This video offers a compelling synthesis of cultural history and neuroscience to demystify the tragic cycle of MDMA dependency. It effectively illustrates how temporary chemical peaks inevitably lead to profound, long-term psychological deficits.
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The HORRIFYING Fate of an ECSTASY Addict in 1990s America
Added:Hey guys. Tonight we're not sitting in some quiet archive or tracing our fingers along the walls of a crumbling cathedral.
Tonight we're stepping into a warehouse in the industrial part of a city that used to make something, used to mean something.
The year is 1993 and the air inside smells like sweat and dry ice and something chemical underneath it all.
Something sweet and synthetic that you can't quite name. Somewhere in the dark, a DJ in a black hoodie stands behind a table stacked with turntables and mixers.
And the music he's playing doesn't sound like anything you've heard on the radio.
It pulses. It throbs.
It doesn't so much play as breathe, in and out, in and out, like a living thing. Strobe lights cut the darkness into slices. Bodies move in ways that look less like dancing and more like worship. Arms raised, eyes closed, mouth slightly open.
This is America in the '90s. The Cold War is over and the country hasn't figured out what to do with the silence yet.
The economy is expanding, but the paychecks in places like yours don't quite feel it.
On the news they're talking about NAFTA and the information superhighway, about a young president who plays saxophone on late-night television.
At the video store, the shelves are full of movies that arrived on VHS just weeks after their theatrical run.
The boxes are arranged in their wire slots with the covers facing out.
And you can browse for an hour without knowing what you want until the right cover artwork stops you.
At the record store on the corner, there are still physical singles you can buy for a $1.99.
Little plastic discs in cardboard sleeves and the guy behind the counter with the nose ring knows the entire catalog and judges you silently for everything you pick up.
You have a pager clipped to your belt because that's how people reach each other when they're not home.
That small rectangular device that beeps and shows a phone number and means someone is waiting for you to find a payphone and call them back.
The payphone still work. There are still enough of them that you can always find one.
This is the world before everything became immediate.
Before information arrived without being fetched. Before the distance between a question and its answer collapsed to nothing.
In the '90s, you still had to go somewhere to find something out.
This is before the internet lived in your pocket.
Before you could look something up in seconds. Before every night out was documented in photographs that could spread around the world.
This is the '90s. When things that happened in warehouses on Saturday night stayed in warehouses, passed along only through word of mouth, through photocopied flyers left in record shops and tattoo parlors, through the friend of a friend who knew someone who knew where the party was.
And in the shadows of that decade, something was moving through American cities.
Not meth.
Not crack.
Not heroin.
Something different.
Something that wore a friendlier face.
At least at first.
Something that arrived wrapped in neon colors and stamped with cartoon logos.
Little pills with names like Dove and Mitsubishi and butterfly.
Something that promised not just pleasure but connection.
Not just a high but a feeling of love so overwhelming it could make strangers feel like family.
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Let's ease into tonight's journey together.
You're 22 years old in the spring of 1993.
You live in a city that has two faces, one for the daylight hours and one for after dark.
During the day, you work a part-time job at a record store, filing CDs into the right bins, making small talk with customers about albums you've already memorized.
The store smells like new plastic and old carpet and the sandalwood incense the owner burns near the register.
On quiet afternoons, you sit on a stool behind the counter and flip through music magazines.
The ones printed on glossy paper with Spin and NME covers.
Reading interviews with bands whose posters cover every inch of your apartment walls.
Your apartment is small, third floor of a walk-up in a neighborhood that's been described, depending on who you ask, as either up and coming or just barely holding on. You have a futon, a tower of milk crates that doubles as a bookshelf, and a stereo system that cost more than 3 months rent because audio quality was the one thing you refused to compromise on.
Besides the stereo, sits a stack of jewel cases, hundreds of them by now, organized by genre and then alphabetically, a system that makes sense only to you. There's also a crate of vinyl you've been collecting since you were 16, records that still sound warmer and realer to you than any digital format ever could. On the wall are posters you put up with great deliberation.
A Joy Division print and a Massive Attack flyer. And a photocopied image of Miles Davis that you found at a garage sale. There's a small television in the corner, a 13-in Zenith with a remote that requires fresh batteries every 3 weeks. And beside it a stack of VHS tapes.
Some bought and some recorded off cable onto the cheap Maxell blanks you buy in the four packs at the drugstore. Near the window sits a dusty stack of music magazines, NME and Spin and Option.
Their pages marked with torn strips of other pages where you found something you wanted to remember.
On the windowsill you keep a Sony Walkman, the yellow sports model. It's yellow casing scuffed from 3 years of constant use.
You take it everywhere.
On the bus to work, its foam-padded headphones clamped over your ears, you retreat into whatever tape you've made yourself that week. Careful little compilations where you agonized over the running order.
Thinking about how one song should flow into the next.
Making a mix tape is an art form.
It takes hours.
It requires patience and a second tape deck to record from and a pencil to rewind the cassette when the mechanism inside gets lazy and eats the ribbon.
The pencil rewinding is a daily ritual.
Fingers spinning the eraser end through the sprocket until the tape is taut again.
Until the click of the player's door shutting produces that particular note of magnetic readiness.
You've made dozens of tapes over the years. You've given some away, received some in return.
A good mix tape is a form of communication more intimate than most.
The person who made it for you spent hours thinking about you, about what you needed to hear and in what order.
You have two close friends, a guy named Derek who works at a coffee shop and talks too fast about whatever book he's currently reading, and a woman named Priya who is studying graphic design at the community college and stays up until 3:00 in the morning working on projects that nobody asked her to make.
The three of you are the kind of friends who know each other's record collections by heart and argue about whether Nevermind or Ten is the more important album of 1991.
You spend a lot of Friday nights in one of your apartments eating takeout from the Thai place around the corner watching movies you've rented from Blockbuster, arguing about what to rent, compromising on something nobody's seen, and then regretting it or not. But lately, some Saturday nights, Derek and Priya go somewhere you haven't gone yet.
They come back Sunday looking different, softer somehow.
Their edges sanded down.
Priya laughs more easily for a day or two afterward.
Derek gets this look in his eye, like he's just returned from somewhere far away and beautiful and is still partly there. When you ask where they went, they trade a look, the kind of look that sits at the border between secret and invitation.
It's Priya who finally tells you.
She describes it the way people describe religious experiences carefully, aware that words are going to fail her.
"A warehouse on the east side," she says.
"Music all night.
Not rock music, something else.
Something that builds and builds until you can feel it in your skeleton.
And there's this thing people take, these little pills.
MDMA, she says, though most people call it ecstasy or just E."
You've heard the name before. You work in a record store. You read the music press.
