Hear the lady's side of the story. It began as self-defense.

[00:00:00]And if it true, you are using two hands to slap your husband.

[00:00:04]Huh?

[00:00:05]>> It is not true.

[00:00:06]>> Have you beaten him before?

[00:00:07]>> I've never beaten him before. It was a self-defense.

[00:00:10]>> Self-defense?

[00:00:11]>> Yes, sir.

[00:00:17]So, that was the same person. I was the only one that suffered.

[00:00:20]I went through hell.

[00:00:22]After everything, this man is now trying to connect me.

[00:00:26]>> Order.

[00:00:28]I don't know why.

[00:00:30]Order. Order.

[00:00:36]>> There was a time he was communicating with the father of that boy.

[00:00:41]>> Huh?

[00:00:42]>> There was a time he was communicating with the father of that boy.

[00:00:49]Of my son.

[00:00:51]>> How? The your The father of your son communicating like how? How? Explain to me.

[00:00:56]>> Yes, sir. And he was like forcing me to go and take the boy back to the boy.

[00:01:02]Back to the man.

[00:01:04]Whereby the MAN IN QUESTION WAS SOMEONE THAT PROMISED ME MARRIAGE when I was just 18 years.

[00:01:11]>> When did he When did he not pregnant you?

[00:01:14]>> That was when I was 18. He promised me marriage.

[00:01:17]Then after the pregnancy, 2 months after the pregnancy, he denied me.

[00:01:22]So, that was the same person. I was the only one that suffered.

[00:01:25]I went through hell.

[00:01:27]After everything, this man is now trying to connect me.

[00:01:31]>> Order.

[00:01:33]I don't know why.

[00:01:35]Order. Order.

[00:01:43]Order. Order. Order.

[00:01:47]Order. Now, continue.

[00:01:49]>> Every time he keep reminding me I should take the boy to the father.

[00:01:53]And I told him, when I was 2 months the father had a child.

[00:01:59]I was the one who took care of that boy.

[00:02:02]TILL 13 YEARS. Then after marrying YOU YOU WANT ME TO TAKE THE BOY TO THE FATHER. SOMEONE THAT NEVER CONTRIBUTED one naira to the boy.

[00:02:14]WHAT MANNER OF WICKEDNESS IS THAT?

[00:02:18]>> Thank you, Daddy.

[00:02:20]Daddy, um I love things that are I'm a tra- I'm a traditional man.

[00:02:28]I believe in tradition.

[00:02:30]Daddy, when like I said, just few days before my traditional marriage, I found out about this.

[00:02:39]But after marriage, Daddy, I told when because the the boy's father was calling calling calling and calling, even threatening.

[00:02:52]How the boy got my number, I don't even know.

[00:02:55]To even start calling me and text me all manner of text messages.

[00:02:59]I called her calmly, lovingly, in discussion, please.

[00:03:06]I I am an Igbo man.

[00:03:08]I know tradition.

[00:03:10]This boy is a boy. When he comes of age, no matter how we hide him from the father, he will still trace his roots.

[00:03:22]Is it not better you hand him over to him?

[00:03:27]She start complaining of all this she said now.

[00:03:31]>> I understand what you are saying.

[00:03:33]>> Before the guy, I will even shout on the guy. I have blocked the guy's number on my phone. No Nothing less than 10 times.

[00:03:41]>> The boy The boy himself >> The father The father of the boy, sir.

[00:03:46]>> The father of the boy must be a devilish foolish person. foolish person.

[00:03:58]Are you a married man?

[00:03:59]>> Yes, sir.

[00:04:01]>> He doesn't have the right to be calling you.

[00:04:04]If he wants to call, he should call the family of the girl.

[00:04:08]He he If he In Igbo tradition, also, if you don't pay a woman bride price, the child does not belongs to you.

[00:04:14]>> That is what I told him the last time. I >> Do you know that culture?

[00:04:18]>> I told him that I've taken the boy to the father.

[00:04:20]>> So, if he wants to, he should stop calling you. He should be calling the family. A child he has never put one naira on. So, some people are devilish minded. Satanic minded. If he called you, block him. You warn him.

[00:04:36]If he wants to do anything, that is nothing that concerns you.

[00:04:39]>> Exactly.

[00:04:40]>> He should be calling the family of the person. And he should also That time he's calling, you would have asked him, "The son you are calling, how much have you put on his head? Did you pay the woman bride price?"

[00:04:51]>> Before blocking him, I asked him all those questions.

[00:04:53]>> So, stop picking his call.

[00:04:55]>> I have a two year son.

[00:04:56]>> No, we are not telling you to take the son to the father. That is not the reason why I'm here. It's just that you need to let your boy know. Raise him well. With the kind of attitude he he's not growing up well.

[00:05:10]Secondly, secondly, you must If you can just do what I asked you to do, you are the one that reported the case, so.

[00:05:21]I have reason as a human being to side you.

[00:05:24]But I don't side anybody. What I'm doing is for two of you to continue.

[00:05:29]Madam, if this marriage crash today, God forbid, this boy this man can marry 16 years old girl.

[00:05:37]But it's not every man will like to marry you again.

[00:05:41]This is the fact. Somebody will say, "She have a child and she has married before." Every reasonable man will not to marry 17 years old girl, he will go and marry.

[00:05:51]I want you to mellow down and know he's your head.

[00:05:56]If you mellow down, two of you will have children to and you will have peace.

[00:06:03]Huh?

[00:06:04]>> Daddy, the same boy he's complaining about. When we were living at Onitsha.

[00:06:18]>> And if it true you are using two hand to slap your husband.

[00:06:23]Huh?

[00:06:23]>> It is not true.

[00:06:29]>> So you never beat him before.

[00:06:32]Huh?

[00:06:33]Have you beaten him before?

[00:06:35]>> I've never beaten him before. It's a self-defense.

[00:06:38]>> Self-defense?

[00:06:39]>> Yes, sir.