Mother Leaves Her Son & Suffers Deeply | Ramesh Balsekar's Astonishing Answer

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[00:00:18]Shields shift. I'm sorry.

[00:00:40]That's the old one, isn't it?

[00:00:42]>> Which one?

[00:00:42]>> Yeah, it's still old.

[00:00:44]>> Well, even after tomorrow, I already order.

[00:00:51]>> Okay. Yes. Your name is >> uh Isa.

[00:00:56]Isa >> Caesar.

[00:00:57]>> Isa is >> Jiza.

[00:01:03]>> Isa.

[00:01:03]>> Isa A.

[00:01:05]>> Yes.

[00:01:05]>> I couldn't be simpler.

[00:01:08]>> What part of world are you from?

[00:01:10]>> Portugal.

[00:01:12]>> I see. And what what brought you here?

[00:01:16]Would you say you're a spiritual seeker?

[00:01:19]>> Sorry.

[00:01:20]>> Would you say you are a spiritual seeker?

[00:01:25]Yes, I can say yes.

[00:01:26]>> Yes. So, seeking God or enlightenment or self realization or whatever it is.

[00:01:45]Have you ever wondered what it is that I'm seeking?

[00:01:52]Precisely. What is it that I'm seeking is no one thinking about me.

[00:02:05]Now that I've asked you now that you think about it, you have thought about it this happiness through selfreization.

[00:02:20]I want to be one with selfre and yet you said you're a spiritual ual seeker. What makes you say you're a spiritual seeker?

[00:02:54]Is that >> I think in a way we all are.

[00:02:59]>> Yes. But in in both way you mean sometime the questions keep on asking who am I? Who is this?

[00:03:10]>> Yes. That I that >> who am I? Who is this living his life like this?

[00:03:14]>> That I ask that I ask.

[00:03:19]So, so the answer to that will give you happiness.

[00:03:26]That's the point, isn't it?

[00:03:38]In this life, my focal point is like reasonably comfortable in life for which we are ever grateful to God and also have the common sense that life had always been extremely difficult.

[00:03:58]First, the uncertainty of it.

[00:04:02]You never know you're going to be a boy or a girl.

[00:04:06]You never know whe total uncertainty is the very basis of daily living.

[00:04:33]So in that system, it is already pre-made meditation pretend everything is preion.

[00:04:50]years. What is going to happen when precisely has all happened in it like a movie of life which is already in the can.

[00:05:05]It's all there. We are viewing the movie frame by frame by frame by frame as slowly as we can.

[00:05:15]Therefore, every event gets enlarged.

[00:05:19]But the fact is the whole universe is already happened in a in a split second when there was the big bang.

[00:05:31]The whole universe has happened and the whole universe is in the can that in these circumstances in these circumstances in a difficult life where nothing is certain what do you want most happiness that I pray for you know increase the pleasures for you which are for is the life. No one can reduce the pain. That is a fact of life.

[00:06:11]Therefore living in this circumstance in these circumstances most happiness it's not an easy question is it not an easy questionual seeker for more than 30 years 40 years. But these two questions of mine which I consider absolutely basic.

[00:07:06]No one has ever questioned it. And because of this I came to the most important conclusion.

[00:07:14]Many of the conclusions I'll tell you now I'll say are the most important.

[00:07:23]Most important conclusion.

[00:07:27]First one is first one is that the life we are going to live is based entirely on uncertainty. Nobody can know what is going to happen at any time and the whole movie is already in the camp.

[00:07:53]So what we are watching is a movie in which we a movie which lasts say 24 hours. A movie which last for 24 hours and in that what we are doing is what what we have done second and become so unhappy.

[00:08:31]So what is it that you want most as happiness?

[00:08:38]Would you be able to give an answer?

[00:08:42]>> No, I don't have any particular question. I just feel thankful to have the opportunity.

[00:08:50]>> Let me help you >> to share what I'm passing >> in my life now. Yes, you you will be happy if you are able to share your happiness with other.

[00:09:02]>> Yes, I mean a moment of life that I think expresses what you were saying that from the first time in my life I think I have the notion of uncertaintity.

[00:09:17]>> Yeah. because I just um I was for 14 years with my husband and I'm 30 years old.

[00:09:28]>> Don't hesitate to say your partner if you partner.

[00:09:33]>> You have said your husband if you >> or partner. Yes, partner.

[00:09:38]>> Don't hesitate to say because I'm not here. Only married couples.

[00:09:44]>> Yeah. Yeah. No, I just said like that.

[00:09:47]It came out like that.

[00:09:48]>> Yes. Yes.

