Negging within dating

Added: 2026-06-03

[00:00:00]Hello and happy Tuesday everyone. Hope you guys are all having a fantastic start to your week. It's pretty warm here in New York. I think it was about 75 today. Very nice. I know I said I would have this wall decorated in the next video. Um I lied. I'm sorry. I haven't had it decorated. I haven't had time to decorate it yet. And all of my decorations are still over there on the floor. So just ignore that. But other than that, hope everybody has been well.

[00:00:26]I'm going to just jump right into it.

[00:00:29]I'm going to try to keep this video at 30 minutes or under. So, today I wanted to talk about a topic that I've been thinking of since I started this channel because it's something that I've experienced so many times. So many women have experienced it. And this is the only disclaimer I'll give the entire video, okay? Because I know you guys don't like disclaimers because you are all very intelligent and you always know what I mean, meaning my audience. But this can happen if you're a man, right?

[00:00:55]It can happen if you're a man. Women can do this, right? But um you have to remember this is my experience. I'm 22.

[00:01:01]I'm a woman. I date men. So for me, I'm going to be talking about when men perpetrate that this behavior in this video, right? Okay. So let's get right into it. So negging in dating. What is negging? If you've never heard this word, it's basically when somebody attempts to insult you and make you feel insecure about yourself. Okay? insecure about your looks, insecure about your personality, your interests, your career, your goals, anything, anything at all. Because people who negs, people who bully others and try to bring that insecurity out of others, they are so insecure. They are so insecure. It's painful for them. So witnessing other people be confident and be happy, right?

[00:01:44]That bothers them. Okay, so that brings us, you know, I have my book, you know, I always have it. That brings us to our first point. So, they are really insecure and that leads them to want to humble you. If you've ever been talking to a guy or been on a date with a guy who made the joke like, "Wow, like someone really needs to humble you."

[00:02:02]Start running immediately. Run on all fours if it's faster. Run in the other direction. That is insane. Nobody who likes you would ever say that to you, right? Nobody who likes you would ever think, "My god, like she's so full of herself. She's just, wow, like she needs to be humbled." No. If a guy likes you, you know, he'll be like, "Oh, you know, wow, she's, you know, very confident and cool and she really knows what she she wants out of life. I love that." You know, that's that's what somebody who truly likes you would say, right? So, if they're trying to give you the whole speech about, you know, oh my goodness, like I don't know who made your head so big. Like, you really need to be humbled, run because they are going to be the ones that uh are going to try to humble you. And you don't you don't you don't need that in your life. You know, you you came this far for what? to be humbled by somebody on hinge? I don't think so. Okay. So, um and this stems from the fact because this need to humble. They think they are so insecure that they think that, you know, you're too good for them, which if they're exhibiting this behavior, then you are too good for them. But they these people do not really live in reality, right?

[00:03:08]They're very very, like I said, insecure to the point where they do not really gauge reality as they should. So, even if you're you're actually, you know, you're you're interested in them and you're showing all the right signs, you know, maybe, and this is very common with women, you know, because typically you see couples, um, nine times out of 10 the woman is more attractive, you know, than the man. This is just a fact.

[00:03:28]Sometimes I say this and, you know, people are like, well, that means that, you know, maybe you're queer, you're a lesbian. I'm like, no, that's just a fact. Like, a lot of people say this, right? Like, that's not that that is that is a fact. Okay. But anyway, um, and it's I because I women are, you know, basically widely accepted to be the more attractive gender. I don't know why that's crazy to say. I mean, a lot of times, yeah, you see couples that are, you know, with equal attractiveness, but I've never seen it the other way around. And I don't say never a lot. I mean, never say never, but I've I've never seen it the other way around in real life, right? I'm sure there are many cases that can be quoted online, but whatever. Okay. I said I wasn't going to get into disclaimers.

