“Omg you people can’t do anything”

[00:00:00]You people can't do anything. I fear that's the whole point of a disability.

[00:00:06]I'm laying in bed for just a gif the other day. I'm quite overcome with the anxieties of being so far ahead in the future in my mind that 30 minutes turns into a couple of hours. Then it dawns upon me that it is now dusk and I shall get up and feed myself and the cats.

[00:00:28]Meow, they say as they are looking up at me, wondering why I haven't got out of bed yet. That was the exact moment that I came across something that spiked my cortisol levels. I'll say a Tik Tok user shares that they're agorophobic and that feeling they get when their safe person walks away from them. Fair enough. I say that's the thing with agorophobia. It is very anxietyinducing to be far away from what you deem as a safe and comfortable space, which for most people, if not everyone, who has agorophobia, is their house. When you're out of the house, far away from your deemed safe and comfort space, having a safe person there with you, readily available to help you in a moment's notice if universe forbid anything is to happen, such as panic attacks.

[00:01:27]It then comes to the part that really raised my cortisol levels, if I do say so myself. Can you people do anything?

[00:01:38]Can you people maybe just afford a little crumb of empathy? Or is everyone's brains rotted from the hatefilled propaganda on social media? I mean, please. It is one thing to not understand how a mental illness operates. It can especially be hard when you yourself have never had to deal with anything close to that. Nor do you know anybody else who's had to deal with that sort of stuff either. Coming from somebody who has had severe anxiety for pretty much my entire life. You guys already know this if you are a seasoned member of Yappersville a couple of years ago. It almost developed into something like that. And that was really scary to go through. It was very scary to feel so disassociated and out of my body any time I left the house because traumatic things happened to me and therefore I was like, "Okay, these traumatic things are going to keep happening to me every time I go outside the house." My brain was associating these things with being outside and so I would have panic attacks whenever I left the house. There are still days where it attacks me out of nowhere and there's nothing I can do to really control that. But I really am at my wit's end with social media and just the utter lack of empathy, the utter lack of care for one another that we see now. You may be somebody who doesn't really care about the saying, "Well, OMG, you people can't do anything. Can you people do anything?" A lot of the willful ignorance and just the blatant insensitivity that we see surrounding viewing people's unfortunate reality when it does come to mental disorders, mental illnesses, disabilities. I think a part of that can be attributed to one single tweet. Now, I'm not going to blame this person who tweeted this because to be quite honest, what they were quote tweeting was a little ridiculous, admittedly. And I really don't think the original poster of this quote tweet is responsible for what comes after that because you can't control everybody's actions. Regardless of this tweet existing or not, people were always going to have very little empathy for the quirky, weird people who struggle with the really weird and quirky [ __ ] in life. And I think that people took a very simple, funny tweet and ran all the way to the ends of the earth with it. We don't talk enough about how stressful Halloween costumes are for the ADHD community. Bit of a silly tweet. You are absolutely not required to dress up for Halloween if that is something you wish you don't want to participate in. Nobody's holding a gun to your head. Simply just don't dress up if you don't want to. I don't know, just a hunch. But when I saw this tweet at the time, I was like, she isn't being serious. Like, this is very clearly a joke. And then of course comes the infamous quote tweet. OMG, you people can't do anything. And there starts a movement of people having attributed them getting up and doing something about their ADHD to this very tweet. What's rather interesting about the origins of this tweet is that the original tweet was actually a joke. The original poster comes forward earlier this year and writes, "What lives rentree in your mind? probably that time I couldn't master the executive functioning required for a Halloween costume. So, I tweeted a joke making fun of myself about it and the entire internet took it seriously and dragged me forever until the end of time. But especially every October. As far as I'm aware, I don't have ADHD and even I can say that when Halloween rolls around, I um I'm kind of crippled by choice. You would think that with Halloween being my favorite holiday of the year that I know what I want to dress up as and all that sort of [ __ ] I don't know why, but for the past five or six years consecutively, I just I can't do it. I can't do it. For some reason, the entire month of October, I'm just [ __ ] spiraling about it. And then I don't even bother dressing up at all because I'm just like, I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. In other words, it's stressful. I don't know why nobody's forcing me to dress up. It's just my mind constantly playing games with me. A lot of people with ADHD struggle with this thing called executive dysfunction.

