ADHD Assessment & Diagnosis | It All Makes Sense Now

Ajouté : 2026-05-12

[00:00:01]On the 2. No, not on the 26th. What you're on about, Mrs. C? On the 30th of April, 2026, I was diagnosed with ADHD.

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[00:00:28]Guys, I'm out in the car because I've come to B& M. Um, Mrs. C's ordered a black bed, so I've decided I need black accessories to go with it. I've been to McDonald's and got a nice uh frappe here. A caramel frappe.

[00:00:44]Sorry. I don't normally drink these type of stuff cuz I know they're calorific, but uh I normally just go for an ice latte, but I thought it's red hot. I'm gonna have to have the windows down because I'm talking in a very busy car park and I don't want people to hear me business. [laughter] However, I'm saying it on YouTube. I know. How ironic.

[00:01:07]That's nice. Bit sweet, but it's nice.

[00:01:10]It'll keep us cool while I'm talking to you lovely lot. Right guys, bit of story time on the um well, a few days ago, guys, I got diagnosed with ADHD and I still can't quite believe it myself. I never mentioned it on me channel that I was going uh that I was in a waiting list to be tested because um I just didn't want to say anything. I didn't know if anything would come of it. So, I just sort of kept it to myself. Obviously, my family knew I was on a waiting list. Um, and that was that basically. So, I'll take you back to why I went on the waiting list and why I wanted to be tested. So, you all know me 10-year-old has additional needs. Now, he hasn't had a full diagnosis yet. However, he has had um people out to the house and that have said yes, he has all the signs of autism. He needs to go on a waiting list for official diagnosis. And I've always knew since being little, he's always been a tad bit different to the others. However, I had also had my daughter, which is me uh nearly 17year-old on a waiting list for she struggles dayto-day in life. And that was one of the reasons why I homeschooled her. She didn't go to secondary school um because she was struggling every day with different things. And I just put it down to mental health.

[00:02:34]So, she went on a waiting list to be assessed with her mental health.

[00:02:37]However, she turned up for her first appointment, went in, spoke to the lady, and the lady um took her off the book straight away and said, "I do not think this is mental health at all. I think you need to go on to a waiting list to be assessed for autism."

[00:02:53]So, that actually baffled me because I'm thinking here, two of my middle children both need assessing for autism, yet they have different dads. If you're not, if you're new to the channel, you won't know, but me kids have different fathers. So it led me to think if they are both needing testing for autism and they have two different fathers, I can no longer put that initial thought of me 10-year-old. It might be coming from his dad's side. So what I did was I thought, you know what it is? I need to look up autism myself for myself as an adult, like adult autism, and see if I have any of the traits.

[00:03:36]So, what I did was I looked it up and did some research on it. Like, as for an adult, obviously, I've done all the research for me 10-year-old prior to this, so I knew he was ticking all the boxes. So, I looked it up for myself and I thought, "Nah, this isn't me. I don't tick any of these boxes. No way." So, I started looking up. Things started popping up on my phone about ADHD and ADHD and women and things like that. So, I decided to do a quick online ADHD assessment and I did it. Um, and it was like ticking off a list and it was just like, "Yeah, that's me. That's me.

[00:04:14]That's me. That's me. That's me." And it was just uncanny. So, I did the online assessment and I don't really know about these online assessments, how thorough they are and things like that, but I did it anyway. And then it came up with you've highly scored positive for ADHD.

[00:04:31]still didn't think nothing of it and I thought, "Yeah, it's just an online questionnaire." Like, you can't really go by that. Whatever, whatever. So, I thought, right, I'm going to go to I looked in the um going down the right to choose list, which gets you seen quicker than if you just go through your doctors. You still have to go through your doctors, but if you go down right to choose scheme, it gets you seen within months rather than years. So, that's what I've done for myself. I've um I've actually done that for me 10-year-old as well. Um but I've also done it for myself and it only took a few months. I printed the forms out at the library, went to me doctors and I said, "I want to be assessed for ADHD."

[00:05:12]Um he then did a letter for himself, took a bit of background offers and things like that. Then he wrote a referral along with my referral and me own questionnaire and sent it off to Psychiatry UK. That's the one I chose.