[00:04:05]So, um they a lot of um guys like this, they develop this complex where if you're more attractive than them or they perceive you to be, right? I maybe, you know, technically you're on the same level, but they perceive you to be. They will think like, well, she she thinks she's too good for me, so I I have to, you know, bring her down to my level, so she'll date me. Meanwhile, the whole time you liked him and you were into him, and you weren't thinking that at all. But they are get so insecure that they convince themselves of this like fake reality that is not occurring and then they try to get ahead of that fake reality by insulting you and it's like you didn't need to do that. You know, it wasn't necessary. Okay. Um women clearly are not as vain in their choices as men are. So there's there's no need for that. Like relax. Next point. Um I see this a lot in the profiles of like dating apps and stuff. Um, I've seen it in social media posts where, you know, guys will say, "Oh, my my love language is bullying. My love language is roasting. Like, I just love like bullying and roasting you."

[00:05:08]No, you can do that with your friends, you know? I feel like if you want to shoot the [ __ ] and make fun of each other and like insult people and, you know, like say stupid jokes and make up like weird nicknames for people based on their appearance, you can go and talk to your male group of friends, right? Like, you don't need to do that with me. Like if I'm if I'm dating you, you're somebody that's that is, you know, supposed to value me and care for me and maybe even possibly love me. I mean, if that even happens today, I don't know.

[00:05:33]Sometimes, um, why would you why would you say that? Why is that funny to you?

[00:05:38]You know, why would that be funny? Um, and it's it's it's very weird. And, you know, I've ran into it a few times where they'll say something very rude and then you'll be like, "Oh my gosh, what? Like, why would you say that? Do you really think that?" And they're like, "I'm just kidding. I'm just kidding. It's how I flirt." It's like, "Oh, well, it's not how I flirt." Next. like no. Okay. Um on to the next. Um disagreeing, arguing, like disagreeing or arguing with everything you say, no matter how true it is. Um so, for example, let's say you're talking to this guy and it's your second or third date. And the first date was like fine, second date, you know, you're like, "Okay, you're at a restaurant." And um he says, "Where do you want to travel?" And you go, "Oh, I'd love to go to Paris. I've always wanted to go to France. I just think the food is, you know, so good and the culture is so beautiful and I've always been really interested and he he cuts you off. Watch out for interrupting, too. Guys who interrupt you all the time don't care about you because they don't even want to let you finish your sentence. They don't even respect you enough for that. Um, and he cuts you off and he says, "Paris isn't in France."

[00:06:40]And you're like, "What? Yes, it is." He goes, "No, it isn't. Here, let me look it up. Let me Google it." They love to Google it. guys who are like guys who do this, guys who are like really insecure and want to bully you and they're addicted to negging their romantic partners. Um, they love doing this where they you can say the sky is blue and they'll go, "Let me fact check that."

[00:06:59]It's like, "And what will you use to fact check it?" Like Google's AI assistant chat GPT perhaps. What will you use to do that? Like, you know, it's like, but the point is not that they don't know that the fact is true. They know that the fact is true. They just don't want to agree with you because they don't want you to think that you were right because then that might mean that you might get a big head and then they wouldn't be above you and then then you wouldn't doubt yourself and then where where where would they be? Uh-oh.

[00:07:26]Right? So, um and this this is this is a point that ties in. Always remember this like dating should be fun. Dating should be fun. If you're ever dating anyone and it's literally the first few meetings, like you guys don't even really know each other yet, you know, first three or four dates and you're dealing with this where he's just, you know, constantly um, you know, insulting you and he's he's constantly questioning every single thing you say, that's exhausting, right?

[00:07:51]And it's really exhausting because then you get in the habit of kind of like overexlaining yourself when you absolutely should not have to overexlain because you're anticipating you're anticipating the opposition. You're anticipating the the disagreement.

[00:08:05]You're anticipating that he's going to say um actually so you start saying like well you know um so so then instead of just having a normal conversation you're constantly on guard. You're constantly stressed out. That is not fun. That is not peaceful. That is not fun. That is not something that I would do with my free time, which is why I, you know, don't give a second thought, you know, when when I have a first date and it goes this way or I see this behavior, I just move on because, you know, it's it's not worth it. It's not. And I'm not going to be the one to gentle parent them and coach them out of it, you know.

