Man Gets BRUTALLY HONEST After His Woman DISRESPECTS Him

Added: 2026-05-05

[00:00:00]I go out the way to do so much to avoid this Mhm. and I somehow still come back here. She she doesn't prioritize peace, bro. So, I make sure I dot my eyes, cross my tees. Okay, I know I know I just had fun at what it called. Let me make sure I do this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this so I won't have to deal with this. Like, I want to make sure I'll take her there.

[00:00:19]She want this, I want that. She want to go to the cruise, want that. I want to do this, this. I want to come I I do that. Welcome to the mindset of the modern woman today, bro.

[00:00:28]That's what you got. Nothing's ever good enough.

[00:00:31]>> But, I want to >> It's It's no communication in this relationship. None. So, when we we These are our arguments. These heated moments is is this. We can never talk on a podcast >> or anything. You not going to just sit up there and yell that out >> he does for you. and seem like I be out cheating. I don't go to the clubs. I don't go to strip clubs. I don't drink.

[00:00:50]I don't smoke. I don't do nothing. I don't go I don't even go out. She know this.

[00:00:58]Listen, y'all know how much I love to break down podcast conversations and we have one of those very podcast conversations here today. Title of today's video, man gets brutally honest after his woman disrespects him. Now, the podcast in question comes from young brother by the name of Hitman Holla. I believe that's his stage name. Now, I remember this young man from the URL battle rap days and as well as he did a stint on Nick Cannon's Wild 'N Out. Not sure if he's still there. No disrespect if he still is, but nevertheless, he's having a conversation with his fiance and it just turns into one of those moments that is apropos for dissection, okay? We will break down why so many young modern women today are quick to choose divorce and self-sabotage their relationships, weaponizing things that don't even make sense. It's crazy to watch how much feminism blurs the lines and has a stranglehold on their mindsets, but it makes for great conversation and especially when we consider how homes can stay more stable.

[00:01:55]So, let's get into it. Let's get active.

[00:01:57]Without further ado, now we're going to start out here with a little bit of a rant because the young lady is a little bit annoyed, okay? But, take note to her annoyance and what she's talking about because it's going to change directions very quickly.

[00:02:09]Let's listen. online talking. I appreciate the good feedback from >> Y'all be >> And appreciate the negative feedback too.

[00:02:16]>> Okay. What's negative? Because we know y'all watching. Mhm. It do be the women and guys. We we be chilling. It's the women with all the negativity. The men be trolling. No, they don't argue. Who win in argument, the men or the women?

[00:02:27]Not the men. All right, whatever. The men some goofies. Uh-oh.

[00:02:32]>> [laughter] >> Uh-oh.

[00:02:34]Man, we got another dope episode, man.

[00:02:36]We just finna kick it, man. You know, this the real relationship talk. This ain't none of that fake stuff. We ain't faking for the cameras. We ain't faking problems. We ain't acting like we all in love. We not. You know she mean in real life.

[00:02:48]>> Speaking of problems.

[00:02:50]What happened?

[00:02:51]>> She mean in real life.

[00:02:52]>> attention today. Whatever. Let's go.

[00:02:55]So, >> What happened?

[00:02:58]>> [laughter] >> What happened? Okay, so I'm going to blame production because they never confirmed that we were filming today.

[00:03:10]I told her they did, but K I'm going to let you >> I didn't hear anything. So, 4:00 this morning, I woke up and I asked him if he can drop Seven off to Mama mail and he didn't say anything. So, I set my alarm to 8:15.

[00:03:27]I woke up. I say, "Can you drop Seven off or you want to the gym?" He said, "Okay."

[00:03:33]So, then I said, "But, if I'm done in time because I have to go to the nail shop and stuff. If I'm done in time, >> Okay. by the time you go to the barber shop and I'm back, I will take him.

[00:03:44]Cool."

[00:03:45]So, I get to the nail shop at 9:00 on the dot.

[00:03:50]I leave the nail shop at 10:00 what?

[00:03:53]10:42. Okay. 10:50. 10:50. I was 50 >> Whatever.

[00:03:58]I call him. I'm all excited at him and Seven. Well, he's just blah, whatever.

[00:04:04]So, I'm telling him, "Hey, I'm still at the nail shop. I have to be at Jazz's house 10:30, but I'm still here. Blahze blahze.

[00:04:14]It look like I'm not going to make it to drop Seven off." Okay.

[00:04:18]I leave the nail shop what? 10:50.

[00:04:23]Call.

[00:04:24]No.

[00:04:26]Jazz texts me and say 11:30. I said, "Okay." I text him said, "Jazz said 11 11:30. Cool."

[00:04:34]So, I leave the nail shop and I'm telling him this great experience that I'm having because I'm finally having some self-care for the moment Self-care?

[00:04:47]>> is just shooting down the energy bad.

[00:04:49]>> Self-care?

[00:04:50]>> So, instead of saying, "Okay, go on about your day. I got Seven." He say, "Oh, are you coming home?"