[00:09:49]>> So, I'm 30 years old and I I've been 14 years with my partner.

[00:10:01]>> What other language do you know? for and a month ago we just got separated.

[00:10:24]And >> you got married and then separated >> about a month ago. After after 14 years together >> after >> 14 After 14 years >> and I'm 30 years old.

[00:10:37]>> After 14 years together. Do you have any children?

[00:10:41]>> We got separated >> one month ago.

[00:10:44]>> I know. Do you have any children?

[00:10:46]>> Yes.

[00:10:51]>> How many have you got?

[00:10:53]>> We have one son. Arjuna.

[00:10:55]>> Only one son.

[00:10:56]>> One son with four years and a half.

[00:11:00]So he wants to stay with his father.

[00:11:04]>> He wants to stay with his father.

[00:11:06]>> I don't understand. Sorry.

[00:11:09]>> Does he want to stay with you or with his father?

[00:11:13]>> Uh now >> actually now he's in Portugal with my husband because I decided to stay alone in India >> to study and to >> You quit rather suddenly. You wanted to quit your husband anyway. No, no, no.

[00:11:29]Uh, no, no. Uh, the the relationship is long and for some years we knew >> even though we love each other that things were not that we were not happy, >> you know.

[00:11:46]>> I see.

[00:11:47]>> And uh like the basic >> we tried everything. We tried everything because we love each other. But in the sense of man, wife or as a couple, we knew that it I I I started with him with 16 years old. So >> you started really >> young uh when we we started we got together when I was 16 years old.

[00:12:13]>> I see.

[00:12:13]>> So it's we built our personalities together. Yes, I mean you know really strong connection in spite of the fact >> that fundamentally your directions were different you still got married because you loved each other is that your personalities were different.

[00:12:39]>> Yes. Yes. Of course. Over 10 years you knew that >> and yet we stayed married for 10 years.

[00:12:46]>> 14 years.

[00:12:47]>> 14 years.

[00:12:48]>> 14. Yes.

[00:12:49]>> 14 years.

[00:12:51]>> So now the question that you have you have separated because the happiness that you are seeking is different from the happiness seeking.

[00:13:04]What is the answer?

[00:13:07]In spite of knowing each other for 14 years, having known each other inside out for 14 years and having a child and in love with each other, why do you want to separate at least then the answer is the answer is the very answer that I have for my focal question and that is the happiness that you want to do with the pleasure in life.

[00:13:49]Most people pursue happiness pursue more pleasure and send away the pain.

[00:14:04]See what I mean? That is what happen.

[00:14:16]Why?

[00:14:18]Why?

[00:14:20]For one reason alone.

[00:14:23]You are reasonably comfortable in life.

[00:14:27]You have enjoyed pleasures of various kinds.

[00:14:31]You have not enjoyed all the pleasures in the world.

[00:14:35]And yet you know that you know what pleasure is and yet seeking happiness.

[00:14:48]So difference between you and your husband that you always seeking happiness which is totally different from pleasure.

[00:15:04]and he didn't realize that or he continued to seek pleasure pleasure from you and your company.

[00:15:13]So he was seeking pleasure with the misunderstanding that he was seeking happiness.

[00:15:28]is already pleasure and yet it is not enough. I'm seeking happiness.

[00:15:43]Therefore, the most important conclusion is most important.

[00:16:12]is a daily living having accepted the pleasure of the moment and the pain of the moment I still need happiness because our experience has been that when I enjoy enjoying a pleasure of a particular kind at that moment, a memory of something you did to someone very close for which you have never been forgiven.

[00:17:11]A memory of that action arises and over that you have no control.

[00:17:17]Your pleasure is shattered.

[00:17:30]suffering because philosophically you understand everybody knows one moment pleasure one moment pain I enjoy now this moment there suffering which I have to accept but what you have accepted is pain at a certain level >> yes uh >> but you know >> I knew that this would happen long time ago I I know that it was not me that choose that but but somehow I have that consciousness that I choose that to happen. I just just didn't know that I would suffer so much.

[00:18:09]>> Yeah.

[00:18:10]>> Especially not about my partner partner but more with my son.

[00:18:16]>> I see.

[00:18:17]>> Yesterday I had to hear >> my son with four years old.

[00:18:23]>> Four years and a half saying I don't like you. I don't want to speak with you.

[00:18:28]>> Yeah. by phone like really distance one from each other. No.

[00:18:33]So that is really >> he told you on the telephone.

[00:18:36]>> Yes.

[00:18:37]>> He could not have told you that in person.

[00:18:40]>> Oh, he told me already.