You know MDMA is somewhere in the cultural conversation, tied to a movement called rave culture that's been exploding in Britain and filtering across the Atlantic, showing up in cities with underground music scenes, in warehouses and parking structures and sometimes open fields outside city limits.
You tell her you're curious.
You tell her you'll think about it.
You tell yourself you're just gathering information.
It takes 3 weeks before you go.
Derek picks you up at 11:00 at night, which already feels strange.
You're used to nights that start and end before midnight. He drives a beat-up Honda Civic with a busted rear speaker and a tape of a DJ set someone recorded at a party in Chicago playing on the stereo. You don't say much on the way over.
You watch the streetlights slide past the window and think about backing out.
But Priya is already there when you arrive, waiting outside the entrance, wearing a backpack and a smile that's about 50% wider than her usual smile.
Inside, the music hits you before anything else.
A physical wall of it.
Not loud the way a concert is loud. Not the kind of loudness that hurts.
More like pressure.
Like standing near the ocean when a big wave hits.
Your body registers it as a force before your mind processes it as sound.
The warehouse is full of people in their 20s, mostly, though some are older and some look barely old enough to be here, which maybe they aren't. The light show happening overhead is unlike anything you've seen. Laser beams splitting into fractals, strobes that freeze motion for a fraction of a second, of lights that make white clothing and teeth glow electric. People dance in a way that has nothing to do with the dancing you've seen in clubs, the self-conscious moves calibrated for an audience. This is private and enormous at the same time.
Eyes closed, arms finding the shapes the music wants them to find.
No one is performing for anyone else.
The crowd is 20 individual dancers who happen to be in the same room. The air smells like dry ice and sweat and something floral from a fog machine somewhere in the back.
Along the walls, people sit or lean, some of them deep in conversation with the intensity of people saying important things, some of them alone and still, watching the crowd with an expression you don't have a name for yet. Something between peace and amazement. On a table near the far wall, there are cups of water being handed out by a person in a white t-shirt. This is the water table.
This is Sophie, but you don't know her name yet. Later you'll understand that this table is one of the most important things in the room, that the people who stand at it with their cups and their genuine concern for strangers are a particular kind of anchor in a world that can otherwise drift quite far from shore. Priya puts something in your palm.
Small, round, white, stamped with a dove.
You look at it for a long time. She watches you with that wider than usual smile. "Nothing bad is going to happen," she says close to your ear so you can hear her over the music.
You're safe.
We're with you.
You hold the pill a while longer.
Then you take it.
You wash it down with a sip of water from the bottle Priya has in in backpack.
Nothing happens for 45 minutes. You dance a little, self-consciously, watching the people around you who seem to know how to move in this music the way fish know how to move in water.
You wonder if you made a mistake, if maybe the pill was a dud, or your body is immune, or the whole thing is overhyped, and you're going to be sober all night in a warehouse with a headache.
Then, the feeling begins.
Not with a bang, more like a tide coming in.
A warmth starts in your chest, in your sternum, and spreads slowly outward along your arms and legs, into your fingertips.
The music, which you'd been hearing abstractly, suddenly makes sense on a level that has nothing to do with intellect.
You don't just hear it, you feel it.
Feel it communicating something directly to some part of you that language can't reach. And the warmth keeps spreading, and it's not just warmth, it's something else underneath.
Something like love. That's the only word for it, though you'll try a hundred times over the years to find a better one and never will.
Not love for a person, love for everything.
For the music and the light and the strangers dancing beside you, and the city and the country and the planet spinning in the dark.
You dance for 6 hours.
You don't notice the time passing.
At some point you realize you're holding the hand of a girl you've never met, and she's holding your hand back, and neither of you finds this strange.
At some point Priya is beside you, and you look at her face and feel so much tenderness for this person, your friend, this person who brought you here, that your eyes fill with tears.
She sees and hugs you, and you hug back hard, swaying in the music, both of you crying a little and laughing at yourselves for crying.
When it ends around 6:00 in the morning, when the DJ fades the last record down and the lights come up gradual and warm, you walk out into the gray predawn of the city feeling like a person who has just returned from somewhere that most people never get to go. The streets are quiet.
Pigeons pick at an empty McDonald's bag on the sidewalk.
The city smells like diesel and bread from a bakery somewhere close by. You stand on the sidewalk with Derek and Priya, all three of you looking at the world with new eyes.
"So," Derek says.
"Yeah," you say.
That's the whole conversation. It's enough.
The first time always feels like a gift.
You spend the next week replaying the experience, turning it over in your mind like a river stone.
You feel in the days after a glow of warmth and well-being that doesn't entirely leave.
The world looks slightly richer, slightly more saturated with meaning, like someone turned up the color just a few degrees.
You have long, winding conversations with Derek and Priya about connection and consciousness and what it means that a chemical compound can make you feel that way.
What that says about the nature of human emotion and the biology of love.
You read everything you can find about MDMA.
Not easy in 1993, when the internet is in its infancy and you can't just type a search query into a browser.
You go to the library.
You find academic articles and photocopied zines and one book that describes the compound's history, its synthesis in 1912, its rediscovery by a chemist named Alexander Shulgin in the 1970s.
It's brief therapeutic use in couples counseling and PTSD treatment before the DEA scheduled it as a controlled substance in 1985.
You learn that MDMA causes the brain to flood with serotonin, the chemical associated with mood, well-being, and social bonding.
You learn that it also releases dopamine and norepinephrine, creating a cocktail of euphoria and energy and empathy so potent it earned the street name empathy long before it became ecstasy. You learn that researchers worried about neurotoxicity, about what repeated doses might do to serotonin-producing neurons in the long term.
You file this information somewhere in the back of your mind where you keep things you know but don't want to think about.
Once a month, you tell yourself.
That's the rule.
Once a month is safe. You've read something that suggested that somewhere, though you can't remember where exactly.
Once a month is a controlled experiment.
Once a month is nothing to worry about.
You go back to the warehouse 3 weeks later.
Then 2 weeks after that.
Then once a week, because the parties are every Saturday and it's hard to stay home when you know what's waiting.
Derek and Priya are always there, and so are all the other people who are becoming in the strange accelerated way of the scene, your family.
There's a guy who goes by the name Rabbit, tall and thin with short cropped hair and a wide easy grin who DJs on alternate Saturdays and plays records so perfectly suited to the 4:00 a.m. moment that people stop dancing just to close their eyes and listen. There's a woman named Sophie who runs the water table near the door, who knows everyone's name after the second time she meets them, who has the kind of face that seems to absorb whatever you tell her. There's a rotating cast of others, people you recognize by their dancing before you know their names, by the particular way they move in music, which in this world tells you more about a person than their biography. The pills keep coming.
