If you keep replying, they’ll keep clinging

[00:00:00]If you allow clingers to be in your life, and you keep engaging with them, they're going to keep clinging cuz you're giving them what they want. Let's see what this next person has going on right now.

[00:00:10]>> The men that I go on two or three dates with that are just clinging and I have such a hard time.

[00:00:16]>> Yeah. So, >> I'm so bad at that.

[00:00:17]>> you're allowed to assert a boundary in a loving and compassionate way without feeling bad because you're just not feeling it.

[00:00:26]I think there's something around being willing to speak your truth more and asking for what you need. And if someone overrides that, they don't have your best intention at heart.

[00:00:37]>> Right.

[00:00:37]>> And then you have to be willing to see that and go, "I'm I don't need to respond again."

[00:00:42]>> Right.

[00:00:42]>> So, >> Right.

[00:00:43]>> if you allow clingers to be in your life, and you keep engaging with them, they're going to keep clinging cuz you're giving them what they want. It's like someone who baits you and you just take the bait.

[00:00:51]>> Right.

[00:00:52]>> So, I think like loving yourself enough to say no.

[00:00:55]I'm choosing me because if I choose me, then I'm going to have everything I want. But if I waste all this time and energy on people I'm not interested in, I'm in a way leaking my energy.

[00:01:05]>> Totally.

[00:01:05]>> You don't want to leak your energy.

[00:01:06]>> Yeah. Leaking, that's yeah. Yeah, leaking energy, that's so true.

[00:01:10]>> People leak energy all the time. They're like begging someone to love them or like they're wanting to be heard and their partner doesn't hear them and they keep trying and it's like just read the room.

[00:01:20]This person is showing you who they are, believe it.