Gypsies Let Loose in Barcelona | My Big Fat Gypsy Weddings

[00:00:04][music] >> From the day a traveler girl is born, the preparations begin for the [music] biggest day of her life.

[00:00:17]Her wedding day.

[00:00:28]>> [music] >> Thelma Madine is the traveling community's dressmaker of choice.

[00:00:43]I can honestly say I don't think you've ever lived unless you've been [music] to a traveler's wedding. From the minute these young girls can walk and talk, the only thing they're thinking about is their wedding day and getting married and getting the dress [music] of their dreams.

[00:01:00]>> [music] >> She'll say to you, "I want mine to be the biggest. What's the biggest dress you've ever done? Well, I want mine bigger than that one."

[00:01:09]Thelma has been making increasingly spectacular [music] outfits for gypsy and traveler girls for over 15 years. Nice off.

[00:01:20]>> [music] >> But their exotic dress sense took some getting used to.

[00:01:30]When I first seen them, it was like, "My god, they did look like prostitutes."

[00:01:35]That's how you would describe them. They were dressed with short skirts, low tops, and, you know, just you just wouldn't walk around like that, or you wouldn't let your daughters walk around like that.

[00:01:46]But when you get to know them, their their morals are so high.

[00:01:50]You would say they were definitely stuck in a time warp.

[00:01:54]They're not allowed to go out on their own, and there's definitely, definitely, definitely no sex before marriage.

[00:02:06]Marriage [music] for these girls tends to happen at a young age.

[00:02:13]>> [music] >> 16-year-old Irish traveler Josie met her fiance, [music] 19-year-old Swanley, just 4 months ago.

[00:02:23]The wedding is in 5 weeks' time. Sorry, mate. No, well, no, well, like that I know both. It's sweaty.

[00:02:30]Started chatting on Facebook. First I saw him on Facebook, I thought nice guy.

[00:02:38]I was like better built back then. Oh, shut up.

[00:02:42]That's all there. What's the name of this doll is it? Royal Doulton and a Coalport. I've got Royal Doulton there.

[00:02:47]And I've got Coalport.

[00:02:49]Go on, love it. Go on.

[00:02:53]Most [music] traveler girls must be chaperoned when going out with a boy, even once they're engaged. I love you.

[00:03:01]Swanley's mom has accompanied the couple to one of the biggest events in the Gypsy calendar, the Epsom Fair, where they're buying homeware for their future caravan.

[00:03:12]You want a tea set? Yeah. You sure?

[00:03:16]Even when they're little girls, they take a girl around the fair and they're like, "Oh, I like that tea set. When I get married, I want a tea set like that."

[00:03:22]It starts when they're young, very young. I was looking after kids, looking after the own when I was 10 years old.

[00:03:29]>> I was 10 years old on my side. So, we are brought up that way. That's the way we are brought up.

[00:03:35]Homemakers, they call us. We're bred into it. We're brought up to be homemakers.

[00:03:40]Josie's dreams of married life may be about to come true.

[00:03:48]But for the single traveler girl, the place to meet boys is in this West London car park.

[00:03:56]>> [music] >> 15-year-old Gypsy cousins, Cheyenne and Montana, can be found here most weekends, dressed to impress.

[00:04:06]>> [music] >> So, how old are you both now? I'm 15.

[00:04:09]I'm 15, too.

[00:04:11]And uh when would you like to get married? 16.

[00:04:14]I'll be about 17, 18.

[00:04:16]About 18. About 16, 17, when I'm ready.

[00:04:19]But I couldn't say any older than that.

[00:04:22]Traveler girls have to follow the strict rules of courtship imposed on them by the community.

[00:04:29]There's more of what you can't do than what you can do. Like, say that there's a bunch of boys and one girl there, then your name's talked about. It's just how it should be. Like, girls with girls and boys with boys.

[00:04:38]Girls aren't allowed to approach boys.

[00:04:41]They must wait to be chosen, sometimes through a ritual known as grabbing.

[00:04:45]Right, so will you hurry up so I can grab you, please? Please, oh.

[00:04:49]What do you want? Only an old kiss, you know. Well, I don't believe in grabs.

[00:04:53]No? No. What do you come here then, boys? What? What do you come here for?

[00:04:57]To get some good-looking ladies.

[00:04:59]Like these, you know.