There are many varieties now.
Little doves stamped with the outline of a bird in flight, Mitsubishis with the three-diamond corporate logo of a car company that has nothing to do with the people pressing the pills.
Butterflies, crowns, green ones, pink ones, white ones with specs.
You learn to trust certain sources and avoid others, learn the vocabulary of the scene.
Learn that a bad pill can mean a mixture of MDMR with other compounds, with amphetamines or worse. You hear stories.
Someone had a bad one at a party in another city.
But you tell yourself your sources are reliable.
You tell yourself you know what you're doing.
By the fall of 1993, the once-a-month rule is a memory you've stopped bothering to maintain. You're rolling, as the phrase goes, twice a week.
Sometimes three times.
You've started doing it on nights that aren't even party nights, just on a Tuesday when the week is heavy and the apartment feels too quiet.
Just you and the stereo with headphones on, lying on the futon, letting the music move through you.
The changes happen slowly enough that you don't notice them happening.
The record store job becomes harder to care about.
You've always loved music, but something about the love feels different now.
Thinner, like a song you've played so many times it's lost its texture.
The conversations you used to have with Derek and Priya about books and films and ideas feel harder to sustain for long.
The particular kind of engagement those conversations once required, the quick collateral thinking, the ability to hold a complicated idea in one hand while juggling another with the other hand, has gotten slippery.
You start sentences you don't finish.
You agree with things without having quite processed them.
It's not that you've stopped caring.
It's that the caring requires more effort than it used to.
Requires a deliberate summons rather than just arriving on its own. In the daylight hours, between uses, a flatness settles over everything.
Colors are a little less vivid.
Food tastes adequate, but not quite right.
The emotions you used to feel freely, the spontaneous happiness of a good afternoon, the satisfying weight of a long conversation, seem to require effort now. Seem to be waiting behind a door you have to push open instead of swinging open on their own. The clinical term for this is comedown.
What's happening is that your brain, flooded repeatedly with serotonin, has begun to compensate.
The neurons that produce and respond to serotonin have started pulling back, down-regulating their receptors, turning down their own sensitivity in response to the constant chemical deluge. Your baseline mood is adjusting downward to counterbalance the repeated peaks.
But you don't know this yet.
Not in terms you can apply to yourself.
You just know that normal life, ordinary Tuesday afternoon existence, feels gray in a way it didn't before.
And that the only thing that reliably makes it feel ungray is another pill.
This is the trap.
Not the dramatic, visible kind of trap that movies show you.
Not the needle and the alleyway and the immediate collapse.
The quiet kind.
The slow accumulation of days that each seem fine individually, but add up to something you couldn't have imagined a year ago.
The mid-90s are happening around you.
On television, which you watch more now lying on the futon through long afternoons between parties, you see the debut of Friends on NBC, which everyone suddenly seems to be talking about, which has taken over the water cooler conversation in every workplace in the country, including the coffee shop where you occasionally stop before noon.
The O.J. Simpson trial takes over the airwaves in a way that makes even the news feel like entertainment.
You watch the preliminary hearing with the sound low while MDMA moves through your body, and the faces of the lawyers and the defendants seem strange and significant in ways you can't quite articulate.
Pulp Fiction comes out, and you see it twice at the theater, both times slightly altered.
The movie's fractured narrative feeling like it was designed for exactly the state you're in.
On the radio, TLC is asking you not to go chasing waterfalls. Coolio is walking through the valley of the shadow of death. Green Day is recording Basket Case on repeat in your internal jukebox, because the feeling of being out of your head on ordinary Tuesday afternoons, of not knowing if you're sane or just having a conversation with your brain that's gotten complicated, resonates with a precision that makes you play the song again and again on your own stereo.
At the record store, the grunge wave is cresting into something more diffuse.
Alternative meaning everything and therefore nothing.
And you buy records almost automatically now, compulsively.
Bringing home CDs you forget to open.
Across town the first internet cafes are opening. Computers lined up in rows where you can pay by the hour to access something called the World Wide Web, which most people are still treating as a novelty, a curiosity. The way people first treated television, with a mixture of fascination and skepticism and no idea what it was actually going to become.
You go into one of these cafes once, sit at a terminal, and look at a few web pages which take 45 seconds a piece to load through the dial-up modem. Their sparse graphics assembling line by line like a photograph developing in a dark room. You think it's interesting.
You think it probably won't change much.
You go home.
You start noticing the come downs in your body as well as your mind. The day after rolling, your jaw aches from hours of involuntary clenching.
A thing called bruxism that's so common in the scene that people carry pacifiers and chewing gum as accessories, practical tools rather than affectations.
Your throat is sore from talking so much.
From the six and seven and eight hour conversations that happen between strangers under the influence of a substance that dismantles social inhibition the way morning sun dismantles fog.
Your eyes hurt from the light shows.
Your legs ache from dancing on concrete floors for hours without really feeling the pain while it was happening.
The week after you've rolled twice, the come down has a different quality.
Heavier, tinged with an anxiety that doesn't have an object, just floats looking for something to attach to.
You start waking up at 4:00 in morning with your heart beating strangely. Not fast exactly.
More irregular.
An occasional double thump followed by a pause that makes you hold your breath.
You tell yourself it's caffeine though you've been drinking less of it.
You tell yourself it's just sleep deprivation which is also true though you're sleeping more than you used to.
Just not the good kind of sleep.
You quit the record store job not because you're fired but because you stopped showing up enough that the distinction becomes academic.
Your boss, a middle-aged man named Gerald who's been selling music since before you were born and has opinions about every band that ever existed tries to talk to you before you go.
He says you've seemed distracted.
He says the work you used to do with obvious care is slipping.
He says he'd like to keep you on if you can get yourself sorted.
You thank him, tell him you're fine, but something else has come up. There's nothing else that's come up.
You start taking money from savings. A small one you'd built up over two years of careful habits.
The scene is not free.
There are the pills themselves which have gone from $20 to $30 to whatever the market will bear on a given night.
There are the entry fees at the warehouse parties which are nominally illegal gatherings that pass themselves off as private events or pay-per-view DJ showcases to stay ahead of the police.
There are the taxis home at dawn because you can't drive in the state you're in.
There is the endless supply of chewing gum and water and vitamin supplements you've read somewhere might help.
Might blunt the neurotoxicity.
Might protect you from the damage you're rationally aware you might be doing.
Rabbit, the DJ, pulls you aside one night in the fall of 1994.
You're between sets sitting on a speaker crate in the booth, watching the crowd move.
Rabbit has this quality of seeing things about people that they haven't said out loud, a perceptiveness that the scene's participants have all remarked on.
