Coaching A Client With EXTREME Anxiety

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[00:00:00][music] [music] >> So here's some footage of me coaching a guy who had an extreme amount of social anxiety.

[00:00:13]So yeah, it was obviously a lot of time spent doing quite sort of early stage stuff, you know, anxiety management exercises, basic stuff just to kind of get him more and more comfortable, more and more desensitized. But it's kind of a long process. So this kind of varies from person to person. You know, some people kind of get through this stuff quite quickly. Others they need a lot more time just to kind of get used to everything. So everyone's coming at it from a different place.

[00:00:40]But yeah, here here's some footage that that you'll be able to see and yeah, I mean if this is something that you feel like you might benefit from as well, you know, by all means get in touch. I'm available you know, for coaching and yes, something that can massively have a have a really positive impact on your life.

[00:00:57]So yeah, when it comes to dating, relationships obviously, but also just you know, any any kind of social interaction in life. You know, being able to manage that anxiety can obviously lead to massive things. You know, whether whether it's your confidence, your social skills, dating life, etc. So yeah, get in touch if it's something that that that you feel you could benefit from and yeah, we can take it from there.

[00:01:20]>> Cool. All right guys, so I'm out here with Langru. It's your first time doing day game, right? First time doing [music] a session. So yeah, we're going to kind of start off I guess >> just kind of what from the basics, kind of see how you go, see how you progress.

[00:01:34]I think like you know, when it's the first time doing it, you just kind of have to let oops, you just have to kind of let go and just not worry. And yeah, don't be too sort of perfect with everything. You just kind of yeah, just see how it all goes and understand that nothing too bad is going to happen ultimately. You just have to kind of roll with it and just kind of see what happens really.

[00:01:52]Yeah, how you feeling? You feeling good?

[00:01:53]Feeling yeah?

[00:01:54]>> Yeah.

[00:01:55]>> Yeah.

[00:01:56]Cool.

[00:01:57]So yeah, so what we're going to do initially is just kind of do some basic stuff. So, we're just going to just start off from the basics, build up gradually till till till you're basically comfortable with it. So, let's let's crack on.

[00:02:09]First first exercise, literally just ask somebody for directions.

[00:02:13]Dead simple, you know, anybody can do it.

[00:02:15]But yeah, just as a basic thing just to literally just get speaking to someone basically pretty much.

[00:02:21]So, yeah. Let's let's find someone just to quickly ask directions [music] to.

[00:02:25]Yeah.

[00:02:27]And then um I think we need someone over there.

[00:02:37]See that girl in the black? I haven't seen her face. Doesn't matter. Doesn't matter what she looks like. But yeah, you can just ask her, "Excuse me, do you know where Leicester Square is?"

[00:02:46]And then yeah, just ask where Leicester Square is. And that's it pretty much.

[00:02:51]Just right there. And then yeah, and then that's it. Then you can just leave.

[00:02:57]Yeah?

[00:03:07]You feeling a bit feeling a bit tense to do it?

[00:03:10]>> Yeah.

[00:03:10]>> Why why is it? Is it because um to do to go up and ask for directions?

[00:03:17]Just directions. Excuse me, do you know where Leicester Square is? And then that's it.

[00:03:24]Do you want to do somebody else initially? Somebody else? Yeah?

[00:03:27]Let's ask that guy there. Just that guy sitting there. Do you know where Leicester Square is?

[00:03:32]>> The one smoking?

[00:03:33]>> Yeah. Yeah. Just sat there. Cuz it at the first line it doesn't matter if it's a man, woman, doesn't matter. Old, young, doesn't matter.

[00:03:41]Yeah?

[00:03:53]Yeah, go on.

[00:03:55]Don't worry, it won't be nothing bad.

[00:03:56]Just just ask for directions, you know.

[00:04:03]You know, you just need to get you know, you just have somewhere you need to go to, so you just ask somebody for directions. You know, your phone has died, doesn't matter. Just ask just ask for directions, you know, no big deal.

[00:04:13]Yeah, yeah, I got you.

[00:04:20]You're You're in your head a bit, right?

[00:04:22]Okay, I'll I'll do it. Don't worry, I'll do this one. You be next to me, yeah?

[00:04:25]Yeah.

[00:04:27]Sorry, excuse me. Do you know where Leicester Square is?

[00:04:30]>> Leicester Square Yeah, down there.

[00:04:32]>> Yeah.