[00:08:36]Um, and again, I mean, I said this at the beginning and I said there would be no more disclaimers, okay? I'm just going to mention because I get people who get very angry at me when I, you know, I they're like, "Oh, you're talking about men." And I'm like, "Well, I'm talking about dating. I'm a straight woman.

[00:08:51]Like, I date men, you know, like I'm I'm talking about dating. I'm not really talking, you know, about, oh, I hate all men. I never said that." Like, yes, like women can do this, too, right? Which if you're a guy and you're watching this and you're thinking, "Oh my gosh, she used to have a girlfriend like this." I bet you did. You know, both both genders can do it. It's not just men. But again, my experience, right? Remember that if you I don't know. We're getting really heated at this video. Um, okay. That's the last disclaimer. Okay, continuing on. Um, yeah, just leave. just leave if you notice signs like this. Like dating should be fun. It should be fun for you.

[00:09:20]It should be a good happy experience for you. It should not be something that's stressing you out. It should not be something where you cannot speak freely.

[00:09:26]You cannot speak your mind. You cannot be yourself around this person, this guy, because you're constantly on edge of him correcting or like attacking you again about something that you know is true. And what and and and what if it isn't true? You're not a search engine.

[00:09:41]You're allowed to get things wrong sometimes. You know, it's like I don't know. Like I've I've had that, too.

[00:09:46]Watch out for that, too. If you say something um and it's it's funny because when you look at women and men, you'll notice that um a lot of women will say, "Um, I think" and then they'll state something that's fact. But men will just say, "Oh, it's" and they'll just state something even if it's not true because that's what they were taught to do. They weren't taught to they weren't taught to um doubt themselves and speak um kind of with like a self-doubt overtone like a lot of women were. Okay? Um because a lot of my female friends will say things that are absolutely true and they'll say, "Ah, I think I'm not sure though."

[00:10:16]I'm like, "You are sure. You are sure."

[00:10:18]And you should talk like you're sure.

[00:10:19]Don't do that. Don't give them an in to you know start harassing you. Like don't. Okay. Um yeah, just just leave. It's not worth it. You can't fix it. Like don't. Okay.

[00:10:29]And if you if you do happen to be wrong about something, that was my next point where like let's say I don't even know they you know they're you're talking about I'm just gonna pick a random basketball team. I don't I'm not into sports, guys. So, um, but you know, let's say you're talking about the Lakers and he's like, "What year, you know, was the Lakers established? Do you know?" And I don't know. Let's say you think you know it, but you don't. And you say, "Uh, I think 1938." You know, again, just made up a random year. I know nothing about basketball. And, um, he immediately acts like it's the funniest thing ever. And he doesn't let it go for 20 minutes that you got that factor. I can't believe you thought that. You really thought that? I just looked it up and you're so off. That's so stupid. I can't believe you thought that. And they will hang on to tiny little mistakes you make in conversation forever and then they'll and it'll be like a joke thing and act like it's funny. It's like, well now I don't really want to talk to you at all anymore because it's like we can't even have a conversation. Whereas a normal person would have just said, uh, I actually don't know either. Let me look it up. And then, you know, a normal guy would have looked it up and then, oh, it actually says 1954.

[00:11:34]Okay. And that's it. And you gone with her evening. You know, no one cares. But if you cannot seriously make one tiny mistake without being crucified, uh-uh, leave. Find better because there is better. Okay? And it's not him. Next one. Um, oh. Um, now this doesn't mean that a guy is going to nag you. It doesn't, but it's just something that you might want to like notice and kind of pick up on because I guess it's a case where if a guy exhibits this behavior, it doesn't mean that he's going to neg. However, all guys I've went out with that uh have an addiction to negging exhibit this behavior. So, the refusal to compliment um refusal to to compliment. So, if you're um you know, if you're you're a woman, you know, you're a young woman, obviously, you are going to you're going to do your makeup, you're going to do your hair, you're going to have a nice outfit, nice shoes on, have your toes done, whatever, okay? like maintenance.