"You okay?" he says, no preamble.
"Yeah, totally." you say.
"Great night."
"I mean generally." he says, "not just tonight." You look at him.
In the light of the booth, his face is calm and direct.
"I'm fine." you say.
"You're here every week." he says, "sometimes twice.
I've been counting."
You tell him everyone is here every week.
He says, "Not like this."
He says there's a difference between people who come because this is something they love and people who come because the other side is the problem.
He says, "You might want to think about which side of that line you're on."
He says it the way a person says something true that they know you're not ready to hear yet, without expectation of a response, just putting it in the room. You think about it walking home through the pre-dawn streets, your jaw grinding your last piece of gum to nothing, the city empty around you except for the delivery trucks beginning their routes.
You think about it and then you take another pill at noon the next day because Sunday afternoons have become impossible without one because the silence of your apartment in daylight feels like a kind of punishment.
By 1995, you are not who you were.
The changes have accumulated past the point where anyone who knew you before would easily recognize the continuity.
Your apartment, once carefully organized, has taken on the quality of a place that's being lived in rather than maintained.
The milk crate bookshelves still stand, but the records are no longer in order.
Dishes accumulate.
The Sony Walkman sits on the windowsill with no tape in it because you can't quite find the energy to choose a tape.
And choosing a tape seems to require a capacity for sequential decision-making that's been quietly eroding. Music, which was once the organizing principle of your life, now sometimes feels like too much, too loud, too structured.
The only music you want is the music in the warehouses, the wordless kind, the kind that tells you what to feel so you don't have to figure it out yourself.
Priya comes by one Wednesday in March with takeout from the Thai place. She sits across from you on the futon, her legs pulled up, watching you with an expression you know she's been rehearsing.
She's worried.
She says this carefully and then less carefully when carefully doesn't seem to land.
She says she's noticed what's happening.
She says Derek has noticed, too.
She tells you about a friend of a friend who had to be hospitalized after using too frequently. Something about overheating, about a condition called hyperthermia that can spiral into organ failure when you use MDMI in hot, crowded environments and don't drink enough water or drink too much of it without the electrolytes your body needs.
You sit with this information.
You eat your pad thai.
You tell her you appreciate it and that you're being careful. She asks what careful looks like and you find you can't quite describe it.
"When did you last go a full week without using?" she asks.
You think about this genuinely and can't find the week in your memory.
She doesn't push.
She finishes her food, stays for another hour talking about other things, and new graphic design project she's excited about.
A film she saw that you'd probably like.
She hugs you at the door longer than usual.
After she leaves, you sit in the apartment for a long time in the dark, not putting on music, not turning on the TV, just sitting.
You feel the flatness pressing down.
The familiar gray weight of ordinary consciousness without the chemical architecture that's become load-bearing.
You do a pill at 9:00 that night.
The warehouse scene is evolving around you.
What began as an underground movement, word-of-mouth and photocopied flyers and locations announced at the last minute by pager, is increasingly visible.
Club kids are featured in mainstream magazines.
Articles appear in places like Spin and Rolling Stone, trying to explain rave culture to people who've never been, getting some of it right and most of it wrong.
Cities are beginning to crack down, sending police into warehouses, passing ordinances about sound permits and assembly.
Some parties have moved into legitimate clubs, proper venues with liquor licenses and fire codes, which changes the atmosphere in ways you can feel, even if you can't entirely name.
The change means something for the supply.
What used to be a relatively straightforward transaction, a trusted person in a trusted network handing you a pill of reasonably known provenance, becomes less reliable as the scene grows and the market for MDMA expands.
New suppliers appear with products of uncertain composition.
You start to encounter pills that feel different, that hit differently, that carry a quality of edginess or aggression that MDMA alone doesn't produce.
A sign that they're cut with methamphetamine or ketamine or something else entirely.
You take these anyway because they're what's available and the alternative is the gray Tuesday that's waiting.
Your body is beginning to tell you things you're choosing not to fully hear.
Your sleep, even on nights you haven't used, is fractured and unsatisfying. 2 hours deep and then suddenly awake, staring at the ceiling, mind racing through loops of no particular content. Your appetite is unreliable.
You can go all day without hunger and then eat compulsively at midnight, standing over the sink with crackers and peanut butter.
You've lost weight you didn't have to lose.
Your cheekbones are more visible.
The light in your eyes, which people used to comment on, which was just part of how you looked, has changed into something less immediate.
Like a lamp on a dimmer switch turned most of the way down.
Your memory, which used to be the kind that could tell you exactly which album a specific song was on and what year it was released, now drops things, forgets them between rooms, loses thread in the middle of thoughts.
On bad days, you stand in the kitchen with the refrigerator open, staring into it, having entirely forgotten what you came for.
The cold air on your face, the only sensation arriving clearly.
There are mornings when you look at the shelf of CDs you've spent years collecting and feel nothing.
This frightens you more than the weight loss, more than the sleep disruption, more than the jaw that aches every Monday morning from hours of grinding.
The music was always the thing.
Before the warehouse years, before the pills, the music was the organizing principle of your interior life. The thing you reached for when you needed to feel less alone, less ordinary, less sealed into yourself.
Now you stand at the shelf and your hand goes to a case and you take it down and put it back.
The appetite for it is somewhere deeper than the place you currently live.
There's a clinical name for what's happening in your brain chemistry, though you won't understand it fully for years, not until recovery and research give you the vocabulary.
MDMA's repeated flooding of the serotonin system has done damage to the presynaptic terminals.
The little branches of the neurons that release serotonin into the synaptic gaps between brain cells.
Studies done in primates have shown that high-frequency MDMA use reduces the number of serotonin transporter proteins.
The molecular machinery that makes normal serotonin signaling possible.
Your brain's capacity to feel the emotions that were once natural to you.
The spontaneous warmth.
The unsummoned happiness.
The quiet well-being of an ordinary afternoon.
Has been reduced at the level of neurons and proteins.
This is not a metaphor.
This is not a bad attitude or a failure of character.
This is biological.
But you don't have this knowledge yet in 1995.
What you have is the experience of it.
The flatness and the anxiety and the craving and the interpretation you've developed. That the problem is ordinary life. Not the solution you found to ordinary life.
This is the lie that the dependency has built inside you.
With your own materials using your own reasoning.
Derek tries next. He comes over one Saturday afternoon, which is unusual because you're normally sleeping on Saturday afternoons to prepare for the night.
You answer the door in the clothes you've been wearing for 2 days, and he stands in the doorway taking in the apartment, and his face does something complicated that he brings back under control quickly.
He sits down and talks to you for 3 hours.