[00:05:27]Um, you have to go online and choose which one you want yourself. I just went with Psychiatry UK because they had good reviews. Again, didn't think nothing of it. Never done nothing like this before.

[00:05:38]Um, and within a couple of months, I think maybe two to three months, they sent back a questionnaire which a parent had to fill out. So my mother filled her questionnaire out about me and then that got sent away and then you get given a telephone appointment video call for your assessment. So I had that uh last week few nights ago and it's an hourong telephone assessment call and what she said to us was when I started the phone call again I was going into this thinking nothing will come of it. they'll probably, you know, show us along. Um, even though I know in me in me heart, I knew in me I was different and I knew I was very impulsive and um doing things that were sort of different to others. And I'll explain that after I explain what happened on the phone call.

[00:06:36]So anyway, she she said at the start of the assessment, we'll have an hour on the phone call now. She said, "If I get what I need from you, the information I need from you, I will tell you at the end of the phone call whether you've got ADHD or you haven't." She said, "If I'm if I'm at get to the end of the phone call and I'm a bit unsure and I feel I need more information," she said, "What I'll do is I'll invite you back in a few nights time for another hourong phone call and we'll go from there again."

[00:07:04]So, I thought, "Right, fair enough." So, I had had two page worth of notes about me, myself, and I, my personality, everything. Cuz I thought, I need to tell you everything, right? I'm knocking you. I never got to read one single word off those notes that I wrote down. Not one single thing. She said, "I will ask you a a series of specific questions, and I want you to answer them, and if I feel you're trailing off, I'll pull you back to that specific question." So, I was like, "Right."

[00:07:36]So, she asked us a lot of questions on how I am in me work life, how I am in me home life, and how I was when I was at school as a child. Um, and it was quite simple. I wanted to go off on a tangent.

[00:07:50]You know me guys, I love to chat. Um, but she kept pulling us back to the specific questions.

[00:07:57]And then it was coming to the end of the uh phone call and I thought I'm just going to get dismissed here or she's either going to want us back cuz she was saying to us you she said you're so easy to um talk to. She said I feel like I'm not even at work myself. She said I could literally sit here and talk to you all day. She said you're an absolute dream. She said some people I have to really pull hard to get the information what I'm needing. She said but you are just an absolute dream to talk to. So I was like, "Oh, all right then." So I just thought like, "Oh, it'll come to the end. Nothing will come with it. Come to it." And then we get to the end of the video and I didn't even know it was the end of the video. Um, and she turned around, she said, "You have one million 1 million 10% you have ADHD."

[00:08:49]And she said it like that. And I started crying.

[00:08:54]I couldn't.

[00:08:57]I was in shock. I was absolutely in shock. Even though I felt in me heart that I had it, somebody else saying it to us, I was sort of like I wanted to say that you need to stay on the phone call here. This phone call can't end because we need another few hours together. That's what I wanted to say.

[00:09:15]And I was baffled and I started crying and I thought, "No way is this happening. I can't believe this is happening to me. There's just no way.

[00:09:24]I'm 41 years old and somebody a professional psychiatrist is now diagnosing me with ADHD at 41 years old.

[00:09:35]And I thought now this I just I I couldn't get around and I came out the phone call and I said to me my husband he was like is everything was all right and I said I've got ADHD.

[00:09:50]I said I'm going in the shower and I'll be down in a minute. And I just could not get me head around it. And me husband was like I said I can't think. He said well you're no different to me. I've just known you as your who you are, what you are. I know your little ways and everything that you do. It's just no different to me. I said, I know, but I've got like an official diagnosis and it just doesn't feel real. So, what happens now is this lady writes a 10page report on me. It then gets sent to me doctor for the official her official diagnosis then gets sent to my doctor so that they know I have ADHD.

[00:10:30]I'm also she's also put me on the waiting list for medication.

[00:10:36]So I have to wait a year for that medication because you have to go through a thing called a tit t t t t t t t t t t t t t t t t t t t t t t t t t t t t t t t t t t t t t t t t titration phase. I think I've said that right.