[00:04:33]>> Uh so, this is Charing Cross Road.

[00:04:35]>> Yeah.

[00:04:36]>> Keep going that way.

[00:04:37]>> Yeah.

[00:04:38]>> You'll come to Leicester Square Station.

[00:04:40]Turn right.

[00:04:41]>> Okay, cool. Nice one. Cheers.

[00:04:42]>> You see Hippodrome.

[00:04:43]>> Yeah, yeah, yeah. Okay.

[00:04:46]>> See Hippodrome, turn right.

[00:04:47]>> Yeah, okay. Cheers, thank you.

[00:04:50]Yeah, so it's it's not too bad, right?

[00:04:51]It's not too bad. Um I I know it's okay to be nervous. It's okay to have you know, anxiety. Um but you you saw that that it's it's really not bad. No one's going to bite you. No one's going to bite your head off. No one's going to slap you in the face. So, yeah, it's it's really no problem.

[00:05:06]Um it's just you just have to get used to it. You just have to get used to speaking to people. Um the thing with this is that it's a very expected thing to ask cuz everybody's asking people for directions all the time. So, it's nothing out of the ordinary. It's nothing too crazy. So, um tell you what, let's go this way. Um And And it's okay to it's okay to feel the nerves. Um this is completely normal. Um but yeah, try not to to kind of worry too much about it, really.

[00:05:37]Yeah, no worries. We'll find um somebody else.

[00:05:46]Um >> So, it's easier like when they're stationary like at the beginning just like stood still or sitting or something.

[00:06:17]So, um this guy uh this this guy right here, right? Or just here. Um do you think you can do it with him? Just ask him. Do you know where Leicester Square is?

[00:06:27]He Okay, maybe he's going now. Let's find Let's find somebody else who's not walking.

[00:06:31]Um maybe this woman just here. This this this lady just here sat down. Excuse me, do you know where Leicester Square is?

[00:06:37]Yeah?

[00:06:37]>> From there.

[00:06:38]>> Yeah, right here.

[00:06:41]Yeah?

[00:06:42]Remember, she's not She's not going to bite your head off. You saw me do it with the other guy. Yeah, just >> Yeah.

[00:06:49]Excuse me.

[00:06:50]Excuse me, do you know where Leicester Square is?

[00:06:52]>> Um Not really.

[00:06:56]>> Oh, okay.

[00:06:57]>> We're not from here. I think maybe that way.

[00:06:59]>> Oh, that way. Thank you. My phone just died. Thank you, eh.

[00:07:07]Cool. Nice one. Well done. Good. Good.

[00:07:09]So, it's it's not too bad, right? It's not too bad. It's always the first step which is the hardest, you know? Just getting out of the house, speaking to one person, right? But well done, it's good. Um and it just kind of shows you that you can do it, right? You can do it. Anyone you can do it. It's just about Just having It's all about the mindset.

[00:07:28]Um cool. Now, well done for that. That was good. Let's do the same thing again.

[00:07:31]This guy right here. Let's do the same thing again.

[00:07:36]Try to get his attention and then um yeah, just ask for the directions, yeah?

[00:07:41]>> We can try with the female on the on the other side.

[00:07:43]>> Okay. Um >> This one side on maybe.

[00:07:49]>> No.

[00:07:50]>> No? Why not?

[00:07:52]>> Cuz she saw us.

[00:07:54]>> Maybe, but it doesn't matter. It's only directions.

[00:07:57]>> Yeah.

[00:07:57]>> Cuz we we're like two guys wondering where we're going and we need to know where we're going. So, you know, you can just go up to her and be like, "Hey, excuse me, do you know where, you know, Leicester Square is?"

[00:08:06]Yeah, it's no big deal.

[00:08:11]Yeah? Why not?

[00:08:12]>> I don't really want to bother anyone.

[00:08:14]>> Okay. I'll do it and you'll be next to me again, okay? And I'll show you just to just show how how simple it is, okay?

[00:08:21]But be right next to me. Don't don't be behind me. Be right next [music] to me.

[00:08:24]Yeah? So, we can sort of embrace it.

[00:08:26]Yeah?

[00:08:34]Um um sorry, excuse me, do do you know where uh Leicester Square is?

[00:08:40]Yeah.

[00:08:41]>> Okay.

[00:08:42]>> Okay. Cool. Nice one. Cheers.