[00:18:44]>> So it means that as far as he wants his father, not his mother.

[00:18:52]That is another big pain which you have to suffer which is part of your destiny.

[00:19:11]preferring the father to his mother.

[00:19:20]So you think at the moment there is no pain worse than that.

[00:19:27]At the moment you think there is no pain worse than that pain.

[00:19:35]When you're suffering that pain acry 20 years old, or 20 days old in which someone close to you harmed you in a way for which you have hated him and he has never forgiven. You have never forgiven him.

[00:20:27]much more a memory of something I did to someone close to me or a memory of something else to me for which we hate each other.

[00:20:43]the memory is enough to shatter the pleasure of the moment or intensify the pain of the moment and that is the suffering which we do not want.

[00:21:00]Therefore, what is the happiness we are all seeking whether you know it or not? The happiness you're shaking is that happiness which is your birth which is thin which is not taken away by memories of what you did to someone or memories of what someone else did to you.

[00:21:31]What it means gets even more intensified by only one by someone close to me or someone close to me did something to me which was very bad for I have never forgiven him.

[00:21:58]Therefore my point is there is a suffering which prevents us from being happy.

[00:22:07]We are unhappy we are happy.

[00:22:10]What happens in between is something which we have no control which makes us happy on the surface.

[00:22:20]Pleasure pain. Pleasure pain. Pleasure pain has already been predetermined and is in the movie and the movie is in the can. But this is something deeper which exists whether you are in pleasure or in pain. And that is the happiness I wanted. And I got see what I mean? I have I I have a pleasure. I I I'm deep down I I understand the whole story objects manifestation object to a human being only impossible to say anything.

[00:23:23]Therefore, all human beings are instruments through the source functions of the energy of consciousness function and brings about whatever is supposed to happen.

[00:23:51]according to him.

[00:23:54]The truth of the matter is that the that the individual is incapable of doing anything can do nothing.

[00:24:17]Therefore, what happens at life is the source of consciousness or energy or functions through every human body mind instrument or every robot of human being and brings out whatever is supposed to happen.

[00:24:45]Therefore, whatever happens to personnate person, which is called the ego.

[00:25:12]We have read something about the ego.

[00:25:15]Surely a lot.

[00:25:20]What do you think is meant by the word ego?

[00:25:26]What do you think is meant by the word ego?

[00:25:30]>> It's that identification with the being separate from the others the of individuality but it's not our real self. So what you not feeling that you are the one source you you know that you are not God but only a separate entity.

[00:25:52]>> Yeah. Yeah. But sometimes I have some feelings that I'm not the one doing this or that you know it just comes through me. I have those moments sometimes.

[00:26:06]That means in this search for spiritual goal, in this search every human being sometime had no difficulty in believing that you are not the doer.

[00:26:32]>> Yeah. Sometimes I just get confused because uh I don't know if I am thinking if I am doing if it's me if it's really me you know and sometimes I I think I confuse that with lack of confidence.

[00:26:59]You mean you >> lack of confidence with me, you know? I confuse that and I think I'm not self-confident.

[00:27:07]>> Yes.

[00:27:08]>> I don't know. I It gets that confusion that I mean that two people do the same thing. Two people are given a a lot of dirt, mud and asked to be made a an article out of it. Two girls do it.

[00:27:30]Two girls do it.

[00:27:45]or the judge the ability of both the girls was the same but the one who thinks she should have got six oh again I did that I don't have the ability to do it I must say something else which is lack of confidence will a given me a A6 and half is selfident or on the other hand like you a lack of confidence.

[00:28:35]Now both days overconfidence or lack of confidence is not Isaiah's fault or credit nor >> I don't understand sorry is not >> anybody's fault not anybody's fault >> not anybody's fault >> okay >> not anybody's mistake >> in other If I am confident and you are not confident, it does not mean I had the choice to be selfconident and you had the choice to be not selfconident.

[00:29:20]Therefore, many many of these part of the genes we inherit from our parents and grandparents and great grandparents.

[00:29:34]See what I mean?

[00:29:36]So that is what the nature of the person he get angry and compassionate all these such an important point any feelings that one has when one's Eyes something, ears hear something, nose see something, tongue tast something, fingers something. There is an immediate reaction.

[00:30:15]There is a immediate re that reaction is a biological reaction depending on your genes and what I call condition.

[00:30:28]James is supposed to has always been supposed to be a strong factor and therefore considerable money was given to to research to find out which gene refers to which disease which is the gene which concern the cancer or loss memory or particular kind of stomach liver or something.

[00:31:04]Now what they have found is But it only recently on the daily paper I read that he said whether your child is going to be a bully at school which means you know gang lord or a victim has already been determined according to your It is your genet.

