Differences between men and women sexually

Added: 2026-05-25

[00:00:00]video which I just took on my walk.

[00:00:02]We're going to talk about the difference between men and women sexually. That really comes down to understanding our biology and that sex is meant to reproduce.

[00:00:12]In order to reproduce, men need to ejaculate frequently into a lot of women. And women need to be selective in whom they allow into their vagina to reproduce with them because we only release one egg a month. And our pregnancy is 9 months. The breastfeeding before we had formula was like 3, four, 5 years. So we evolved to be very picky.

[00:00:39]men can just release and reproduce.

[00:00:42]Okay? I'm not talking about morals, obligations, or anything. I'm talking about the animal kingdom. Now, a man has a very primary need for an orgasm. The younger he is, the more often he wants it. And that's a biological imperative.

[00:00:58]In a sexual situation with a woman, sometimes he doesn't come, but his he gets uh aroused very easily and he can ejaculate in one or two minutes.

[00:01:09]Women, in order to get aroused, if you even study evolutionary psychology, we want to be in the presence of a man who feels safe, kind, who is effective, and we're slowly to get slower to get aroused. We need more of his tenderness and interest and presence to become aroused.

[00:01:29]And in order for us to enjoy sex, we don't need to orgasm again to reproduce.

[00:01:35]We just need this effective man who's safe, kind, attentive, reliable, and cares about our pleasure.

[00:01:44]So, we definitely want to enjoy sex. And sometimes we do want an orgasm.

[00:01:49]And if you understand this basic difference between men and women, you will end up having a lot more sex. Men will stop jackhammering inside a woman because they're, you know, they start will have to gain awareness of is she having pleasure? Have I connected with her? Because even when we're not trying to have children, this is our basic biological imperative. And women have to stop blaming themselves for not being as quick to get aroused as the man, as quick to come as the man, and expect themselves to have an orgasm. just start telling you guys, I don't need to have an orgasm, but I need you to care about my pleasure. I need you to [ __ ] me with presence, intention, and being present with me, noticing my pleasure. So, now let's get into this longer video I made on my walk.

[00:02:36]And I really look forward to your comments.

[00:02:40]Comes to sex. Men and women want very different things as the primary goal.

[00:02:47]And I think it just has to do with our biology. Okay. So for men, the prime thing that they want out of it, of course, they want closeness. They want the woman to enjoy herself and all of that goes without saying, but their prime biological or instinctive need is to release. They want to have an orgasm.

[00:03:07]You need to have an orgasm is much stronger than it is for a woman. and it is strongest in puberty and in their 20s and it declines with age. So they're much more likely to masturbate than they have to. They're much more likely to want variety and to have a release. And it's a biological need to reproduce. Let's just distill sex down to what it basically is is a is a reproductive act. And in a reproductive act, what does a man need to do to propagate the species? And what does a woman need to look for to propagate the species, you know? Wow, look at these beautiful little flowers I just found here on this path. My god, these are so pretty.

[00:04:02]So, a man has to release his sperm into the woman to propagate the species, you know, and he's not going to have to be that picky as picky cuz he's just releasing sperm, you know, they really want to have a release. They're it has to do with testosterone, I believe. So, when they're young, they're constantly masturbating. And the more they have access to a woman and sex, I'm sure they would prefer that over the masturbating.

[00:04:28]But even if there's a woman, a girlfriend or a wife who likes sex with them, it's usually not as much as he wants. So, he's still going to masturbate. And this is all normal and healthy. I'm just explaining it. Now, I think we all understand this about men. And when we see porn, it's all made for men. They're always releasing and they're coming and all of this. And the prime thing in porn is always the release. Everybody wants to see the ending, right? and the guy finishes.

[00:04:59]But what does a woman want out of sex?

[00:05:01]What is her biological need? I thought about this. It just dawned on me today as I'm taking this walk.

[00:05:10]Biologically, a woman, a woman, okay, has one egg released per month. Whereas a man releases trillions of sperm in a day, right? Multiple times he could do it. A woman has one egg per month and she's going to carry that baby in her uterus, breastfeed that baby. So, she has a two or three year commitment at least. So, biologically, women are wired to be very selective in who they select for sex and what they enjoy sexually. So, what do we look for? We don't want the biggest [ __ ] We don't want some guy pounding us. We want a guy that makes sex feel good. We don't need an orgasm. We don't need an orgasm to enjoy sex. Why is that? Because it's not required for reproduction.

[00:06:00]A woman can get pregnant without an orgasm.

[00:06:04]And therefore, we don't have that strong of a need to want an orgasm. Whereas, a man has that strong need because without that need to have an orgasm, he's not going to be able to reproduce. So, he has to have that. Nature had to give him that strong need to finish. Women don't have that strong need. But what do we need? A man who's safe, kind, cares about our pleasure.