He tells you about his own relationship with the scene, how he's been pulling back, how he started going monthly again, how the difference in his daily life is significant. He talks about the research he's been reading, some of it the same research you read in the library in 1993, but didn't fully absorb.
He talks about the long Tuesday afternoons that stopped being gray once he stopped expecting every Tuesday to feel like Saturday at 4:00 a.m.
He talks about a therapist he started seeing, a woman on the other side of the city who works with people from the rave scene specifically, who understands the culture and isn't judgemental.
You listen to all of this.
You hear it.
You even feel while he's talking something move in you that might be the beginning of recognition, the way you sometimes feel the first notes of a song before you consciously identify what song it is.
Then the feeling passes.
Then you tell him you hear him, that you'll think about it, that you appreciate it.
He leaves his therapist's phone number on a piece of paper on your coffee table, written carefully in his architect's handwriting.
You look at it for weeks without calling.
The money runs out in the early spring of 1996.
What was left of the savings account reaches zero. Your rent check bounces.
The landlord, a pragmatic man named Kowalski, who owns six units in this building and has seen many things in those units over many years, comes to your door in person with a calmness that is more unnerving than anger.
He gives you 2 weeks.
He says he likes you, that you've always been quiet, that he doesn't want to do this.
He does it anyway. You move in with a guy from the scene, a peripheral character named Marcus, who has a spare room and a flexible attitude toward the arrangement of domestic space.
Marcus's apartment is a particular kind of '90s disorder, a tower of video game cases beside a Super Nintendo, an aquarium with fish that may or may not be receiving adequate care, empty pizza boxes broken down and stacked beside the recycling bin instead of in it.
Marcus is a good-natured person in the way that people who have stopped noticing their own decline can be good-natured, easygoing because the friction points have all been sanded away.
You pay him in whatever way you can.
Some month there's cash, other months there's an implicit accounting happening that neither of you examine closely.
The social currency of the scene runs through you, connections and information and access, and this has value that can sometimes be traded.
Priya has stopped coming to the warehouse.
The last time you saw her there was 8 months ago, and since then she's in your life in a different capacity.
A friend from before who now exists primarily in conversations on the phone, her voice careful, her questions specific without being confrontational.
She's nearly finished her graphic design program.
She shows you her portfolio at a coffee shop in February, spreading printed samples across the table with the justifiable pride of someone who made something from nothing.
You look at her work and feel something move in you again, that tide that comes and goes, the near recognition of a feeling that used to be available all the time.
In the summer of 1996, there is a death in the scene.
Not someone you know personally, a girl from another city, 18 years old, who died of hyponatremia at a warehouse party, meaning she drank too much water trying to stay hydrated and the excess fluid diluted the electrolytes in her blood and caused her brain to swell.
Her name was mentioned in a brief item in the newspaper, the kind that appears on the inside pages with no photograph.
In the scene, it's discussed more thoroughly, more personally.
People who didn't know her feel her death as a proximity warning.
The community processes it in the complicated way that close-knit groups process loss with a combination of grief and denial and the very human tendency to find reasons why it couldn't happen to you specifically.
You find your reasons.
She took too much water, which is not your mistake.
She didn't have experienced people with her, which you do. She was young and inexperienced, which you are not.
You've been doing this for 3 years.
You know what you're doing. You know less and less about what you're doing.
The pills are more unpredictable now.
The supply chain of the mid-90s underground drug market is not a system of quality control.
A pill stamped with a dove might be primarily empty ma, might be primarily methamphetamine, might be a combination.
Might have trace elements of compounds that were never intended to enter a human body.
You've learned to tell the difference, mostly by the way the high arrives and the way it feels at its peak.
But the ability to make this distinction has been steadily compromised by the fact that your brain chemistry is no longer a reliable measuring instrument.
One night in October of 1996, you take what you believe is a clean pill at a party, and something goes wrong in a way it never has before.
Not dramatically, not in the way that would compel someone to call an ambulance, just wrong in the particular way that mental wrongness can be.
A sudden arrival of terror without an object, a conviction that something terrible is happening or about to happen that you can't name or locate.
Your heart is beating too fast and too irregularly.
The walls of the warehouse breathe.
The music, which was designed to be euphoric, has turned into something you can't interpret, something that feels like a warning.
Sophie, the woman who runs the water table, finds you sitting against a wall, knees drawn up, staring at the middle distance.
She sits beside you without asking, which is the right thing to do.
She hands you water and puts a hand on your arm, and you feel the warmth of it through layers of clothing like a transmission, like a message in a language you've been forgetting.
She stays until the panic subsides, which takes almost an hour.
She doesn't ask questions. She just stays.
Afterward, walking home in the dawn light, you try to think clearly about what's happening.
The thinking is harder than it used to be.
Your mind, which was once quick and associative, which could hold a complex line of thought the way a skilled acrobat holds a difficult position, now has a tendency to slide off the surface of hard things.
You begin a thought and somewhere in the middle of it find yourself somewhere else in a different thought with no memory of the transition.
But enough breaks through.
You are not okay.
You have not been okay for a long time.
You have been building a structure that you thought was protecting you from the emptiness.
And what you've actually built is the structure of the emptiness.
Made from your own materials, from your capacity for love and connection and pleasure, from the very things you were trying to preserve.
You don't stop using.
But the thought is there now in the back of the room where you keep the things you know but aren't ready to face.
It's there like a lamp that someone left on, low and constant, visible even when you're looking somewhere else.
The winter of 1996 is cold in a way that reaches inside things.
Inside the apartment, inside your coat when you're outside, inside you, in the particular way that the brain's serotonin depletion manifests as something physically experienced.
A coldness at the center of the chest that isn't temperature.
A hollow feeling that makes ordinary warmth feel insufficient.
You lie under two blankets listening to the heater knock and hiss and think about the people who've drifted out of your life. The record store and Gerald who wanted to keep you on.
The apartment you decorated slowly over 3 years with specific intention.
The long evenings of argument about music that meant something real at the time.
The Super Nintendo in Marcus's living room becomes a place where time disappears.
You find an old copy of Donkey Kong Country in his stack of games and play it compulsively on nights when you're in the gray space between pills.
Needing something to hold your attention without requiring you to produce anything.
The cartridge saves your progress, which feels like the one form of permanence available to you.
You know exactly where you are in the game.
You can measure your progress.
In the rest of your life, you can no longer do this.
Your sleep has become its own emergency.
The night is divided into periods of fitful unconsciousness interrupted by long alert stretches when your mind runs its loops, replaying conversations, revisiting moments, constructing elaborate scenarios of things that might happen or might have happened differently.