[00:32:30]But conditioning is still there. Very powerful. Conditioning is something we learn for ourselves by seeing what happens in our own homes. That is conditioning at home, conditioning in the in the society in which we have been placed. Conditioning from your sports, a school of college.

[00:33:02]>> Mhm. and church or temple.

[00:33:06]This is good, is not a sin and God will punish you.

[00:33:16]And that is what unfortunately religion has been.

[00:33:27]So don't do it and don't have so deeply impressed upon us. They find it very difficult to believe that I cannot be the doer.

[00:33:39]And also I thought how is it I asked several people serious why are you looking for in enlightenment what else is there to look for that's the ultimate what else is there to look after that didn't even bother So I have so many Indian seekers who are not concerned with for me the most important question in my life what will enlighten me that I didn't have before happiness you go and buy expensive machine.

[00:34:47]machine.

[00:34:58]What do I expect and which for me was the most important and then I came to the answer.

[00:35:06]The answer was because they they considered the question totally unnecessary.

[00:35:15]What will I get after I become enlightened?

[00:35:19]They decided the question was stupid and unnecessary because once I'm enlightened, I shall be God.

[00:35:28]Once I shall I'm I'm shall be God.

[00:35:42]Then what more is there to be needed other than being God?

[00:35:46]Therefore they firmly believe and they help to believe their so-called gurus that enlightenment means the total happiness you can imagine in this in this life and it is being God.

[00:36:11]Therefore, it be repeatedly handed down.

[00:36:13]And to add to that and to add to that our daily the mechanism of our daily living to add to this problem, the mechanism of our daily living is based on the individualship of every human being.

[00:36:40]daily living in Isa and then you do it.

[00:37:05]That is daily living. Isn't that right?

[00:37:09]>> What is daily living facing a situation deciding what to do one very often Do I do this or do I do that?

[00:37:43]That is that is what the basic mechanism of daily living is what every human being whether he has selfidence or not is forced to do something or decide That is not worth doing anything.

[00:38:35]See what I mean? Everything against it.

[00:38:39]Guru was doing the telling you about the ego wrong notions of the ego. So now about the ego what they what they what the gurus don't tell you is who is supposed to be seeking enlightenment amazing. Honestly who is seeking amazing a Enlightenment.

[00:39:12]The one who is seeking enlightenment is told to kill the ego.

[00:39:18]The ego is the problem.

[00:39:21]The one who is seeking enlightenment is told to kill the ego.

[00:39:29]And I found that I am the ego who is seeking enlightenment.

[00:39:37]See what I mean?

[00:39:39]That's where I traditional traditional gurus. None of them that I knew could tell me.

[00:39:54]Then the question at at 60 when I retired from B I decided to most of my life gone enlightenment for 40 years and had nothing but frustration.

[00:40:21]Nothing but frustration for the rest of my life.

[00:40:31]happiness for me. That is a big decision, painful decision, fearful decision.

[00:40:50]But then I came to my personal happiness for myself.

[00:41:00]The platform was what do you think I pursuing happiness from what point do I take off?

[00:41:25]I want happiness.

[00:41:30]Why? Because I know that many kind that is happening now.

[00:41:46]Therefore, the most important conclusion the seeker has to come to from his own experience is that the happiness one is seeking to do.

[00:42:09]Pleasures of life always to be happy there has to be another thing or person. Mhm.

[00:42:28]to give you that happiness.

[00:42:32]Any pleasure that person you tell me what is the difference? Am I am I enlightened? I say yes, I'm enlightened. But according to my concept, my main point again is enlightenment has never been a certified event.

[00:43:08]Why are the gurus not able to tell me straight this enlightenment?

[00:43:23]or what they have told them.

[00:43:28]Many must have told them that conditioning of doers must have made them throw it away.

[00:43:40]They must have told them, but they didn't believe it.

[00:43:44]Which is to say my pleasure of the moment is not shattered. Only way my pain of the moment is not increased much is to be able to end the suffering.

[00:44:10]That is most important to do with the pleasures of therefore nothing to do with the flow of life.

[00:44:23]Life grows pleasures and pain from millions of people and I'm happy.

[00:44:34]And then it struck me that being happy is all I wanted.

[00:44:41]Therefore, I came to the conclusion that being happy is being enlightened.

[00:45:01]Everything happens at any moment according to whether it hurts someone or someone is according to laws through which the happening happens with the societ Because my action, your action, her action, his action is also according to God's will.

[00:45:39]The human being is incapable of doing anything.

