Why White Women Dating Black Men Triggers So Many People

[00:00:00]black men. So, to all the people that are like hating on my videos, why? Like, what is wrong with me trying to put some good energy out there and support a group of people that are not normally supported? I I don't get it.

[00:00:18]Like, why do you have to be such a hater? What's the problem? Are you jealous? Are you so angry that I'm being nice and trying to lift some people up? Like what are you so bored that you have got nothing better to do but just to hate on like the internet? I don't understand. Um and if you don't like what I'm saying, then just move on.

[00:00:42]That's the beauty of personal choices is if there's something that you're seeing that you don't like, just forward.

[00:00:49]That's how easy it is today. I don't get it. Seeing a beautiful black woman with a white man will almost certainly trigger a white woman's main character syndrome every time. If you're a white woman that follows me right now, you better not be getting that thumb ready to scroll, please. Cuz that was embarrassing. What happened on that other video? Don't do that. Stay and listen. Like, you would want a man to stay and listen when I talk [ __ ] about men. Be the change you want to see in the world. Okay. Now, you may have heard me talk about main character syndrome in men, which is the idea that they are the main character and that everybody else around them fits into that narrative somehow, either as the sidekick, either as the villain, the mentor, etc. And when you are raised in a hierarchy, especially again a hierarchy that involves race as explicitly as the American hierarchy involves it, it's turtles all the way down. It's the same thing all the way down. While white men definitely do have the most amount and like the most egregious case of main character syndrome, everybody who participates in the American hierarchy, in the American cast system, all of these behaviors and actions like they trickle all the way down. Yes, white men have like this very intense main character syndrome, but white women have also been given a very specific narrative about their place in that situation, and so they also have main character syndrome. That's where when a white man marries a black woman, it triggers white women's narrative. It triggers the narrative that that something was taken from them because their whole life they grew up watching white Disney princesses end up with a white Disney prince. That's how it goes.

[00:02:19]That's how you play the game, right? You take this doll and this doll and they go together and that's how you play the game. What's triggered is that you are not supposed to be part of that narrative in any way. As a black woman, you are not supposed to reap the benefits of being this close to the top of the hierarchy, right? It's almost like they see it in their eyes as like you've skipped a few steps on the ladder and you've ended up like, you know, in a place that they could have gotten. It's kind of like that problem that white people have with affirmative action, right? It's like, well, what if there was a white person that was qualified to take that spot and you just took it from them? Like, don't you feel bad? And this is why affirmative action is needed because people think like that. Like, you just told on yourself very loudly.

[00:02:57]But that's what it is. They are also confused because a white man isn't supposed to want a black woman. Like a white man is also supposed to be trained to want a white woman, to want the like the aesthetic, right, of a white woman.

[00:03:09]And just for everybody wondering how I know these things, it's it's education.

[00:03:13]Yes, some of it is observation, but it's reading books by black educators, but especially black women. I do Audible a lot. Like, I actually have read a lot more than this, but I do a lot of Audible. So, I'll just screenshot some recommendations for any other white people uh wanting to get educated. Um, you can know these things in your heart.

[00:03:29]You can know things are wrong in your heart, but to actually be able to educate others or like put words to these things that actually like make sense, you have to listen to black women especially. white women speaks on her dating life dating black men >> without there being an entire uproar is genuinely sad and is a reflection of how our white supremacist society feels about black men. Like genuinely, I could come on here and say that I love black women and no one would bat an eye. But the fact that all of a sudden black men are involved, somehow there isn't a genuine reason to love black men. So many Americans minds are still so colonized and still so indoctrinated by racial pseudocience from hundreds of years ago is astounding. There is so much work that needs to be done. Like people cannot fathom the fact that I could love a black man for something aside from his body. can't fathom the fact that I genuinely enjoy being around black men.

[00:04:34]A lot of the times when I'm with white men, I feel unseen. I feel more objectified because I feel like white men don't understand me as a person as much as a black man would because at least black men understand what it's like to be like sexualized and objectified. So there's some level of understanding. Although it's completely different, there's still, I feel, like greater empathy that I experience between myself and a black man than with me and a white man. Just based off my personal dating history, the black men that I have dated have been the most genuine, kind people.