[00:10:44]Where they assess you, they monitor like your heart, your blood pressure, your weight, and everything like that. cuz she said when you go on this medication it calms like the front part of your brain so that you can sort of level and think normal because with ADHD the brain is very noisy and ticking away with ideas and things all the time. It's like a cog going around. It just doesn't switch off. So she said the medication just levels that brain out a bit and slows everything down. So I said yeah I'll definitely be interested in going on the medication. So, let me tell you now um just a bit. I mean, you would probably look at me, a lot of you tell us when you watch us that you get exhausted watching us because I go from one thing to the next to the next and you lot, no, I'm always doing something in the house. I'm always wanting to decorate. Then I'll get bored of the color scheme and then I'll want to change it again and things like that.

[00:11:38]And there's been different phases in me life when I look back like it all clicks in now. It all makes perfect sense. Like I used to move house a lot. So I would be in a house a couple of year then I'd be thinking yeah I'm bored of that now.

[00:11:51]Um I want to move. I want to start a fresh. I want a blank canvas. I've got new ideas and I want to get going.

[00:12:01]There was times when I would buy like um I would get very impulsive buying things off Gum Tree. saw like loads of furniture in me house and then I would get bored and then I would want them out and they would go to the tip or I would give them away for free again cuz I would b I would be bored and I would just want another rav lamp and things like that. I would buy like rabbits but I wouldn't just buy one rabbit. I would have to buy like six rabbits and then I would have to buy like three and four hutches to put them in and then everything would get too much for us and me brain would get overwhelmed and then I would have to sell the rabbits because I couldn't go up anymore and it's just it's just a very busy brain. That's how I would um describe it. It's a very very busy brain like you don't switch off and you have to get these you your ideas have to come out to play. you have to act on them ideas all the time. So, it's very very impulsive and I think you what I've seen on here like I get very excited about things. I get very hyper like when I get like a Sheen Hall look how excited I get. Um, it's just it's really hard to describe. And I think as well doing YouTube actually and I watch myself back on the videos, I can actually see myself having hyper outbursts and being excited over things and people people find a bit different cuz people say like, "I love how excited you get over like your shopping sprees and things like that." But to me, that's just normal. But to other people it's like like when I see other people doing shopping halls they don't get as excited as me and I think how do you not get buzzing with that? Do you know what I mean? It's just like it's a buzzy brain.

[00:13:42]And there's also like another side trip where I would go on complete shutdown.

[00:13:46]like I could talk till the cows come home and I would like um I could sit here and talk all day, but then there's days where I want to be left alone in me room on me own and I would just like cry because everything is just overwhelming and everything's getting too much for us and even sometimes like if I was to go down the stairs on a morning and I would see like there's bits of mess in the living room, there's bits of mess in the kitchen and my brain would just flip.

[00:14:14]It's like I can't do this. I can't do this. How am I going to get all this done in one day? Like there's too much.

[00:14:19]Like I've got to drop the burn off at school. Then I've got to go and pick prescriptions up and then I've got to turn up to that appointment and then I've got to film and then I've got to edit and then I've got to do that housework and like there's just me brains just like does not stop. It just doesn't stop. And that's the only way I can describe it. Like it's and then I would get like hyper outbursts. Like if I go to the cinema, you know lot know I love going to the cinema but when the music comes on in the cinema it's dead loud. Like I my body is on a buzz. Like I can't even describe it. It's like it's almost like I've took a drug and this is it. We're raring to go and I'm sitting in the cinema dancing and the kids are like, "Mom, mom, mom, stop it now. Stop it now." But I can't stop it. I just can't. I get that buzz and that hyper feeling and that, "YEAH, COME ON. LET'S GO." And it's like, it's just it's mad. It's crazy. It's mad, but it's me. And I have to just, you know, I have to just roll with it because I'm not going to change. You know what I mean? I don't want to change. I like the person that I am. Um, guys, I'm sweating here.

[00:15:24]I'm absolutely sweating.

[00:15:27]Get this air con on me face. Oh my days.

[00:15:30]Right.

[00:15:33]Right. I've got the air con on there.

[00:15:39]But yeah, I'm just um I am hyper, but there's no in between and something else which is won't know which is just um a massive deal. I've actually been on anti-depressants for 17 year. Nobody would believe. And if I've told friends in the past I'm on anti-depressants, they're like no way.