[00:04:59]If I have to be at Jazz's house at 11:30 and it's 10:50, so that means I'm 15 minutes away from home to get Seven ready, to drop Seven off, to go drop Seven off, then go to Jazz's house, which is 25 minutes away.

[00:05:18]Make it make sense. He just asked a question, though. So, he was like, "Don't worry about it. I got it."

[00:05:23]I text him. I said, "Make sure you take his milk, his wipes, and his water."

[00:05:30]He texts me and say, "I thought all of that was packed."

[00:05:35]My thing is, I didn't pack the milk because I knew when he woke up he was going to need a bottle. I knew when he woke up he was going to need his diaper changed.

[00:05:46]Instead of just saying, "Go Go ahead. I got it."

[00:05:50]It has to be all this other stuff. So, I'm like, "I'm on the way."

[00:05:55]What you say?

[00:05:56]Why? It's 11:11. Why would you do that?

[00:06:00]I said, "I will wash my hair at home. I will do whatever I need to do."

[00:06:05]I get home. Get Seven dressed in 2 seconds. 2 seconds.

[00:06:11]I said, "Well, kiss your dad." He said, "Where are you going?" I said, "I'm dropping Seven off." "Why would you drop Seven off? I will go I will drop Seven off."

[00:06:19]And it's just like I was so overstimulated because what he doesn't understand is all of this could have been avoided. You could have just been like, "Okay.

[00:06:32]Go get your hair done. Go get your nails nails done. I got it." He didn't have his hair cut appointment until what?

[00:06:39]1:30? Okay.

[00:06:40]>> I suck at story time, by the way. I suck at story time.

[00:06:43]>> No, yeah, you do.

[00:06:45]My My story would be way better. Keep going, though. Yeah, it's not good enough. 1:30. So, I get up 8:00, be at the nail shop by 9:00. You have so much time to get him ready, out the house, and take him 10 minutes away. Okay.

[00:06:59]>> And I just felt like you've been in Miami having the time of your life. I've just been at home, me and Seven, all this type of stuff. And this wasn't even a break that I was getting because I had to go get ready for work.

[00:07:15]So, it's like I was overstimulated, then he asked me like, "What's wrong?" And Overstimulated.

[00:07:22]>> We actually communicated, but it was a little heated. And I honestly just broke down. Oh my god. Men, they don't be understanding.

[00:07:33]Like, you can go out and you can have all the fun in the world and then the moment where it's like, "Okay, let me just have some me time and make sure I'm feeling good, looking good." And it's it circles around it.

[00:07:50]So, yeah. Okay. Couple of quick things I'm going to comment off of. Notice how she references what he's been doing, you know, while traveling or in Miami or what have you. So, this is things that she has been harboring. Maybe she didn't communicate at the time, but irrespective or regardless, it came up in this conversation when she's thinking about or cross-referencing what he's doing with his morning and the child versus what she's doing in the morning with the child. Also, notice how she says the word overstimulated.

[00:08:19]These are typically women that have maybe like a neurodivergent diagnosis and they're getting therapy for it and they've been trained on words such as overstimulation to describe them feeling overwhelmed. And with that degree of overwhelm, just listening to the way that she articulates the story, she doesn't really have a clutter-free mind, right? The way that she ties in different points and positions, it doesn't really make sense. It's not clear. You almost have to replay it again to understand what she's saying.

[00:08:47]And with this overstimulation, you also have a young lady that's She's not a very good communicator. She might think that she's a good communicator. With her and her homegirls, maybe she's a good communicator. But, the story that she just told, it just didn't kind of didn't make sense. You know what I mean? And typically, women that have much more of a incongruent way of understanding how things happen, right? Much more of an emotionally baked way. They often will throw things in there such as, "Yo, past weekend trip down to Miami." Meanwhile, that's the real reason I they mad.

[00:09:14]>> [laughter] >> Like, not necessarily that it was a miscommunication in the morning, but she's harboring something that maybe she doesn't even understand that she's harboring. So, then logically, from a man's position, he's listening to her complain about something that is insignificant as much as, right, milk and napkins, whatever it is that she told him to pack. And a man's sitting over there saying like, "Well, it's not that big of a deal. We can figure this out." Meanwhile, she's been harboring these feelings from this trip, okay?

[00:09:37]Now, let's listen to the young man's side. That was long and did I make a valid point? Barely. Did I make a valid point? Or was I just talking? I like how he lets her just go, though.

[00:09:49]>> I don't think y'all get my point.

[00:09:50]>> I mean?

[00:09:51]Now, it's my turn. Yeah. First of all, we got She mad because We They ain't say we film on on March 25th. I said, "Yes, what day 25th, right?" I said, "Yes, yes it did." I said, "It was always March 25th, baby.

[00:10:07]They tried to change it to the 18th, but we was in St. Louis, so we kept the 25th." I was they never confirmed. I said, "We did confirm. It's in the text."

[00:10:15]It wasn't in a text with me.

[00:10:17]But go on.