[00:05:01]There's your answer right there.

[00:05:03]Just see all the pretty girls, get their numbers, smoke them up, hug them.

[00:05:07]Smell the perfume. What do the boys actually do to get with Just give them the eye, don't they?

[00:05:12]>> [laughter] >> I'm not lying though, girls, am I?

[00:05:15]No.

[00:05:16]I reckon boys grab girls. I don't reckon they should grab girls. I think they should Just pull them away to a corner.

[00:05:21]Give them the gift of the gab and Bob's your uncle, you're getting a kiss, aren't you?

[00:05:27]Come on.

[00:05:28]Are you able to explain what grabbing is?

[00:05:31]Well, like they take a girl off and they say, "Will you give us a kiss?" And you say, the girl says no or yes, but like I would say no. I say no and then they do something like where it hurts, you know.

[00:05:43]They push like I don't know.

[00:05:46]They twist your to hurt you. And then like they keep doing it until you give them a kiss, but it's like fail they don't fail they don't But that means they like a girl.

[00:05:59]They means like they like a girl they want to get to know them and get their number.

[00:06:05]The next opportunity for Cheyenne and Montana to attract the attention of traveler boys will be at the wedding of their friend [music] Josie.

[00:06:16]She and her 14-year-old sister Barbara are putting the finishing touches to the big day.

[00:06:24]That's nice but I want to shape like that. That's nice of the diamonds going through it. Two of them yeah?

[00:06:30]The whole wedding's going to be pink.

[00:06:31]Lacey you're going to walk in and see pink everywhere.

[00:06:33]>> I've got blue ones all done on the all the roofs. You can't see none of the roofs. It's just got all pink blue ones pink and white balloons. What color is your dress?

[00:06:39]>> It's white. White okay. And what color are the bridesmaids? Pink. Pink. Do you know the marker pink? The color bright pink.

[00:06:46]>> yeah. Yeah that that pink. All right lovely.

[00:06:49]That's the color of the bridesmaids. All right okay. It's my dad's color anyway.

[00:06:52]It's probably a bit brighter but Brighter?

[00:06:55]>> [laughter] >> Okay.

[00:06:56]No problem. There's not a a rose that says brighter is there?

[00:07:00]How long have you been planning this now?

[00:07:02]The wedding? Yeah. It's been 4 months No it's not. It's been 3 months. 3 months now.

[00:07:08]3 months planning now. And how long have you been with Tony? 4 months.

[00:07:12]That's wrong.

[00:07:13]And we're we're longer engaged than what we were going out with each other.

[00:07:19]All right I'll see you later. See you later. See you. All right see you.

[00:07:22]>> [singing] >> Bye.

[00:07:24]Josie and her family, like many Gypsy and Travelers in Britain today, choose to live in a house rather than a caravan.

[00:07:34]Though Josie will be leaving the family home soon, she is preoccupied with more significant matters.

[00:07:43]How important is the wedding dress? The wedding dress is the main thing out of all. Every girl wants their dress to be the best cuz you're only going to wear that one day and it's that one same thing is basically why is the wedding so big? Because it's the one time you're getting married. It's not like you're going to be married seven or eight times after.

[00:07:59]So, you want to say oh, look my dress is like this and my dress is like that cuz you wait like since you're a baby just to wear like to feel like a princess.

[00:08:07]It's the corset. It's a long corset to my hair. It's see-through and this bones so you can just see the bones and then there's like a rose and then it comes out about here. Comes out that much and it comes out that much there that way.

[00:08:20]Um it's got a split up the leg. It's weird [music] but it's nice. Then it's got a rose just there, a couple of roses. It sounds plain but it's nice.

[00:08:28]Will it be heavy?

[00:08:30]It wasn't too heavy when I tried it on but that was only that wasn't it wasn't fully made then.

[00:08:34]So, but usually girls get scared when their hips are out.

[00:08:37]Yeah, I know. They said the more it bleeds, the better your dress.

[00:08:47]There are a number of milestones in a young traveler girl's life on route to her wedding day.

[00:08:53]Her first holy communion is the most extravagant of them all.

[00:08:57]Isn't that that's every little girl's dream, isn't it? It is.

[00:09:02]I'd say with the travelers it's it's fair to say this is like a dress rehearsal for their wedding. They actually they love the idea of the the dressing of the princess dress and and this is just like a a little taster of what they're going to have.