[00:16:01]You are always laughing and joking and things like that. And I'm like yes way.

[00:16:04]I've been on anti-depressants for 17 year now and I haven't been able to come off them. I've tried a fair few times to come off them, but me um me emotions go through the roof. So, I can't cope when I'm off those tablets. And she had said to me on the video, the psychiatrist, etc. is you, this is what happens. And it's very, very common. A lot of women get misdiagnosed with anxiety and depression when it's really the whole time being ADHD. And I thought, isn't that I found I found that the saddest part that I have been put on anti-depressants when my daughter was a baby for not being able to cope. Yet the whole time it was ADHD because I'm quite a happy character. I'm like get up on the morning I'm like, "Wow, what could I get done today? This, this, this, and this." And I'm, you know, I'm I'm quite an excited character and happy and joy and stuff like that. And I haven't [clears throat] been depressed over the last 17 years, but the anti-depressants take the edge off me emotions.

[00:17:10]So, it'll be interesting to see how I am when I go on this ADHD medication and see if it does calm me brain because I've never I don't know, guys. I don't think I've ever had a calm brain. Never ever. And that's another thing. I don't cope well with serious issues like you know um like if I was to fill if I had to fill a serious form in and things like that or I had to go for like a serious interview and that me whole body goes into [clears throat] shutdown like I cannot cope. It's too it's too serious for me to handle like I just can't do it. It puts fear in us, literal fear, and I would just tend to put them serious things off because I can't cope with that. Um, what's another thing? Another thing that coincides with ADHD, and it's very common with people who have ADHD is RSD, which I sort of knew I had this before I even knew I had ADHD. And RSD is rejection sensitivity dysmorphia.

[00:18:21]And I know one million% I have this and me husband knows as well. If me and my husband have an argument and um I mean we don't very rare we have an argument but if we have like a disagreement like an everyday normal disagreement what married couples would have my body goes into absolute shutdown and I think that the relationship is over. I can't cope. I need to invent a new life for myself. I'm going to be on me own now forever. I need to get myself sorted because he's going to leave and he'll come he'll come down like he'll come in the room a few hours later and we'll sort it out and he's like why does your brain go there? Like honestly this is just an everyday normal argument that couples have but my brain thinks I have to push everything away. I'll even think if me and my husband have an argument I'll I I'll not talk to me friends. I'll not talk to me mom because I'll think everything has to shut down. Everything has to shut down. Me friendships, me talking to people. Um, even me channel recording YouTube videos. Like I would think I can't go on. I can't go on. I can't record YouTube videos if if me and my husband's had an argument. I can't go on cuz everything's shutting down. And it's RSD. It's very common in with people who have ADHD. And they normally when you get a diagnosis [clears throat] of ADHD, it normally you normally have something else with it, whether it be OCD, RSD, there's there's a few different things that comes with it. So yeah, me life's just clicked. I've had a light bulb moment. I've been diagnosed now. I've got letters to say like um if I went on a course for education or if I went into a normal job in the workplace that I'm entitled to reasonable adjustments now because I have ADHD.

[00:20:20]And it's just all Yeah, it's just all clicked into place, guys. I can't believe it. And I'm I'm saying this in the plainest way possible. And I wasn't even sure whether to put this video out or not, but I thought, you know what? if it helps somebody because there could be some other woman sitting out there in her 40s or in her 30s or in her 20s thinking I can relate to her so I'm going to go and get tested and honestly if you relate to me in any way with anything go and get tested I mean some people wouldn't want to get tested they wouldn't want to know but I really wanted to know I really wanted to know because I have felt a bit different all of me life I have felt a bit impulsive I have made a lot silly mistakes, rushing into things. Um whereas like me family would probably look at us and saying, "Oh, here she goes again, rushing into things." But it's I've got like a reason behind that now. So I can be a bit less harder on myself and think there's an actual bloody reason for all of this. There's a reason for why you've been so impulsive all your life. There's a reason why you get excited. You know, there's a reason why you get hyperactive. There's a reason why you're changing your mind every five minutes.

[00:21:38]And you know, for me, my biggest thing, the house gets it. My the house gets my ADHD.