[00:10:18]>> know all the texts, but we confirmed the 25th. Right, Jay? Yes. So it's always been confirmed, 25th. She mad at me because she didn't know that for whatever reason, but I told but I told her the 25th. She knew we was in I said they wanted 18th, we in St. Louis, we can't got to do 25th. She knew that.

[00:10:32]She said she want me at 4:00 in the morning. I don't even remember. He said I ain't say nothing. I was just 4:00 in the morning. All right, what up? She had me at 8:00 in the morning. Got to take Seven to um Mama Mel's I said, "Okay, I just won't go to the I was going to go to the gym. I had a schedule. I'm going to the gym, haircut, shower, filming." She just out the blue, "Can you take Seven cuz I got to go get my nails done and all this?" I'm like, "You been knew what day we film." It was never confirmed. She said it first, so that's the first thing. I said, "You know what? Forget it. I'll skip the gym.

[00:11:05]I take Seven to Mama Mel's." She said, "Okay, well I go at 9:00. If I get back cuz I got to be at Jazz's house at 10:30. If I get done, I can take him."

[00:11:14]I'm like, "All right, but I might still better go to gym, bet."

[00:11:17]She texts me at 10:15.

[00:11:19]"I'm still here, but Jazz said I can come at 11:30."

[00:11:23]So I was like, "Oh, that's always." I'm like, "All right.

[00:11:26]So you coming back here?" That's all I asked. I'm like, "Okay, you got another hour now." Like, You got me messed >> telling me 11:30 for?" Like, "You coming back here?" "Why would I come back there? If I just told you I got to go to Jazz's house." And then I'm like, "Well, if you knew I was going to take him, why you telling me she pushed it back to 11:30?" Like, "What is you telling me that for?" I'm thinking you finna tell me, "Okay, at 11:30 I got time to take him now." Boom boom boom. "No, I So she get back and I just told her. I'm like, "Seven."

[00:11:54]She said, "I'm on my way." I said, "You don't have to come now." She said, "Make sure his bottle and all this stuff." I'm like, "I thought this stuff was ready."

[00:12:02]>> packed. She said she had it packed.

[00:12:04]>> Everything packed.

[00:12:04]>> All I asked was I thought all this stuff was ready. She know I You know me, we don't do good with I don't do good with change. And he just so little, it's hard to put on his clothes. His She know all the bottle stuff. She organized all his stuff, so it take me longer. So I'm like, "If you could just get him ready, and I got all I got to do is take him, it's fine." So I'm like, "You going You finna come home? Stop by home?"

[00:12:24]"I'm on my way."

[00:12:25]Gerald, be honest.

[00:12:26]>> Overstimulated. Every man that runs on schedules and plans things like myself understands this, okay? You got your routine set, and you try to follow through with that routine. If there's going to be a monkey wrench within it, it is what it is. You will try to plan effectively.

[00:12:43]It also sounds like while he's the primary breadwinner, she's the primary caregiver. But her blowup, and many women's blowups that are just like her, is because his inability to fulfill whatever component of the duties the exact way that she wanted, she takes that as an affront towards her, right?

[00:12:59]As if he's rejecting her. And then you sprinkle on top that he was out partying this last weekend, and then you got a witch's brew [ __ ] Anyway, let's continue. We're actually going to skip just a little bit where You got to start managing your time better.

[00:13:12]She said broke down crying. See, he don't understand. Like, you be kick He go out and kick it. I'm at home >> out and kick it.

[00:13:21]>> just in Miami. You was just in New Orleans. Us. What do you mean I asked you to >> I'm at home with Seven.

[00:13:27]>> keep saying I'm kicking it?

[00:13:29]>> Hold on, wait wait wait wait. You said I be kicking it. Seven, I told you from the jump we Before Seven, did you go out everywhere you wanted?

[00:13:37]>> Yes. You asked for a baby. You wanted a baby.

[00:13:40]>> For sure, but you asked for a baby.

[00:13:43]I only asked for a baby because you kept saying his brother had a baby and he was like, "Oh, I want another baby so they can be best friends."

[00:13:49]>> Did you want a baby?

[00:13:50]>> I sure did.

[00:13:51]>> Okay, and I told you, baby, your life is going to change because you my I'm I'm on the road. Like my life don't stop.

[00:13:58]That's my work. Right.

[00:13:59]>> You ain't going to be able to go out like you used to. What you What Why you mad at me?

[00:14:03]>> That's fine. So why you keep saying I'm kicking it? I'm on my first trip since I had Seven.

[00:14:07]>> You still was in Miami having the time of your life. When you got back and I wanted to go get my hair and stuff done, it shouldn't been no issue. So go do it. I got it. That's it.

[00:14:20]>> Did I say something? It was the circles.

[00:14:22]Why wasn't everything packed? Why can't you get him ready and I take him?

[00:14:26]>> know where his stuff at.

[00:14:27]>> All his stuff was packed. Why you keep saying I'm kicking it?

