Are they really “master manipulators” or are you the problem

[00:00:00]Hi everybody, welcome back. I hope you're all doing well. So in today's video, maybe he wasn't a master manipulator. Maybe low-key you're just kind of gullible and dumb. Like maybe the man saying I love you two weeks in like actually maybe was just kind of pulling one over on you, but you believed him because you want to be loved. I let the record show that's still manipulation, but it's certainly not master manipulating. That's like lowgrade average, boring, like not impressive manipulation. Now, if he was saying, "I want to marry you for the last year," and doing the most and treating you super duper well, then out of nowhere, he hits you across the face and cheats on you, that's master level manipulation. No one saw that coming.

[00:00:35]That was not on you. I mean, it's never your fault if someone treats you poorly, but there are steps you can take to prevent being treated poorly in many cases. Like, he's saying he likes you so much talking to you every single day for two weeks, and then you sleep with him, and then after that, he doesn't talk to you anymore. Yeah, that's manipulative.

[00:00:48]It's certainly not master manipulation.

[00:00:50]Certainly. Certainly, you could have taken steps to prevent yourself from getting as hurt as you did. He still shouldn't treat you that way. Wake up, though. I'm not saying master manipulation doesn't happen, because it certainly does. But sometimes that's not what's going on, though.

[00:01:06]>> She asked me if I date for marriage. I said, "Listen, I date for love. I'm only going to experience life one time. Why would I deny myself the pleasure of love?" You know, I don't think anybody's on their deathbed saying, "I wish I loved less."

[00:01:22]So, yeah, it's not about marriage. It's not about a title for me. It's not about labels. It's about love. I was in Doney Land. 2 hours later, I was in the [ __ ] >> I want y'all to understand that these are the master manipulators that these women be talking about. Buddy sat down and and told Shorty a whole bunch of nonsense for what was that, like almost a minute. And in her mind, she was like, "You know what? I asked this man if he dates for marriage. He basically told me, "Nah, I just want to bust some cheeks down, but in a sweet way." She thought, "You know what? He's probably a good guy." After Buddy cracked, I'm I guarantee she said that he was some type of master manipulator. No, he wasn't.

[00:02:06]You were just dumb. Like, this isn't master manipulation.

[00:02:11]Dude just said a bunch of nonsense and you wanted to believe it. cuz I'm sure out there somewhere there was some woman out there listening to what he was saying was like he just chatting a bunch of nonsense but the majority of y'all want to believe it like you want like if a woman if I asked a woman right say I'm dating to marry right and I asked the woman hey uh do you date to marry and she was like you know it's not about marriage it's about love and experiences and being the best that we can be with each other and I'm be like so no like what are what are we talking about You just you just chatting a bunch of nonsense. I'm going be sitting there like, "Oh my gosh, here she go. These dudes aren't smart. These dudes aren't smart. They had a one G a 1.5 GPA in high school and college." And we're talking about, "Oh, he manipulated me."

[00:02:59]So, well, if if you got manipulated by an idiot, what does that make you?

[00:03:05]What does it make you? I know we've I've even posted a couple of videos on this whole dark manipulative tactics that men use on women. Um we talk about how men can fake their oho personalities just to get with you. Um, and uh, we've even seen that video. I don't know if you remember, but I added it to another video of this red medicine man who had a whole, you know, board teaching men how to do all of that, you know, with women and how to get women and so on and so forth. If she says this, do this, if she does that. And I'm going to include a video I saw just so you know what I'm talking about when I talk about the dark manipulative tactics and that there are men out there who actually go out of their way to read books, study women, study how women operate and so on and so forth. Use that as a means to get, you know, in bed with women as soon as possible, if it makes sense. But on the flip side, the majority of men are not doing that you know and most of the times they are not manipulating you but you are manipulating yourself for them because they say everything they put everything on the table and still some women end up becoming prey to some of these men and that is what you know I've seen a lot of people talking about today on Tik Tok. So yeah, without wasting your time, let's get into it.

[00:04:33]>> You don't have to lie to a woman. If a woman like you, she lie to herself.

[00:04:37]Like, you don't have to lie to women.

[00:04:38]>> Yes, you do.

[00:04:39]>> Women lie to themselves all the time.

[00:04:40]Cuz you know how many times it's like we we see we see when a man's a piece of We see it all the time. We like immediately, bro.

[00:04:49]That's a red flag. That's a red flag.

[00:04:52]That's a red flag. You know what? I'm going to give him till this amount of time. If he don't get his lying, I'mma change. I'm going to I'm working on this. Like >> if this date happens at this time and he just don't figure it out, man.