[00:06:18]This is something that is defined as an inability to kind of focus, remember things, and being unable to multitask.

[00:06:28]There's really so much that goes into it. It's not really knowing how to manage time efficiently. It's constantly forgetting things. Even if someone's like, "Hey, can you take out the trash?"

[00:06:38]And you're like, "Yep, I'll take out the trash." And then it's 6 p.m. and you still haven't taken it out. And for those who are unaware, ADHD is also classified as a disability. So even if this person made a joke tweet, it's not entirely unreasonable that a disability sort of disables you from doing certain things. And depending on the severity of one's ADHD, it can absolutely get in the way of various different things in life.

[00:07:12]So when people say to you, "OMG, can you people do anything?" Yes, but also no.

[00:07:18]With a topic like this, it is obviously very nuanced, right? because you have certainly met people in life who makes every excuse under the sun as to why they cannot complete this task or why they can't do this that and the other and it's always because of their ADHD or their anxiety or something like that, right? And I can most certainly speak on this with such confidence because I used to be one of those people. I'm going to dangle myself in front of you guys like a [ __ ] carrot. I am going to, you know, be accountable in that I used to make every excuse under the sun as to why I couldn't do something because of my anxiety, because of my panic disorder and all these sorts of things. And yes, whilst they can most certainly explain why you behave a certain way or maybe why you can't do something that day, I do believe that for some people, they use it as an excuse as to why they can't do anything. And that's the thing is that it's an incredibly nuanced topic because these things can prevent you from being able to do normal life things that people who don't have this sort of [ __ ] otherwise could complete normally could do normally. At one point in my life, it was certainly not healthy for me to be essentially making my mental illnesses my personality and it really limited me in life. I would constantly say no to hangouts with friends and you know most of them don't even message me anymore to hang out because you know why I always said no I can't I'm anxious I'm depressed blah blah blah and it prevented a lot of progress it is raining really hard outside so if you guys can hear that I'm sorry like my roof is tin I'm not even joking you like it it is literal tin material I wanted to progress from being a depressed aggressive fart to I don't know more of a smiley shot if you will. A lot of people talk about shame based motivation being something that helps them quite a great deal with struggling to hold themselves accountable. To address the obvious, being physically disabled is totally different. You can't exactly motivate yourself to get up and go for a walk cuz you don't got any [ __ ] legs.

[00:09:45]When it comes to these more mental issues, whether they be illnesses, disorders, or disabilities, there is actually a very wide population of people who truly do believe that those who do struggle with these kinds of issues are constantly using it as an excuse to do nothing. But it does get to a point when this phrase is being used by people who are openly abbleist and ignorant.

[00:10:16]>> Loki, the you people can't do anything tweet has caused irreparable damage to the neurody diverent community because oh, how are you guys using that for motivation? Someone had it printed out on their wall. They're like it's the only thing that motivates me. I'm sorry.

[00:10:26]Do we have a different type of disorder?

[00:10:28]What are you talking about? It's the only thing that motivates you. Shame based motivation is not the best motivator like by far in its original context. The tweet's kind of funny. Yes, in the context of picking a Halloween costume, but people will put it in the comment sections of people who are genuinely struggling. Like they're being vulnerable on the internet and expressing that yes, they know they're struggling with things that seem simple to other people, but they're genuinely struggling. And someone puts in the comments, "Oh my god, you people can't do anything. Oh my god, I know. No [ __ ] I know I can't do anything." What? I don't understand why this tweet prevails in the most inappropriate circumstances.

[00:11:01]Does that make sense?

