A Lot Of Modern Women Are Just Not Made To Be In A Relationship, Being Selfish Is Fine

Added: 2026-05-12

[00:00:00]she was like me too are you also single and I was like yeah and she was like yeah checks out like all the lover girl so I told this girl was a lover girl and she was like me too are you also single and I was like yeah and she was like yeah checks out like all the lover girls are single looked at her and I was like no girl I'm not single because I'm a lover girl I'm single by choice she looked at me and she was baffled she was like what do you mean you're single by choice and I was like why do you sound like a man right now what do you mean why are you single by choice the trend that I've noticed in my life is when I'm doing really poorly in my life like I'm struggling I'm depressed that's when I'm the most desperate to be in a relationship last year I was [ __ ] unemployed I was living at my parents house I was very depressed that's when like I was like oh my God like I just want any man like I want a boyfriend so bad I would go on dates with mediocre men and be so infatuated with them but it was because nothing ongoing for me and now that like I have my own place well I do have a roommate but I have my own place like I'm eating good I'm going to Pilates my work is good I'm like I do not want a man freaking near me like get out of my house this world that I built for myself I do not want to share it with anyone especially not a random ass man so when she asked me why are you single by choice but you're a lover girl I'm like I'm single by choice cuz selfishly I want every single aspect of my lover girl personality to go to myself and everything I built for myself I want it all just for myself like I don't want to share it with anyone I'm gatekeeping the girl boss I'm gatekeeping all of that honestly it's not even like protecting my peace I'm just gatekeeping my resources so I told this girl that's not love a girl it's like absolutely ridiculous do you not love a girl you're just a girl powered [ __ ] it's like love a girl I mean like if it's like if you not giving that love to anybody else you're not loving nobody right loving yourself is not the same it's not lover girl [ __ ] a love a girl is like when you are overly affectionate right it's usually in my opinion it's really usually when you're in when a woman is in a relationship she's overly loving right she's like she goes above and beyond like she's cooking for she's cleaning for you she's like loving you like absolutely affectionate absolutely like Desiring you right that's what I'm that's what I view as a lover girl what I've seen right so that's what I perceive where women in relationships they are overly affectionate right they are very intimate they they are you know it's all about the relationship all all about the partner so this woman is trying to um reinterpret love a girl to be selflove right and it's like ridiculous it's absolutely ridiculous uh so yeah that's usually what love a girl is but she's trying to reinterpret that to being selflove okay I was a lover girl and she was like me too are you also single and I was like yeah and she was like yeah checks out like all the lover girls are single looked at her and I was like no girl I'm not single because I'm a lover girl I'm single by choice she looked at me and she was back uh single by choice this is the the insanity of women right the whole logic of single by choice here's the thing right here's the thing I think in my opinion only men can be single by choice women they're not right here's why why I think that okay let's say this for women why why women in general can't be single by choice because here's the thing to be single by choice is that you have the choice you have the options so let's say this a man that you absolutely hits your every standard right you want him you want this man you want this man yet you chose to not date him right so this man is absolutely what you want he is what he's the man of he's what all the things you said you want in a man okay a man that you would want to date right a man that you would want to date yet you actively said I will not date him then you are single by choice when no man qualifies for you at all right none of your standards none of your whatever you don't want to date any of these men that don't mean that you are single by choice it's just that you have no choices right you self-imposed zero choices so really you're not single by choice because you have no choices to begin with so why do I say men are usually the single by choice in my opinion right in my opinion men have less qualifications when it comes to women men have doesn't have a long list of Standards men would gladly right A lot of times take this woman that woman this woman right but in my opinion right a lot of men they just don't want to deal with it anymore that's why here's the thing where oh there's a woman out like like let's say for me right I can be in the dating market right now and find a woman to date right now right I I and why I see it's kind of different with women is that I don't have all this High expectation of women like oh she needs to be thin as hell big booty big breasts beautiful face young all no I don't have all the standards right honestly I just want a woman that