[00:12:29]You're going to look beautiful. You're going to look gorgeous. You go on a date, you know, you spend a lot of time getting ready. And typically, you know, pretty typical normal guy will um you know, see you um when you meet him for you know, the date or whatever and you know, he'll say, "Oh, like you you look nice or you look pretty or you know, "Oh, wow. I you know, I love that I love that skirt or I love your outfit or you know, whatever." I some variation of you know, a compliment based on your appearance because you took a lot of time getting ready. And traditionally, if we're talking about straight relationships, men don't. Okay. Um, and they don't spend all the extra time and money and whatever. Um, now, if he if he doesn't say it on the first date, it's not really like a big deal. You know, again, I'm not claiming to be a relationship coach. I just have good pattern recognition skills. But if you get to the second or the third one and he still hasn't said anything and and it gets to the point where, you know, cuz at that point, you might really be wondering, like, cuz, you know, men are pretty visual creatures, like, uh, does he even like me? And then you might say, and you know, I've seen a lot of women talk about doing this. Where's the second or third date? And you say, "Oh, um, you know, uh, I just I just actually put a glaze on my hair, but I don't know how it looks. I don't know if I like it.

[00:13:35]What do you think?" You know, and you you give him an opportunity because not complimenting right off the bat doesn't mean that he's like that. It doesn't mean that at all. It it could mean that he's, you know, he's he's shy. He doesn't want to bring it up first. He thinks it would be weird, right? There there are lots there's a multitude of reasons. But if you give him an opportunity and he responds to the opportunity with an insult, like you say, you know, oh, um, I just put up glaze on my hair, but you know, I don't really know. What do you think? And he goes, uh, I don't know. Looks the same to me, I guess. I don't know anything about hair.

[00:14:08]Probably doesn't like you. Cuz even a typical guy would go, "Oh, you know, it looks it looks really nice. Definitely looks shinier than when I saw you the last time." Whatever. you know, it's like, but if if he's responding with like hostility and just nonchalant and just, you know, and that's it's a big problem in Jenzi is the nonchalant Olympics, you know, don't don't entertain that. Don't just, you know, finish out the night and, you know, okay, well, you know, thank you, whatever, and then probably don't see him again because he's not um interested. So, don't you know um don't don't think you're crazy or you're asking for too much either because and um I do, you know, it's definitely a good idea to like return a compliment like like I always do if you know I'm going out with a guy and he says, "Oh, you know, you look so pretty. I love your hair." I'll say, you know, "Oh my gosh, thank you. You know, I really like your shorts or I really like whatever."

[00:14:52]I mean, I don't know, you know, I something something that I like, you know, right? I would I would say it back. So, yes, of course, you return the compliment because I've said this before on TikTok and people will be like, "Oh, women always want compliments and they never compliment guys. It's like I do. I know lots of women who do. I mean, we typically Yeah, we do. Like, you know, we will always say it back, but you know, um we're typically going to need you to say it first and break the ice like um Okay, moving on. Um insulting height, shoe size, like your hairstyle, whatever. You know, maybe you have a new hairstyle since the last time you saw him. And instead of saying, you know, oh my goodness, you know, it's so pretty. I love that on you. He'll go, whoa, like who who did your hair? Like what's what's that supposed to be? Like what decade is that from? You know, like he won't be complimentary. He'll be kind of questioning and weird about it. Like he'll he'll he'll act confused and then, you know, whatever. Um don't like that.

[00:15:50]Then that the height thing can go either way. I mean, I'm 6 feet tall and I have dealt with it where, you know, um I show up and you know, I'm wearing heels or wedges or whatever. Obviously, like it's a first date and then I get the, you know, oh my gosh, you're taller than me with heel. You're you're taller than me with the heels on and wow, like you're you're really tall. Like I can't believe you're, you know, like comfortable like being taller than me. It's like, okay, this is not going to work. It isn't going to work because you're uncomfortable with my height. So, we're not going to do this because no. So, we're not going to do this. I'm not going to be a learning experience for you. You can go learn somewhere else.

