35 Y/O WOMAN LOOKS FOR LOVE! TRIES YOUNGER MEN! A 19 Y/O GETS HER PREGNANT AND GHOSTED HER TOO!

Added: 2026-05-07

[00:00:40]you was really heartbroken when he left.

[00:00:42]Tell us about this the uh situation circumstances surrounding him leaving.

[00:00:47]>> Well, he left without telling me. So, I ain't found out until he was he was way down there in Texas. I called him one day and he finally answered the phone and told me he was gone, but he didn't tell me. He he just he just up and left.

[00:00:56]He said he wanted to go by his mom and all that kind of stuff. So, but I was hurt at first, but I got over it.

[00:01:02]>> Mhm. And he knew you was he knew about the baby and all of that, right? And initially >> Yeah, he knew, but I think he I think he ran because he didn't want to be bothered. And you know, by him being 19 years old, this would be his first child. He don't know how to take care of child.

[00:01:25]I'll be the one to make it.

[00:01:38]Well, hello my friends and family.

[00:01:41]Welcome back to Love, Luster, Lies. I'm your host, Dr. Dana. Y'all know me. I know y'all. I love y'all. Just family.

[00:01:50]We family now. So, I don't want to spend too much time with the welcome. But welcome to Love Luster Lies. Y'all know I'm the host, Dr. Dana, co-host, Dr. Delisia. Hello. And we have a surprise for y'all today.

[00:02:05]Y'all already know Miss Tiarara.

[00:02:10]She's been on the show. Her story really rocked the world and shocked the world what she experienced by the abuse that she encountered by her biological father uh since the tender age of 12 13. She came back. We did an update um on her.

[00:02:30]She is back to share just a very brief update on where she is and we're going to have some serious conversation. So, I'm not going to do too much talking.

[00:02:42]Welcome. And I introduce Tiara. She's back. She's my girl, y'all. She gets on my nerves, but she is my girl. Hey, T.

[00:02:51]How are you?

[00:02:52]>> Hey y'all. I'm doing good.

[00:02:54]>> Good, good, good. I wanted you to come back on. you are actually you have some news for our audience on on your update but just tell us what has the last I think you gave us like a sixmon update but the last three four months has been hard for you tell us what you've been going through I don't know where to start um I've been going through kind of the same thing um in and out of living situations but I'm better now >> yes I'm okay >> yes and after the six month. A few people were um um concerned, had questions about your, you know, housing.

[00:03:34]We did a GoFundMe for you. We raised a couple hundred dollars that's still put up for you. I'm always like to be transparent. It's waiting and she's very much aware of how much it is and when she gets ready, it'll be used for a deposit um for your apartment or house or whatever you uh get. So, you were in a somewhat stable living situation with a former foster parent and that lasted for how long?

[00:04:03]>> Well, I went in October and it lasted till last month.

[00:04:07]>> Yes. Initially, it was going to be like a >> Yeah. Say it again. I'm sorry.

[00:04:13]>> I said for a few months.

[00:04:14]>> For a few months. Yes. Initially, it was like it was like you could come for 30 days or 60 days, but you know, you have to find something after that. But it lasted for let's see October, November, December, January, February about six months, right?

[00:04:30]>> About six months.

[00:04:32]>> But >> correct.

[00:04:33]>> So you found yourself last month something happened. Tell us about that.

[00:04:42]>> Well, I just wanted to it was just too much. I just wanted to go be on my I just want to go be by myself, you know, just like, you know, where I won't get judged or none of that stuff. I just want to go be alone.

[00:04:53]And in being alone, what happened?

[00:04:55]>> I mean, well, nothing happened. I'm just better where I'm better where I'm at now. Uh I I don't know how to say it.

[00:05:06]>> Well, I was talking about the little small stint that you had in jail.

[00:05:15]>> What the?

[00:05:19]>> Okay, keep going. Let's Let's keep going. Did you have some time recently?

[00:05:26]>> Were you incarcerated recently?

[00:05:27]>> No, just like a Oh, yeah. I had um I had like a little warn from I mean it was like from missing court like a few days.

