Your childhood dictates your adult traps. Don't let it.

Added: 2026-05-27

[00:00:00]So, it's just three sides of this triangle.

[00:00:02]So, when you're growing up, >> [music] >> what did that child have to do most of the time to earn and keep friends?

[00:00:09][music] So, friends is one.

[00:00:12]And then to feel safe. [music] What What did the kid have to do to feel safe? For some kids, safety was like I don't know, somebody gives me a hug at the end of the day. For some kids, it [music] was like, am I going to eat today?

[00:00:25]For some kids, it's like cracking jokes.

[00:00:27]Yeah. I'm going to crack jokes [music] and keep friends. I'm going to feel safe by becoming really loud and dominating the room. I'm going to become safe by getting really small and shrinking, so nobody notices me.

[00:00:40]Or I'm going to become safe by being hyper-vigilant because I don't know if dad drank before he got home or if he's going to start drinking when he got home.