Love, Money | The Reality Behind Filipina & Older Foreign Men

Añadido: 2026-05-28

[00:00:00]Hi everybody and welcome to my channel again. Look, I'm going to take on a very controversial subject today. So, uh, stick with me through this because there's parts of this that might save your life. So, I I think it's important that you kind of hear me out. Many of the people here come to the Philippines, uh, basically to retire. And I'm not talking about the uh the young tourists, the backpackers, and they come for a different reason. But a lot of guys come here uh because um well for one it's a cheap place to retire. You know they find it very difficult to retire in their their uh home countries. So they come here to retire here. Um also a lot of them uh come here to uh because of the beautiful climate. It's tropical here. It it's beautiful here. And some come because they they're looking at a second chance for love. We're going to talk a little bit about that. But you know they're coming for relationships and I think that's important.

[00:00:57]But what I want to what I want to tell you at the beginning is uh because you're coming to a place where you can meet somebody who's a lot younger than you. And I mean a lot younger than you.

[00:01:08]You don't need to feel that you have to um that you that you have to do something to yourself to make you younger.

[00:01:16]In other words, if you want to come over here and rock somebody's world, just give them some money, okay? Just help take care of their family, whatever. You don't that's all that's really required. You don't have to do anything more. But for some problem, for some reason, a lot of pe uh men come here, they have this like u ego problem, you know, they feel that they got to come over and that that's not enough.

[00:01:41]They got to prove their manhood. And this is a big problem. And and um I I guess what started me on this whole JAG was I've seen a couple um Filipino bloggers, you know, one was talking to asking a girl, she wanted to know um about men, you know, what man do you like? She wanted to know about penis size. Like that matters. It doesn't matter at all. First of all, if little science here, if a man's got 4 in, he's in the game. That's it. You don't need you don't need an enormous penis to be able to uh to to win a girl here in the Philippines. For sure. I've seen other ones will talk uh about us foreigners coming here that we're we're only come here for uh to find places where we get happy endings and uh they explain how you get happy endings and how much they cost and and I'm saying, "Wait a minute.

[00:02:35]First of all, we didn't have to travel all way halfway around the world to get happy endings. You everybody can get those things in their own country. So, we don't need to travel here for that. I think they have a very flawed idea of what men come here for and what they're trying to accomplish.

[00:02:51]On the other hand, the men uh also have a flawed idea of what they got to be uh to survive in this in this uh in this environment.

[00:03:01]Let me get more more specific. Um you do you do not need to get the fountain of youth to be able to to live here and be able to meet people. I'm talking about meeting girls. Um, first of all, I know that um I I've said this in past videos and of course, you know, people always read it wrong, but basically anybody over 18 years old is probably pretty is game no matter how old you are. It shouldn't be that way, but you know, there's poverty here. There's a reason why the families are struggling here.

[00:03:33]And so, they look at all this a lot different than people do in some of the first world countries. I mean, and uh by the fact I even mentioned that, they go, "Oh, you're you're just trying to put these old men together with these 18-year-old girls." No, I'm not. I don't think that's right. I'm not trying to say that at all. What I'm saying is it's possible here. And basically, you say, "Well, why why is it possible?" It's possible because they can because of the economic circumstances in the country and um the view of I mean on one hand I think if that happened in America where I'm from it'd be scandalous but here families will sometimes accept the role of a young girl being with a very old man because it changes the family dynamics. She's almost seen as a hero to the family to bail them out of maybe bad situations financially.

[00:04:28]Uh I'm not saying any of this is good, but what I want to talk about today, which is probably very important, is some of the things that men will do uh to try to to try to uh present themselves as being a lot younger than what they are. And I'm not talking about coloring your hair or something like that. No, that's not it's not that simple. Uh I get that you should dress nice. you should look as good as you can. I'm talking about guys going out spending money uh to inject testosterone into their veins because they want to increase their testosterone so that maybe their libido will pick up. They'll want to have sex more and be able to perform more. Um the the other thing well things you need to look at for example with testosterone is I mean look at some of the side effects. I mean, people have had blood clots, people have had cardiac events.

[00:05:20]Are you in good enough health that none of these things are going to happen to you? I mean, you know, you you've got to be really careful. And then on top of that, on top of taking that a and injecting things in your veins, they're also taking pills. Some are taking daily doses of salilo sealis, low dosage. They take it every day. So, no matter what time it happens, they're ready. Well, I mean I I don't know if you ever looked at salilophil and say, well, what are some of the side effects? And it's interesting because some people are not only taking the daily doses of solophil, but when the time comes, they're adding another 50 milligrams or even another 100 milligrams to make sure that everything's right. So clearly as far as spontaneous is concerned that's over because if you realize you're going to get in a situation you're going to have to like take them and wait because it takes about an hour for them to really kick in. It's not an immediate thing. Uh so men are sitting there wondering uh okay I'm 62, she's 30. Am I able to cash this check? And if I'm not maybe she's going to drop me, maybe she's going to laugh at me. Uh maybe I'll feel like a failure. all these ego things will will will get back at you and you'll feel well I got to fix this and so what they do is they do things that you know they're not really they're not really looking at some of the downsides of this silafil is is a very first of all it's it's a drug it's a blood pressure medication it was first founded as a blood pressure medication and during clinical trials some of the men that took the trials were saying that uh they were uh you know uh they were getting some responses down there. Okay. So, it was a multi-billion dollar accident uh that the far that pharma did and it's it's a gift that just keeps on giving and because our egos as males says we got to be able to perform all this stuff. Well, it it opens the door for people to take solilopill side effects migraines. Now, I I'm going to admit to you I've tried solopil. I have my head felt like the after effects of that my head felt like it was going to pop off.