[00:05:34]It wasn't nothing.

[00:05:35]>> Okay. Okay. All right. Um Okay. So, fast forward, you are now in a more stable living situation. Hopefully, it can be more longterm, right?

[00:05:46]>> Yes, it is.

[00:05:48]>> Okay. And that is good because you have some news for the audience. You want to show us what news you got?

[00:05:58]>> Well, I'm having a baby Tuesday coming up >> in a few days. You want to show us that belly >> after tomorrow. So, here's the baby.

[00:06:06]>> Yes. Tell us what you're having.

[00:06:09]>> I'm having a boy.

[00:06:10]>> Yes.

[00:06:11]>> And name is Tristan.

[00:06:13]>> She's having a boy this this week in two days. She'll be raised. So, the baby will be here.

[00:06:18]>> The baby will be here once this airs.

[00:06:21]>> Um, I wanted to >> I wanted to bring you back to have some discussion around this whole situation with the baby daddy.

[00:06:30]So, >> uhhuh.

[00:06:32]>> Tell us a little bit about how you met the baby daddy and all the things around that and then that's going to prompt some other discussion.

[00:06:38]>> Oh, Lord.

[00:06:39]>> Well, I met the baby daddy. I met him when I got out of jail last time um in July. I met him at this lady house I know and one thing led to another of course but um he's not in the picture right now so >> yes >> I'm just doing the best I can well trying to do the best I can so he moved to Texas and he's starting his have a whole new life >> yes >> so that was devastating for you cuz you and the the little guy y'all were dating for a good little minute about how long were y'all dating >> just for three months >> three months for three months.

[00:07:14]>> It was It wasn't nothing serious.

[00:07:17]>> And tell us how old.

[00:07:19]>> Oh, he's 19. I'm 35. Yeah. It's a big age difference.

[00:07:22]>> Yes.

[00:07:22]>> So, I wanted to try something. I never had a young guy, so I wanted to try something new, which I wouldn't have wish I wouldn't have done that.

[00:07:29]>> Yes. Um, but you started to like him and >> Yeah, I was liking on him, but it just it wasn't what I thought it was going to be. And you was really heartbroken when he left. Tell us about this the uh situation circumstances surrounding him leaving.

[00:07:47]>> Well, he left without telling me. So, I ain't found out until he was he was way down there in Texas. I called him one day and he finally answered the phone and told me he was gone. But he didn't tell me. He he just he just up and left.

[00:07:56]He said he wanted to go by his mom and all that kind of stuff. So, but I was hurt at first, but I got over it.

[00:08:03]>> And he knew you was he knew about the baby and all of that, right? And initially he >> Yeah, he knew. Look, I think he I think he ran because he didn't want to be bothered. And you know, by him being 19 years old, this would be his first child. He don't know how to take care of child. So that's how that's how I look at the situation that he took off because of that.

[00:08:20]>> He was avoiding responsibility.

[00:08:24]>> Yes. And still is this day.

[00:08:26]>> Yes. So I guess you know I will say that legally he was 18 when you when y'all started dating, right?

[00:08:35]>> Uhhuh.

[00:08:36]>> Yeah. So legally, yes, legally there's no it it wasn't a crime because he was 18. You was 34 >> at that time.

[00:08:46]>> But I want to have some discussion around what you went through with your dad. You know, him well, I guess you and the guy family, but he older men once after your dad sexually abused you, you found yourself attracted to older men, right?

[00:09:04]>> Right. Right.

[00:09:06]Yes. And then now this was the first time you actually tried to date a younger guy.

[00:09:13]>> Wanted to try to mess with a younger person.

[00:09:16]>> Yes.

[00:09:17]>> Right.

[00:09:17]>> Yes. And I I guess I just been thinking about, you know, how uh generational things cycles kind of repeat repeat repeat themselves, you know. What was it about I guess a guy 18 years old that made you feel like you wanted to try that? Well, he gave me the attention that I was looking for in an older man.

[00:09:37]Like he he he gave me more attention than anybody ever gave me.

[00:09:43]>> And he started out giving me attention.

