The Two Kinds of Motivation (And Why You Keep Relapsing)

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[00:00:00]Guys think that they need to feel motivated to quit porn, and they're half right and they're half wrong. And the nuance is really where the money is at.

[00:00:08]You see, there are two kinds of motivation. The first is surface motivation, the impulsive I'm done with this feeling that hits you on a Sunday night after a bad weekend. This kind of motivation floats to the top of your mind like a wave on the ocean, and like a wave, it shifts and disappears with the weather. By Tuesday at 11:00 p.m.

[00:00:26]when you're tired and bored, that wave is gone and you relapse and wonder where your willpower went. You cannot quit porn from this kind of surface impulse, but here's where most guys get it wrong in the other direction. Some tough guy influencer will tell you, "Discipline doesn't need motivation. You just need to choose it." And frankly, I think that's [ __ ] and it's a sign that the guy speaking doesn't really understand how discipline actually works, even if he's a disciplined guy himself. Because discipline absolutely runs on motivation. It just runs on a deeper kind. The kind of motivation that sits like a heavy anchor at the bottom of your mind and doesn't move when the weather changes on the surface. What you got to do is anchor your intention to quit porn to one of those deeper desires. Like you got to see quitting porn as a means to satisfying that thing you really want, like the desire for a deeply intimate romance and marriage, the desire to focus and kick ass at your career, the desire for the spiritual and moral integrity that will unlock the confidence in yourself that will allow you to shine no matter the situation.

[00:01:30]When you anchor your motivation like this, you create something solid that you can use to keep showing up for yourself even when things get uncomfortable. So, if you want my complete program on how to build this kind of alignment in yourself and quit porn for good, you can snag it from my links for free.