[00:06:30]And would he be a good father? Is he effective in the world? That's what we look for. It's just basic biology. It's evolutionary psychology. I've talked a lot about the book mate. That's pretty good. We want a man who is effective and safe physically, emotionally, mentally so that he can provide and be safe. We want him to be safe. Number one, before a woman has sex with a man, she wants to know that he's safe, that he's interested in her, and that he looks healthy in, you know, what way she determines. Because if he's interested in me, he's more likely to care about my pleasure and sex. and he's more likely to take care of our children if I get pregnant and when I'm helpless and need his help. So, I think for women wants sex, they definitely want to enjoy intercourse.

[00:07:20]They wanted to feel good. I made a video earlier today about how to be good in missionary because if the guy's just humping mindlessly and she's just left with the ceiling to look at, it's not enjoyable. She wants to enjoy it. How does she enjoy it with the closeness and the connection and his presence, his healthy body moving on her with intention, not just mindlessly humping to for friction for his climax, which of course they can do and many women put up with, but that's not what we like. I'm talking about what people want out of sex. Men definitely want that orgasm. Women definitely want to feel close, connected, and feel pleasure.

[00:08:01]And that pleasure does not involve an orgasm.

[00:08:06]What men need to learn is how to make intercourse feel good for the woman and what the woman wants out of it. Men need to learn what women want out of sex.

[00:08:16]That's what men really need to learn.

[00:08:19]And this video is to let women know that there's nothing wrong with you if you're not satisfied with this mindless masturbating your vagina basically. You know, I don't blame you for not being satisfied. I don't like that. I don't allow that. But we have all allowed it.

[00:08:36]Why?

[00:08:38]Because of the other factor. We're kind.

[00:08:40]We don't want to hurt his feelings, you know. Um maybe we think we should like it or whatever. But I'm giving you permission to think about what you actually like. And I think a lot of women would agree with me that they want to feel pleasure and they want it with the man who's safe and effective that they want to be close to. And there are many times a woman will want to have an orgasm. Don't get me wrong. There are many times a woman will want an orgasm. She'll let you know. She will let you know if she wants one. That's not the primary thing, but occasionally it happens. She gets turned on enough that she wants to finish. or in a relationship.

[00:09:21]I think it is ultimately also a test of closeness and affection that the man shows her that he's willing to put in the time and the effort to give her an orgasm because a man can come in 2 minutes or minute if he wants to.

[00:09:35]If he's using a condom, it could take longer, but one or two minutes. A woman's going to take a little bit of warm up, 10 or 15, maybe 20 minutes of genital stimulation on her that doesn't involve his penis.

[00:09:52]It's an act of giving and caring. And I think that a man, a woman in a relationship is going to want that from a man because again, it shows the closeness and that he cares about her and that she wants him to be the one to give her the orgasm. She could easily give herself. But it's not so much about having the orgasm as him showing her that he cares about her pleasure. So again, it has that emotional component, not that she's having sex to have him give her the orgasm, but she wants him to give her the orgasm because of how she feels about him and she wants that feeling reciprocated. And when a man who just really is very selfish at the primal need of having a release makes the effort to give her attention in this way, it's a more it's a sign of like emotional closeness, safety, and protection.

[00:10:42]But she's not going to want this every day because physically men feel that physical thing like a pressure, like a pressure that needs to be released. And I know what that feels like, but women don't have it as often as men. For me personally, I want to know how turned on can I get? What's going to happen next?

[00:11:02]How turned on can I get? I like the adventure of it.

[00:11:07]I am very happy having sex. Just feeling the closeness, the adventure, getting really turned on.

[00:11:15]But a man is never going into sex thinking, I wonder how hard I can get. I wonder what's what she's gonna do to me next. No, they definitely want to come if they can. And sometimes they can't and they're they're okay with it.

[00:11:29]They're like, it's fine. I still enjoyed myself. Of course, it's not like they're just like predators or something. But at the very basic of it, they want to they want to comment. In my appointments, I would say they um if I ask them, do you want to have one or two releases? Oh, two. That's definitely the highlight. If they can come twice, they love that.

[00:11:51]They would love that. That would make a really good session because their orgasms are a lot more important to them. For me, if I were to have a session with a guy and he would be like, "How many times do you want to come?" I would definitely want to see if he could make me come and how he would do it. So, I would definitely say, "Yes, I definitely want to come." But twice, no, I don't I don't need that. I'd be happy with the once. But again, it takes a little bit more time for me than it does for the guy. So that all makes sense.

[00:12:25]So, hope you like my video.