[00:09:44]So was that like in the first week, few weeks, month?

[00:09:48]>> It was in the first few weeks. Yeah.

[00:09:50]>> Yeah.

[00:09:50]>> I mean, we was making eye contact and all that kind of stuff. And so I caught on to the looks and vibes and all that and went from there.

[00:09:58]>> Okay. Go ahead. Oh, okay. Yeah. So, but how did that you I guess did you learn very quickly that that didn't it didn't stick. So, within two months I guess of you dating him, you ended up pregnant.

[00:10:15]>> Yeah. Basically, >> is at any point did you feel like this is a kid?

[00:10:20]>> That's what happened.

[00:10:21]>> At at any point did he seem like a kid to you? Like a child?

[00:10:26]>> No, actually he act my age. So, no, he didn't. He's he's acting mature than he was.

[00:10:31]>> Okay.

[00:10:32]>> So, but um now his kid side is coming out.

[00:10:38]>> Wow.

[00:10:39]>> Wow.

[00:10:39]>> Yeah. So, I um talked to him yesterday and he was saying that he ain't the daddy and all this kind of stuff like that and cuz he know it was close to me having a baby and I was like, "Well, we can get a DNA test, but I'm not paying for it."

[00:10:50]>> Wow.

[00:10:50]>> Then he was talking about moving out. He was saying he's going to move to an island and all this kind of stuff. I was like, "You can run all you want. I mean, they still can find you."

[00:10:58]>> Wow.

[00:10:59]So that's something because initially he was there. Y'all was staying together at some point. All of the things.

[00:11:06]>> We were staying with his grandma at his grandmother house. Yeah. We were staying together for like 3 months and he just up and left, you know, once he seen that I was really pregnant. He just just left like it was nothing.

[00:11:20]How does that resonate with you? Like experiencing men like that where they just come in your life, you you kind of build a trust with them, you start having sex with them, and then they just ghost you like that.

[00:11:33]>> Okay. Well, this never happened to me.

[00:11:35]So, this is the first time. So, I really don't like it because all my other kids dads are they got they have their daughters.

[00:11:41]>> So, this is different. And I never had I never thought I would have been in this type of situation with a daddy leaving me.

[00:11:46]>> Well, I don't care if he left me, but not taking care of his seed. Yeah, that's totally different. Like I never had that. So it's kind of stressful, but it's nothing really nothing to do. Just just do the best I can. I mean, I can try to put them on child support, but I know I'm on child support and I know that that's not a good feeling. So, >> yes. Help the audience understand. You just mentioned you're on child support and you say the other two daddies have your other your girls. talk to us about >> that and that they actually went as far as to put you on child support.

[00:12:20]>> Well, I'm just on child support for one.

[00:12:23]>> Um, so which is my first uh child that he put me on child support in 2009, I mean 2010 without talking to me about it or nothing. Um, so I wasn't aware until I got a court notice in a uh mail to come to court for that and um I just been on child support ever since then.

[00:12:42]So when you start working, how does that play out? You being on child support once you get a job?

[00:12:48]>> Well, they take um what I owe them out of my check, which is 200. So they take it every two weeks or however often I get paid.

[00:12:55]>> And what what did you have? Um did you owe like did you have a rears?

[00:13:01]>> I mean I have like back pay and all that, but they take they take what they take every month.

[00:13:05]>> Yeah. Do you know how much back pay?

[00:13:08]>> Uh no, not right now. I don't off hand.

[00:13:10]I no, but I know it's a lot.

[00:13:12]>> Okay.

[00:13:12]>> But I know I just pay 200 a month.

[00:13:15]>> 200 a month or 200 every two weeks?

[00:13:19]>> I mean, they take it every two weeks.

[00:13:21]How? It's supposed to be 200 a month, but since I have back pay, they take it every two weeks. Yeah.

[00:13:25]>> Yes. Every two weeks. So, if you work >> if you work and you you started working um somewhere, I won't say where, but you started working. When you get a check, that $200 is automatically taken out >> and and taxes is taken out, >> right?

[00:13:45]>> So, when you started, I'll say um let's just say Dollar Tree.