[00:09:16]Dressmaker Thelma has just finished a communion gown inspired by the Eddie Murphy film Coming to America.

[00:09:25]It's really common with the traveler girls to bring photographs or actually passels films of Disney characters or any sort of film where there's an elaborate wedding dress or an elaborate dress in it.

[00:09:40]The lace.

[00:09:42]It's fabulous, yeah. It's brilliant.

[00:09:47]Lovely, isn't it?

[00:09:49]After waiting for months, the Irish traveler family are about to see the communion dress for the first time.

[00:09:55]Close your eyes, come on. I know you're fancy, you're going to fall.

[00:09:59]Ready? Go.

[00:10:00]Go on, you can see now.

[00:10:03]>> [music] >> What do you think?

[00:10:05]Do you love it?

[00:10:06]Do you love it, yeah?

[00:10:08]Isn't it gorgeous? Are you going to cry, babe? Aw.

[00:10:13]Mom Marie, 7-year-old Margarita, and her brother John Boy have made [music] a 300-mile round trip from their site in Gloucester.

[00:10:21]Is it what you thought it'd be? I can't think of a It's nicer than I thought. It's nicer than you thought. It's gorgeous, isn't it? Hey?

[00:10:30]I think when your daddy sees this, he's [music] going to cry.

[00:10:33]What do you think?

[00:10:34]Hey, it's little princess.

[00:10:36]Want to try it on? Yeah.

[00:10:42]I want to see the dress. I want to see I want to see the dress on my sister.

[00:10:46]They're not letting you in yet. No, they're It's like it's cuz she's getting changed.

[00:10:51]Hurry up. I I want to go and see the dress.

[00:10:58]It's amazing, sweetheart. You're going to cry. Everyone's going to cry.

[00:11:03]She's thrilled, isn't she?

[00:11:04]Is it what you were there thinking?

[00:11:06]Yeah. [music] It's heavy, isn't it?

[00:11:13]What you do, you see that little bit there? It's not like it's too tight. You know, just get some new plasters, you like what you put on your feet, like blister plasters. You just stick them along there.

[00:11:23]Yeah, so so it doesn't rub more than anything cuz she's not used to having anything tight, is she?

[00:11:29]>> [music] >> John Boy will be taking his communion on the same day in an outfit inspired [music] by the same film.

[00:11:44]He's going as the African prince.

[00:11:47]It's a nice dress. It's a lovely dress.

[00:11:48]>> But it's not nicer on my suit.

[00:11:51]Princess.

[00:11:53]John Boy, you never call me a princess.

[00:11:54]Why you call me one now?

[00:11:56]Aw. Do you like it, princess? But you always call me a rat. No, that's not true. Who say you a princess, William?

[00:12:03]I think this whole outfit what she's going to wear is going to be really, really uncomfortable. But I've never once heard a traveling child complain of pain, discomfort, or anything. As long as it looks good, they're happy.

[00:12:21]>> [music] >> Traveling communities have been living in Britain for over 500 years.

[00:12:30]The two largest groups are Romanichals and Irish travelers. [music] To preserve their culture, they rarely mix with outsiders and are raised in enormous families.

[00:12:43]Bride-to-be Josie is the eldest of nine.

[00:12:49]>> [music] >> This is me. Good looking sister is getting married. You know, I can't wait till the wedding. So >> [laughter] >> So beautiful, isn't she?

[00:12:59]Hello, you're off me now. This is Tommy.

[00:13:01]He's going to say hello.

[00:13:03]And this here is Baby Doll. Say hello, Baby Doll. Don't say it. It's not polite. Say hello.

[00:13:08]This is my Christopher. Christopher, six. Six, that's right.

[00:13:12]This is Pat. Put her down there. That's Barry.

[00:13:16]>> [laughter] >> And basically this is our humble home and this is our loving family. Say hello, darling.

[00:13:23]Like [music] many traveler girls, Hello.

[00:13:25]Hello. Josie left school aged 11 to care for her siblings and help with the housework. A woman shouldn't work. I think it's it's the man's [music] job to do, you know, like just go out working and bring money in and all of that. I don't think it's a woman's job. It's a man's world. A man's a man, a woman's a woman.