[00:14:30]I had everything Why you say kicking it having the time of my life? That was the first trip I went on in 9 months. That was pre-birthday. My birthday in 3 days.

[00:14:36]But you still out kicking it having a time of your life.

[00:14:39]>> For my birthday. Exactly.

[00:14:41]>> So what do you bring that up for?

[00:14:42]Because you're out kicking it >> Did I not just have you and your friends out kicking it in New Orleans You said I'm out kicking it like I just I've been out every weekend. Who said you've been out every weekend?

[00:14:54]>> What me I I said in Miami What that got to do with anything? What do Miami have to do with anything, Seven? In Miami because you was just in Miami while I was at home, so you came home Monday and I had to get myself together two days before >> I'm asking you a question. What does me in Miami have to do for a pre-birthday trip? What do Why you keep saying I'm out kicking it? What does that got to do with anything?

[00:15:12]>> kicking it in Miami? Did you just go out before that?

[00:15:15]So did I bring up you kicking it in New Orleans?

[00:15:17]>> have, but we was together. Did I ask you Did I ask you to go there? You asked me to go there.

[00:15:23]>> Who asked me to go to New Orleans?

[00:15:24]>> Gerald, you randomly said, "I'm going to Jazz's." See, this But we were in the car. Did he say, "I want to take y'all to New Orleans"?

[00:15:34]>> I said I might.

[00:15:35]>> happened? We came here.

[00:15:37]And what did we do? We booked the Airbnb, right?

[00:15:40]I said y'all can go there. I wasn't really I didn't have to go.

[00:15:43]I took I watched Seven.

[00:15:45]Did I watch Seven on that trip, me and Mama Mel? Yes. Okay, so what do you keep What do you The See, this is what we getting to.

[00:15:52]>> why is this a issue? You was just in Miami kicking it. That's all I said. I didn't say every weekend. I said Miami.

[00:15:58]You're in Miami having fun.

[00:16:00]>> What that got to do What do you I'm confused with what that got to do with this.

[00:16:03]>> My brother, what you're trying to do is to rationalize the irrational. She's unable to explain it herself, the issue that she has with you being down there, and she's also framing it in a way as if like you down there sticking your dick in [ __ ] and she has the evidence of that. She will continue to do that because she's trying to control you. And there's so many dudes that are watching this right now so super triggered because they understand what this form of communication is. It's designed to paint you as a bad actor, right? Like a villain in this story. Not because it's true, but she's trying to make you look emotionally abusive or careless just by implication of you going down there without actually having to prove anything. The sad thing is is that, you know, if you're only in an environment between you and her, and she doesn't have a system of accountability such as like a comment section, right? And then the issue is is that, you know, if she's saying things in a matter and you know that they don't make sense, but she's ruffling you enough where you have this emotional reaction, she knows that she's getting a rise out of you, and she knows that she is effectively controlling you through those emotions. So then it goes back to the dude to remain as stoic as you can as she is interfacing with you with her [ __ ] Then it's incumbent on you as the man to remain as stoic as possible. A high degree of frame as she's interfacing with you so that, you know, her [ __ ] test don't work, and she don't get to knock you off of your center so that you can be appropriately framed in a way to check her on her [ __ ] to officially lay down the law.

[00:17:33]So let's fast forward to that section right now. I ain't doing anything. What I'm saying is you're having fun while I'm in the house. So when you're finally finally home >> That's triggering me right there, bro.

[00:17:44]>> time where I can go get my nails, my hair my hair and stuff done, all of that. And when I did that, it was circles. That triggered me, bro. Cuz it ain't My birthday in 4 days. I do this every year, go with my guys down there. My first time doing something like this in 9 My son finna be 9 months. My first time going out to have fun in 9 months.

[00:18:05]So for you Yeah yeah, so for for her to just say to the naked eye to the naked ear, that's like >> And she's standing there >> having fun, and I'm in here doing That's why I got to bring up I just took you and I just took you and your friends to New Orleans a week before that."

[00:18:21]>> Nothing's ever good enough.

[00:18:22]>> Wait wait What Why Why you got to bring up They don't want peace. They want war.

[00:18:26]You make it seem like she a slave. Yeah.

[00:18:29]So look, no I don't I don't I I just don't like I just don't like I don't like What did that have to do with She could have said, "No, you just came back in town and I needed but you in Miami having fun." That sound like she don't have fun. So now I got to counter cuz I know the females going to get all, "You got to throw what you did to her in her face." And do No, when you say I'm in Miami having fun, it make it seem like you slaving, I got to counter. I just took you and your friends a week before.

[00:18:55]Cuz I knew I was going to Miami to have fun with you. Boom boom. And I go 4 days before my birthday, the weekend before my birthday, so I can do something with you on my birthday. She know that.

[00:19:04]>> Yeah yeah.

[00:19:04]>> So for her to just say act like I'm just out kicking it when that was the first time in 9 months I didn't do anything, that's that triggered me. It just really Listen, and to all the MTRs out there, this is why men say that often times in dealing with modern women in their mindsets is like dealing with children.