[00:13:49]>> Yeah.

[00:13:49]>> When you were working at Dollar Tree or Dollar J or one of those places, how much after you actually started working hours, what would your checks look like?

[00:13:58]>> Um well, I weren't really making nothing at Dollar Tree but 200 something. So, that's it really wasn't nothing. So, they didn't take nothing out of that like talking about.

[00:14:05]It depends.

[00:14:07]>> What kind of checks do you get? That's what I'm asking. Like when you're actually working, how much money do you take home?

[00:14:14]>> So it's like Okay. So maybe like out of 500 and take two, I have like three left, something like that.

[00:14:19]>> Okay. Okay. How is that? Are you finding where it's enough for you to start being able to save?

[00:14:27]>> Yeah, I'm better now at this job that I have. Yeah.

[00:14:30]>> Okay.

[00:14:31]>> Everything's working itself out.

[00:14:32]>> Good job.

[00:14:33]>> Okay. That's wonderful. Are you what what's your plan?

[00:14:39]>> As in what?

[00:14:40]>> Like um what are you I guess using your money, saving your money for you trying to get house, a car, what what are your >> Well, I need to learn how to drive. So, yeah, that's one of the plans.

[00:14:52]>> Okay.

[00:14:54]>> Yeah, I do want to learn how to do that.

[00:14:58]>> Have you So, you've never never driven, never had a car?

[00:15:02]No, never.

[00:15:04]>> Wow. And I and I think this is these are some of the effects of, you know, growing up not having um stable parents, a stable home living environment. You're now 35 you said, right?

[00:15:20]>> Yeah.

[00:15:21]>> 35. And so goalswise, what would you say your top three goals?

[00:15:28]um get my own place, a car, and just be be a mom to my kids.

[00:15:35]>> Be a mom to your kids. How many children now?

[00:15:38]>> Well, this my fourth one.

[00:15:40]>> You're pregnant. You'll have your >> Three girls, one boy. Yeah.

[00:15:43]>> Three girls, one boy. All right. And tell us about the relationship with your girls that the dads have.

[00:15:49]>> Well, we really don't have a relationship um because of the situation that happened. You know, I wasn't a mom to them. I just have a relationship with my 10-year-old.

[00:16:01]>> So, the dads don't encourage them to reach out, the other two.

[00:16:05]>> No, not at all.

[00:16:07]>> And when I try to reach out to them, they don't want to talk like talking about. So, I just will let them, you know, they'll come to find out. I mean, they'll figure out the real situation on their own when they get ready.

[00:16:19]>> And how old are they?

[00:16:21]>> 17 and 15.

[00:16:22]>> Oh, wow.

[00:16:25]Yeah.

[00:16:27]>> Yeah. And so when you did I guess when you did have a somewhat of a relationship with them, was it do you feel like the dad speak negative in their ear or just because you haven't been there, they they feel like they can't?

[00:16:40]>> Well, I'm pretty sure they tell them negative things because that's right.

[00:16:44]They don't want to talk. So >> yeah, he told them um I wasn't a good mom. I wasn't there for them and all kind of stuff.

[00:16:56]>> There have been times though that you would take the little money dollars you have and give to them.

[00:17:01]>> Oh yeah. I cashed out a few dollars cuz I got all the cash apps. I give them some when I get a chance or when they ask me for and I have it.

[00:17:10]>> So they've reached out to you. They won't talk to you, but they reached out and asked for money.

[00:17:14]>> Yeah. When they want money. Yeah.

[00:17:15]They'll talk to me. They'll ask me for that, but they don't want to have a conversation. But that's okay. Oh.

[00:17:22]That's sad.

[00:17:23]>> Unfortunate.

[00:17:23]>> I just prayed that it get better one day, which it will.

[00:17:26]>> Yes. Yes. It's amazing. T, you have been through more than >> you've been through a lot.

[00:17:34]>> More than enough.

[00:17:36]>> I know. And I'm still standing, so that's a good thing.

[00:17:39]>> Yes. Yes. And you you since I've known you, you try to stay positive, >> always smiling. It's rare. It's rare that you, you know, have a sad countenance or that you're sad. Yeah.