[00:16:26]Like, I'm not a teacher, you know? So, no. Um, don't don't endure that. Don't endure that, you know, shoot. Again, it can go either way. It can go either way with height, you know, where maybe you're a very short stature and they're making fun of you that way and they're like, "Oh my gosh, like I bet people mistake you for a kid. Like, I bet you can barely reach the pedals in the car.

[00:16:44]Like, I bet you're whatever." Like, I've seen a lot of women online say that.

[00:16:47]Shorter women online say that men will call them fun size. That's disgusting.

[00:16:51]If a guy ever says that to you, never speak to him again. That's gross. That's like an adult film category. That's nasty. Okay. Um, and they know it is.

[00:17:00]They don't mean it. Never never think that they mean it innocently because they don't. Okay. Like we we're in 2026.

[00:17:05]We have access to the internet. Like, let's not play around. Okay. Um, yeah.

[00:17:10]Don't don't accept that. And and the and the shoe size thing, you know, let's say you're like me and you have, you know, I have I wear size 10, you know, I'm 6 feet tall. I'm going to wear size 10, you know, and um, you know, you get the guys who will be like, you know, oh, wow. Like, I can't believe they even make those shoes in that size. It's like, okay, well, I don't know what to tell you. Like, clearly they do because I'm wearing them. Or, you know, if you if you have really small feet that I' I've seen this, too, online women, short women talk about this where they say, you know, I'm dating this guy, but he keeps making fun of my shoes and saying that I got them in the kids section. Um, that's ridiculous. You should never hang out with somebody who talks to you that way. Why is he comparing you to a child?

[00:17:50]That's weird. I don't like that. I I I want to make a separate video about that. But I think it's weird when people do that. when they compare, you know, short women to children and it's like, they don't look like children, though.

[00:18:00]They're adult women. They're just of shorter stature. Like, are you guys mentally okay? Like, what are you talking about? Um, yeah. If he says, and I just I just think that's a very strange comparison for a guy to make, especially if you're, you know, looking to be like romantic or like intimate with him. Like, that's weird. Like, never like leave immediately if he says something like that. Um, that's bizarre. like, yeah, I had a guy in high school once, um, who I think was attempting like like it was a weird attempt at flirting, but you know, um, who was like, what class was this? I don't even remember. I don't remember a lot about high school. Okay, I don't I didn't have a good time there. Um, but who was talking to me? And then, you know, he was like, oh my gosh, like you literally have clown shoes on. I was like, what?

[00:18:46]I like to act confused when people say things like this to me, so then they have to explain it, you I don't I'm I'm never going to laugh it off. You'd never catch me laughing off an insult. I was like, "What?" He's like, "Oh, um they just look really big." Because the I guess it's because the bottoms are like foam. So, they were like Nike shoes, and you know, the bottom will be white or gray on the black shoes most of the time. Um and I was like, "Oh, well, I just uh I really liked these. I just got them this past weekend. My mom got them for me." So, and then he like clearly felt bad and felt really awkward. He was like, "No, I mean I was I was just saying cuz your feet are big." I was like, "Yeah, I know.

[00:19:21]I know. I know that you're attempting to insult me. I'm not going to laugh. I didn't like it. I don't like you. Right.

[00:19:27]Like, no. Okay. So, moving on. Um Oh, making fun of your clothing style, your aesthetic. Like, let's say you I don't know. For me, like I would say mine is very like boho. Like, I'm really into the 1970s. Um, stuff like that. Like, whatever. And when I have guys who will be like, "Oh my gosh, like so do you like totally grow out your armpit hair and you like don't shower and you like would have gone to Woodstock and you I'm immediately like, "Nope, no, because we're not going to, you know, like my like my clothes are cute, my jewelry is cute. Like you're not going to again come play in my face and like I don't know, try to project some weird anti-showering stereotype onto me because I wear my natural hair and I don't straighten it, right? You're not going to do that." Okay. Uh don't let them do that either. Some guys start acting really weird and start acting like you're like this, you know, oh natural like, you know, French woman who grows out like all of her body hair when you have your natural hair. And I've seen this I've seen this happen with like multiple different races where guys will will do this and they'll be like, "Oh, like I don't know. I bet she does this, that, and the other thing because she has your natural hair." It's like what where did you draw that conclusion from? Like what are you talking about?

