth.

[00:02:51]You guys have all the attributes to run the world.

[00:02:54]>> Mhm. Why don't you?

[00:02:56]Because there've been things put in our When we tried, they didn't vote.

[00:03:00]>> Who's they? The people.

[00:03:02]>> No. The men.

[00:03:03]>> No. The women. There's more women than there is men. If Even if the men If even if no man voted for a woman, you all can still vote for that woman and she will win. Yeah. The problem is two things and I promise you the moment women solve these two problems, you guys will run the world hands down. First, y'all don't stick together. Mhm.

[00:03:21]That's the the problem. That's the the main main root. You guys have to learn to stick together. The day y'all stick together, y'all going to run the world.

[00:03:28]That's number one. And number two, just learn to understand men better than we understand y'all.

[00:03:35]Y'all don't understand us, Lulu. Okay.

[00:03:38]So, explain [laughter] to me Uh-huh. how every time we y'all take us back.

[00:03:45]Who's y'all?

[00:03:47]I'm just saying the average.

[00:03:50]I but I don't I DON'T THINK >> THAT THOUGH? I DON'T think that has anything to do with a woman being a woman.

[00:03:56]>> to do with it. You know why? Because we understand you. NO.

[00:04:00]>> HOW FAR TO GO. You know how to manipulate.

[00:04:03]>> do, what to say. I think you know who to do that to, who to manipulate, who to say to.

[00:04:10]>> you know who that is? The woman.

[00:04:12]>> [laughter] >> We do know.

[00:04:14]>> Yeah, but it's not every. It's not every though. Nothing is every.

[00:04:19]I'm just talking generally.

[00:04:20]>> Right. To be fair, there is a group of women who take the same [snorts] man back 50 11 times.

[00:04:25]>> will. You know why? Because we understand that women's primary like power is emotion.

[00:04:33]So what we do, we perfect the art of emotion. Or the art of manipulation.

[00:04:38]>> No, it's not manipulation.

[00:04:40]Manipulation is is You're calling manipulation information.

[00:04:45]We don't manipulate you. WE JUST KNOW.

[00:04:47]WE LIKE INFORMATION IS POWER. SO GUESS WHAT?

[00:04:50]>> INFORMATION IS POWER. HAVE THAT information and that information is the information that you bypassed, Yeah. it makes it seem like it's manipulation because you it went over your head, but we caught it. Well, you know who I a lot of people get, you know, maybe upset with like Nick Cannon and things like that.

[00:05:08]>> Right. I don't blame him in that situation cuz he's being honest. He's being forthcoming. He's being honest and the women [clears throat] are choosing.

[00:05:17]>> upset at Nick Cannon, why? Why are they being upset?

[00:05:19]>> You know, cuz multiple multiple women, multiple children.

[00:05:23]>> more upset, the guys or the girls?

[00:05:25]I I think at this point a little bit of everyone. I think >> But if you could say the majority of that which side is more upset, you think it's more of the women upset at Nick or more of the guys that's upset at Nick?

[00:05:36]Probably the women. The women?

[00:05:38]>> Yeah.

[00:05:39]Do you think it's because they're jealous they're not in that position?

[00:05:41]No.

[00:05:43]No, what? I'm just asking. I don't know.

[00:05:46]I'm just asking.

[00:05:47]>> Absolutely not.

[00:05:47]>> Cuz you know, women got that jealous gene that they don't know how to get rid of.

[00:05:51]And I think that's the problem that holds you guys back cuz y'all would tear up the whole house.

[00:05:55]Well, I think with him, he's he's honest and he's leading with that. So in that scenario, you're giving someone the opportunity to choose. You're not You're not using emotion or or jealousy or that like they're choosing for themselves. So I think there's a certain type of woman who will do that and there's just a certain type of woman who would not.

[00:06:14]>> Right. So So the question was, why do you think more women were upset at Nick when he gave these women the option, the opportunity, and the blessing to share his life with him? You don't think it's because they're jealous of those women?

[00:06:28]>> No, I don't think it's cuz it's >> So why would they be upset?

[00:06:31]>> from what I see >> it's the assumption or the feeling of creating multiple households and not being able to be available to, you know, emotionally at least the children and, you know, things like that outside of like financially. Well, you let me hear from you cuz you have an idea.

[00:06:46]>> just ask you cuz I'm I'm Me, the reason why I ask is cuz I like to understand women better than they understand me.

[00:06:52]You I think you deal with a certain type of woman who would be jealous about that.

[00:06:56]>> No, actually not. So why do you think like that? Cuz I have to understand you to create the opportunity for jealousy not to enter into your [laughter] sphere.