[00:07:32]I mean, I had a headache that I've never had before in my life. So bad that I don't want to take it anymore. I mean, I just didn't want to do it. I didn't want to do it. Um I think you get m so severe migraines, um facial flushing, nasal congestion, indigestion. These are some mild things, but you can get more serious stuff on this as well. You can get uh uh chest pain, uh loss of vision, uh and then there's some fun things you can get. Um you get dizziness and also uh th this would not be very funny, but because it drives your blood pressure down, you can easily get what's called hypotension.

[00:08:16]You you're more familiar with hypertension where the blood pressure goes up. Hypotension goes in the opposite direction. What happens when people get hypotension is they pass out.

[00:08:24]they faint. So, just imagine you're in the middle of your sexual activity and all of a sudden you you drop you drop over on the bed. She doesn't understand that you're going through hypotension and maybe you're not in serious trouble, but she doesn't know that. So, she's trying to wake Grandpa up. You know, come on, Gramps, get up. What's What's going on? And you're moaning and you're you're because you're you're figning.

[00:08:47]Uh these are all the things that happen when you start taking some of these drugs. Now, there's always guys, naysayers, would that never happen to me. Yeah, until it does. Until it does.

[00:08:57]What I'm reporting is I'm I'm saying this all to you, not that you'll stop taking it. I'm saying to this is that I don't think you need it.

[00:09:07]I don't think you need it. I don't think you need that to be able to satisfy a woman.

[00:09:14]Now, you guys who have been around a while, you should know better. First of all, most of the uh of climaxes happen externally from the vaginal cavity.

[00:09:24]That's simple really. I mean, so you really, you know, and you really don't need anything at all, but your hands, your tongue, your mouth, I mean, all those things will work, right? So, you really don't need all those other things. So, what what is all that other stuff for? The other thing is when you do take all these drugs and they all work for you and you can quote perform, you might get the girl pregnant.

[00:09:52]Yeah. I mean, you're going to buy her birth control pills. Are you going to use condoms? Because if the girls are younger and they're 30 or 35 years old, they're still capable getting pregnant.

[00:10:01]So, you're risking that as well by doing all this. Can you imagine doing all this and then having a baby when you're 65?

[00:10:09]It happens all the time here. Trust me, it happens all the time here. And what happens is some of these guys, I've had a couple guys who died died on their three-year-old or a two-year-old. The kid for the rest of their life, there's no dad anymore cuz dad was old.

[00:10:25]Now, I I'm not trying to say that we people should come over here and not have these relationships. I'm saying to be realistic about uh your own health and don't feel it's necessary to do all these things to cash the check so to speak or to rock their world because you don't need it.

[00:10:44]I think this is pretty straightforward.

[00:10:46]Um I'm going to speak on a number of these.

[00:10:50]You know, I never thought that my early training in uh sex therapy and in uh doing relationship therapy because that's how I started out. I never thought that I'd be uh that it would be be coming back again to me now. It wasn't something I planned to do. Uh but it the more I observed out there and the more I was listening to people out there, I realized that pe people don't have a really good perspective this whole thing and and I think that there's a a good healthy way of having relationships. Now, I will say there's a lot of men who come here that are already on board with some of the stuff I'm talking about. Uh they've got a girl who's maybe 30 years younger than them who's well aware of uh that they're with a much older man and they're accepting of it. I I rarely have heard that a woman gets rid of a guy who's older than them because he quote can't cash a check. That doesn't happen here. might happen in your home country, but it doesn't happen here because there's so many other things you're bringing to the relationship. And I'm not just talking about money.

[00:11:59]These women also want to be loved. And if you can love the woman, that's all you need. You don't need these other things. You don't It's not necessarily that important.

[00:12:08]And and I don't like to see people do things to harm their bodies, to try to to try to to feed their ego, to make things good, when it's it's okay just the way it is.

[00:12:22]Um, when I came here, I was 62. And I I was like so many other guys. I really did. First of all, I didn't come for a relationship. I came to retire. I was burned out from my job. I've been doing 22 years of therapy uh with thousands and thousands of clients. I just wanted to come here and just decompress for at least a year to do nothing at all. And just like everybody else that's here, all of a sudden some girl got my eye uh and one thing led to another and uh we were living together. She was 29 and I was 63.