[00:05:05]>> Male manipulators are not that smart and I'm going to die on that hill. I don't think they're that smart. I think they recognize the pattern and what gets them what they want, i.e. you being miserable, you going out of your way for them, you buying them [ __ ] and they continue that. I don't think they know what they're doing. As a woman who loves psychology, it is so much easier to outsmart them because yet all they're doing is pattern recognizing. They might change up their words here and there, but call it what it is. It's pattern recognizing. So, if you switch up your reaction, it's going to throw them off.

[00:05:39]If you don't give a reaction, it's going to throw them off cuz they're banking on what you have done and said in the past and your reaction to all of it. Which is why I often don't play into their [ __ ] because it's what they want.

[00:05:50]They want to see how much they can get away with. How much disrespect you'll take before you blow up. [ __ ] They'll take what worked on their ex and use it on you. Deja vu. Read a book. Watch a podcast. They are not that difficult to understand. And they might gaslight you into thinking that women are difficult and we're just much more complicated than men. We're smarter than them.

[00:06:12]That's what that is. It's all out of fear. So, love you. Bye. And then you know what y'all other favorite line be?

[00:06:18]He played me. He manipulated me. No, he was never leaving his family for you.

[00:06:23]And then when I be asking these women, okay, exactly. Tell me exactly what he said. It be some [ __ ] It ain't no way you believe this man was going to leave his family for you with them [ __ ] ass lines. Y'all be giving desperate. For real.

[00:06:38]>> As women, we are taught to lie to ourselves in both directions about our relationships. We are taught to lie to ourselves about how good it is. And we are also taught to lie to ourselves about how bad it is. We are always supposed to see our relationships as much more magical than it actually is.

[00:06:52]We are trained to see this value in men that is not based in reality. We are taught to project an image onto him and to believe that he could become this man, this lover, this provider that we dream of in our hearts. And then he will show us a very real reality that we are supposed to completely ignore. he will be a liar and we're supposed to give him excuses, you know, oh, everybody lies sometimes. He just needs to learn to communicate. You know, he can treat you very cruy and it's like, oh, he just needs to learn to regulate. He needs to learn how to control his emotions. He had a terrible childhood. And relationship after relationship, women are like, why isn't this working? Why don't we end up happy? Like, why does everything turn into this big giant ball of resentment? And it's because you're not living in reality. And you're not living in reality, but your body is.

[00:07:37]Your body is living in reality. Your mind is trying to play tricks on you, but your body is like, "Hold up. This man cannot be trusted." And you're trying to mentally tell yourself, you know, like, "Oh, I feel so safe with him." When literally you're just trauma bonded to the man. You're just trauma bonded. Just because you feel familiarity for him doesn't mean you actually feel safety around him. But the patriarchy purposely teaches you to confuse familiarity for security. It purposely teaches you to confuse turmoil for passion, for romance. Because if you didn't confuse those concepts, you would never marry these men.

[00:08:09]Women, we got to stop thinking that we're above the program.

[00:08:13]We're not above the program. Okay? I don't care if you are skinny, you got a BBL, you got lighter skin, you got darker skin, I you're fat, I don't give a goddamn. You got an education, you got money, you don't have money. None of us are above the program. Okay? At the end of the day, if you choose to deal with men, you're still dealing with men.

[00:08:39]And and and another thing is that like men, they like to humble the most prettiest people and and the ones with the nice bodies and stuff the most out of everybody. So to think like that we're above the program is just is delusion. To think because oh, I I have lighter skin. I'm above the program because I have an education. cuz I got a house, you know, because I got all this money. Cuz none of us are above the program. We have to stop thinking that we're the exception and we're above the program. Let me tell you something.

[00:09:15]Pretty people get humbled every day by these moths. Some of them make it their job to humble a pretty maf. Okay? So, we're not above the program. I'm not above the program.

[00:09:30]You're not above the program. Nobody's the exception if you're dealing with a man.

[00:09:36]Thanks for letting me share.

[00:09:37]>> Take a girl out for a coffee. 11:00 a.m.

[00:09:39]45 minutes. Get a fake call from your friend. Hey, bro. Business is crashing.

[00:09:44]We need you. Loads of work to do. This is this. Okay, bro. Oh my god. Wait.

[00:09:47]Listen. Coffee is covered. Had a lovely time with you. Great. See you later. Go home. 2 p.m. 3 p.m. Not straight after.

[00:09:54]Deal with your [ __ ] You should probably have [ __ ] to deal with. And then text her and be like, "Hey, had to deal with loads of stuff. really enjoyed your company. It was great. I'd love to invite you over later for dinner. She comes over for dinner later because it's a different setting and a different time. In her head, it's the second day, but she liked the vibe of the first day, so she's still running it. You're right.