The alarm clock on the nightstand in the spare room shows 3:47 a.m. and then 5:12 a.m. and then 7:30 a.m.
Slices of night without the restoration of real sleep.
You take melatonin from the health food store.
You try herbal tea.
You try exhausting yourself physically by walking long distances in the afternoon.
Nothing reaches the bed ahead of you. In March of 1997, the phone rings on a Tuesday morning while you're staring at the ceiling.
It's Priya.
She says she's been reading about something, a treatment program on the other side of the city that specifically addresses and the mod dependency, that was started by a counselor who used to be part of the scene himself.
She says she's not calling to pressure you.
She says she's calling because she found it and wanted you to have the information, and what you do with it is entirely up to you.
She reads you the number.
You write it on the back of an envelope that you put on the nightstand.
You look at it for 3 days before you pick up the phone.
The counselor's name is Paul.
He's in his late 30s with a voice that's professionally calm in a way that doesn't feel performed.
His office is modest, a small room on the second floor of a building that houses several different kinds of practices, a dentist and a tax accountant and a chiropractor on the other floors.
Paul has a rubber plant in the corner and a framed print of something abstract above the desk and a box of tissues on the end table that you notice and hope not to need.
He asks you to describe what's been happening and you try haltingly using the vocabulary you have, which is mostly the language of the scene, which has its own terminology for everything.
He translates back to you in clinical terms, serotonin syndrome, anhedonia, dependency, neurotoxicity, all the words you read in 1993 and set aside.
Hearing them now, applied to you, to your specific experience, is different from reading them in a library article.
It has weight.
It lands.
He explains what has happened in your brain in terms that are specific and not condescending.
He talks about the serotonin transporter proteins, the molecular machinery that regulates how serotonin moves through the synaptic gaps between neurons and how repeated flooding of the system causes those transporters to reduce in number, to down-regulate.
The brain's attempt to protect itself from too much of a good thing.
He says that the anhedonia you're experiencing, the flatness, the inability to feel pleasure from things that once provided it clearly, is the predictable result of a system that has been overtaxed and is now attempting to rebalance.
He says rebalancing takes time. He says months, not weeks.
He says in some cases years, though not the same years as the ones that brought you here.
Forward years.
Recovery years.
Which move differently.
He tells you that the road back is long and real and possible.
He tells you that the brain has a capacity for recovery that even the most pessimistic research has consistently underestimated.
He tells you that the serotonin system, given time and support and the absence of repeated assault, can rebuild slowly in the way that damaged tissue rebuilds.
Not always to exactly what it was, but to something functional and livable and eventually good.
He asks you to come in.
You say yes.
The treatment program is not a residential facility.
It's an outpatient structure, 3 days a week, built around individual therapy and group sessions, and a gradual reduction protocol that manages the body's response to cessation.
The first week is the hardest week of your life, which is a sentence you wouldn't have believed possible a year ago, but which is now simply true.
The withdrawal from Memedimar doesn't look like the movies. It's not convulsive. You're not physically incapacitated in a visible way. It's the interior kind.
The depression arrives in a wave on the third day without using. A heavy, purposeful darkness that makes every previous experience of the great Tuesday feel minor. Your body has forgotten how to feel anything because you've been providing the feeling artificially.
And without the pill, there is simply nothing.
Flatness so complete it's frightening.
You lie in the spare room at Marcus's and look at the ceiling and try to remember what it felt like to want anything.
Paul said this would happen.
He said it was not your future. He said the brain's baseline recovers, not in days, but in months.
And that the journey from nothing to something to something good is long, but it goes in one direction.
You stay.
You don't leave.
You don't find a way to get a pill and start the cycle over.
You stay in the room and feel the nothing and don't try to fix it.
By the second week, the nothing is slightly less complete.
Not better, not good, not anything approaching the chemical euphoria you've known for 4 years, but slightly less than nothing.
A thin edge of something, like the horizon beginning to define itself before the sun arrives.
Group therapy is where you begin to understand that you are not a unique case.
The group is eight people ranging in age from 19 to 41. All of them arrived at this room through variants of the same story.
The particular substances and scenes differ, but the shape of it is the same.
The initial experience of something that seemed to solve a problem.
The slow recalibration of the brain toward dependency.
The incremental loss of all the things that made the substance seem worth taking in the first place.
Hearing others articulate the experience in their own words imperfectly, reaching for language and sometimes finding it and sometimes coming close enough, breaks something open in you that has been sealed.
There's a 19-year-old named Casey who came up through the scene from a smaller city who drove 4 hours every Friday night to attend parties and drove back 4 hours every Sunday morning and lost an entire semester of community college to the round trip and its aftermath.
There's a woman named Diane who is 34 and ran a small business successfully for years while using on weekends until the weekend definition expanded to include Thursday and then Wednesday and by the time she was using Monday through Thursday, her accountant had noticed the discrepancies before she did.
There's a man named Terrence who lost his apartment and his relationship in the same month who speaks about his ex-girlfriend with a combination of guilt and tenderness that is one of the most honest things you've ever heard from a stranger.
The 41-year-old, a soft-spoken man named Franklin who used to work in hospital administration, talks about the particular cruelty of this kind of dependency.
The way it uses your own empathy and desire for connection as the mechanism of its hold on you.
"Imdmar," he says, "doesn't give you anything that wasn't already there.
The love you felt for strangers in the warehouse, the tenderness that made you cry while holding your friend's hand, the warmth and the feeling of belonging that seemed so pure you'd have done anything to feel it again. That was all you.
The drug just took the lock off the door.
The terrible joke is that the more you use it, the more it locks the door permanently until the very things you were trying to reach become inaccessible.
You sit with this for a long time. Priya visits you at Marcus's apartment in April.
She sits across from you with takeout from the Thai place that you can taste properly now. For the first time in longer than you can calculate, the lemongrass and basil and heat hitting your palate with a specificity you'd forgotten was available.
You eat and she watches you eat and you both understand what it means.
You tell her about the group, about Franklin, about Paul, about the return of color, not fully, not the way it was before the first pill, and certainly not the way it felt 4 hours after the first pill, but something, something ongoing.
She cries a little, quickly, and then pulls herself together in that particular way of hers that you've always found both funny and admirable.
She shows you a new project, a poster series she's been working on for a local theater company, spread across the coffee table.
The work is beautiful, genuinely, and you feel this not as a thought, but as an experience.
The recognition of beauty, which is a thing you'd begun to fear was permanently gone.
Derek comes a week later. He brings a mixtape, a real one, cassette, made on his component stereo the way he's always made them.
74 minutes, labeled in his careful handwriting on the insert.
You take it and look at it for a moment, and then find the Walkman on the windowsill with the dead batteries you've been meaning to replace for months.
