Your Gut Was Right

[00:00:00]We can tell we've met a predator. We already we know the minute we see them.

[00:00:04]We've actually spotted them. She said because the way that their their face tends to be too symmetrical and the way they convey information is a little off.

[00:00:13]It's backwards to what normal people do.

[00:00:16]And there's a lack of depth to them. And there is. If you even in the Here I think about it. I'm a psychologist. I know what deep work looks like. I can even do deep work myself. That If you look at his meeting with me, what he shared, it was shallow.

[00:00:31]And he didn't go further than 1 mm of distance into why he did whatever he did. Married four times, he blamed all the exes. And even though his explanation sounded sort of like logical, like a little bit of thought, if you really dissect it, there wasn't any thought. There was no deep, you know, dark night of the soul for him figuring out why he had four failed relationships. But he What is what she said. We pick this all up. I was aware of it. I I picked it up. I felt it. This feels shallow. I even say that in the book. This feels shallow. He hasn't done the deeper work here. But she said, but we unconsciously are drawn to want to tuck ourselves in as that person's ally so that because we recognize they're a wolf and we're hoping they won't eat us or at least eat us less.