[00:21:46]You know, I just my brain, you know, you know, I'm passionate about like home decor and stuff, but it's I think it's the ADHD that keeps switching and changing stuff like that. Like I've ordered a black bed for me bedroom. Now black's not normally my color, but I'm thinking I can roll with this cuz I can go and get some ornaments to tie in with the black bed. And me husband said to us last night, "Yeah, we're going to get this black bed and in 2 months time you were going to absolutely hate it and you're going to want it out the house cuz this is what you do." Now I'm literally sat outside of B&M and I'm going to go in and look for some black ornaments to for my new bedroom theme.

[00:22:22]Guys, honest.

[00:22:26]Career changes as well. Me careers have changed. Like I've gone from being a hairdresser to a nail a nail technician to working in a refuge to wanting to be a counselor, getting me qualifications and being a counselor. And I'll go in full throttle. I'm so passionate about this. I'm setting this up.

[00:22:45][clears throat] This is going to be my career for life. I'm so happy in this.

[00:22:48]And once I've done I've got me qualification and everything, the excitement's gone. It's out the water.

[00:22:53]And I'm like, right, I need a new fix now cuz I'm not excited in that anymore.

[00:22:57]I don't want to be a hairdresser. I don't want to be a nail technician. I don't want to be a counselor. I don't want to work in a lady's refuge. I don't want to do this. And I honestly like it's just there like you get intense passions and then they just go and it's quite sad in a way cuz you think you can't follow anything through with anything because you're just constantly changing your mind and it is exhausting.

[00:23:21]It's tiring. No wonder I get so bloody tired, guys.

[00:23:28]But yeah, I just thought I would put this video out. I hope it helps some people. I hope it helps somebody. And I hope you know, you get tested if you want to be tested or or you just chill out with the way you are. Know that that don't feel guilty about the way you are.

[00:23:42]Don't ever feel like you're not um you don't fit a criteria or you don't fit in a box. Just just be happy with who you are. Do you know what I mean? If you're a good person, like I know I'm a good person. and I have a good heart.

[00:23:57]Yes, I do all these impulsive things and stuff like that, but I'm not going around hurting people. Do you know what I mean? That's like a different thing.

[00:24:04]You know, me kids are well looked after.

[00:24:06]I love me husband daily. I love me parents daily. And I'm not I don't do wrong by anybody. Do you know what I mean? And I tell you what has helped me loads in calming down, turning to Christ and finding God. Because before that, I was so bloody wired it was unreal. where now I know through God it calms me down, you know, praying, doing me Bible study, it gives me an inner calmness that that I never had before, even though I'm still a bit batty. Do you know what I mean? But it gives us a bit of calmness that I never had before in my life. And I wish I had had that years ago.

[00:24:41]But yes, guys, I don't know what else I can say on the matter that's that. Mrs. C has ADHD, so you know, I don't know, guys. Just be kind to yourself and kind to one another because uh Oh, I'm getting emotional, guys. I don't know why.

[00:25:00][sighs] I don't know. It's just a big thing, isn't it? It's a big thing, but it's not.

[00:25:18]It's a big deal, but it's not at the same time. Do you know what [clears throat] I mean? It's just like I don't know. And at 41 it's like, "Oh, guys, I'm going to go in B&M. I'm going to go in B&M. I'm absolutely fine.

[00:25:40]I'm going to drink me ice frappe, sort myself out.

[00:25:49]And I'm going to go in B&M and have a look at the black ornaments, [laughter] guys, because that's going to make us happy today if I go home with some black ornaments. I've only just dropped me daughter off at the cinema, you know, and me husband's going to be thinking, "Where's she at? She hasn't come home.

[00:26:02]I'm a B&M getting black [laughter] or he'd be like, I know. I knew it." So yes, guys, I hope you enjoyed this video. I know it was a bit of a serious one, but I just thought I have to get that out there so you know that Mrs. C just isn't cuckoo. She's actually been diagnosed with something. Um, and I hope you're all well. Um, and if you like this video, if you think this video would help somebody, please share it and and get it out there. I don't know. And I will love you and leave you guys. And I'll see you in the next one when I've got some black ornaments and I can show you. Bye.