[00:17:51]I'm always cracking jokes to make myself go to make myself laugh for others. So that's what I do.

[00:17:55]>> Yeah. Yeah. And and how you been doing with the drinking? Give us a update on that.

[00:18:00]>> Oh, well I I mean I'm not worried about a drinker right now because I'm pregnant, but yeah.

[00:18:05]>> Um that's the last thing I wor about right now at this point, but yeah, I'm not done with it, but yeah, just taking a break, of course.

[00:18:13]>> All right, Bernardet.

[00:18:15]Bernadette's her mom, y'all. Who was >> who could take down some beers?

[00:18:19]Bernardet. I know.

[00:18:21]>> Yes. A whole case. H >> how do you do you like think about generational curses and your mama demons and your daddy's demons and do you tr feel like you try to fight them or are you aware or you don't think about it?

[00:18:35]>> No, I don't think about it at all.

[00:18:37]>> Well, you should. That's one thing we talked about.

[00:18:40]>> I mean, I just know I'm just like them.

[00:18:43]>> I know I just like the both of them, but yeah, that's about it.

[00:18:46]>> Yeah. Well, that's not gonna if they they store it didn't end well.

[00:18:52]>> So, it's gonna be you're gonna need to >> Well, mine's going to be better. Mine's going to be better eventually. Like I said, I'm not going to do this forever.

[00:18:59]Whenever I'm ready to stop, I will.

[00:19:02]>> Yeah. Yeah. It's not going to be a a all the time thing cuz I mean, I get tired of it. Sometimes I do, but sometimes I don't. Sometimes I just have my days where I just want to pick up a drink or whatever.

[00:19:14]>> Yeah, I have my moments, but not all the time.

[00:19:17]Yeah. You You don't feel like it's a problem?

[00:19:22]I mean, it not like it used to be. No. I mean, it to calm down a whole lot. I mean I mean, I don't get in trouble like I you know, like I was doing before >> going to jail and all that kind of stuff. So, no.

[00:19:32]>> Okay. Well, that's beautiful. Beautiful.

[00:19:35]>> Yeah. Cuz it used to be bad bad. It used to be bad to the point that I used to drink until I don't remember nothing.

[00:19:40]So, that's called blackout. So, no. I don't do none of that. kind of selected off of it and like know how to stop like don't keep going.

[00:19:47]>> Yes. Um is this you feel like this because of the baby or when the baby come you going to keep this up?

[00:19:53]>> I mean well no cuz I'm going to have to stay focused on him. So I'm not going to just pick that up right away. Maybe when we get a little older and I have somebody to watch him or something that I can trust. Yeah.

[00:20:02]>> But yeah, I'm going take on taking a break because I got to pay attention and stay focused on him.

[00:20:07]>> Wonderful. Wonderful. You committed to being a good mother to you?

[00:20:10]>> Yeah. This Yeah. Yeah. So, I'm got another chance. So, yeah, that's what I'm doing.

[00:20:14]>> That is wonderful. Wonderful.

[00:20:17]>> Got another chance to be a mom again so I can start over with him >> and show that I can be. So, that'd be good.

[00:20:24]>> Yes. Wonderful.

[00:20:26]Um, one of the last episodes you had little Tamaria on. Give us an update on her. How she doing?

[00:20:32]>> Oh, Tamar, she's doing good. She's with her dad. Um, she had a she been having a track game. She run track at her school.

[00:20:37]She go to uh uh where's that school?

[00:20:43]A little elementary school.

[00:20:45]>> But she's doing she's doing very good.

[00:20:46]>> You get to talk to us?

[00:20:47]>> I talk to I talk to her every day. Yeah.

[00:20:49]Every day.

[00:20:50]>> Oh, wonderful.

[00:20:51]>> Yeah. So, she's doing good. She's waiting to see her little brother.

[00:20:54]>> Oh, that's wonder.

[00:20:56]>> So, she excited about that.

[00:20:58]>> Very good. They gonna bring her to the hospital.