[00:45:47]Therefore, if I aimed inapable, then how can I hate myself?

[00:46:00]or anyone hated for the other is to be able to accept totally simply the part of the happening.

[00:46:25]Similarly, the other cannot be. In other words, the happiness that we have is a birthight is a birthight. But we are unable to exercise that bird's eyes because between that is our hatred for ourselves and hatred for others removefortable with the person have preferences therefore something I like him or I don't like him but it's not a it's not an So such perceptions will happen but to understand that I'm not the doer I'm not hating anybody then the whole problem is whole problem which is based entirely on hating oneself and hating the other collapses and Disappearance of the suffering means the presimensional object who can do nothing to each other.

[00:48:30]Brotherhood, universal brotherhood of a robot.

[00:48:45]>> So, thank you.

[00:48:52]>> You must have read a lot of books.

[00:48:55]>> You must have gone to a lot of people in your quest for spiritual in your spiritual quest.

[00:49:03]>> Yes.

[00:49:03]>> Searching you must have gone to some people for >> I came uh to visit you in 2002 >> to me >> here or 2003 I'm not sure >> to anyone else. Did you did you read my have you read my books?

[00:49:21]>> Yes. Yes. And I I will read more now.

[00:49:24]>> I see. And have you read any other people's books?

[00:49:28]some some books. Yes.

[00:49:31]>> Do you remember who?

[00:49:34]>> Oh, not in the moment. No, >> I see. I see.

[00:49:36]>> I'm just focus here in the present listening you.

[00:49:40]>> Yes. Yes. But there are two or three books which I do strongly recommend.

[00:49:45]>> Tell me.

[00:49:48]>> One is confusion no more.

[00:49:52]>> Okay.

[00:49:54]>> You are starting with a tremendous lot of confusion. Mhm.

[00:49:58]>> I can see it in your face.

[00:50:01]Confusion no more to a personal religion of my own >> that I have it. Yes.

[00:50:09]>> That you have.

[00:50:10]>> Mhm.

[00:50:10]>> Then the third one is the one which is latest >> pursue happiness and get liberated.

[00:50:19]>> Get enlightened. Mhm.

[00:50:20]>> And the last one is peace and harmony in daily living. Okay, >> that's one thing. The other thing is they are recorded here and also have done cars with just come out from outside and people like it. So I have turned it into cars.

[00:50:53]>> Mhm. the smaller car and the bigger car.

[00:50:57]Each card going through each card is like reading a book again.

[00:51:03]Each card represents a certain book.

[00:51:08]So my point is that first there must go down to the heart.

[00:51:22]That is the process, it will be what is answer to the question?

[00:51:34]What is to do in order to have her intellectual acceptance become total acceptance otherwise it won't work?

[00:51:46]That is the crucial last final ultimate question.

[00:51:51]What do I have to do in order to make my intellectual acceptance be?

[00:52:02]Obvious answer is you are not the doer.

[00:52:13]only if it is supposed to happen otherwise it will not happen according to your destiny God's will thereafter that you have been seeking in the first place that you had a thought about other God's mercy God's grace in fact You didn't turn yourself into a spiritual seeker. God turned you into a spiritual seeker. The source turned you into a spiritual.

[00:52:54]Therefore, God functioning through you taking your question.

[00:53:08]The question is up to now I've been doing lot of practices doing this and the other faith in them and I should have my enlightenment to help the process. is to pass time on the final outcome which is already there.

[00:53:46]I thought it was a valid question.

[00:53:49]In fact, the question is very similar to what was asked Mahari. Have you read?

[00:53:55]>> No, I cannot say that.

[00:53:57]>> No, but he probably the most well-known sage in the last 200 years or maybe more.

[00:54:06]So he said, >> "Who am I?"

[00:54:18]>> Ramana.

[00:54:21]>> Yes.

[00:54:25]>> Oh. Is there anything I can do?

[00:54:27]>> Yes. Yes. Is there anything I can do?

[00:54:31]You see? So someone must have many must have asked this to Raman Maharashi.

[00:54:43]So Raman Maharashi held on to his high level for a long time.

[00:54:49]>> But then he had to come down to the level of the person who has this question.

[00:54:55]So he suggested what he called the practice of who am I?

[00:55:06]The practice of investigating who am I?

[00:55:10]My I have a similar practice which I call investigating one's own action.

[00:55:21]Investigating one's own action. Because the idea is to make the acceptance total.

[00:55:29]Therefore, not only at the intellectual level, but at the intellectual level, you find out whether it is truly your very simple. And if you have the time during the day, you can do it any you can don't manage it during the day.