[00:13:43]If the woman ever went out to earn the money and the man never had to stay home to look after the children, it'd be a funny do. I'm telling you that there definitely be something wrong there. Uh I can't see that ever our community. I can never ever see that going on.

[00:13:58]Definitely there definitely be something wrong. That couldn't happen.

[00:14:03]Josie's husband-to-be, Swanley, is an English gypsy. He works for himself as a manual laborer, looking after horses in his spare time. No, I know Josie is the right girl.

[00:14:14]She's a good cook, you know.

[00:14:16]I know.

[00:14:18]She does clean up for most of the day.

[00:14:20]That's a good sign.

[00:14:24]And that's what I mean the main thing.

[00:14:26]So, the main thing is, you know, I get on with her well.

[00:14:29]That's the main thing.

[00:14:37]>> [music] >> Cheyenne and Montana are hunting for a dress to wear at their friend Josie's wedding in 2 weeks time.

[00:14:50]Do you like that? No.

[00:14:52]No?

[00:14:53]What's this one? It's forbidden for gypsy and traveler girls to go on dates with boys. So, weddings [music] are one of the few places they can openly meet.

[00:15:01]I like this one better. And is the wedding somewhere that sort of the younger guys and girls can meet each other? Yeah, like travelers usually have always have an open wedding than an invite-only. So, like travelers that don't even know each other just go there and meet up.

[00:15:17]And they meet new people.

[00:15:20]And they go there for a good time.

[00:15:23]Cheyenne and Montana attend up to 15 weddings a year.

[00:15:28]Every time there's a new wedding, like a wedding or something, a dance, we would always buy a new dress. If I like the dress, I couldn't care about the price.

[00:15:37]I'm sure my mom and dad won't, but me, that's all right. How much would you roughly pay for a dress? I don't know.

[00:15:43]About up to I'd pay 300.

[00:15:47]And how often do you wear this dress?

[00:15:50]Once. I'd say it once.

[00:15:53]Could you get it shorter? I would like you you short. No, cuz I don't like things to my knees, cuz I've got short legs as it is. You don't need to make them shorter. That's short enough.

[00:16:02]It's all about like looking the best and impressing. [music] I don't know. Just to look feel good in their self. When it comes to when you have to make the most of it. I don't like the picture on it.

[00:16:17]See, I couldn't have if I was to have a dress, I would not have >> If that was a picture of herself on there, she'd be like >> [laughter] >> If it was a picture of myself, but someone else on it, I don't think so.

[00:16:28]Who is that anyway?

[00:16:29]I don't know.

[00:16:32]>> [music] [music] >> Who is Harvey? Who is that? You want some beef, yeah? You want to give me the finger?

[00:16:47]What?

[00:16:50]Girls growing up in traveler families must never be seen in public alone.

[00:16:56]They usually go out in large packs. You got to keep your name clear. Basically, you have to have you got to like like clean one. You got to be clean and decent in everybody's eyes. You can't let a rumor go around saying that you did this or you did that.

[00:17:09]>> If I went out or like any traveling girl went out to meet a boy on their own, it was just them and the boy, anything could happen like anything not generally could happen. It was just like he could say that happened, this happened. And obviously she knows didn't happen.

[00:17:22]And what would that mean to the to the traveler girl? That means basically she's scandalized. Dirty. Basically, well, you never get married. Your name's filth.

[00:17:29]The same rules do not apply to boys.

[00:17:33]A boy can leave the house. He can get up and go out and go on about his business.

[00:17:37]Not have to come back. Don't have to say he's gone.

[00:17:39]Just say, "All right. See you later."

[00:17:40]And away he's back later on. So, they don't have to come back?

[00:17:42]>> has got to ask her daddy. Ask her mommy nice for me. to go. Ring them every hour of the day.

[00:17:47]When they're out, you've got to ring them every couple of every half hour, every couple of minutes of the day.

[00:17:51]They've got to be in for a certain time.

[00:17:53]You know?

[00:17:54]There's lots of things there.

[00:17:56]Do you think that's fair? Yeah, I do think it's fair. I think basically it is a boy's world to do obviously they put the money and put the food on the table.

[00:18:02]So, it's their world.

[00:18:04]>> it? No. No for nothing.

[00:18:07]>> [music] >> A week before the wedding, bride-to-be Josie and her family of 10 have traveled to Lanzarote to celebrate her last week as a single woman.