[00:07:05]Okay, well, you have defended Nick in the past, right? With No, I'm not defending him. I'm just better understanding the woman on why she would be jealous. Like Like think about it.

[00:07:13]He's probably He's probably one of the most amazing fathers I've seen. Okay.

[00:07:17]Especially in the the realm that we live in, entertainment business, right? He's always there for all his children. Mhm.

[00:07:22]Like this man This man dressed up as a bunny on Easter.

[00:07:25]>> Yeah. What fathers, you know, doing that, Like There's There's fathers doing that.

[00:07:30]>> on his level. Uh-huh. You ain't going to find it. Okay. He's taking care of everyone and women.

[00:07:35]None of them are crying about nothing that they need. Mhm.

[00:07:38]They're fully supported. They're fully secured. There's no reason why any of them are upset outside of the decision that they chose to be with him knowing that he he would be shared. Uh-huh. There's no reason for them to be upset. The question is why are other women upset that these women made that decision? Mhm.

[00:07:56]Roomies, if you're upset about it, comment comment below. Jealousy is the only reason I can think of.

[00:08:02]>> I don't THINK IT'S JEALOUSY.

[00:08:03]>> HOW MANY WOMEN want to be in that position, but they can't because the Shade Room will call their ass out.

[00:08:08]>> [laughter] >> You know what I'm saying? Like think about it.

[00:08:12]I'm like what? That is hilarious. Well, I You have nine kids, right?

[00:08:16]>> nine. Seven boys and two girls.

[00:08:17]>> Seven boys, two girls. So, you are more open to creating >> are my kids. Listen, if I could have created more, I would have, but I already knew what my empire can manage and what they can handle. Like I already knew I was going to build a huge empire.

[00:08:34]So in my mind, I already knew, okay, I'm going to need this many kids to to to literally manage my empire.

[00:08:39]Mhm. I wasn't going to stop until I got my two girls cuz my two girls is who I'm depending on to take care of me when I get older. Mhm. Cuz women will always take care of daddy and boys will always take care of dad. I mean, uh mommy.

[00:08:52]That's just nature. Yeah. Cuz I every decision I make is all based on nature.

[00:08:55]So if when I get older, my boys ain't changing my diapers. They doing that.

[00:08:59][laughter] My daughters though, they going to make sure I'm good.

[00:09:02]>> Yeah. So I need to make sure that my legacy and me as a person as a human, I know that I'm going to be cared for later. So I'm not no, you know, old folks home or whatever. So I need about two girls. As far as my five I mean, my seven boys, they taking care of the empire. Mhm. They going to make sure all this is set. Everybody's assigned to some part of my legacy that they can manage and keep it moving. Okay. And when when it comes to the polygamy aspect, I want to ask you this. Have you had a harder time or easier time? Well, who have you had a harder or easier time with that that um I One One thing I can say, my life my life was a lot easier when I had multiple women surrounding me. Okay.

[00:09:40]>> It's a lot harder with just one woman.

[00:09:41]It's hard >> How many do you have now?

[00:09:44]It's I I plead the fifth cuz what I say [laughter] might incriminate me.

[00:09:50]>> [screaming] [laughter] >> SO WHAT DID HE DID DID YOU HEAR THAT? LIFE WAS HARDER, better when I had multiple.

[00:10:01]>> Yes. And how many you got now? Again, I plead the fifth cuz what I may say may incriminate me.

[00:10:06]>> [laughter] >> But so was that concept for you easier or who Who was it easier with? African women or American women? Honestly, it doesn't matter to be honest. Cuz it's all about understanding and communication is the key. Like I think most women are communicated false information walking into it. Mhm. Cuz to be honest, a lot of these cowards, they're not going to tell the girl the truth off the gate cuz they're afraid to lose them. But you can't lose what isn't yours yet. Mhm. Right? So, what happens is from the gate, from the moment you say hello, my name is such and such, that conversation should be very, very open and understood so she knows exactly if I walk into the situation, this is what I'm dealing with. This is the baggage that comes with you and give her the option or the choice to decide if that's something that she want to deal with.

[00:10:48]>> Mhm. You said before, and I quote, "In America, men think they're women and women think they're men as far as gender roles."

[00:10:55]>> Yeah. Yeah.

[00:10:56]>> expand on that a little bit? Well, I mean here it's the like America is like I don't know. The women here really want to wear the pants. Like they really want that responsibility. Mhm.

[00:11:07]And me personally, I don't know why.

[00:11:09]>> [laughter] >> Like you know what it's like to be a man and how hard it is to have to go to work, pay all the bills. Like the women in Africa, to be honest that's like like settled under this culture, they don't but go shopping, take care of the kids, and make sure that the maid or themselves make sure the house is clean.