[00:56:00]You can take 10 minutes off at the end of the day.

[00:56:04]>> Sit quietly, comfortably, not likely to be disturbed.

[00:56:11]Switch your mobile.

[00:56:19]And then sit quietly and just think of the many events of the day.

[00:56:26]Many events of the day they just pass before you as some events which happens which happen there will be some which you are your actions.

[00:56:41]So from those which you consider are your actions select one action which is your other actions I'm not sure but this one action is my action and I challenge anybody to prove to me that action so you sure action and process is simple. Process is simple.

[00:57:15]If I consider this action, did I decide to do that action at a particular time?

[00:57:28]Valid very certain action as my action.

[00:57:39]Did I at a certain moment decide to go and do that action? And you'll remember, no, you didn't. It happened.

[00:57:51]It happened. So, how did it happen? It happened because led to your action.

[00:58:04]If that had not happened, your action would not have happened.

[00:58:09]How can it over any thoughts that led to the action or So you take any number of action investigate any number of action and every single time you come to the conclusion not my action not and each time your your learning part of it will go deeper and deeper and deeper to the heart from the mind it will go deeper each time it will go deeper and deeper each time it will go deeper and deeper so another time you decide And you say this consider action. How did I certain I see every single time a after a certain moment of your destiny cosmic law of divine flash of total acceptance is likely to happen. I simply cannot be the do but I have no free will.

[01:00:24]Everything happens according to God's will.

[01:00:30]I have to do it as if I have free will.

[01:00:45]So any other questions arise we are free to come again >> okay >> and we'll deal with them okay no question You guilt feeling.

[01:01:39]Yeah. Mumbai Mumbai placement consultancy manpower consultancy.

[01:01:58]So how long have you been seek what is that you have as interest >> suppose you get answers to every single question.

[01:02:28]>> Okay.

[01:02:29]>> Then after 100 years, what will you have got as happiness?

[01:02:38]I'm sorry.

[01:02:43]>> That is why my question is you are wanting enlightenment.

[01:02:50]Enlightenment.

[01:02:53]>> Yeah.

[01:02:55]Usual word is mo is the most popular one and mok means freedom.

[01:03:14]Moa means freedom.

[01:03:16]>> Yeah, >> moka means freedom.

[01:03:20]So what is the freedom that you have to have before you can be happy?

[01:03:42]Yeah. Yeah.

[01:03:45]Question feeling guilt feeling.

[01:03:56]No >> the point therefore is >> the guilt feeling is totally it cannot happen.

[01:04:07]gifting is totally unnecessary.

[01:04:11]>> Yeah, that >> you have to know that you have to know thoroughly. You have the guilt feeling for not doing something which you think you should not think you should have.

[01:04:28]>> Yeah. But you are if you remember one most important thing if you remember you are fundamentally from the basic fundamentally basically >> basically >> basically you are each of us is not anything more than a threedimensional object threedimensional object is The source of God has injected whatever he wanted the doer.

[01:05:11]In other words, we are puppets by God so that he can push any button he want.

[01:05:26]But the most important thing is I'm not the doer of anything.

[01:05:32]If I'm not the doer of anything, then I don't have to hate myself >> for having done anything.

[01:05:41]I didn't do it. Similarly, if people come and try to praise me again the same thing, I didn't do it.

[01:05:55]Whether The happening which helps people or it hurts people is again the destiny of the person concerned and God's will and laws reaction.

[01:06:20]6 billion people see something or hear something or smell something or taste something or touch something.

[01:06:32]Millions and millions of people each time there is a reaction.

[01:06:38]Each time there is a reaction and the reaction is the feeling that you get at that time and feelings are supposed to be I feel supposed some some positive mostly negative.

[01:07:08]But they are all biological reactions depending on the genes and conditioning.

[01:07:18]>> Okay. Yeah.

[01:07:19]>> So if my genes and conditioning the switch is short >> then seeing something or hearing something or touching something may bring quick anger.

[01:07:38]But someone next to me anger also appears in him.

[01:07:52]And then look and both became angry.

[01:08:03]Both became angry.

[01:08:13]is the happening of that reaction or the action. I was angry. Then you mention it may produce laughter or amusement.

[01:09:01]Whereas if I get involved in it then the anger turns into a longer involvement.

[01:09:14]arises even came by letter from some village after quite some time or eight days to say that old associate of Ramani who used to live there for many years and had been taken home by his son because he was had died.

[01:09:45]That news brought tears to tears.

[01:09:52]But what happened next?

[01:09:59]Let's go for lunch.

[01:10:10]into horizontal times in that man according to God's cosmic law and the results and the consequences are also according to God's witnesses already.