[00:20:34]It's just very weird. Um, that's what I that's what I was talking about in my last video where I'm talking about like don't let people project weird [ __ ] onto you. That goes for dating too. Like don't let them do that, you know, like make tell people who you are, right?

[00:20:47]Don't let other people try to tell you who you are. You have to tell them, right? And you can't let them come up with some weird stereotype in their head because I don't know, like they're insecure and don't like that you have individuality. Like don't let them do that. Okay. So, um, but I've I've I've seen this many times where like I I see this a lot with alternative women. So, people in like goth or punk sub subcultures, and there are a lot of subcultures under that umbrella that I'm frankly not even educated enough on them to name them. But I see it a lot where, you know, guys will be talking about these girls and they just be like, "Oh, yeah, she's she's emo. She's an emo chick." It's like, well, I don't think that's emo, though, is it? So, if you have one of these styles, if you're one of these women where and you know, there are tons tons of different so many different styles. I mean, I have bachelor's in apparel design, you know, I know. Um, there's so many different I mean, just styles out there. And if you have one of these and you know, you're very committed to it. it's you and you meet a guy who just kind of brushes it off and makes fun of it and describes it as they typically they'll call it a name that it's not right with the emo thing or like let's say I don't know you're super into like Japanese fashion or whatever they would just be like oh like she's she's like a weeaboo she's like weird well no that's not what a weeaboo is you know it's like different um so yeah if you have something like that where you have a very unique clothing style you have um kind of like an aesthetic you're committed to but the guy is just making fun of it and he purpos purpfully keeps saying the wrong word when describing the style that you wear, that's going to be a no because he clearly doesn't care enough to like get to know anything about it and he's clearly just trying to piss you off and, you know, make you doubt yourself by saying that. So, definitely don't entertain that either. Um, oh, this one, I have been through the ringer with this one because I have a unique name. Um, insulting your name. So, this could go either way if you have a common name. Um, ways that guys will try to bully you about it is they'll be like, "Oh, like your name is Maddie." I literally know like 40 Maddie. I swear.

[00:22:51]Like, maybe you'll be different. Or like, "Oh, my ex's name was Maddie. Name is Maddie. That's original. How'd your parents come up with that one?" Yeah.

[00:22:59]How does it feel to share a name with 400 other girls and the whole time their name is like Josh? It's like, "Yeah, okay, bro." Um, and if your name is unique, um, they will mispronounce it on purpose. They might do that if your name is common, too. um they'll mispronounce it on purpose multiple times even though you correct them. This has happened to me and then they'll be like that's such a weird name. That's so weird. You have a weird name. It's like they say weird like it's like a slur or something. It's like I'm like it's not weird. It's unique. It's different. It's often cultural, right? Like you know my name is, you know, um Polish and one of my parents is partially Polish. You know, it's like it's it's a cultural thing. Um don't ever accept that. Don't accept that. Don't just say, "Oh, he's just messing around." No, because if you made fun of his name, then he'd be really mad, right? So, no. So, never ever accept that. Um, just don't. No, it doesn't doesn't matter what doesn't matter what your name is. And don't think it's less serious if you have a common name, right? Like, if your name is Abby and you're watching this right now, don't think that it doesn't apply to you.

[00:23:58]Like, it does because that's your name.

[00:24:01]That's you. That's your title in this life. Like, don't let anybody make fun of that cuz there's nothing funny. Like, what's the joke? Must have missed it, right? Um, oh yeah, this is one, too. Okay, we're reaching 24 minutes. Okay, I'm in good shape. Um, this is the last one on the list.

[00:24:21]Manhandling slash being rough with this is like, okay, either I don't know, maybe you have possessions in your backpack, but typically this will happen when like they're at your apartment or they're in your room or your, you know, whatever. And um if you ever notice this behavior, immediately immediately no.