[00:08:47]>> [music] >> Yeah? Easy. Easy. She didn't bite my head off. I I feel good. She feel probably She feels fine. You know, it's all good. Let's Let's go around this way, actually.

[00:09:00]So, yeah. So, um I I think you can do the next one, no problem. Yeah, um cuz you you've already done it before. Just remember, every single time it's pretty much the same thing and and you've already done it. So, yeah. [music] Don't don't kind of overthink it too much.

[00:09:13]Remember, it's it's never too late. If you see them there and you're sort of thinking like, "Oh [ __ ] I'm taking too long to do it." Don't worry about that because um it's it's never too late, really.

[00:09:24]>> Yeah, okay.

[00:09:28]>> Thinking if somebody else here would be good.

[00:09:36]Let's go over there cuz just this area is kind of ideal just because people are more kind of stationary here.

[00:09:42]Let's just go in here.

[00:09:48]Okay, this girl here with the with the with the hair.

[00:09:51]Let's Is that Yeah. Let's just ask her for directions, yeah?

[00:09:56]And yeah.

[00:09:58]So just just ask her where Leicester Square is, yeah? Just right here.

[00:10:03]Yeah.

[00:10:05]Go for it. Don't don't overthink it.

[00:10:06]Just go in. Just get it out of your system. Cuz you've already done it previously, so it's just the same thing again. You just have to kind of really go for it, yeah?

[00:10:14]You don't want to be too like thinking overthinking, yeah? But tell me what's going through your mind. Tell me. Just be open with me as well. Just tell me if you're if you're nervous or whatever whatever is in your head, it's okay. But just just let me know how you're feeling.

[00:10:29]>> Just just nervous and obviously >> Yeah.

[00:10:32]>> too many people in the crowd and people looking.

[00:10:34]>> Yeah.

[00:10:35]I mean it's a it's a lot of people, but it doesn't matter. But and in some ways it's a good thing because you know, because there's so many people you're very anonymous. We're we're very anonymous and it doesn't matter. There's no like consequences. We're not in like some little village with like five people and you're not going to get judged, you know? So it doesn't matter. So it's just a mentality. You just have to think kind of rationally about what what what we're doing here and understand it's okay.

[00:10:59]It's only directions, you know?

[00:11:01]Everybody everybody needs directions.

[00:11:04]So yeah, go in. Go in and ask ask her where Leicester Square is. That's all.

[00:11:07]That's all. Just assume it. Do you know where Leicester Square is? Yes, over there. Okay, thanks. Bye. Simple.

[00:11:14]Yeah. Go on.

[00:11:15]>> Couldn't try somebody else? Could we try somebody else?

[00:11:17]>> No, let's try somebody else.

[00:11:19]Um That that that woman over there in the purple, yeah?

[00:11:25]>> Why not?

[00:11:26]>> Huh?

[00:11:26]>> Why not?

[00:11:27]>> Why why somebody else? You said that already.

[00:11:31]Really, I want you to I don't really want to pick somebody else because it's just a bit of a cop-out. What Like the thing is if you pick the next person, what difference does it make?

[00:11:39]It doesn't make any difference. It's just like it's another person.

[00:11:42]You just kind of have to commit really.

[00:11:44]Just have to kind of commit, you know?

[00:11:47]>> Yeah, I don't know. There's just too much traffic here.

[00:11:52]>> Well, there is not There is not. It's okay here. Um Um yeah, I mean the thing is London is like this and you know, there's a lot of people. Um don't worry don't worry about the crowds. Don't don't get overwhelmed by the the amount of people. It doesn't matter. It's just That's just London, you know, it's normal.

[00:12:08]Um The thing is it's okay to feel anxious.

[00:12:38]So it's okay to feel like this, but a lot of what this is about is you know, feeling that uncomfortable feeling and just kind of facing it head-on rather than trying to sort of run away from the feeling. So it's good that you're feeling this way and it's it's quite normal really. Um but instead of like trying to shy away from this like uncomfortable feeling, it's about right let's go towards the that that uncomfortable feeling. That's the mentality. And understand that thinking rationally, nothing bad is going to happen to you, you know, nothing bad is going to happen. You just have to really understand that. Um Right, let's do this ski This skis are over here on the left.

[00:13:16]Yeah?

[00:13:18]Direction.

[00:13:21]Uh >> Which one?

[00:13:22]>> No, this guy here, yeah.

[00:13:23]Yeah.