[00:10:10]>> You're taking food. She's in your house.

[00:10:12]And psychologically for her, it's the second day.

[00:10:14]>> But it's still crap within a day.

[00:10:16]>> Okay. Not me, though.

[00:10:17]>> Well, no, because we split up into two different days.

[00:10:22]>> You still can crack her within one day.

[00:10:26]Ladies, you have to remember the goal for him, for majority of men, is to get you into bed as soon as possible. And all of these dating strategies in the first couple of dates is basically how to get you into bed. Majority of men don't care about you. We don't care about your personality. We don't care uh who you are. We care about what you look like, are you attracted, are you attractive to him, and how to get you into bed. And for many men, they just looking at numbers. Did I have her? Did I have her? Did I have her? Did I have her? Oh, I didn't have her. That's intriguing. Maybe I'll come back to that later.

[00:11:05]And the strategies that many guys do.

[00:11:07]Oh, dear. I know. Like so many. It's so many. So, one of the most kind of like interesting one or cheeky one or sneaky one is when guys pretend to be good guys, you know? Also, we start because men research this stuff. We read a lot of pickup artist books. There's so many bestsellers. How to get beautiful women into bed. The game is so many bestsellers and they are very catchy to read. I read them. I read them all multiple times. I have them on me like word by word tried out as well. So, I spot these things very quickly. I also lived in London for a very long time where men read these books like majority of men have these books on their bookshelves at home. And um so one of the most common strategy um in UK I would say is the nice guy strategy cuz when you're playing the nice guy card, this is when women start to trust you like the fastest. And um this is how it's played. It's basically he comes on a date with you and he's very opened.

[00:12:15]He's emotionally very open, very available. He's asking you all the vulnerable questions. He's going deep into conversations. It seems like he's opening up about his past, about his exes, about his vulnerabilities, about everything. So, you bond to him as soon as possible. So, he does it. Sometimes guys get girls by the end of the night.

[00:12:41]Sometimes they just like sitting there bonding with you over a bottle of wine till midnight and then he's like, "Oh, would you like to sleep over, you know, and then obviously you're vulnerable cuz you feel you bonded to him and stuff like that." And then that's it. You guys have intimacy and then he's gone the next day like nothing happened like he couldn't care less about you cuz all of it was a strategy. And yes, this is very cruel for me personally because I have heard it from my clients a million of times. Um I'm quite what's the word? I'm a little bit um you know like when you hear the same thing over and over again, I'm not that emotional towards it, but it is very very cruel. And God forbid you're in that situation and God forbid you fall for this type of guy. Cuz it depends on a woman as well. If a if for a woman she's like very naive and she believes all of that stuff and she didn't have that many guys and this happens to her, obviously she's going to be completely crushed. For a different type of girl, maybe it's not going to be such a big deal. But yeah, >> men are not master manipulators. I've worked male-dominated jobs throughout my entire life since I was 18 and I'm 33 now. And I've known men throughout my whole life and I can guarantee you and assure you with 100% certainty that men are not master manipulators. What it is is women sometimes blind themselves to the red flags. Now, if you're not aware of the red flags and you get played, you are a victim 100%. If he manipulates you truly and he lies to you and leads you on without you knowing the reality of the situation, that does make you a victim. But there are cases in which women have spoken to me on here and they've told me straight up that a man wants nothing serious with him. He's not looking for commitment. And then they continue to talk to this man, hoping that he'll change his mind somewhere down the line. Five, six, seven months passed. They've hooked up. They've slept together. They've done the whole boyfriend girlfriend activities. And now she's complaining to me, talking to me about why won't this man commit? He told you initially that he didn't want to commit and he wasn't going to commit.

[00:14:47]You fell for the illusion and the potential. These two ideas are mutually exclusive. The idea that women are more emotionally intelligent than men and the idea that men are master manipulators somehow. Those two cannot exist in the same breath. If women were more emotionally intelligent than men, they wouldn't be getting played as much or as often as they are. And if men were truly master manipulators, they wouldn't say the same things to every single woman.

[00:15:11]And I know that happens because women have told me myself when I'm talking to a woman, I'm dating a woman. I bet you say that to every other woman. That is how I know that these specific kinds of women don't know what a master manipulator is because a master manipulator isn't going to say the same thing to every woman. He's going to switch it up so that he doesn't get exposed. A lot of these dudes are just inconsistent and they're just liars.