[00:21:00]>> Yeah, she's coming.

[00:21:02]>> That is awesome. Well, we um I haven't did my shopping yet for the baby.

[00:21:09]>> That's okay.

[00:21:10]>> But you know, >> I'mma say take care.

[00:21:14]>> You have a like, you know, um >> Yes. She asked for Pampers and >> But I mean there have like an Amazon.

[00:21:22]>> You don't have an Amazon list or anything like that. A registry.

[00:21:27]>> Uh what is that?

[00:21:29]>> No, she don't have anything like that.

[00:21:31]Well, put your like what you know, give us the information like Dr. Dana will put it on so we can make sure that >> little Tristan is well taken care of. He has what he needs.

[00:21:41]>> Yes.

[00:21:41]>> Okay.

[00:21:42]>> Cuz you know we love you.

[00:21:43]>> Yes, ma'am. I know. I love y'all, too.

[00:21:46]>> Love you.

[00:21:46]>> Yes. So, anything else that you need or you looking forward to?

[00:21:52]>> No, ma'am.

[00:21:54]>> You're looking forward to having that baby?

[00:21:56]>> Yeah. Oh, Lord.

[00:21:58]>> I just not looking forward to the pain.

[00:22:00]But yeah.

[00:22:01]>> Yes. So, I mean, what's you going to get your tubes tied?

[00:22:05]>> Of course I am. I ain't got no choice because they don't do too many C-sections. So, yeah, I'm getting them tired.

[00:22:10]>> Okay. So, it be the last of the Moheakans. This little man.

[00:22:13]>> Of course. Yeah, it will be. Which I'm not happy about that. But yeah, >> cuz I love kids.

[00:22:22]>> Well, you going to have one to raise and hold tight.

[00:22:27]>> Well, hopefully. Yeah.

[00:22:29]Yes. Time is flying. I can't believe you 35.

[00:22:33]>> I know.

[00:22:34]>> Yeah. The time is going by. It is.

[00:22:36]>> Yes. Well, we certainly proud of you.

[00:22:39]You're working and staying out of trouble.

[00:22:43]>> Of course. So, I ain't Yeah. I'm going to stay busy once this baby comes. So, I ain't going have time for trouble.

[00:22:48]>> Yes. And uh the person who you're staying with now, they're committed to letting you stay for some time.

[00:22:54]>> Oh, we I can stay for however long I want. So yeah, they they they wanted to help me out and they taking care of baby. That's not going to be that. So yeah.

[00:23:02]>> Wonderful.

[00:23:03]>> I got I found a good friend.

[00:23:04]>> That's awesome. That is wonderful. So you have stability and that's blessing.

[00:23:09]>> I don't have to worry about that right now.

[00:23:11]>> Yes. Awesome. That's good. Well, stay on that track and >> Yes. We pray God keeps keeps you, keeps the baby, all of that good stuff.

[00:23:20]>> Well, we just wanted to do a quick check in. Anything else you want to leave with us? Share with the audience. It was nice seeing y'all.

[00:23:29]>> Yeah. So, next time I had a baby with me when we come again.

[00:23:34]>> Yes. Yes. Yes. Some pictures. We might be able to >> Oh, I will. I'm going send Dana. Yeah, she I will.

[00:23:40]>> Yes.

[00:23:41]>> Yes.

[00:23:42]>> I guess I'm going to send pictures.

[00:23:44]>> Okay. Good job.

[00:23:45]>> And we'll uh we'll make sure we get to the hospital and get you some gifts. Get the baby diapers and clothes, outfits, all that good stuff.

[00:23:53]>> Okay. Sounds great. Yeah, we'll be a woman. All right.

[00:23:56]>> All right. Love you.

[00:23:57]>> Love you.

[00:23:57]>> Okay.

[00:23:58]>> Bye. Take care.

[00:23:59]>> Bye.

[00:24:01]>> Cuz you're so precious. You little bitty boy.

[00:24:05]Give me a kiss. A kiss.

[00:24:11]That's cute. Oh, I love him. He smell like milk. He smell like milk.

[00:24:18]Oh, good.