[01:10:45]This is the really important thing without condemning anybody for anything.

[01:11:02]No director for directing the film. Now they blame the act for acting so well.

[01:11:12]>> They acted so well to my tr in any situation. I have just done whatever I wanted to do. There has already happened on record and nothing can change it. and sit back as different places at different times watching a movie in the real movie tears come to the Happiness comes. Similar all those feelings which you find in real life are seen to happen in a in a movie because they biological reactions of the same body mind organism.

[01:12:41]But whether any event happens or not has never ever been in your control.

[01:12:48]Therefore, one thing which I often mean to mention but don't find the occasion. Today I will mention it.

[01:12:57]A young man 20 years old came to Raman Maharshi.

[01:13:04]He asked him several very intelligent questions. Raman Maharashi was was impressed.

[01:13:12]Then he said I have just one question please ask that question but asked that question go ahead at least 80 years ago and in Kerala I'm told the practice was about 100 years ago The normal woman did not wear anything on her torso.

[01:13:52]Is only the sex workers who covered there.

[01:14:01]That was the system the system of the of the of the society.

[01:14:11]So this man said the best of a young tempted to have said but I have read it only in one She may get married and go, but you have nothing to do with it.

[01:15:04]It may happen, it may not happen. Either way is not in your control.

[01:15:10]See if it doesn't happen, you don't have to take pride.

[01:15:14]If it does happen, you don't have to pay.

[01:15:20]Okay.

[01:15:23]>> Can I ask you some questions again for from for the film for the interview for you?

[01:15:30]>> Go ahead. Go ahead.

[01:15:30]>> Good.

[01:15:31]>> So again, if I could um Oh, that was like shocking me. Um, okay. If I could ask you to incorporate my questions so you respond in a complete sentence so the audience >> this lighting is okay.

[01:15:46]>> Yeah, it's good today.

[01:15:47]>> Okay, go ahead.

[01:15:48]>> Great. Thanks. Um, okay. Good. So, could you could you again tell me uh tell me your name, your age, and where we are today?

[01:16:00]>> We did that one again. Yeah, there were a lot of horns outside that day though, so the audio was a little bit bad.

[01:16:06]>> You want to close it up?

[01:16:08]>> Um, >> window.

[01:16:10]>> Yeah, could we? Maybe just that window.

[01:16:12]Great for >> 5 minutes.

[01:16:15]>> So it doesn't get too hot. Maybe just It's fine.

[01:16:20]Then I can cut between that one and this one.

[01:16:22]>> You could build that?

[01:16:24]>> Yeah. Thanks. That's That's fine. Don't want to make it a hot house.

[01:16:31]Yes.

[01:16:32]>> Okay. Please tell me again your name.

[01:16:35]>> My name is Ramsh S. Bala and I'm in my 92nd year.

[01:16:44]I used to work in a bank for 37 years and retired as the president of the bank.

[01:16:53]>> And what do you do now?

[01:16:58]What would you say >> now?

[01:17:01]I do. Again, please my genuine honest answer. I do precisely what God makes me do at any moment.

[01:17:16]But what has happened is over the last 20 years more than 40 books have comes and I don't have a I could never use a so any books I have written had to be written longus but anybody cannot believe there's hardly any alteration to close to you alteration no the words just came pouring But many are merely transcriptions of the I have nothing to do with the trans the he as it is going to But plenty of mistakes to be correct.

[01:18:47]>> When you wrote your first book, what was the what was the feeling or the impetus that made you realize you had to sit down and write >> instructions from my first guru? No, my second guru. My second nature if I read something then I like to make notes of it so that I can view it.

[01:19:23]So on this particular item I kept on writing and I said every every talk you give I got a point. So put them together and it'll make a nice book.

[01:19:37]So I gave the handwritten to someone who was interested and the book came out.

[01:19:46]>> Okay. Now I have a silly question for you. What's your favorite food?

[01:19:50]>> What is my favorite food?

[01:19:53]which I'm not supposed to take.

[01:19:59]>> Pizza.

[01:20:04]>> What can I do?

[01:20:09]>> So, if you're not supposed What What do you mean you're not supposed to take it for health reasons? Obama I had I had a had an operation.

[01:20:19]So I was not supposed to have pizza for 3 months and I'm not supposed to have a an alcoholic drink for 4 months.

[01:20:29]Alcoholic drinks not not much problem but pizza I do miss.

[01:20:39]And is there a connection um between how food is prepared and spiritual advancement?

[01:20:45]>> Say that again.

[01:20:46]>> I've I've noticed customs here.

