Why You Give Better Advice to Others Than Yourself🤯 #mindset #psychology #growth

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[00:00:00]Number six is the Solomon advice. And this one says that we give better advice to others than to ourselves. For example, you tell your friend to leave a toxic a relationship because it's unhealthy for them, but you yourself stay in one. Emotional bias clouds our self-judgment, and we are often inclined to help others and to do the best for them, but we do not realize that for the same problem, we are applying a different criteria for ourselves. The way how we can overcome this paradox when we are stuck on a decision, is imagine that we are giving this advice to a friend, even though you're actually giving it to yourself. Because when you think through this perspective again as another person, you end up giving better advice. But then you need to apply that advice to yourselves and actually actually do the thing you recommend to your friend. If my best friend would be in the exactly same situation, what advice would I tell them? And then do that. This second step is as important as telling this friendly advice to yourself, because when you just keep talking about it without doing it, you will keep being stuck. Another you can overcome this paradox is the empty chair method. And this is that you imagine a chair next to you, and on that chair is sitting an older, wiser version of you.

[00:01:12]It can be either your wise friend sitting on that chair giving you the advice. Or what I find even better is imagining yourself 10 years from now, your wiser version. And what would that person tell you to do in your stuck position? We are often stuck because we are not keeping any distance between our thoughts and actions. These two exercises gives us this psychological distance that we need to gain the clarity and to separate our thoughts, which are often misleading and not right, and as we can see full of paradoxes, from actions that we can do to get out of them.