[00:18:30]>> [music] >> Kept within the bosom of her family until she's handed over to her husband, tonight they will [music] give Josie a hen party to remember.

[00:18:45]Because Oh, you just poked me in the eye. Sorry. Is it beginning to sink in now, Josie?

[00:18:49]>> Yeah, it's really is beginning to sink in a a lot a lot.

[00:18:54]Well, last week I don't know why. It's like this week I realized, "God, I really am getting married next week."

[00:18:58]I don't know why. I think I'm I'm getting a bit more scared and nervous.

[00:19:04]I do want to get married, but I'm just getting nervous.

[00:19:08]How would you describe your outfits for this evening.

[00:19:12]I'd describe them Spanish.

[00:19:23]>> [music] >> Hanoi, Hanoi, I'm on my Hanoi.

[00:19:34]>> [music] >> Traveler and gypsy girls aren't allowed to drink alcohol before marriage.

[00:19:42]But that doesn't stop them having a good time.

[00:19:45]>> [laughter] [music] >> Well, obviously I don't want her to go.

[00:20:06]I feel pretty bad about it.

[00:20:09]I don't want to give her to anybody, but [music] I know she's got to go whenever it is.

[00:20:18]I'm not going to grow up straight away.

[00:20:20]I can still grow up I grow up with Swanley. Me and Swanley grow up together.

[00:20:30]How do you think you'll feel next week when she's walking down the aisle? Well, I'm sure I'm going to cry, but I mean I done it, so she's got to do it. I done it at 17, so I'm sure she's going to be capable of doing it and she's going to be all right. Do you think she's ready?

[00:20:43]I'm sure she's ready. I was ready at 17, so I'm sure she will be.

[00:20:47]>> [music] >> Back home in England, groom-to-be Swanley is on his caravan site in Surrey, where he's lived with his extended family his whole life.

[00:21:00]Once they're married, Josie will move onto the site.

[00:21:04]While she's been away, what have you had to do?

[00:21:06]Follow trailers, sort of plot out.

[00:21:09]All sorts.

[00:21:11]I ain't stopped.

[00:21:13]It's the man's job to buy their marital trailer, but with just 6 days to go until the big day, Swanley's unsure of his choice.

[00:21:21]I don't know if she'll like it.

[00:21:26]I don't think she'll like it. To tell you the truth, I ain't completely happy with it.

[00:21:30]I said I I can't No one's selling any better ones, you know?

[00:21:38]Not sure about the color of the seats, though. I might get them re-leathered, different color.

[00:21:43]What color are the seats at the moment?

[00:21:45]I ain't going to say that. Well, can you show me inside? No. Why not?

[00:21:48]Because I'm not. You can see inside with the camera off.

[00:21:52]Turn the camera off, you can see inside.

[00:21:54]Why? Do you need to do some stuff to it?

[00:21:55]Yeah.

[00:21:57]Need to do some more work to it.

[00:22:02]You turn the camera off, then you can see inside.

[00:22:05]Travelers are extremely house proud, and the inside of this caravan has yet to be cleaned.

[00:22:11]With Josie away, there's no one around to do the job.

[00:22:21]In Stroud, it's a special day for 7-year-old Margarita.

[00:22:27]500 m of pink netting are about to transform her into a princess for the day.

[00:22:34]That's the umbrella.

[00:22:36]That's the corset. [music] That's the crown.

[00:22:39]That's the headband. That's the slip.

[00:22:41]That's the dress.

[00:22:43]Not to be outdone, brother John Boy has a suit fit for a prince.

[00:22:48]That's the trouser.

[00:22:52]And um the corset has has this.

[00:22:59]And when you button the coat up, you put that in there.

[00:23:04]And it's going to be really special.

[00:23:10]It's the morning of their first Holy Communion.

[00:23:27]Decorated with over 5,000 crystals, Margarita's dress weighs twice [music] her own body weight.

[00:23:41]Yeah, like this.

[00:23:54]As is tradition in the traveling community, the children make their own way to church, complete with a bottle of fake champagne.

[00:24:02]>> [music] >> Oh, take everybody come out. Jesus Christ.

[00:24:38]I wanted to see her in the limousine.

[00:24:42]Margarita's extravagant dress will make sure she stands out from the crowd. The little girl and Marie were explaining to me that this is It's like a school communion. So, it's all the children that will be in their class will be making the communion together.