[00:19:19]Children do not think as logically as adults do, hopefully, okay? They're a lot more emotional within their thinking. In fact, one of the major jobs of being a father is to demonstrate to a young boy how to control his emotions so he can think about what are the next steps. When they get overstimulated, right? Like or they get high on their emotional whatever, they don't think about anything that you've done for them. They don't consider the time, energy, and effort, right? That it took to become you, to be the breadwinner, to be successful as you currently are, to be as noteworthy, to have the status that you They don't care about any of that [ __ ] They want what they want at that current junction. And if they don't feel heard, if they don't feel appreciated, then this is what the hell you have to deal with. And it's not even just that, it's also where she's based.

[00:20:06]Notice in the beginning this he was like laughing at the idea that she has an attitude, okay? I recognize this trait and if I see it in young ladies, I move the complete other direction. A lot of these modern women today romanticize this boss bee attitude independent that it even if it's god damn fake, it's fake as hell. And they're not even mean like that, but they just act like this [ __ ] because they see the city girls god damn acting like this [ __ ] But she's not going to ride within logic. She's not going to acknowledge that it's birthday.

[00:20:36]She's not going to acknowledge that he just took her and her friends out to New Orleans. She don't care about none of that. And it's funny because often women with this type of basis will get out of these relationships and call the guys narcissists.

[00:20:50]You triggered me bad because you have just as much fun. Yes, you can't have no more spontaneous fun like me. Yes, you're nurturing your mother I mean you're a mother, so you just can't up and leave.

[00:21:00]But if it's that that's a different kind of animosity she got within herself.

[00:21:04]>> She's harboring that.

[00:21:05]>> it's not my fault that you can't up and leave and go to Jamaica like you used to do with your friends for a weekend of time whenever.

[00:21:11]>> Cuz you don't take the baby to the nail shop. No. So I I I I I watch him.

[00:21:15]>> So I So maybe what she's saying is like just what you said, that's the truth.

[00:21:20]That's the conversation is because she's a mother, she's nurturing. You know, she's not a father. Fathers do have more, you know, freedom to do things. So she I think is thinking she probably said fun, but I think she's [snorts] talking about >> Oh my god.

[00:21:33]>> But and then but [clears throat] then this this But but this is also what hurt me. She came in like, "Keep that same energy for Miami. Don't get her get tired." We get back, she asked go shopping, she asked go out to eat, she did everything.

[00:21:47]>> Yeah, and she's not going to acknowledge that. She's So this I don't want to say this, but now I got to say it though.

[00:21:53]Everything she asked me to do I just did. She just asked for a $10,000 necklace.

[00:21:56]>> Dog, and this is just not cute.

[00:21:58]>> it for her yesterday.

[00:22:00]That's not me throwing it in her face though. That's me doing everything I said I was going to do. I ain't going to be tired, baby. When I get home we kicking it, we going to the concert tomorrow, we kicking it. Everything I said I'm going to do I'm doing. So why is it a problem and you going to lash out when you're mad to make it seem like I'm just having all this off the wall fun and you slaving?

[00:22:19]You just got a diamond necklace that say "Cinnamon" on a tennis chain that cost $30,000 $10,000 charm and a $15 tennis chain necklace that you asked for that I gave to you with a smile yesterday. What are we talking about Miami and me having fun with my homies for?

[00:22:32]But when I say that, the first thing people going to say is, "Oh my god, he's throwing it in her face what he just bought." No, them the counter arguments I got to have. That's the only way I got to say it. And I'm like, "Damn, Cinnamon, I'm not just having fun. I came back and took her home, too. You asked to go shopping, you asked to go out to eat, you asked to do this, you asked to do that, we did that. We got a cruise coming. I just did everything that you asked me to do."

[00:22:53]That's what triggered me. And that's why we get into it like that because all from a Miami all from her just saying I had fun in Miami like I just go out like I just been kicking it for since she just be at home. That's what triggered me.

[00:23:06]I didn't make it that And that's I'm glad y'all here to say that. Y'all might If I came here y'all ain't see this, y'all might be like, "He made it like that." No, but when she really just I just felt like that I have having fun in Miami and I'm in the house watching my son. All that had to be said. So maybe it's both triggered because maybe when you told her she needed to get her time schedule and she was just like she really was like maybe a little confused. Even though she probably heard 25th, dates were changing, so she probably like, "I don't know exactly I agree. She felt a little attacked when you like, "You need to get your But I agree, but you know but you wouldn't notice though.

[00:23:42]She [snorts] knows she been late since I met her. She knows she always run late.

[00:23:46]This ain't got nothing to do with seven.

[00:23:47]Yeah, this But yeah, this ain't got nothing to do with me her having seven and I'm like, "Oh, you got a baby now."

[00:23:51]I always say >> That was rude that she asked her man.