[00:05:16]Like there are reasons that I could prefer to date people that aren't just based off their bodies. And the fact that folks can't process that is like y'all really don't view black men as anything else than a body. Also, these people say that I'm stealing black men away. Like they don't have autonomy in their decisions.

[00:05:40]And it's so sad to me because there have been white women have come to me and said, "I was thinking about dating black men, but I'm scared of what the white community will think or I'm scared of being judged by white people." And it's like, that is so sad. Like, black men are already the most terrorized, villainized people in our country. And the fact that they aren't allowed to have genuine love towards them or it's not even understood that they could possibly be lovable people is insane. So yeah, this is why I'm so passionate about it because like literally like white people refuse to talk about these things. And it's like if we continue to just be silent on things because we're afraid we're going to be a bad person for slipping up somehow, like nothing's going to change.

[00:06:34]Watch a racist watch a racist man chat about a Jamaican lady and hate seeing white girls with black guys. No sir, you have to watch the people like him know [laughter and crying] the rotten apple the impers.

[00:06:56]No problem.

[00:06:58]Me love and my husband love me and my kids. All right.

[00:07:03]Good luck. That's not the only reason, but yes, a lot of men, black men in particular, date white women because one, they're antilack. They have internalized racism, and two, a lot of them feel like moving up in the world requires being with, dating, marrying a white woman because they are of a higher social class. This is why you see so many professional football players with white wives. They're in a new socioeconomic status by being with a white woman. A lot of those white women come from Lenny. Black people who are antilack, mostly men, tend to have mixed children because they want to soften the features in themselves that they hate.

[00:07:45]Antilackness is literally everywhere.

[00:07:47]You know, uh saying good hair versus bad hair. Don't stay in the sun too long.

[00:07:53]Light skin is the right skin. Yes, I heard that growing up. People who date outside of their race often have internalized racism.

[00:08:00]>> The [ __ ] people say when they find out you with a black man or a mixed man, a person of color is ridiculous. There are so many rumors about black men, it's not even funny. And it's disgusting to be honest. And I feel bad for anyone who's actually mixed as well because they get the brunt of everything. Like if you mix with one or more things in your life, you get everything thrown at you. the expectations, the judgment, the prejudices. Oh gosh, y'all y'all should be ashamed of asking and even thinking some of the things that you say is honestly I'm getting humiliated and I'm embarrassed for your behavior.

[00:08:40]And that's my husband. My husband was the first person to tell me he didn't care what my skin color looked like and he thought it was beautiful. [laughter] That [ __ ] made me almost freaking spit out my food that I was eating. I was like, you said what? I thought we just had this big connection and we just fell in love like when we were middle school and it just grew and grew and grew and then before you knew it now we married.

[00:09:02]But turns out turns out some people actually like fair skin. Or some people better yet don't give a [ __ ] and that's not what they worried about. Huh?

[00:09:13]Imagine that.

[00:09:15]Imagine that. He ain't worried about my skin color. But everyone in my life is not only worried about my skin color, but they worried about his skin color, too.

[00:09:26]And the imaginary children they created in their heads between us.

[00:09:31]No, we're adopting cuz there's so many kids that need homes. You know what I'm saying? So, do you, we going to do us.

[00:09:40]>> Would you rather your girlfriend cheat on you with five white guys or room guy?

[00:09:44]>> Five white guys. Five white guys. Five white guys all day long.

[00:09:46]>> All day long.

[00:09:48]>> Yeah. As a married man. I'm telling you, I've been I was married for 10 years.

[00:09:51]>> No confidence as a black guy. Make my wife cheat on me with five white guys.

[00:09:54]Then having a black a black guy, man.

[00:09:56]>> Five white guys cuz she's going to come back. One black guy, she never coming back.

[00:10:00]>> Oh [ __ ] >> 100% 100%.

[00:10:01]>> Why do you prefer to white guys though?

[00:10:03]>> Because absolutely as as a white guy, I'm telling you right now, because if you admit your girl to a a black girl, dude, you're [ __ ] For me, my confidence and me knowing what I have, >> you know, five guys ain't want me. No problem.

[00:10:17]>> I don't know about that. That that ain't no problem for me. Okay.

[00:10:20]>> But one guy, dude, you're [ __ ] You're [ __ ] You're losing, right?

[00:10:23]>> Yeah, you're a loser.

