In relationships, fear of loss often creates communication barriers where one person may avoid expressing their feelings due to anxiety about rejection or making things worse, while the other person may develop emotional resilience and perspective that allows them to maintain hope and patience. This dynamic can lead to both parties experiencing uncertainty and emotional tension, requiring honest communication and clarity to resolve the underlying fears and move the relationship forward.
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Part 1: They Have 8 Days To Take The Leap
Added:Right now, the overall energy between you and this person is one that is indicating quite a big risk. And that was really clear with the songs that came up during the shuffle when I shuffled all of the cards for this week's reading. Um, and if you didn't see that, go check out the lyrics video.
That gives a background on the energy that I'm feeling before I'm even going in here. So, there's a big risk on someone's mind. We've got the wheel of fortune here for the masculine energy or the person who leans into that energy.
For now, I'm just going to call this energy them and I'm going to call this energy you or masculine feminine. It's just it's just otherwise I get confused.
So, that's what we're going to do. Um so they are really thinking a lot about um the risk that is involved with losing someone like you and you are thinking about really wanting to change the endless cycle that you keep experiencing with this person.
And the um the feeling I'm getting from them is that they do think that you are well they they think that they could lose everything or they could win everything and they feel that you are compassionate enough that you would forgive them. And so it's riskier to like not come forward and say something to you and just ask, you know, you the questions that they need answered or whatever than it would be um to not. And you are thinking that the cycle is never going to end if you don't make some kind of personal change um to the way that you either are thinking about the situation or thinking about your life in a general sense.
Underlying these thoughts and feelings you're both having, we see the princess of swords. And I have to cover her because she's looking a bit vulnerable here. But we have the princess of swords, which is the page of swords energy um for for them. And the princess of swords is of course uh the energy of being curious like is it over? Curious about things being completely over and done with. Um, also I think they're very curious if you have someone else. This is someone who maybe left you on your own and didn't really express their real feelings. Whatever the case, they have reason to believe that you might go in another direction or be with someone else, which would be very heartbreaking to them. And they're also acknowledging that this heartbreak is also their fault because of the choices they either made or didn't make. And that is really making them feel that energy of it's I can't risk losing them if I if I keep waiting and watching and I and I I'm going I'm going to get hurt.
But I'm weighing and watching because I'm afraid I'm afraid that I'm going to get hurt. [laughter] So that's where that energy is and hopefully through the rest of the spread we'll be able to help them out. Okay.
And then for you or for the feminine energy um adjust accordingly. What I'm seeing is similarly you are curious about whether they also um have probably third party energy or had it or about you're sort of curious about everything that is underlying this heartbreak. You you um you can forgive. You're very compassionate. you can forgive and you can understand, but you've learned to love yourself and um be sensitive to your own needs and care for yourself enough that you do wonder if maybe you are past the point of no return with this person. And I think you still watch them because I think you're you're curious about it still like you your your heart is so big and you and you really are so honestly probably psychic and sensitive to people's motives and their true heart, like the heart that they have.
The problem is like being able to see someone's potential and and hold that for them. I mean, that's that's wonderful and you should keep doing that. You should keep holding the potential of them because that is actually calling on them to live up to that potential and you should have your boundaries in place until that potential is met. And I don't mean in a perfectionistic way because you're not expecting somebody to be perfect. These are basic um consideration type things we've got going on that you're you're expecting.
The bar is in hell. Okay. Um, but anyway, so that's the overall energy of going into this reading. Now, we're going to look exactly at what y'all are thinking, feeling, saying, doing, how the heck we can help you shift into a different mindset or whatever if you need to. Sometimes we see everything's all hunky dory. Based on the shuffle, I'm thinking it's not. And then, um, the future outcome, the potential future outcome, and if you don't like the outcome, how to shift the outcome. And if you do like the outcome, how to accelerate the outcome. Okay. So, let's get into it.
What are they thinking? What are they What are they thinking? Oh my Well, they're thinking I'm I am a coward. I am h I'm being a coward. I I don't even know why I have such strong feelings for the divine feminine or for I don't want to say I that's like I used to say divine feminine and masculine. So, it's just habit. But, um, it's just more you, right? Like, [sighs] I have strong feelings for you is what they would say.
And I I feel like I I should have the courage I well, I think I should have the courage to be able to approach you, but I I don't know if you're going to bite off my head or not. I don't know if you're going to be really angry and I don't want to like make things worse with you and like that's the last thing I'd want to do. Um I'm getting a sense that I also thought that I was going to do something by a specific date. This is for me I'm seeing like the beginning of July. I don't know why that's coming to my mind, but I didn't do what I was going to do.