[00:11:01]>> No, because that does make so much sense. It's one thing seeing people not being able to think for themselves and they need [ __ ] AI chat bots like chat GPT to form a decision. Something that they should be able to form on their own. Like of course you can have people to point you in the right direction and get advice from people, but from an AI chatbot, something that always gets [ __ ] wrong. When it comes to people who opt in to not doing anything, oh well, I don't know how to do anything without the presence of chat GBT. I can't draw.

[00:11:39]I'm not going to learn, so I'm going to use generative AI. And it's like when we see those sorts of people, I totally see why someone would just say like, can you people genuinely do anything? I actually saw a really funny tweet the other day addressing just that. Oh, cute earrings.

[00:11:56]No idea. AI earrings that whisper to you and help you make decisions. If you can't decide between cutting your arm off or not cutting your arm off, and you need an AI bot to help you choose between one of those options, I fear you're a [ __ ] idiot. Big stinking idiot. And look, I think everybody's been there and done dumb [ __ ] right? We we we've all possessed a level of dumb arcery in our past. However, it's not quite the same with people who talk to chat GPT on a regular basis needing it to make any decision. I saw this one story one time. Someone was like, "There was a strange liquid on my countertop and I asked Chat GPT what it could be."

[00:12:47]I I sent it a photo and I'm thinking to myself, you could smell it, you could touch it. Like, I I don't know. There's so many things that you could do before like asking Chat GPT. It It's not in your house. It doesn't [ __ ] know. You know who's in your house and who could know? You [ __ ] You smell it. And it ended up being cat piss. And it's like, how the [ __ ] was chat GBT going to know that? Someone quote tweets this saying, "OMG, you people can't do anything, which is literal. They don't even have an excuse." Yet you'll see somebody who is clearly struggling with a mental illness or a mental disability and all of a sudden just because you don't deal with it, you're normal, you're fine. It means that there aren't other people out there who are unable to do things that normal, regular, okay people in the head can do. And I just hate that. And I heavily sympathize with people who do have ADHD because I have loved ones who have ADHD. And I see it just destroys them. It really [ __ ] does. And it's really hard for them to try and exist in a world that doesn't really take them all that serious. And it's unfortunate, you know, because it does sound like an excuse, but with mental disorders, illnesses, disabilities, sometimes you are genuinely not in [ __ ] control.

[00:14:08]They are the ones that are in the driving seat.

[00:14:10]>> Like, it's the same [ __ ] you've been hearing your whole life, and it's tied to some of the worst moments of your life. If you have autism or ADHD, the feeling like, "Oh my god, I want to do something, but I can't." And someone rubbing in your face. Oh, yep. That's exactly what I needed. I feel great now.

[00:14:24]Let's let's get on with my day. you solved all of my problems. Can we please can we let this tweet die? And every's like, it's not that big of a deal. Oh my god, when did I ever say it was that big of a deal? It's called a discussion.

[00:14:34]It's called a discussion. And this tweet is laden with abbleism, especially in the way that people use it. The context in which people are using it is very inappropriate. People just can't fathom having a conversation nor discussion and it not being tied to this massive grandiose big [ __ ] deal. Bear with me here, okay? But I think it's almost giving PickMe in regards to the people who are like, "I don't know why you are so upset over the tweet itself. It's really not that bad. It helps me get out of bed every day. Like I use it as motivation. I I printed it out on my [ __ ] wall and I just love it. I have the shirt of it. I have the [ __ ] mug.

[00:15:20]I have hat that say, "OMG, you people can't do anything." It doesn't help other people. What can you not understand about that? Something that happens quite a great deal these days.