[00:23:55]We, you know, being a leader telling her like time management is okay. That's But I think it is, you know, >> Dog, this is >> man. I'm, you know, I can only imagine like your freedom changed. What I can do changes, so she just made And I and I Even when he keeps seven, he said, "Damn, I see how you feel. I can't eat, I can't take a shower, I can't use the bathroom." Like so just imagine like I never knocked you.

[00:24:21]>> and my whole life is on pause.

[00:24:24]When you're not there so when I say like whatever, whatever.

[00:24:30]I'm I never I never knocked you. I gave you your flowers.

[00:24:33]>> said you knocked me. So why are you throwing that in my I I told you your job is hard. You're a mama, you're a mother. The hardest job ever. When I'm I'm late, I have reasons.

[00:24:44]>> But this ain't got nothing to do with seven. You've been late for I've been We've been together 10 years. I don't always be late. I just started being late because I used to be the one on time. You used to be the one on time.

[00:24:54]>> And I'm not saying us, I'm just saying in general. I used to be the one on time and everybody used to be late, so I started being late because everybody else was late.

[00:25:02]>> Oh my god.

[00:25:03]Okay.

[00:25:04]Again, I just hear a child-like mind speaking. The thing is is that What's actually an interesting dynamic is to watch Hitman Holla speak to the young lady that's outside, right? And you're hearing the young lady sort of in defense of her actions or her behavior.

[00:25:18]And this is why I also say I'm a proponent of therapy if it is a male therapist, okay? You need someone more logically aligned to take a look at the situations and hold both people accountable. Because what you find is is that most of their arguments tend to break down underneath scrutiny, logical scrutiny. Not always appealing to her woman, her soft, oh no, she's crying, feelings, emotions, and like all this other [ __ ] within the dynamics of the communications between both men and women. They allow women to have a lot more leeway within their emotions than they allow men do. But someone that can hold the logical line would just ask a questions like, "So are you saying that he's not here? Or are you just up mad and upset that he was doing this this past weekend?" Cuz he sounds like he's an active father. He said he was at home for the last 9 months. And just because he's outside of the household and you're with the baby and your life's on hold, well guess what? You had a baby.

[00:26:15]That's going to happen. And also guess what? He's the breadwinner. He's got to leave the house more often than what you do. And I'm sure you don't even have to work. I mean couple of days ago he just bought you a $10,000 as a reward for the great job that you're doing, but you still over here complaining.

[00:26:32]Still over here complaining.

[00:26:33]>> And weaponizing the time that he does get out the house. He's triggered. [ __ ] I'm triggered, okay? Because we see this far too often, women unwilling through their lack of empathy to consider what the man is actually doing in the dynamic of the situation between them. Let's keep going. I don't I don't act like If If I'm late, I'm 5 minutes late.

[00:26:54]Come on now.

[00:26:55]>> Cinnamon, we don't get into it for you being late. We don't get into it because we be I be late. When I come back and I'm like, "Come on, Cinnamon, so this that So we did that You saying, "Come on, Cinnamon" that's getting into it?

[00:27:05]No, I'm talking about we don't So we never This is we never had conversation Yes, we have. But we don't get into it about it.

[00:27:10]>> talking about getting into it, but how long have we been having this conversation about you being late?

[00:27:13]>> be times. And And then like, okay, since you like never mind.

[00:27:17]>> This is This is a >> Never mind what? Cuz I don't understand.

[00:27:20]Huh? Do both of you in some kind of way on the low do either one of you feel under appreciated?

[00:27:28]I'm I'm said I've been starting to feel unappreciated for sure for sure.

[00:27:32]I feel like he's been a very like feeling like I've been unappreciative.

[00:27:37]But this is a prime example though. Stop buying her [ __ ] Because I go out the way to do so much to avoid this and I somehow still come back here. She She doesn't prioritize peace, bro. So I make sure I dot my eyes, cross my T's. Okay, I know Cinnamon I know I just had fun and what's it called. Let me make sure I do this, this, this, this and this and this and this and this so I won't have >> So I won't have to deal with this. Like I want to make sure I'll take her there.

[00:28:00]She want this, I want that. She want to go to the cruise, want that. I want to do this, this. I want to come I I do that. Welcome to the mindset of the modern woman today, bro.

[00:28:08]That's what you got. Nothing's ever good enough. They've been raised in excess, they've only watched surplus, and they compare themselves to the Instagram baddies that don't even really live that life. They live their life on debt, okay? And some of them, a lot of them, actually are gold diggers or involved in sex work. Cin, do you feel like that?

[00:28:29]What?

[00:28:29]>> Honestly, do you?

[00:28:30]Yeah. Yes. Absolutely. So now I get more triggered cuz it's like it's the stuff she says. I think both of you trigger [clears throat] each other. Yeah, but I wouldn't Yeah, it's it's no communication in this relationship, none. So when we these are our arguments. These heated moments is is this. We can never talk on a podcast or anything whatsoever and I would love that, but it's like he go 10 and then I go 10 and then it's it's just that.

[00:29:00]>> I only go 10 when I get triggered. I wasn't I wasn't triggered until she said the Miami thing. Roll the cameras back.