[00:13:28]Yeah. So, um Yeah, just getting in front. Excuse me, do you know where Leicester Square is?

[00:13:33]Yeah?

[00:13:38]>> Another layer of fear that comes with asking.

[00:13:43]>> Speak to me about that then. What is it exactly that's kind of holding you back or making you fearful?

[00:13:54]>> I don't know. I think it's maybe what the warm This is the warm up, right?

[00:13:58]>> Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, we're just warming up. We're not We're not We're not Forget about like picking up girls, getting numbers. That That stuff will come later. But for now, it's super important that you're like just comfortable speaking to just people about something very ordinary and very just simple, you know, basic logical exchange of information. You know, that That's the kind of what we're doing now.

[00:14:17]Just to kind of get you get you warmed up, get you get just manage the anxiety basically because, you know, if I just say, "Right, there's a really hot girl over there. Go Go over there, do an amazing front stop, get a number, speak to her for like 5 minutes, and do all this, you know, an amazing interaction."

[00:14:31]It's just too much too soon, so yeah. Um But yeah, I mean, just to start off, just asking for directions to a few people just get yourself, you know, speaking to someone.

[00:14:40]Yeah?

[00:14:43]Yeah.

[00:14:44]So, yeah, let's let's do this guy. Yeah, he's stood He's just sat there doing nothing on his phone. So, yeah, he doesn't mind. Honestly, he doesn't mind ask giving somebody directions.

[00:14:54]He's not going to punch you in the face.

[00:14:56]He's not going to spit on you.

[00:14:58]He's just going to be like, "Yeah, it's over there."

[00:15:00]And then you're going to be like, "Thanks.

[00:15:02]Have a good day." That's it. Simple.

[00:15:05]Yeah? You can do it. You just have to like believe in yourself, trust yourself, and um don't worry about it. Yeah?

[00:15:28]>> Yeah?

[00:15:29]I think you can do it.

[00:15:31]>> No, no. This is not that hard. I I I can do it. Um Yeah.

[00:15:38]>> Yeah?

[00:15:39]So, do it then.

[00:15:42]Can you do it? Or, you know, um show me you can do it, you know, because that's that's what you need to do initially. Just to get comfortable, yeah?

[00:15:51]>> Yeah.

[00:15:57]>> Like, if you're really nervous right now, that's okay.

[00:16:01]Don't try to fight the nerves. Just let it kind of Just just let it flow through you. And it just embrace the nerves, yeah?

[00:16:08]Yeah.

[00:16:10]Just imagine yourself talking to him, and imagine how it's going to go down.

[00:16:16]Yeah?

[00:16:18]Just speak to me. How do you think it's going to go?

[00:16:22]>> It'll probably be all right.

[00:16:24]>> Yeah?

[00:16:25]Yeah, it's probably going to be all right, right?

[00:16:29]Yeah.

[00:16:31]Do you think he's going to Do you think he's going to be like, "Fuck you.

[00:16:35]Get the [ __ ] >> No, no. No, no. That's not there.

[00:16:37]>> So, like, in that case, why not go up to him and ask for the directions?

[00:16:50]>> I I risk high risk reward type of situation.

[00:16:53]>> No. It's low low risk low reward.

[00:16:56]>> [laughter] >> You know, it's like very very low risk.

[00:17:01]Because, you know, what we're doing now is very very simple stuff. Very very simple, you know? Um he's not going to do anything negative bad. There's literally no risk at all.

[00:17:12]>> Yeah.

[00:17:13]>> I mean, low risk high reward in a sense because once you actually get once you actually do this and I mean you've already done it you've done it already once before but once you keep doing it a few more times you'll you'll just really get it it's sort of ingrained into your mind that it's it's really not that bad it's really not that bad you know and it's just like it's just it's just literally just speaking to another human it's what we're supposed to be doing as humans.

[00:17:37]Um.

[00:17:38]Yeah. Yeah.

[00:17:44]>> Excuse me.

[00:17:45]Hi there.

[00:17:46]Do you know where Leicester Square is?

[00:17:48]>> Leicester Square? I don't know.

[00:17:49]>> Yeah.

[00:17:50]>> But I'm going to check for you.

[00:17:51]>> Oh, thank you. Phone is off. My phone is off.

[00:17:53]>> Um.

[00:18:01]So from here to Leicester Square you want to know, yeah?

[00:18:03]>> Yes, please.