[00:15:30]And I don't know if you guys have noticed this or not, but take anxiety for example, right? Someone will have anxiety and they believe that they are the only spokesperson on that. What they go through is only valid. They can't fathom other people suffering more, struggling more, having it worse than them. These things are so complex. It reminds me of those kinds of people who are like, "Well, I've had depression before. I've struggled with depression before, but I've never struggled getting into the shower or I I've never had any hygiene issues. So, I don't understand why people with depression struggle with it so much." And it's like, yeah, cuz there's there's levels to that [ __ ] right? There are layers there. There are some people who don't have it as bad as other people. And that's not invalidating what you are going through.

[00:16:25]It is just saying that it's sort of like I wouldn't say a spectrum because for some reason I'm just not really a big fan of that word. It's just different for everybody. Not everybody is going through the exact same thing just because you share a diagnosis. Some people are high functioning, some people are low functioning. How the [ __ ] have we forgotten that? And you know what?

[00:16:48]Don't burn the witch. But I'm just saying this phrase is incredibly overused and is always used at the most inappropriate of situations. Some people genuinely can't do [ __ ] anything when they're in the thick of it. Not able to get my license, not able to get a job, not able to grow up, all because of some silly anxiety disorder. I feel for this girl. I really do. Having these sorts of issues in life is just it it's so hard to deal with because most people around you are like just get the [ __ ] up and do it. Why can't you do it? There's something wrong with you. You're broken.

[00:17:27]You're damaged goods. Like that's how people treat you when you have these sorts of issues. And it's really sad honestly because if you've had the fortunate experience, you know, going through life without having any of these sort of mental illnesses, disorders, or disabilities, and you're just Spongebob personified, I get why it would potentially be a little bit hard to understand why people in these sorts of circumstances couldn't do anything. I hope this girl realizes that she's not as alone as she thinks. I am 24 and as much as people think that I've got all my [ __ ] together, I don't have my license still. Funnily enough, not so funny cuz it was not funny whatsoever. I had a mental breakdown about just that.

[00:18:18]I was like, I feel so [ __ ] useless sometimes because I let anxiety just get in the [ __ ] way of everything, even with driving, even with something that is very important for me to do. You know, I'm 25 this year and I'm tired of being bullied about it. I'm tired of constantly [ __ ] hearing [ __ ] about it like, "Oh, Caitlyn, you can't drive. You can't drive yourself yet." Dude, do you really think that I want to be relying on other people? I quite literally never ask people to drive me anywhere because I hate it. It feels so shameful. I feel useless as [ __ ] Having these issues is so debilitating because everyone around you is like, why do you have that anxiety? Like they treat it like it's a little bit of butterflies or a little bit of normal nervousness, you know, like, oh, you know, I'm a I'm a little nervous to get into a car and be on the road in a vehicle. Like, no. I have frequent nightmares about being the driver of a car and crashing the [ __ ] car. And I think I just got to a point where I'm so [ __ ] tired of being ashamed of things that I couldn't control. I couldn't control the severity of my anxiety. I hate when people think that they are like, oh my, it's literal hypocrite right here. I hate when people think that they are useless and I I just think I'm useless. Um, yeah. Okay, sure.

[00:19:43]This generation is full of victims. And then he makes another comment saying the issue is the nose ring. Oh no, I have nose rings too. [ __ ] Something that I've come to notice about this topic and other videos that I have on my channel relating to this very topic is just how connected this all is. People often nowadays have such a strong sense of a superiority complex. We see it being played out time and time again. People with low emotional intelligence see someone, this someone can't do normal everyday things and this other person feels like they are in a position of power because that person can do the things that the broken, mentally ill, mentally disordered person can't. It's only ever the weird people with the weird disorders and mental illnesses and disabilities who cop it the most. I guarantee you if this girl talking about her anxiety was talking about how she has a little bit of butterflies and she didn't have a big septum ring in her nose, she would not have gotten the level of hate that she did. With all of that being said, I really appreciate your time here in Yappisville today. Let me know what you think about today's topic in the comments section below. And if there is anything that you would like me to discuss here on Drama Queen, email me at dramaqu queeneen [email protected].

[00:21:14]Take care of yourselves and most of all, love your [ __ ] selves.