[01:20:49]>> Do you believe that there is a connection between the way food is prepared and spiritual advancement?

[01:20:56]>> The way in which >> food is prepared >> food and religious advancement.

[01:21:03]>> Yeah.

[01:21:07]>> Your personal answer. I don't know.

[01:21:12]I honestly don't know. But I don't think it will because it is God who has decided He makes the fellow eat experience the enjoyment of the nonvearian food dimensional object.

[01:21:56]>> So what do you live for?

[01:21:58]>> I'm sorry. What do you live for?

[01:22:01]>> What do I live for?

[01:22:04]Honestly, I don't live honestly.

[01:22:09]I'm being lived. As long as this earth needs me, needs this ego.

[01:22:17]As soon as the time comes when this ego is not needed for whatever purpose, then the body will die. And the identified consciousness The ego will again become the impersonal consciousness.

[01:22:35]>> So while the world needs the ego of her mesh, does that mean that there's a a purpose to the world needing certain things done that we can comprehend?

[01:22:47]>> But what we actually see is some things the world need happen. Some things the world need do not happen. That also is strictly according to a cosmic law.

[01:23:04]And the cosmic law according to my concept concerns the entire universe for all time for the smallest things. Everything is according to the very first cause after the big bang. After the big bang there all over the world and effect happens according to the cosmic law.

[01:23:56]So the way that you say that you're not really living, how do you apply that then to the concept of death?

[01:24:06]>> Concept of death.

[01:24:10]Frankly, life and death have no connection at all.

[01:24:19]>> Can you repeat that?

[01:24:20]>> Yes. Life and death have no connection where the ego is concerned.

[01:24:27]This is so important.

[01:24:30]Life and death has no meaning as far as the ego is concerned. Life and death has meaning only mind organism is concerned and it relatives.

[01:24:49]Why? Why is that the first what is what did I say there?

[01:24:57]>> Um that the ego isn't concerned with life or death.

[01:25:00]>> The ego is not concerned with birth or death.

[01:25:06]Why? Because the earth the ego came into the picture long after the body was created and the and the Ego will last as long as the last breath in the body remains.

[01:25:40]not there when the ego what I read is between the age of two and two and a half the sense of personal identity arises in the baby then you may say becomes a child but until then only the body mind organ which is what dies.

[01:26:13]The ego which has come into the picture at the age of two and a half maybe even earlier that which came after the body was born disappears after the body is dead into it source.

[01:26:32]Ego me with a sense of personal do is an idea created by the source so that daily living the functioning of manifestation could happen through interhuman intergoic reaction.

[01:26:57]So then that doesn't leave the concept for the spirit the soul that the Christians you know the western religions so like this idea of the soul or even eastern religions too.

[01:27:08]>> Say that again.

[01:27:09]>> The idea then of the soul.

[01:27:12]>> Soul.

[01:27:13]>> Yeah.

[01:27:13]>> S O U L.

[01:27:14]>> Yeah.

[01:27:20]>> The only soul I know is the soul of my foot or the fish I eat.

[01:27:28]What soul is there?

[01:27:32]You see there unmanifested soul source which becomes the unmanifested singularity as the source. Unmanifesting has become the manifested duality because the basis of the manifestation is functioning that we call life between two human beings male and female begins with Adam and Dave.

[01:28:09]Therefore the ego is something which is created by the soul.

[01:28:17]as an instrument through which the source can function through every human body, mind, organism manu every object is appropriately gen action to happen in the divine in the divine An appropriate body mind has been created for every event to happen there is a body mind organism created and therefore important point to remember the mind logic individual human logic does not and cannot apply to universal laws universe for all life but millions.

[01:29:41]See what I mean? Therefore, we can only accept the core of the b of the core of the basic law. The core of the basic law is thy will be done.

[01:29:56]Thy will be done.

[01:30:00]Everything that happens is happening according to the will of God or according to cosmic cosmic law.

[01:30:08]How each happening affects whom for better or worse and through which three body mind object the happening has happened is again according to God's will.

[01:30:19]The human being is incapable of doing any Immatic came this is the enlightenment every human being is seeking but is not getting it because between that enjoyment And the tremendous suffering of carrying a load of hatred for oneself for one's own actions and a bigger load of hatred for others for their actions which have hurt you.

[01:31:06]Moment this is totally accepted. Moment this is totally accepted I simply cannot be the doer. The other cannot be the doer. We are only robots created by God to work through.

[01:31:24]If that happen the suffering disappears being hatred for my hatred for both haters disappear and hatred is the suffering which was keeping the human being from from being happy.

[01:31:53]I'm sorry.