[00:24:38]Immediately no. Never see him again because this is very strange behavior to me. I don't like it. Um manhandling or being really rough with like your stuffed animals, like your knickknacks, like your possessions. Maybe you have like books like little figurines. Like I know a lot of girls collect, you know, like sunny angels and stuff like that.

[00:24:55]Like you have some sort of collection.

[00:24:57]You have something fragile, okay? and something that's very valuable to you has sentimental value. Again, it's like a collector's item. They're little decorations. They're whatever. And he is just like manhandling it. He's being really weird with it. He's like throwing it around. Um and if this sounds really weird to you, congratulations. Because a lot of women who experienced this, like I posted a video about this on TikTok and people are like, "Oh my god, this happened to me." You know? Um, it's happened to me where like, you know, we're hanging out and then suddenly they're holding like, you know, I have like a few stuffed animals in my bed and like a doll or whatever and they're holding it and they're like, "What is this?" And they're like pulling the arms really hard and like squishing it. I'm like, "Stop.

[00:25:37]Like, that's not yours. First of all, it's mine. Okay. Secondly, you're only doing that to get a rise out of me, to get some sort of reaction out of me because you need therapy. you need therapy and you're not you're not normal. You're not you don't you don't go about interactions like a typical person and you want attention and you could have just told me that you wanted attention.

[00:25:57]You did not need to grab one of my possessions and start being rough with it and start throwing it and start they know it invokes anxiety in you. They know it invokes, you know, just overall bad feelings in you. That's why they do it, right? Because they they want a reaction and they they never want you really at peace around them because that from that point on, how can you really relax?

[00:26:20]How are you going to like I don't know be on your phone or like I mean this is like like sleep or like how are you going to relax in your own room now in your own space with them there because you're always watching them like they're like an annoying little brother or something like you're always watching them to like see if they pick up the next thing and if if they're going to if they're going to accidentally break it or crush it. I mean why would you subject yourself to that? Never do that.

[00:26:44]Never. Life is not long enough to entertain things like that. Seriously.

[00:26:49]like they can learn that lesson from somebody else. That is not you. And again is is hopefully a board-certified medical professional because that's not your responsibility. Never feel like you have to coach them on that. Well, he grew up with all brothers or well, he was an only child or well well nothing because we're all adults. So, you can either get with the program or you can get out. So, um that's about it.

[00:27:17]Wow. All right, what a concise video. We are going to keep it under 30 minutes.

[00:27:22]Excellent. Yeah. Um, just keep that in mind. And you know, again, I'm not saying that, you know, you can never make jokes. You can never mess around.

[00:27:32]You can never, you know, that's of course you that's not true. I mean, people make jokes. People sometimes, you know, are a little maybe handle something a little too rough, an accident, whatever. Again, that's not what I'm talking about. You will know.

[00:27:46]You will know if you walk into one of these situations I'm talking about or you meet one of these people. You will know. It will be obvious because you'll be uncomfortable. You'll be stressed out. You'll be basically trying to, you know, predict their next move to defend yourself, defend your appearance, defend your possessions, defend your career. I mean, it's exhausting. That's how you will know. You will know if you run into these people in the dating field because you will be exhausted instead of excited when spending time with them. Okay. Um, that is all for this video. I just wanted to I really just wanted to make that disclaimer because I see this happen a lot, especially with Now, this happens at any age, right? But it disproportionately happens to young people because people are so inexperienced, they don't know the signs of it. They don't know what to look out for. They don't know, they don't know, right? So, disproportionately definitely affects young people in the dating pool.

[00:28:41]So, just remember, value yourself.

[00:28:43]Remember, dating should be fun, not a chore. When people say, "Well, relationships are hard work." Well, are we even in a relationship yet? Going on a few dates, right? So, don't don't fall for that propaganda that it has to be this laborinttensive.

[00:28:56]No. Okay. All right, everyone. Have a great rest of your night and I will see you in the next one. Bye.