[00:18:08]>> To Leicester Square.

[00:18:09]Leicester Square station.

[00:18:17]Yeah, the station.

[00:18:18]>> Yeah.

[00:18:21]>> Oh my god, it's 2 minutes walk, right?

[00:18:22]>> 2 minutes, yeah. It's not too far. I I I thought about it.

[00:18:25]>> Um.

[00:18:28]The location.

[00:18:32]Oh.

[00:18:34]Oh.

[00:18:40]The station.

[00:18:42]It's over actually taking this one.

[00:18:45]So.

[00:18:48]Go on this way, take the right take the left.

[00:18:51]>> Uh-huh.

[00:18:52]>> And then go straight till the Brewmaster where the Brewmaster is take a right.

[00:18:59]>> Okay.

[00:18:59]>> Or you ask someone that is after it.

[00:19:01]>> Okay, no that way, yeah?

[00:19:02]>> Take left.

[00:19:03]>> Ah, thank you.

[00:19:04]>> Go straight take a left.

[00:19:05]>> Ah, thank you very much, yeah?

[00:19:06]>> You're welcome, man.

[00:19:07]>> You too.

[00:19:12]>> Well done, man. Well done. Good.

[00:19:13]Excellent. See, that's what it's about, man. Easy. Easy, right?

[00:19:17]Not Not too bad, right?

[00:19:19]So, yeah. Good. Excellent, man.

[00:19:22]So, yeah. Well done for that. And And he was such a nice guy, as well, helping you out. You know, he spent a bit of time on his phone to help you out there.

[00:19:29]So, you know, most people are nice. Most people are nice. And um you need to not be fearful of speaking to people because nothing bad's really going to ultimately happen.

[00:19:40]I mean, really, I mean, you can literally just go up to anyone and say anything and just say the dumbest [ __ ] to to anybody and it just There's no consequences.

[00:19:51]And a lot of what What we're doing just now is like the most simple basic stuff, anyway. So, like, you know, there's there's even less consequences, really.

[00:20:06]But, yeah. How do you feel now? Bit of uh relief, maybe?

[00:20:11]>> I I feel the same.

[00:20:12]>> Yeah. Feel the same?

[00:20:13]>> Yeah.

[00:20:14]>> Yeah.

[00:20:15]>> Yeah.

[00:20:15]>> Are Are you Are you like super super nervous right now? Like super No?

[00:20:19]>> Uh I just need to get used to >> Um Yeah. No. That That That That was good. Um and it just goes to show that like you're you're more than capable of this and, you know, it's it's not really It's not like really that hard. Cuz this is kind of the foundation to what we're doing, you know, just going up to people, starting a conversation. Um and in this case, it's just a very sort of logical straightforward Can I get your Sorry. Can Can you Can you give me directions? And then it's like you get some information exchange from them. So, yeah.

[00:20:51]>> Yeah.

[00:20:52]>> Simple stuff.

[00:20:59]So, yeah. Just Just for the sake of making it easier for you, we'll we'll mostly just kind of for now just focus on just people who are stationary, yeah?

[00:21:06]Just cuz that way it's it's just a lot easier just to go up to them and engage with them.

[00:21:30]But yeah, I mean it's I know it's it's maybe a you know, a bit of a different experience for you because it's obviously very sort of crowded and obviously in your mind maybe your mind is putting all kinds of pressure on yourself. But really it's like let go kind of >> It's not really doing that much in terms of putting pressure today.

[00:21:47]>> Yeah.

[00:21:48]>> Uh usually it's worse on my own as well, but today it's not really playing up.

[00:21:53]>> Yeah.

[00:21:54]>> I I feel fine. That's my nerves are really really not in the picture at all.

[00:21:59]>> Yeah.

[00:22:00]>> And I feel like I could do anything. I just obviously I did create that situation.

[00:22:09]>> Yeah.

[00:22:10]>> I did make that situation a bit harder than it should have been, but I think I'm overall I I think I'm good to go.

[00:22:17]>> Yeah, that's good. That's good. Yeah.

[00:22:20]But even though you know, even if it even if you were very hesitant before, if that's fine as well, it's okay because it's you know, you're this is a new experience for you. And everyone's coming from a different place, you know?

[00:22:31]Some some people can you know, go more quickly. Some people need more time and that's absolutely fine, you know?

[00:22:39]>> Yeah.