[00:24:56]But, Marie's little girl is the only traveler who'll be making her communion at that time. Um so, I think you'll see a stark difference between the clothes that the other kids wear and what this little girl wears.

[00:25:11]>> [music] [music] >> I must say it was quite a surprise.

[00:25:35]>> [laughter] >> But, we've had a traveler's wedding here about a [music] year ago or so, and the bride had a great big dress then. So, I'm getting used to it. It doesn't phase me at all.

[00:26:12]To him be glory and honor in the unity of the Holy Spirit.

[00:26:21]All glory and honor is yours, almighty Father, forever >> [singing] >> and ever.

[00:26:33]Amen.

[00:26:34]>> [chanting] >> When are you next going to wear a dress like this?

[00:26:59]When it's her wedding.

[00:27:02]>> [laughter] [music] >> For Josie, her big day has finally arrived.

[00:27:18]An army of helpers are getting her ready for her wedding.

[00:27:23]I can't eat food. I'm too nervous.

[00:27:25]Why? I'm eating I can't eat, but my throat is blocked.

[00:27:30]I'm not eating.

[00:27:31]Blocked. Please go away. It won't go in.

[00:27:33]I don't know what to do, cry or laugh.

[00:27:36]I don't I feel like I got all these butterflies in my stomach and I'm just flying around.

[00:27:42]Is this like really happening kind of thing?

[00:27:45]Well, today's the big day, boys.

[00:27:49]It's the last time I saw my love away forever.

[00:27:52]Well, now I'll go get my hair done.

[00:27:55]Sort myself out, get dressed, drive to the church. All done.

[00:28:09]>> [screaming] >> So, do you think you're ready, Josie?

[00:28:15]Yeah, I am ready. I hope I am.

[00:28:23]Saver!

[00:28:25]Wedding guests Cheyenne and Montana are preparing for tonight's party.

[00:28:30]At Josie's wedding tonight, I'd like to get a very good laugh out of it. Enjoy myself because these weddings only ever going to happen once and I bet it's going to be a lovely wedding.

[00:28:40]Meet new people and have a good time.

[00:28:45]Where's the makeup >> [music] >> At the tender age of 15, they already know what they're looking for in a husband.

[00:28:54]Well, I'd like a man that don't lay in the bed all day, goes to work, gives you money, uh that's nice to you, don't go off to the pub every night, shows they care, yeah, shows they care, don't go off to nightclubs, don't go off with other women, just like your man.

[00:29:12]>> loyal to you to you.

[00:29:15]Don't beat you.

[00:29:17]No, I'd like a a very loyal husband that stood by you.

[00:29:23]Yeah, wait.

[00:29:25]Swanley will be making his own way to the church, with the service due to begin in just over an hour.

[00:29:32]Well, Josie's a Nimmo.

[00:29:34]I'm going to transit gypsy boy style.

[00:29:37]>> [laughter] >> With the most important element of her wedding hitched, pushed, pulled, and tied [music] into place, this is the moment Josie's been waiting for.

[00:30:04]>> [music] >> Weighing [music] over five stone, her dress has a thigh-length slit at the front to give it that certain Spanish something. Yeah.

[00:30:18]I look nice, I look the class.

[00:30:24]>> [music] [music] >> The church is a short drive from Swanley's hotel, if you know where you're going.

[00:30:46]Excuse me, my dear. Which way is it to Iver?

[00:30:51]Excuse me, my friend. Yeah, how do I get to Iver? Up to the main Denham roundabout. Yeah. Then do like a left.

[00:31:00]What will happen if Josie turns up there and you're not there? Oh, she'd kill me.

[00:31:04]Oh, if I was there, if she would if she turned up there and I wasn't there, oh, she would murder Kate me.

[00:31:12]>> [music] >> 30 minutes before the service is due to start, Josie and her entourage are in the car park waiting for the limos to arrive.

[00:31:21]The dress is lovely. I've got it on me now. I've just got to brush my teeth and I'll just hold on with the car for toothpaste and then the toothbrush. So, let me put you on to Barbara for 1 minute, yeah?

[00:31:32]>> [music] >> Where are we?

[00:31:38]Where are we? We are God knows.

[00:31:43]My friend, where's the the Iver church, St. Peter's church?