And I don't know if if our connection is strong enough now.
That's what they're thinking. Okay. You had overthinking going on.
So, what are you thinking?
Oh my lanta. You are thinking the same thing.
Can we have a drum roll, please?
You're on the same page. Feminine energy has added a little nuance to that page, which is perspective or the hanged man energy. Okay, now you're on the same page, but it looks like what? It looks like a mirror, right? Because one is upside down and one is right side up. And when them together like this, you're going to see a reflection. Oh, look at that. So, they are thinking like, I don't know if the connection is strong enough. Meanwhile, here you are with the strong enough connection that's withstanding the test of time and you are controlling your emotions as well. You have the perspective that you need to understand that they don't need to worry about being brave enough to approach you. You're not going to be [sighs and gasps] harsh.
Um, you're kind of past the point of harsh. You're in the Queen of Cups energy.
It's not like you're going to be sweet.
I wouldn't say that the strength card is a sweet energy. Um, but I would say that it is a controlled one. And I would say that it is generous of spirit, I'm going to say.
[sighs] So, that's what that's what y'all are thinking.
Um, what is this energy feeling of this other person?
The 10 of cups in reverse. Oh my gosh, I can't make it up. Okay.
So, that is the we already know that they're super afraid that they've almost lost everything. They've almost lost their chance. They've almost because of the music that came out during the shuffle. Again, go check it out if you didn't see it already. But the 10 of cups in reverse is very much I feel like I am losing or could lose everything I imagined I would have always wanted like family um you know fulfillment satisfaction.
This is also about me feeling like I have to stop idealizing people, places, and situations and start really being present and accurately assessing my experiences without embellishing them. making someone seem so much, you know, like putting someone on a pedestal or I don't know, there's something about that that's coming up. So, what are you feeling? We have the star energy, which is putting someone on a pedestal. Jeez.
And we had rockstar come up in the music, too. This is crazy today. Okay.
So, the star card is hope. There is hope here, but there's a lot of vulner like I had to cover up this card so that it's acceptable for the sensors. And it's because you're feeling extremely vulnerable being hopeful. You're like, how can I still be hoping for this? This is a pipe dream.
This is a pipe dream. This is something that this other person invented, you know, to to dream about at night like and not anything that they actually are going to take action towards, right?
Which is really painful. It's really painful.
Um, and it's why it's why it's caused you to make a change, which was implied in the song, right? The song was like, "Get out of here." You know, I'm going to go do my thing. You go do your thing.
Like, okay. So, but the other aspect of the star is that you are healing, right? You are feeling like you've healed or you wouldn't be in this calm energy. You wouldn't have this perspective and be controlling your emotions around your anger or, you know, frustration or whatever with the situation. But you are doing that and you're being very graceful in that energy.
Um, so you feel hope. You feel hope that that something could still work out. I think that's annoying you. Sorry. Just the messenger.
Okay. Uh, [laughter] [gasps] so what is uh this other person? What are they saying? Right. Thinking, feeling, saying, doing. What are they saying right now? What words are they saying? Well, there's not a whole lot of things being said. There's not a lot of details in this. This deck has is a is what we would call a pips deck. And that is when the illustrations for the minor uh arcana are just very simplistic and pretty much only indicate the number and the suit. Um but this deck really emphasizes for me a lack of details, a lack of clarity. Um and and also things kind of coming out of nowhere. I feel that a lot when I look at these cards.
So, this is the seven of wands. The seven of wands is I'm going to fight.
Okay. The seven of wands is also about doing things that you think or feel will help you be successful, but actually it's the opposite. like you're holding on to a desire like this desire with this level of intensity that's actually causing you to make choices, decisions, and take actions that are getting in your way.
Okay. So, this person is saying on some level, I know that I've get in my own way. And um one of the ways they might be saying that is by not saying anything at all. [laughter] Um by by standing firmly in that desire to remain silent for fear of losing like we almost lost Detroit, right? The song that came up during the shuffle. It's like this fear of that happening. And so some people are maintaining silence.
That's why there's not a lot of clarity.
That's why we don't know what they're saying. They're actually not saying anything. And then some are saying like, "I'm going to fight for you, you know, or whatever." Depends on where you're where you are in your journey. What are you saying?
Hey, you know, this lack of clarity. I need some because you're you're getting the Ace of Swords here. You're like, I need you to be honest with me. I need you to be direct with me. I need you to give me the clarity that will help me to make decisions about my life, about this connection. Okay? And I'm actually going to stand my ground
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