[00:11:26]They live the most amazing life. The only hardship that they deal with is when it's time to have that baby. Yeah.

[00:11:31]And I don't know why women don't want that life here. They just really want to compete with guys. It's me, it's crazy.

[00:11:36]Well, I'm just saying, help me understand.

[00:11:40]Listen, [laughter] I'm an African woman.

[00:11:42]>> Yes, you get it.

[00:11:43]>> I like TO HAVE MY FEET UP.

[00:11:46]>> [laughter] >> I DO NOT WANT TO BE THE MAN OF THE HOUSE. ABSOLUTELY.

[00:11:50]>> think it's that they want to. I think there is just maybe haven't had haven't met a lot of people who can provide that type of lifestyle. A lot of In America, the women are the most educated, you know, the they are in a position to fend for themselves. So, a lot of the time they're not meeting men who are on the same playing field, most likely.

[00:12:13]>> the thing, like a man and a woman will never be on the same playing field.

[00:12:15]>> Yeah.

[00:12:16]It and education doesn't make you higher or more powerful than the man or the fact that you got more money don't make his responsibility towards you something that you don't that's something that you should discount. Like I think I think when it comes to women, there's a certain level of respect that has to be given to a man. The same way a man has a certain level of respect he should be able to and should give to a woman. Right? When when those boundaries are understood, then it's harmony and peace all day because there's no ego.

[00:12:47]And what what is the problem with America is that when the woman take that masculine trait, they also adapt the ego. But I don't think they're looking for it.

[00:12:55]You know what? I have another theory.

[00:12:57]Yeah. I don't know if I should say it out loud.

[00:12:59]>> Say it out loud. I'm going to say it out loud.

[00:13:01]>> [laughter] >> Yeah, I said it.

[00:13:02]I said it. Now, hopefully that their roommates don't come for me. I have a theory where in So, in African households, the man is just the provider. Like I could be a doctor and my man could be in a unemployed for like a couple months and he still has the understanding to be like the provider and and lead the house and you know, all of that stuff, right?

[00:13:24]>> Right. I have a theory like in in the American culture, unfortunately, because sometimes there's the fathers aren't always in the household, a lot of men are seeing their mothers do everything. They're seeing her be mom and dad. They're seeing her cook. They're seeing her go to work.

[00:13:40]They're seeing her >> That's to their defense cuz that's that's a real problem in America. Right?

[00:13:44]So, when they meet a woman, they're expecting women, in my mind and in theory, to be that to be what they saw their mother do, what they saw their grandma do. They're not understanding why can't we go 50/50? Why can't you go to work and still come home and clean because they saw their mother or their grandmother be that is my theory. So, I think that the women want the soft life.

[00:14:14]And but I think that sometimes the men think they're the birthday. Sometimes the men think they're >> man is the birthday. The man is not the birthday. See, that's the problem right there. What?

[00:14:26]That's the That's the problem right there. The man is If the man ain't the birthday, who's going to be the one bringing the gifts?

[00:14:32]No. I'm just saying.

[00:14:33]>> is the birthday.

[00:14:35]>> [laughter] >> Again, God created the woman Uh-huh.

[00:14:40]to be the man's support. Not the other way around.

[00:14:44]It goes back to nature again. All the problems could be solved if you just go back to nature.

[00:14:49]Just God created man first, then created a woman as his support.

[00:14:55]This is why you will never find a powerful man without a woman cuz the woman is who gives him the strength, the energy, and most times the even the knowledge for him to execute. Cuz we got the strength and we got the drive and we got the the sense of just that that that that that courage.

[00:15:11]>> But to your point, I think women are also more successful sometimes without a man. That's scientifically proven. It's all but that's a propaganda. No, it's science.

[00:15:21]>> Can I tell you something? Yeah. There's no successful woman that's alone that's happy. Oprah Winfrey She's lying LIKE A MOTHER >> [laughter] >> WOMEN DON'T KNOW HOW IT'S IT'S ALMOST LIKE A MAN CAN'T OPERATE WITHOUT HIS MUSCLE. A woman can't operate without her emotion. She needs somebody or something to give that emotion to.

[00:15:40]Otherwise, she's going to be miserable.

[00:15:42]But it doesn't always It doesn't have to be a man.

[00:15:44]>> But this is the problem again.

[00:15:46]Nature has never created an opportunity for that misinformation to be spread.

[00:15:51]Don't start THAT AFRICAN.

[00:15:53]>> [laughter] >> YOU'RE AFRICAN.

[00:15:55]THIS IS THE PROBLEM. I'M TRYING TO TELL YOU.

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