[00:29:06]That's what I like I was just talking regular, I was smiling, I was sitting back, I was smiling, I was laughing, I was like, "Is it my turn? Is it my time?"

[00:29:16]If we roll the cameras back, I was friendly, I was laughing when I was joking. I only got mad when she said in front of all these people, "While you're out in Miami having fun, I'm in the house with my son." That sound terrible.

[00:29:31]>> Terrible. You're not going to just sit up there and yell that out in front of all these people like seem like I be out kicking it. I don't go to the clubs, I don't go to strip clubs, I don't drink, I don't smoke, I don't do nothing. I don't go I don't even go out. She know this.

[00:29:43]It sound like some personal [ __ ] yell >> out right here to make it seem like I'm just out having a blast and you at home every day with my son.

[00:29:50]>> That's disrespectful to me cuz that's a lie.

[00:29:51]>> And what's crazy is is that that's exactly the story that she tells her homegirls.

[00:29:56]Like this is so crazy, bro.

[00:29:58]>> [laughter] >> Damn. So all all the MTRs, y'all see what we talk about now? This whole podcast is a pinnacle example of what we be talking about. [ __ ] But you made it that.

[00:30:11]But it it don't got to be intentional.

[00:30:13]Like y'all don't know that. [ __ ] So you putting that on me.

[00:30:17]>> If y'all leave out here if somebody would have left out here yesterday and said she [clears throat] at home with her son he just out of Miami kicking it.

[00:30:23]But I said Miami. I ain't say oh you be out every weekend every day doing this that and >> that's just what it gave. That's what it gave off because I don't even know why they even had to be said though.

[00:30:32]>> Because you >> This will often happen when you lock them into a logical corner, then they'll try to nitpick words to deflect of the intentions behind the words.

[00:30:44]Please watch out for that. They will divert attention in lieu of apologizing or taking accountability. Just in Miami.

[00:30:52]But what does I'm Oh you like Jay said whoever Michelle said you had time to relax put your feet up. So if I I didn't have time to go prep for the podcast.

[00:31:04]The time when I had to go prep for the podcast is when you got home.

[00:31:09]So how you going to do all this with a 9-5? I don't know.

[00:31:13]I don't know.

[00:31:13]>> I got mad the other time? You know you saw Now you see how dumb it sound though? Oh yeah.

[00:31:17]>> Cuz you say all this you having the worst you got the worst life in the world now cuz you got a son that you got to take care of. That's how you making it. You slaving. Hell.

[00:31:26]>> You at home shackled up in the house while I'm out here having fun.

[00:31:29]>> be a mom. Huh? You don't know how it feel to be a mom.

[00:31:33]>> So I'm doing how you explain to me. You shackled up in the house while I'm having fun. I'm just saying what you saying. So while you shackled up in the house and I'm having fun, how you going to do all this with a 9-5? She can't.

[00:31:44][snorts] She'll buckle under pressure. She can't handle it. But I don't like how he's trying to like No.

[00:31:51]>> roll the cameras back. Don't do that.

[00:31:52]>> Oh [ __ ] Miss me with all of this [ __ ] She made it about me though.

[00:32:04]It's the way you in Miami and then it and I'm at home with my Y'all don't fellas man be real man. Does that sound bad? Yeah.

[00:32:12]>> sound bad? Be real with me.

[00:32:16]Okay. I can't I can't knock how how she meant it.

[00:32:19]If I just go over there and put my hands on somebody and just be like man I'm I'm in a bad mood. That ain't how I meant it. I already did it.

[00:32:25]>> did it.

[00:32:26]I don't know if it wasn't intent cuz she yelling crying. She might really feel some kind of way.

[00:32:31]Okay, she's hurt and Miami got brought up so she hurt that I just had a fun trip in the last 9 months.

[00:32:37]>> No, it's not. It's not.

[00:32:39]>> Y'all you making it like that cuz you a girl like y'all going to do that. You can't What what you going to say?

[00:32:44]>> How you going to How you going to tell How you going to tell me how somebody How you going to tell how me how some how some meant that was meant to to fit her narrative?

[00:32:53]>> Yeah.

[00:32:54]She said that ain't help me.

[00:32:56]She said that to fit her narrative.

[00:32:58]>> Okay. We going to hold on. You was out in Miami having fun.

[00:33:03]I think that Okay, let's see what he said. This [snorts] argument in and of itself is not about that. They say sometimes the first argument you have depending on who wins in that area and then every time something comes up is that plus that because I think the communication thing go back and forth.

[00:33:23]You can be upset this that but when it gets beyond and it keeps going and lingering and it starts back up and stops and starts back up over everything that occurred then it's like it's a continuation. I already get The question is do you guys ever really resolve No. your argument?

[00:33:43]>> No. It just gets brushed under the table. Yeah. Yeah.

[00:33:47]The reason why it's hard to resolve this because I can't I can't solve the the the problem or the fact that she's mad that I was in Miami.