Derek has brought batteries.
You put them in.
You put the tape in. You sit on the futon with the headphones on while he reads a magazine in the chair across the room, giving you space.
And you listen to the first side. He's made it thoughtful in the way he always made things thoughtful. And somewhere in the middle of the second track, which is a song you loved before all of this, a song that meant something specific to you at a specific moment in a life that seems very far away, you feel something happen in your chest.
Not the chemical warmth.
Something older than that. Something that was there before the first pill.
Something that is apparently still there, faint and tenacious, surviving in some interior space that the dependency couldn't quite reach.
You let it happen. You don't try to amplify it or sustain it.
You just let it be there for as long as it wants to be there.
Summer arrives.
The recovery is not linear, which Paul told you, and which you are now able to confirm as lived truth.
There are weeks that feel like progress, and days inside those weeks that feel like nothing has changed, and occasional hours that feel almost like the person you were before, vivid and present and interested in things.
The brain's recovery from extended MDMA use is measured in months and sometimes years.
The serotonin system rebuilds on its own timeline, indifferent to your preference for faster.
You learn patience in the particular way that people learn things where they have no choice.
You get a job. Not at a record store, not yet, not the old version of yourself.
At a coffee shop, a small independent place near the treatment center, run by a pair of sisters who are demanding about espresso and lenient about almost everything else.
The work is physical, continuous, specific. You grind and pour and froth and wipe.
Your hands remember the rhythm quickly.
The mornings are early, which is both a challenge and a structure.
Because structure is one of the things you know now that you need.
In the evenings, when the coffee shop is closed and the city is in the blue hour before dark, you sometimes walk.
No destination, just the neighborhood.
The streets with their particular configurations of trees and parked cars and illuminated windows.
The ordinary evidence that people are inside their apartments doing ordinary things.
You used to find this unbearable. The gray weight of the ordinary.
It's still not easy, but it's different now.
It's not something to be escaped. It's something to be in.
Paul says recovery from MDMA dependency is in some ways more psychologically complex than recovery from substances with a more dramatic physical withdrawal.
Because the thing you're grieving isn't just the high.
It's the self the high revealed or appeared to reveal.
The love you felt.
The connection.
The borderless warmth. You grieve the feeling that you once reached something true.
Something about your own capacity for love and openness and belonging.
And now can't find it the same way. He says this grief is appropriate and necessary and that it doesn't mean the thing you were reaching for isn't real, only that the method you used to reach it was destroying the very faculties that could have gotten you there without it.
You think about this often on the evening walks.
You think about the girl at the warehouse water table named Sophie, and the way her hand on your arm felt like a transmission.
And you wonder whether what you experienced that night in that one moment of genuine human contact in the middle of all the chemically managed approximations of contact was closer to the real thing than all the hours of MDMA enhanced euphoria combined.
By the fall of 1997, you are 4 months clean.
The world is doing the things the world does. Princess Diana dies in Paris in August, and the grief that moves through the culture is enormous and genuine, and you feel it.
Actually feel it.
Which is itself a small sign that you register and record in the notebook.
The Notorious B.I.G. is killed in March and Tupac in September of the previous year, and the culture is trying to understand what it has lost.
Hanson's MMMBop is somehow inescapable on every radio in every coffee shop, which is either comic relief or punishment, depending on your mood.
The Foo Fighters release a record that Derek brings over and you listen to together, start to finish, sitting in Marcus's living room eating delivered pizza.
And this is ordinary and good in a way that you write down in the notebook Paul suggested you keep.
There is a Tamagotchi that Priya gives you as a half joking gift during the early months of your recovery.
A small digital keychain pet that requires feeding and attention multiple times a day.
You keep it alive for 6 weeks, which she says is a record for anyone she's given one to.
You find that the obligation of it, the small daily requirement of care, has an effect similar to the plant Paul will later suggest you get.
A thing that needs you.
A small anchor in the structure of a day that otherwise has too many unguarded hours. When the Tamagotchi eventually dies on a Tuesday when you forgot it in your coat pocket and then forgot the coat, you feel a moment of grief that is disproportionate to the object and entirely appropriate to the moment in your life.
You write down the good things.
This is one of the tools.
Not the dramatic ones, not the peak experiences, just the ordinary good things. The coffee that tastes right, the walk that goes longer than expected, the song that lands.
The notebook fills up slowly.
After a month of entries, you read back through them and discover that there are more of them than you expected.
Scattered among the harder days, more frequent than you would have estimated if you'd been asked to guess.
This is information.
This is the brain coming back online, one receptor at a time.
You move out of Marcus's apartment in the spring of 1998.
Not far, two streets over, a studio that's smaller than your old apartment but entirely yours.
You buy a futon second-hand from a woman in the classified ads section of the newspaper.
The classifieds being where you still find most things in '98 because Craigslist is only just starting to exist and isn't in your city yet.
And you carry the futon up three flights with help from Derek, who complains about the weight with affectionate precision the whole way up, and buys you a housewarming dinner afterwards at a Japanese place that's just opened nearby, where you eat soba noodles and talk for 2 hours about nothing in particular.
The conversation easy and warm in the specific way of old friendships that survived something and came through cleaner than before.
You bring the record crate.
You bring the Walkman.
You bring the turntable and the component stereo that cost more than 3 months rent, still working, still warm.
The amplifier's needle jumps when you power it on for the first time in the new space, sweeping right and left, finding its level, which feels like something.
You do not bring anything from the warehouse years. There isn't much to bring anyway. That life accumulated almost nothing material.
Almost no objects that belong to the person you are trying to become.
The physical evidence of those years is thin. A few flyers you kept.
The memories that come back sometimes at odd moments.
The knowledge of what the world looks like at 5:00 in the morning in three different seasons when you've been awake all night. This knowledge is part of you now and you're learning to carry it differently. Not a shame exactly, but as the weight of something survived, which is not the same thing as a burden.
On the first night in the new apartment, you put a record on the turntable, something you bought when you were 19 and played until the grooves wore into a texture.
And you sit on the floor with your back against the futon and listen to it all the way through.
The sound is warm and present in the room, filling it from the speakers you've positioned with old care at the angles that maximize the stereo field, the way you used to know how to do without thinking.
You close your eyes.
Music does what music does when you have the ears for it, which is say something that has no words, address the parts of you that language can't reach.
You feel something.
Not the chemical flood, not the all-at-once revolution of the warehouse at midnight.
Something quieter and more precise.
A feeling with edges. A feeling that knows what it is. The kind of feeling that's been waiting behind the door that the dependency spent 4 years forcing open and then slowly welding shut.
The feeling is yours.