[00:22:41]>> It's just like I like I said, I mean it's really just just getting used to this whole process. Um and you know, you know, you don't want to be too harsh on yourself, but at the same time you need you do need to sort of push yourself to make sure that you can you know, take the action. It's all good.

[00:23:01]Okay, maybe maybe her. Let's ask her. Do you know where Oh, she's walking now. Okay, let's find somebody else who's stationary.

[00:23:10]Just to make it easier.

[00:23:22]Okay, here's somebody who's just stood there. Okay, let's ask her, do you know where Yeah, Leicester Square is? Okay.

[00:23:28]So, you can just walk past her and ask the question, yeah?

[00:23:32]>> What is Leicester Square, by the way?

[00:23:34]>> What What is it?

[00:23:34]>> What is it?

[00:23:35]>> Uh where? Um it would be somewhere I somewhere in that direction.

[00:23:39]Um but yeah, it doesn't even matter that much. You know, you just walk past her afterwards.

[00:23:45]Yeah, so same thing again, really. So, just repeat the process.

[00:23:49]Um yeah, same thing.

[00:23:52]>> I'm actually imagining myself doing that. Yeah.

[00:23:55]>> Yeah. Imagine Yeah, it's good if you can sort of like imagine yourself doing it.

[00:23:59]And sort of if you're very sort of rational about it in terms of how you think it will pan out, you'll realize that literally nothing bad will happen.

[00:24:08]She'll just give you the directions. And then you'll say thank you, and that's it, really, you know?

[00:24:20]Try and Oh, she's going now.

[00:24:23]So, maybe she'll just stand there a bit longer.

[00:24:25]Um okay, let's keep going. Um try try not to hesitate. The thing is, the more you think about doing it, and you're stood here thinking about it, the more difficult it gets. So, the best thing you can do is, as soon as you know you need to do it, just start moving start moving your legs, and that will build that sort of momentum to actually um yeah, do the approach.

[00:24:58]>> I'm sorry, I'm lost.

[00:25:14]>> Yeah.

[00:25:16]Um >> Is this Leicester Square?

[00:25:19]>> This This isn't, no. This is um kind of near Covent Garden, Seven Dials.

[00:25:24]Um Okay.

[00:25:30]Do you see that um that that girl just leaning on the the blonde leaning on the uh pole?

[00:25:36]Or just stood there in the white coat.

[00:25:39]>> Yeah, I saw her.

[00:25:40]>> Yeah. So um Yeah. So just yeah, ask her then. Yeah.

[00:25:52]Yeah. So let's let's start moving. Let's let's carry on. Let's let's go towards her. If you The more you think about doing it, the more you get in your head, the more difficult it becomes. You need almost need to just kind of shut your brain off. Just start walking towards her, and that will make it easier. Build up that momentum. Look, right there.

[00:26:07]Let's go in.

[00:26:12]Don't overthink it.

[00:26:14]She She won't bite your head off. Take a deep breath. Start moving your legs. Go up to her.

[00:26:21]Remember, you've done it before.

[00:26:23]This is just repetition.

[00:26:40]See, yeah, the thing is you you got to be a bit quicker. You got to be a bit quicker. Cuz you know, what walk me through what was going on in your mind there. Why why why were you a bit paralyzed?

[00:26:57]>> Um So, I don't think about can I do it with somebody else and then I >> But, why not her?

[00:27:06]Yeah. So, what was it just talk me through. Is it Is it just nerves or is it just anxiety? Is it just >> It's probably just the anxiety.

[00:27:13]>> Anxiety.

[00:27:15]Okay.

[00:27:16]>> Trying to get me to not do it >> Yeah.

[00:27:19]Sure. Okay.

[00:27:20]Okay. Um yeah, the thing is with this is that you you just have to kind of commit to to doing it. Um Let Let's um pause. Um There's kind of no real easy way out of it. You just have to do this you know, enough times to the point where you know, you you just comfortable with doing it. But, just remember that directions are very very common for people to ask and it's it's no sort of big deal really. You know, people are always asking for people for directions.

[00:27:47]But, you know, I I get asked for directions like at least once a week by somebody, you know? Um and it's just like It's just It's just super normal, you know?

[00:27:59]>> Yeah.

[00:28:01]>> Um You just have to get you kind of get it you get get used to it. Kind of get it out of your system really. Yeah? And it's okay to feel feel the anxiety. It's okay to feel that.

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