treats me well there would be a woman that could treat me well I just decide not to go for it I just decide not to waste my time in the dating market right go on dates and all that to get a girl that would treat me well so I currently are taking a step back and being single by choice right knowing that yes there are probably women out there that I would want to date I just you know what don't want to waste my time for women usually it's not the same right usually there's no it's like there's no men that women want to date right so I.E this woman right there's no man that this woman wants to date so really if there's no man that you would want to date right that would qualify for you right in your standards then honestly that's not really single by choice because you have eliminated all choices so there's no choice right that's how I view it you know and how a lot of men see it too about this whole single by choice thing because honestly you you don't have any choices is there really single by choice when there's no multiple choice answers are you actually doing a multiple choice test not really she was like what do you mean you're single by choice and I was like why you sound like a man right now what do you mean why are you single by choice the trend that I've noticed in my life is when I'm doing really poorly in my life like I'm struggling I'm depressed that's when I the most desperate to be in a relationship last year I was [ __ ] unemployed I was living at my parents house I was very depressed that's when like I was like oh my God like I just want any man like I want a boyfriend so bad I would go on dates with mediocre men and be so infatuated with them but it was because nothing ongo for me and now that like I have my own place well I do have a roommate but I have my own place like I'm eating good I'm going to Pilates my work is good now I'm like I do not want a man freaking near me like get out of my house great I hope this is the thing right she does a lot of dating videos she does I've seen a couple of them I I have done a few uh of her uh reactions of her videos but here's the thing this is the insanity stop dating that this is the in this is why I said I don't despise women I despise how they think I despise their Viewpoint I despise their ideology I despise their H hypocrisy you don't want a man around you great yet you constantly talking about dating you're constantly talking about you're constantly [ __ ] on men right you you're you're all pretty much all your rhetoric is men when you say you don't want to date you say like oh these men stay away from me okay have that same energy stop dating men then stop dating and this is the insanity and this is the thing also that women like this this kind of mentality will show in their life right then let's say this woman she's probably in her 20s right probably mid to late 20s she will suffer because of this mentality that she has it will move on into her later years where you know what she won't be able to find a man because this toxicity this aggressiveness this combativeness this self-absorbed this narcissism this selfishness it's great for yourself it won't be great when if if you ever decide you want to partner again because here's the thing it doesn't happen when you want it it doesn't work on your time clock this world that I've built for myself I do not want want to share it with anyone especially not a random ass man so when she asked me why are you single by choice but you're a lover every man is going to read random girl I'm like I'm single by choice cuz selfishly I want every single aspect of my lover girl personality to go to myself and everything I built for myself I want it all just for myself like I don't want to share it with anyone I'm gatekeeping the girl boss I'm gatekeeping all of that honestly it's not even like protecting my peace I'm just gatekeeping my resources so I fine this is the thing right I I do not um I this is I I've said this in a few videos right and I'm trying to actually put this out more I am a big supporter a big proponent of women staying single and hopefully childless for life I do not mind I do not mind the women like this to hopefully just stay single for the rest of your life right if you are horny whatever do situationships do friend with benefit this woman like this do not qualify for good men they don't they really don't so I hope that women like this will just stay single because you this mindset will I guess will turn into the vibe your aura right you want to just think about yourself right men aren't important you are you know you're strong independent I Don't Need No Man Pat rhetoric yeah you know what that will get you you no man and cool if that's what you want cool stay with that because here's the thing this is the problem with a lot of women when you have this rhetoric right I don't need no man it's all about me all that [ __ ] great the problem is when you want to change that up it doesn't happen when you want it right it's not a switch you can just flip I don't need no man I'm strong independent and then you know what ler oh I need a man I don't want to be independent anymore all this [ __ ] no no it doesn't happen like that it doesn't right that same energy will will be with you for the rest of your life so deal with it