[00:13:00]Nobody saw it as being unusual either.

[00:13:02]That's that's the funny thing. I I was married to a girl that were 15 years difference. It was a big thing. This one here, I'm over 30 years older than her and nobody even noticed. Not here.

[00:13:13]That's the nature of the Philippines.

[00:13:14]It's it's what you get when you come here if that's what you want.

[00:13:19]But just keep in mind, I want you to also know that you don't have to put yourself out and feel like you've got to do some something to uh uh to prove your manhood and do all that. That's totally unnecessary.

[00:13:32]Because what? Because they don't really care. I don't think they really when that when that one uh blogger asked uh Philippine or Yeah. Philippine blogger asked her uh you know about penis size, the girl's face got red. They don't even care about that. That's something an American might think about, but not not somebody over here. They don't they're not concerned about that stuff. They're concerned, can you help me? Can you give me some opportunity?

[00:14:00]um are you interested in taking me to the United States and helping me start a new life? All these things are going through their mind. They're not thinking about penis size. And and I feel like also a vlogger that gets on and kind of paints us as men coming here to get happy endings. There's a lot more we want. We actually do want re real relationships. And I think that's nonsense to be even talking about that.

[00:14:24]uh to in my mind I I think that but hey, you know, they're getting a lot of views. Sure, because hey, sex sells, man does. It's still it's still selling in today. It's sold thousands of years ago.

[00:14:39]It's always it's always for sale. And if some pretty girl is going to get on there and tell you this, you're gonna sit there and listen to her. But I think we're a lot smarter than that. Let's let's not degrade ourselves. Let's go.

[00:14:52]Let's let's come over here and do the right thing. Do the right thing. You know, I'm what I'm really surprised about here in the Philippines is they have a lot of laws about stuff.

[00:15:02]Everything from uh adultery to not, you know, you don't have a you don't have a divorce laws, uh all these. And what's surprising is that they don't have laws against age differences because you would think that that would be a that would be something that they would pass because obviously there's a point in time where it just becomes obvious. No offense, but you know, if you're 70 years older with somebody 25, it's a little bit, you know, I mean, it doesn't look right. Even here, even here, you're starting to get questionable.

[00:15:35]You can get away with it because it's legal. It's perfectly legal. Um I'm I'm thinking in the future that might change, but right now that's the law and as long as you're not violating the law.

[00:15:49]But I I think there's another thing besides the law that we have to think about. We also have to think of and I don't want to use the word morals because that's really the wrong word. I would rather use the word ethics that there's really a right way to do things and probably a not right way to do things. Uh uh and maybe you want to make sure that if you get into a relationship, it's somebody you really love and will stick with over time.

[00:16:13]Because if you can do that, then it's fine. I've had a lot of guys write to me already here in the Philippines on my uh Gmail account telling me about how they met a girl, they've been with her 20 years or 25 years, and you know, there was age differences 30 years and they're still together. I love to hear those stories. That's fine. And and that's what you want to see.

[00:16:34]But I don't want us to get pinned in a corner where where uh it's not about relationships anymore. It's about something else. It's about sex for money only. That that's all they exist here. I don't think that's true. I think there's a lot of men here, not only do they have relationships, but they get married. And some of them do. They bring them back to their home country and they provide a life for them that they normally would never provide, including uh maybe their children, giving them opportunity. So I want to look at it that way. So be careful medically get you know first of all if you have any heart ailments whether it's hypertension or you've had bypass surgery or anything like that you don't want to be doing anything like testosterone and all those uh all those uh you know Viagra uh seals and all because you could potentially die. I mean, really, you could get in, you can get yourself in bad situations, particularly not necessarily where the blood pressure is going down, but while it's going back up again. You can get yourself in serious trouble. You you could have a cardiac event.

[00:17:38]It just makes absolutely no sense to put yourself in that situation. I hope this helps you. Um, look, I'm sure there's going to be some naysayers that say that's, oh, this is a true, maybe not for you, okay? But I'm just I'm just giving you the science. If you don't believe me, Google it, WebMD it. And if I'm wrong, please correct me. But in the meantime, I think I stand by what I say here. And I think it's really important that you uh that you look look at the truth of the matter and not what other what other people say who don't know who don't know. They they're not in a position to talk to you about relationships because frankly they they may have been in one or two relationships their whole life. I've worked on hundreds and hundreds of them.

[00:18:23]I've seen these I've seen the relationships go ary and I've seen them also get put back together. I don't claim to be an expert, but I think I'm in a position I can actually talk about it. Hope this helps you. Please subscribe to my channel because I really want to continue. I want to talk a little bit more about this subject uh down the road uh because I think there's more to say about it. Uh and uh take care of yourselves and hope you find good relationships here and enjoy your retirement. Take care. We'll see you.