[00:31:48]>> [music] >> Oh.

[00:31:53]>> [sighs] >> What time is it now, Swanley?

[00:31:56]10:00 to 1:00.

[00:31:57]The time now is 10:00 to 1:00. Do you know what time I'm getting married at?

[00:32:00]1:00.

[00:32:02]Now, how long will it take us to get to the church?

[00:32:04]Half hour.

[00:32:08]But Josie is even further away and has a bigger problem.

[00:32:12]Her limousine is running half an hour late.

[00:32:16]The back of people never showed up.

[00:32:19]Yeah. I'll ring you back.

[00:32:23]Please, God.

[00:32:24]Let's please Let the limousine car pick me up. Please, God.

[00:32:31]Excuse me, my friend. Iver church.

[00:32:34]It's got to be here somewhere. Go down here somewhere, yeah? Yeah. Are you here for the wedding? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

[00:32:39]With time ticking, First left. Swanley has finally been given clear directions.

[00:32:45]No.

[00:32:46]This is a This is A WEDDING.

[00:32:48]>> [laughter] >> OH.

[00:32:53]>> [laughter] >> WHAT WHAT'S THE NON-RACIAL PART OF CALLING?

[00:32:58]INDIAN?

[00:32:59]All right.

[00:33:00]I've got to tell the judge. [laughter] I did Is it an Indian wedding?

[00:33:06]It's not a wedding.

[00:33:09]Oh. Oh, dear, mate.

[00:33:11]Oh, she's going to kill me. She's going to kill me dead.

[00:33:14]Okay, I know Right. We shall get through this together.

[00:33:20]God love her.

[00:33:23]Having been lost for over an hour, Swanley has found the right church.

[00:33:29]There we are.

[00:33:40]I'm at the church.

[00:33:42]I'm getting getting married.

[00:33:43]Let's go.

[00:33:47]But there's one person missing, the bride.

[00:33:51]Where you at?

[00:33:53]Oh, Josie, Josie, what have you done to me?

[00:33:58]Oh, I was just I was stressing out. I was like, "Come on, girl. Where the hell are you?"

[00:34:02]Where are you at Fressingfield?

[00:34:04]We're still in Fressingfield, Fressingfield, your your town.

[00:34:11]Jesus Christ, Josie.

[00:34:13]Are you worried?

[00:34:14]Yeah. Well, I'm I'm going to let people worry.

[00:34:18]Cuz that The The guy in the manner there the vicar he's on about today longer.

[00:34:25]I might not be able to do it.

[00:34:27]All right. It looks all right now, yeah?

[00:34:28]Yeah. Just relax. Just breathe.

[00:34:31]Just relax.

[00:34:33]All right?

[00:34:38]>> [music] >> 17-year-old bride-to-be Josie should have been standing at the altar 30 minutes ago.

[00:34:49]But she's still waiting for her car to arrive to take her to the church.

[00:35:12]As the guests await the bride, Swanley has gone down the pub.

[00:35:19]Oh, the time is half past one. It's half past one. And I would have been married what? Half hour ago.

[00:35:26]>> [laughter] >> At long last, the limousines have arrived.

[00:35:32]>> [music] >> Yeah, I am excited.

[00:35:39]I'm really excited.

[00:35:40]I've got to sit like this all the way there.

[00:35:59]He's nervous. He's nervous.

[00:36:08]>> [bell] [bell] >> Take your time. Take your time. Go very, very slowly. Look, now the guests are still outside, look.

[00:36:21]Where does this go? Where does this Where does this last one There.

[00:36:30]>> Will you please be upstanding for the entry of the bride.

[00:36:51]In the presence of God Father, Son and Holy Spirit we come together to witness the marriage of Swanley and Josie [music] to pray for God's blessing on them to share their joy and to celebrate their love. Swanley I give you this ring. Swanley, I give you this ring.

[00:37:11]>> As a sign of our marriage. As as a sign of our marriage. With my body I honor you. With my body I honor you.

[00:37:18]All that I am I give to you. All that I am I give to you. And all that I have I share with you.

[00:37:25]And all that I have I share with It's the nerves, don't worry.

[00:37:37]>> [music] >> You may kiss the bride.

[00:37:47]Please stand to greet Mr. and Mrs. Smith.

[00:37:51]>> [applause] >> As the newlyweds make their way to the reception Montana and Cheyenne, like most of the guests, are about to join them.