[00:15:31]That's all that it is. That doesn't make them master manipulators. A master manipulator is someone who is extremely intelligent, eloquent. They're clever and they're crafty with their words and they're smart. They're on their [ __ ] I myself do believe that women tend to be more emotionally intelligent than men.

[00:15:46]But I don't believe that men are these master manipulators with intelligence and who are clever like women usually describe them. How is this dude who barely knows how to wipe his ass and clean himself? Able to play five, six women simultaneously. He can barely articulate himself. The last time he read a book was in first grade that you call that a master manipulator. Tell him Zeus.

[00:16:05]>> That is not a master manipulator.

[00:16:07]>> Women lie to themselves when they're in love. When they're in love, they tell themselves a whole bunch of BS in their head and they think it's true when it's really not. I know one day he's going to stop cheating on me. He's going to be loyal. No, he's not. I know one day we're going to get married because he told me we're going to get married. No, y'all not. I know one day he's going to leave his wife and he's going to be with me and I'm going to be his wife. No, you're not. I know one day he's going to leave his family and come be with me and our family. No, you're not. You're going to be a secret. When a woman's in love, she ignores all the red flags. The red flags be right in front of her face and she don't care. Straight up.

[00:16:42]>> He wasn't a master manipulator. Maybe lowkey you're just kind of gullible and dumb.

[00:16:46]>> Ding ding ding ding ding. I've made several videos on this very topic where women are trying to put out there that men are these master manipulators. They are these Denzel Washington Oscar winning level actors. that they're these sort of con men from uh you know Oceans 11, Oceans 12 with George Clooney.

[00:17:10]Absolutely not.

[00:17:12]>> Like maybe the man saying I love you 2 weeks in like actually maybe was just kind of pulling one over on you but you believed him because you want to be loved. I let the record show that's still manipulation but it's certainly not master manipulating. That's like lowgrade average boring like not impressive manipulation.

[00:17:29]>> Exactly. such low-level manipulation.

[00:17:32]You should not be getting fooled by this. This is what I call willful acknowledgement or willful acceptance of the manipulation because you want this fantasy, this madeup story to be true, even though you know it's not.

[00:17:50]>> I mean, it's never your fault if someone treats you poorly, but there are steps you can take to prevent being treated poorly in many cases. It's like he's saying he likes you so much talking to you every single day for 2 weeks and then you sleep with him and then after that he doesn't talk to you anymore.

[00:18:01]Yeah, that's manipulative. It's certainly not master manipulation.

[00:18:04]Certainly certainly you could have taken steps to prevent yourself from getting as hurt as you did.

[00:18:10]>> Like requiring a commitment before you give the gentleman your box. There's a lot of different things you can do to head off such manipulation, especially this lower level manipulation that we all should be able to recognize because it's such a low level.

[00:18:27]>> Again, not to take away from the fact that there are so many men out there who actually read books. I mean, you heard the lady, you saw the video. Do all of that just to get with women, just to, you know, get to bed with women quickly, just to h get a woman, to get into relationships with them and so on as well. So many men do that. Okay. But then what we are talking about now is the fact that there are so many women who maybe for whatever reason overlook certain things you know allow certain things certain behaviors you know maybe hoping that they can change them hoping that you know they can be better people maybe they've been through stuff themselves and they kind of feel or have empathy to for them or towards them and because of that they become blind to some of the red flags and then they end up being victims or prey to some of these men. Also, there's a lot of women like one of the ladies said who believe that they it can never be them. You know, they are the exception. Oh, he did this and that to this lady. Oh, he's been like this and that to that person. Oh, he has two baby mothers somewhere. He was not treating his wife well. Oh, uh, he doesn't take care of his kids. Oh, uh, he doesn't help around the house. But somehow they believe they are the exception. He's not going to do that with me. He's never going to do that with me. Maybe you are the reason why he's like that. And so they end up in relationships with them only to find out that they got the same guy. And we keep talking about this. and the fact that there's so many women who also turn a blind eye to some of these behaviors of some of these men because they like them, you know, and yes, like one of the videos I posted some time ago, one of the ladies said in there, if a woman loves you enough, she will lie to herself for you. And it's true. And those things happen as well. So, it's not always dark manipulative tactics or he manipulated me or he lied. If you're willing to listen, if you're willing to hear them, if you're willing to go home and rethink about everything that was said to you instead of creating this whole fantasy in your head about this person, maybe you may avoid some of these situations. That's what we are saying. But then again, there are men like that out there who behave like that, who can go after gullible women or pull a fast one on certain women. And that is also true. So yeah, let me know your thoughts about all of this and I'll see you again another one. Take care of yourselves and one another.