The Glow Has People Writing Paragraphs Through Their Teeth

Added: 2026-05-10

[00:00:00]Welcome back to unapologetic exotical content, where the lace is lifting, the truth is clicking, and the bonnet ambassadors are outside doing wig slip and patty cake. Like this is a team building exercise nobody signed up for.

[00:00:14]Today, we're going to talk about something serious and something that needs to be addressed.

[00:00:19]How the glowing, the knowing, the head-to-toe triple threat stunners, many times are affected mentally by the evilness and constant different treatment they receive from a large majority of people.

[00:00:32]>> [music] >> The side eyes, the evil comments, the sabotage, the isolation, and so much more.

[00:00:39]And let me say this right now, because we're going to laugh, but we're also going to be real.

[00:00:45]It really feels like you need hazard pay for being cute, something they call me when I am glowing.

[00:00:50]Like, where is my compensation package, benefits, PTO?

[00:00:55]Because why is my existence triggering a group project?

[00:00:59]I have been experiencing this since childhood.

[00:01:02]>> [music] >> And when you're a child, you don't even understand what's happening. You just think, "Why do they not like me?"

[00:01:09]And I had a family member who was grown yelling at me all the time when I would visit her. And her husband had to tell her what she was doing was not right.

[00:01:18]And as a child, you don't understand that. You're just confused. Like, "Ma'am, you pay bills. Why are you beefing with a minor?" That's a bald eagle arguing with a baby bird.

[00:01:31]And that behavior didn't just stop. It continued throughout my life. So, I had to cut her off. Because when something is consistent, it's not a moment. It's a pattern.

[00:01:42]At the same time, I've had people compliment me.

[00:01:45]A little girl told me she wished she had my skin. I've had boyfriends tell me I had the softest skin they've ever touched.

[00:01:53]One wanted to see my skin all the time and would tell me to show it, saying it was because I was so beautiful.

[00:02:00]I had an HR person come in my office and say, "Oh my god, look at her skin."

[00:02:06]People say I have a glow, smooth, soft skin. They like the texture.

[00:02:12]So now you have admiration and weirdness happening at the same time, and that's where it gets confusing. Because how am I glowing and you glitching?

[00:02:21]Now let's talk about the bald eagle boss.

[00:02:24]She sat there on Zoom talking about how she had beautiful skin while sitting there with no glow, no moisture, and rough texture.

[00:02:32]Like, why are you self-declaring glowing while sitting there looking matte and aggressive?

[00:02:38]Glow is not self-proclaimed.

[00:02:40]>> [music] >> Glow is externally verified.

[00:02:43]And I remember she looked in my face, scrunched up her face, and ran out my office.

[00:02:48]Ran.

[00:02:50]Like I offended her by existing?

[00:02:52]Now we fleeing the scene of jealousy?

[00:02:55]I've had a girl push me in high school, another hold the door shut so I couldn't get in, one chase me home.

[00:03:02]A coworker compare me to a model in a magazine in a way that implied I didn't look as good as another one.

[00:03:09]Whole time, the one I resembled looked better.

[00:03:12]So it's like, what is actually going on?

[00:03:15]It's microaggressions, micro weirdness, micro hatred stacking like unpaid bills.

[00:03:22]And when something keeps happening with no logical reason, your brain tries to create one, and that's where the damage starts. Because your brain would rather blame you than accept randomness.

[00:03:34]So now you're sitting there like, was I too quiet? Too nice? Too confident? Too visible? Too pretty?

[00:03:42]Like I didn't know being moisturized was a public offense.

[00:03:45]Is glow illegal? Did I miss the meeting?

[00:03:49]And now your nervous system starts anticipating negativity. You walk into rooms already bracing. You're scanning faces, tones, energy shifts. Not because you're insecure, well, maybe, but because your body remembers patterns your mind is still trying to understand.

[00:04:07]That leads to anxiety, emotional exhaustion, and sometimes depression.

[00:04:12]Not because you're weak, and it is okay if you are, but because you're constantly processing something that doesn't make sense.

[00:04:20]So, you start withdrawing and people say you're stand offish. No, you're calibrated. You're not unfriendly, you're aware.

[00:04:29]Distance becomes safety.

[00:04:31]Now, let's talk about the psychological part. The brain has a negativity bias.

[00:04:36]One negative experience weighs heavier than multiple positive ones.

[00:04:41]So, you could get 10 compliments and one weird interaction will sit in your mind like it pays rent.

[00:04:47]Now, imagine that happening repeatedly.

[00:04:50]Now, it's not that was weird, it's this keeps happening.

[00:04:55]Now, your brain goes into detective mode, and here's where it gets real.

[00:04:59]Your brain would rather make you the problem than accept that people are just weird. Because if it's you, you can fix it. If it's them, you can't control [music] it.

[00:05:10]So, now you start adjusting yourself for something that was never yours, and that's where anxiety starts.

[00:05:16]And socially, we are wired for acceptance. So, when you are admired and rejected at the same time, your brain gets confused.

[00:05:25]Am I accepted or not? Pick one.

[00:05:28]And when the environment doesn't pick one, your brain prepares for both.

[00:05:32]That's emotional fatigue.

[00:05:35]Now, from an evolutionary standpoint, humans notice differences.

