Many People Love Being Competitive Victims

[00:00:00]What up? What up? Many people love being competitive victims. Anytime someone else opens up to them about their problems, they have to redirect the attention towards themselves and being the victim. This comes from ego, going through hardship and surviving. They box themselves in and see themselves [music] as the victim, that everyone else has it better than them. This only destroys empathy and vulnerability. They shut down every time someone else wants to talk about something that has happened to them. They turn struggle and experience into competitive victimhood.

[00:00:34]This causes other people to not want to open up to them. They know they won't listen to anything. And real empathy shows when there's vulnerability. That is when the capacity for it is revealed.

[00:00:46]These relationships start to feel very disconnected. People can't communicate, be open, talk about their life or experiences [music] without feeling bad about it, without feeling shame, and like they are being judged. The focus always goes back to whoever sees themselves [music] as a victim. Real connection involves understanding. It doesn't mean being an emotional tampon and having everyone vent on you. It means listening when it's really needed.

[00:01:14]This is one of the struggles that many people face. They try to open up to someone who sees themselves as the victim, as the one with struggles, the one who survived, and then [music] get shut down for it. They are made to feel like they aren't allowed to have problems [music] or issues, when everyone does to some extent. Opening up your mind, letting your ego relax, not getting so defensive when someone else wants to be heard, is how you can truly empathize with them and allow them to be vulnerable. Longer videos on my YouTube, drizzle drizzle.