It doesn't require anything except this.
The room and the record and the person you have slowly, with tremendous effort and the help of people who refused to stop caring, managed to remain.
The '90s are ending.
The world is in the grip of Y2K panic.
People stacking bottled water in closets and converting savings to cash against the belief that midnight on January 1st of the year 2000 will reset civilization to zero.
The television news covers it with the barely suppressed excitement of a disaster it isn't sure will materialize.
News anchors in Times Square with the crowd behind them.
Everyone counting down to something that turns out to be just the next second following the last one, as seconds tend to do.
It doesn't feel absurd to you, this anxiety about a hard reset.
Because you've been through your own version of it.
The erasure and the rebuilding and the understanding that what comes after the crash isn't nothing.
It's just something that has to be constructed more carefully than what came before.
You call your parents more often now.
Your mother, in particular, to whom you said almost nothing during the warehouse years, to whom you gave only the minimum required information to keep her from coming to find you.
To whom you owe the kind of honesty that's frightening precisely because it's retroactive.
You don't confess everything at once.
You give her pieces of it over multiple calls over a year of calls and she receives each piece with a steadiness that moves you.
Her voice on the phone, the same voice that read to you when you were seven.
The same voice that has been reaching across whatever distance you put between you.
Waiting. There are long pauses in some of these calls and you've learned not to rush them. Learned that what happens in a long pause is sometimes more important than what's said before or after it.
You go home for Thanksgiving of 1998.
The house is the same, the smell of it, the creaky third step on the staircase.
The way the afternoon light moves through the kitchen windows in November.
You sit at the table that has always been there and eat food that tastes like what it is and feel the ordinariness of the moment as something to be grateful for rather than escaped from.
After the meal while your father watches football in the other room and the game's commentary drifts through the wall in that familiar holiday afternoon way.
Your mother sits with you in the kitchen.
The way she used to when you were a teenager and had something to say but couldn't find the way to say it.
And you find this time that you can find the way.
You tell her some of it.
Not all.
Enough she listens.
She holds your hand at some point.
You're not sure when the transition happens.
When you finish she is quiet for a moment and then she says something you've spent months preparing yourself not to expect, and which surprises you completely anyway.
She says she's proud of you.
Not for the years in the scene, not for surviving them, but for the act of coming back.
For the decision to come back, which she understands was not an easy one to make or to keep making.
You drive home 2 days later in a used car you bought, a reliable one, a '93 Civic with rust along the wheel wells, but a clean engine and a tape deck that actually works.
The kind of car that starts every time and asks nothing beyond regular oil changes.
The highway unfolds ahead of you through the November gray.
On the tape deck plays the mix tape Derek made you, the one he brought with the batteries in April of 1997, which has become a sort of talisman, worn at the edges, the insert creased from repeated folding and unfolding.
You know every track by now. You know the order and the transitions and the specific thing Derek was thinking with each juxtaposition.
And you know it the way you know good music, which is to say without thinking, in the body.
You drive and the music plays and the road comes toward you and you stay in your lane.
The decade ends.
The new year comes.
And the computers do not fail and the world does not reset.
And the century turns over quietly into what comes next. The Y2K disaster never materializes and the television anchors look faintly disappointed.
The city wakes up on the first morning of the new millennium looking exactly like it looked the morning before with the same streets and the same buildings and the same pigeons attending to their purposes on the sidewalk outside your third-floor window. You watch this from the window in the early morning, coffee in hand, the apartment warm around you, and you feel the continuation of ordinary things as a gift.
This is new, this feeling.
It used to feel like a disappointment, the fact that the world keeps being ordinary.
Now, it feels like the point.
You're 29 years old, working at the coffee shop during the days, and studying for a degree in social work at night, which feels like the right direction in the way that the right direction feels, not dramatic, not certain, just pointed somewhere real.
Paul is still your therapist, though the sessions are monthly now instead of weekly, a reduction that felt like a milestone when it happened. The two of you acknowledging it in the way you've learned to acknowledge milestones, without ceremony and without minimizing, just noting it clearly and moving on.
The apartment on the third floor has been made your own.
The records are in order again.
The Walkman has new batteries and a new tape in it, something you made yourself, 74 minutes, the order considered.
On the windowsill, there is a plant that requires daily attention, which is also something Paul suggested, a living thing that needs you to show up for it.
The plant is unreasonably healthy.
This pleases you more than seems reasonable.
Priya has her graphic design business now, real clients, a reputation.
Derek has finished his degree and is teaching middle school English, which surprises everyone who knows him, and somehow also surprises no one.
Sophie from the water table. You ran into her last spring at a record store on the other side of the city.
The kind of encounter that feels engineered but isn't.
She's well.
She left the scene years ago, too, for her own reasons.
You talked for 40 minutes among the record bins and exchanged phone numbers.
You've been for coffee twice.
There is the possibility of something in the air between you, something unhurried, something that will develop or won't on its own timeline. Marcus has gotten sober on his own terms, in his own way, the fish surviving him into his recovery and apparently flourishing.
The warehouse where this all began has been converted into condominiums.
You drove past it once and slowed down and looked at the brick face of it from the car.
The high windows now divided by horizontal partitions, lights behind glass that were once a single dark expanse where light shows happened.
You sat with the feeling that came up, which was complicated and quiet and entirely yours, and then you drove on.
There are nights when the craving returns.
You will not pretend otherwise because that would be dishonest and the dishonesty, the pretending to yourself, was one of the primary mechanisms of the dependency.
The craving comes sometimes in the form of a smell, something industrial and slightly sweet, or in the approach of winter when the particular quality of cold night air recalls the walk home at dawn from a warehouse, or in certain songs, the ones with that pulse, that breath, that feeling of opening into something larger. The craving comes and you feel it clearly and you do not act on it.
This is the skill.
Not the absence of wanting, but the capacity to have the wanting and let it be there without it having to be resolved.
You are on the other side of the decade now, on the other side of the years that cost you what they cost you.
The record store and the apartment and the people who drifted away and the parts of your mind that are still, even now, not quite what they were.
On the other side is a life.
Not the one you imagined at 22, standing at the water's edge of that first experience with your arms spread open.
A different one.
A harder one.
More specifically yours for the cost of winning it.
In the apartment on the third floor, the record turns on the turntable in the quiet of the morning and outside the window, the city is waking up and you are waking up with it.
And this ordinary awakening, this nothing special Wednesday morning of your ordinary continuing life, this is the thing you almost lost and didn't.
And you know its value the way you can only know the value of a thing that you have nearly permanently given away.
The '90s are over.
The world has moved on.
And somehow, against the specific odds of the specific story, so have you.
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IWrocker
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