[00:38:23]The girls will have to be on guard for boys looking to stake their claim on a potential wife.

[00:38:29]Well, if you think someone's going to grab you, just stay out the way, and you stay with the girls, and try and avoid it, really.

[00:38:36]That's a definite 100% what's going to be happening tonight at this wedding.

[00:38:41]There definitely will be grabs there.

[00:38:47]>> [music] >> Swanley's first duty as a husband is to show his new wife to her seat at the top table.

[00:38:59]Look there, baby. I I got to get her out of this chair before I do it. OH, IT'S WET.

[00:39:05]PUT THAT ALL AROUND THERE. I SAID, "Put that there."

[00:39:07]Oh, is it Oh, wait.

[00:39:10]You I want it.

[00:39:13]What's up? Come here cuz it's wet me.

[00:39:16]But, let's not do that. That's very dangerous. Come here. Come here.

[00:39:18]Come here. Swanley, this is disgusting.

[00:39:20]Help me, Swanley.

[00:39:20]>> What's coming? What's coming, now?

[00:39:22]Swanley, stand up, yeah?

[00:39:23]Yeah, that's it. You come around. You come around.

[00:39:26]That's it. That's it. That's Swanley.

[00:39:28]All right.

[00:39:29]Get her out. Get her out. Get her out.

[00:39:32]There, you can't move.

[00:39:33]All right.

[00:39:34]Go.

[00:39:35]All right.

[00:39:36]Are you comfortable? This way more. This way more. We'll pull up. This way more.

[00:39:39]This cut into me.

[00:39:40]Push it off there.

[00:39:41]All right.

[00:39:42]Yeah, I got Dinner is being served.

[00:39:50]>> [music] >> Swanley has slipped into something more comfortable, [music] just in time to cut the cake with his wife.

[00:40:07]>> [music] [laughter] >> I LOVE YOU.

[00:40:15]>> [laughter] >> I LOVE YOU.

[00:40:18]I LOVE YOU.

[00:40:24]>> [music] >> CHEYENNE AND MONTANA arrive as the younger generation make their way to the dance floor.

[00:40:40]>> [music] >> There's a fair few boys and girls here.

[00:40:49]Montana's been dancing.

[00:40:51]I've been chatting to people and having a look about and getting mixed in with the party.

[00:40:57]>> [music] [music] >> With the evening drawing to a close, a young man makes his intentions clear to 15-year-old Cheyenne through the Irish traveler custom of grabbing.

[00:41:24]Hi everybody.

[00:41:25]Right, please get off me now. Huh? Don't pretend. Don't pretend. No, I really need you to What are you doing? SHE'S PRETENDING SHE'S GETTING GRABBED.

[00:41:33]She's pretending she's getting grabbed.

[00:41:34]She wants me to get violent. No, we don't want Montana Right, I think it's time for you to let go.

[00:41:39]>> It's time for her to give me a kiss so I'm Oh man.

[00:41:43]What you got?

[00:41:44]Oh. Right, this is awkward. Don't move.

[00:41:47]Don't move. Right, give me a kiss.

[00:41:48]Montana. No, don't go anywhere.

[00:41:51]Montana four, I'll see you in about 10 minutes, okay?

[00:41:55]Yeah, she's getting grabbed, look.

[00:41:57]She ain't going to kiss him anyway, so So you what? You worried about her?

[00:42:02]Not really, she can fight for herself.

[00:42:16]>> Well, I was standing out here and he like got a hold of me and then he pushed me up the road. He like was trying to get a kiss off me and it's called grabbing really. So, was it Was it a violent grab? No, it wasn't a violent grab. No, I've had much worse. That wasn't violent.

[00:42:32]It's like very It's not It's not nice at all, but you just have to live with it. You have to keep trying to get him off you and what's it called? And so, you found it As Cheyenne takes the first steps in travel a courtship, for Josie, the biggest day of her life [music] is nearly over.

[00:42:55]It's time to say goodbye >> [music] >> as she's handed over to her husband to spend the first ever night away from her family.

[00:43:03]>> [music] >> What are your hopes now for marriage?

[00:43:13]Being together. Forever? Oh god, forever.

[00:43:16]>> up together.

[00:43:19]I'm not liking the forever part.

[00:43:32]>> [music]