[00:33:57]>> I'm not mad at that.

[00:33:58]>> You shouldn't brought it up though. I don't care about you I [ __ ] It got brought up. I'm not I don't do good with coincidence. If you bring something up it's for a reason.

[00:34:06]So take away the Miami.

[00:34:07]>> He Here's the thing. Um I'll pause it right here. Matter of fact, let's listen to this a little bit more. Take away the nail shop.

[00:34:14]Where we >> [snorts] >> Yeah, cuz there's stuff going on beyond this. Like just take away those two. But that's you take but I mean we take that away though you're not taking away the real problem.

[00:34:25]Uh and maybe it's a symptom.

[00:34:26]>> Some people just want to act like that ain't happen. So we take away that, we faking now.

[00:34:31]And that's why it we it never gets to >> Yeah, because I'm not because So now I I know exactly how if it if it continues after the podcast ends like >> want y'all to roll the cameras back though. That's all I'm saying cuz y'all act like y'all don't really want to be real right now. Roll the cameras back. I was having fun. I was laughing. I was joking with her. The problem came >> I told my story I was laughing and joking. And Okay, we was laughing and joking. When did it get real?

[00:34:58]When you got you got mad when I mentioned Miami. Dog. But all I was saying is you was having a blast in Miami.

[00:35:04]Yeah. So I got mad after she mentioned Miami or was she mad when she mentioned Miami?

[00:35:10]>> So if I would have said you had the worst time in Miami I'm asking you a question. Did I get mad after she brought up my So much time >> Oh and she's drinking. Okay. out the house and taking 10 minutes away.

[00:35:26]And I just felt like you've been in Miami having the time of your life. I just been at home me and Seven all this type of stuff and this wasn't even a break that I was getting because I had to go get ready for work.

[00:35:42]She was mad as >> Okay, let's pause it right there and I'm happy that they did that flashback right there because the way that she phrases it is exactly what he's saying. She attempted to frame the trip in a way that fits some type of narrative and the thing is is that whether or not it's the narrative that she's telling herself or is the narrative that she's telling to her mama, her family, her closest friends in the group chat it's a narrative that's out there and what he's doing is combating that very narrative because that narrative does make him look so terrible and doesn't show the totality of what his involvement is within her life and their child's life.

[00:36:17]My recommendation for all of this is is that they need to see a male therapist, not just any therapist, a male therapist yesterday, okay? And if she does have ADHD, okay, because she utilized that overstimulated word, they need to see one that specializes in ADHD. If they don't talk about things and this is what can happen is is that as dudes, you know, we could think that everything is good, you know, and we inevitably kick the can down the road because we establish peace as important within our life. So we might see things that are going wrong and continue to just, you know, it is what it is. Just keep on kicking the can. Meanwhile the issues are accumulating on her side and it's like the iceberg problem. You really just see that little mountain on top and you think that's the problem but the the main iceberg is underneath. A whole bunch of things that you didn't even realize that were issues. Number one reason for relationship failure is communication issues. At the brunt of it. It's just unfair especially if she has more of an avoidant personality. You know, she can get emotional to the extent of framing his involvement like that and then also pulling unrelated ammo to just win in the moment or like to, you know, make him seem suboptimal within the moment cuz once you do that, you're not really solving anything.

[00:37:33]You're doing what he just called out which is triggering him, making him upset. Meanwhile he thought everything was good but you were keeping score.

[00:37:42]Relationships ain't going to survive on the scoreboard, baby. And for y'all ladies that are out there that are really trying to learn to know how to be a better option for a man in the future your ability to emotionally regulate so that you can think more clearly, more accurately, more logically is something that you got to be able to work on. And then also if you have an avoidant personality, you have to make time for conversations of things that will bother you so it can be dressed before the anthill turns into a goddamn mountain the size of Mount Everest. For the Gs out there, you should also try to surface this type of communication within a relationship and also stay calm, okay? Because if you match their emotional energy, everybody going to lose because that escalation is always going to have a cost whether or not it's her losing respect for you because you got into your feminine, because you allowed your emotions to go crazy or the situation is never going to get handled because you handled it with emotions as opposed to logic. All right, guys. Let me know what you think down up in the comment box down below. Let me know if you agree with the points that I have made. Let me know if you disagree. I'm sure we're going to get some ladies that's out there like shut up.

[00:38:48]You don't know what it's like being a mother.

[00:38:51]MTR, you're such a male chauvinist pig.

[00:38:54]I want to see them comments as well, all right?

[00:38:57]But I appreciate you guys. I love you guys.

[00:38:59]And as always I'll see you soon. Peace. You as ratchet [music] as they come. Rainbow weaves and bat wing lashes weighing more >> [singing] >> than a man. What time is your football practice? I bet you can hit that eight gift like a mug. How you big back and said a man must buy you gifts? Where here goes a Fitbit tracker. Are you mad cuz [music] you got three kids by four different [singing] ass? You pick cookies that you bash. Oh man, when you get sad