[00:05:39]Some admire, some compare, some compete.

[00:05:43]>> [music] >> And when they feel like they can't compete, they disrupt.

[00:05:47]That's not new behavior. That's ancient wiring in modern lace.

[00:05:51]Now, me personally, I'm moisturized, aware, [music] and at peace.

[00:05:56]I laugh at behavior now because I understand it, but I am human.

[00:06:00]I've had moments where how I was treated affected me.

[00:06:04]The difference is I bounce back, but not everybody does, and that matters [music] because resilience is a skill.

[00:06:12]Processing repeated negativity is a skill, and a lot of people are still learning that in real time.

[00:06:18]That's like learning how to swim while somebody keeps splashing you in the face. Of course, you're going to struggle.

[00:06:25]Now, let's talk about feelings.

[00:06:27]People act like feeling is weakness.

[00:06:29]It's not. Avoiding feelings is what creates the loop. That therapist analogy, holding a ball underwater, it will pop back up. So, when you cry, when you feel it, you're processing.

[00:06:43]And here's the real part nobody says.

[00:06:45]You keep feeling it, and eventually, you get bored.

[00:06:49]You're like, "Okay, I've cried about this enough." And each time it affects you less.

[00:06:54]>> [music] >> That's growth.

[00:06:56]Now, let's talk about reframing because this is where it shifts.

[00:07:00]You start looking at situations like, "Wait, you're mad at me, and your life is the one applying pressure to you? Oh, that's projection."

[00:07:09]Now, it goes from "Why me?" to "That makes sense."

[00:07:14]>> [music] >> And when it makes sense, it loses power.

[00:07:17]Now, the hardest part, those subtle moments when you don't respond in real time because you're not sure, so you suppress it. And later, your brain replays it over and over.

[00:07:28]Not because you're weak, and it is okay if you are, but because your mind is trying to finish something that never got resolved. No apology, no explanation, no closure. So, your brain keeps reopening it. That's overthinking >> [music] >> and unfinished processing.

[00:07:46]So, here's how you deal with it. Name it. That felt off.

[00:07:50]Close it yourself because they're not going to.

[00:07:53]Trust your feelings because they are data.

[00:07:56]Finish the thought. Give your brain an ending.

[00:07:59]Recognize patterns. Not everything is a mystery. And most importantly, feel it fully because when you feel it fully, it fades faster.

[00:08:08]>> [music] >> You will literally get bored.

[00:08:11]Now, here is a poem dedicated to the unfiltered, unreplicated, and undeniably hers.

[00:08:17]>> [music] >> You walk in the room minding your glow.

[00:08:20]Skin doing what skin do. Soft, smooth, hello.

[00:08:25]And somehow that turns into a group project with people you didn't invite, didn't select. [music] They clock you. They scan you. They zoom in, enhance like National Geographic.

[00:08:37]But make it insecurity in pants. Side eyes flying like they got wings and a mission.

[00:08:43]>> [music] >> Meanwhile, you're just existing in high definition. And it's confusing because it's subtle, not loud. No one says anything, but it hangs in the crowd.

[00:08:53]So, you pause like, wait. Was that weird or just me?

[00:08:58]Now, your brain starts buffering in 4K anxiety. You don't react because you're trying to be fair. You don't want to pop off. And there's nothing quite there.

[00:09:08]>> [music] >> So, you swallow it down like, maybe it's fine.

[00:09:11]But your brain said, oh no, we revisiting that at 9:00.

[00:09:16]Now, you're in the car like a podcast replay. Episode titled, what was that look they gave?

[00:09:22]You rewind. You zoom. You analyze tone.

[00:09:26]Meanwhile, the person already went home.

[00:09:28]And that's the part nobody tells you is real. It's not just the moment. It's how you feel after it's over. Unresolved, unclear, no apology, no ending, just vibes and a stare.

[00:09:42]So, your mind tries to close what was left wide open. Like, what did that mean? What did that mean? Was something unspoken?

[00:09:50]And when there's no answer, your brain picks a route. Sometimes it whispers, "Maybe it's you."

[00:09:57]But, pause.

[00:09:59]Because not everything felt is meant to be solved. Some things are patterns your mind just evolved. You're not overthinking. You're finishing scenes that were cut short by somebody else's insecurities.

[00:10:11]And yes, it gets heavy. The quiet fatigue, smiling outside while your thoughts disagree.

[00:10:18]>> [music] >> You showing up polished, composed, and intact, while your brain in the back doing full reenacts. But listen, [music] you're not too much. You're just highly seen in a world that's not used to that kind of sheen.

[00:10:32]You're not sensitive. You're picking up cues from people projecting what they cannot use. And healing ain't pretty.

[00:10:39]It's cry, reset, repeat. It's mascara running and still looking elite. It's feeling it fully, not pushing it down.

[00:10:48]Because that ball in the water will always rebound.

[00:10:51]So, laugh when you can, cry when you need, process the moment, then let your mind breathe.

[00:10:58]You don't need closure from every strange act. Some people are chapters not meant to come back.

[00:11:04]And if all else fails, remember this line. Feel it, don't fight it. It fades faster with time. Stay glowing, stay knowing, and stay ready.