[00:10:24]>> Especially if you're African. God damn it, man. That shit's going to hurt my heart, gang.

[00:10:29]>> So, the whole reason I made this post was because I saw some white woman saying that every time she goes to the mall with her black boyfriend, she's constantly getting dirty looks from black women. And I will never deny that on an individual basis, you can have a bad interaction with a black woman who doesn't like the fact that you're in an interracial relationship, just like you can with a black man or a white woman or a white man. What I will deny is this notion that widescale black women just don't like interracial relationships because it's not true. What I'm seeing consistently with white women claiming that they're having these bad experiences with black women is either a they have implicit biases. So, they already have this idea that black women do not like them because they are dating a black man. So, if they go in public with their black boyfriend, they're going to interpret maybe a black woman just having an RBF or a black woman just staring into space as them giving them a dirty look because they are in an interracial relationship. Or B, they're the bad babies of the world. They're laying their edges, wearing rays, using AAV, saying the N-word, trying to dress in a certain way, only listening to rap music, trying to play around with guns and stuff, trying to cosplay in a way that they think that black people act like. And it's like, yeah, that's a valid critique. And I don't like that behavior either because the people who act like that always on top of all this never learn how to do black hair or anything. Never try to learn about black history, black culture, or anything.

[00:11:46]They just like the aesthetics of it, right? So, they don't have any black female friends. So, they're going to have a mixed child with this man and then totally mess that kid up because they haven't taken the time to learn about how this child would experience the world differently from them, how to do their hair, how to make them feel pretty, and how to be confident in the world, like because they just don't care. I tend to think that when people interact with the world, they're not trying to do so with malice. So, if you are one of those white women who's constantly having issues with black men, maybe you have biases that you don't know that you have, or maybe you're acting in a certain way that you don't really realize that you're doing. What I'm asking you to do right now is re-evaluate your actions and think about why they may be impacting black women the way that they are and why you're constantly having issues. Because if you're constantly having issues, it's not a them problem, it's a you problem.

[00:12:36]>> Okay, folks. Welcome back to the channel.

[00:12:39]Um um why is it that um when a lot of white folks out there or other races see their fellow people dating black people, it's always an issue? I'm talking with respect to the black, the brown, the white community. Why is it that when it always concerns the black community, it always tends uh to be a very very big issue? I mean, a lot of people are going through a lot of discrimination right now because they are dating folks who are black or I mean a lot of exclusion. Um just just take it for example, a white guy dating a black woman right now or a black woman dating a white guy. I mean, like most white women dating black guys are always seen as the excluded ones.

[00:13:36]And um I mean I mean most white women now are coming online on social media talking about the whole situation and about dating black men. and they're talking about their own fellow race saying they really disapprove of the fact that they are going out to take black men that they are seen as different as weird. I mean like why is this um a really really big issue? I mean everybody has the right to choose whom they like to date. You have the right to do whatever you want in your life. I mean like why does this have to be a choice when it comes down to I mean interracial dating these days interracial dating is becoming a very very serious topic online and uh so many people are really really being hurt by these things. I mean, this is not um the 1900s where interracial dating was prohibited and uh people could get flocked on the streets for dating another race or a white person dating a black person another race could really really be a problem. A lot of white women have come online and they're talking about how when they are seen in public with white um with black men, the type of look that other white men give them and other races is kind of different rather than when they are with their own race. I mean like they sort of look at them as um a lower class white woman. And um why is this such why is such a thing still happening right now?

[00:15:12]I mean a lot of black men who date white women also have this narrative that have been pushed towards them. I mean a lot of people say that they are most of them are anti-black and then they say that most of the white women dating them are dating them for their money because statistics have shown that most white women mo only date or um most white women we date men with money. I mean like black men, successful black men who have their life together, their [ __ ] together and they have a good thing running. So that is what statistics have shown and a lot of people are saying that that is the main reason why most of these white women are going for these black men that most of them are gold diggers and um it really bothers me that much cuz genuinely some people are really really in love and they want to be part of the black community and be attached to the black community but they there's this stereotype that has been painted towards them that has really really become um a problem nowadays. So a lot of folks out there, a lot of white women and black men out there are going through a lot. I mean people of other races, people of color too are going through a lot simply for choosing who they whom they love. I mean it is really really becoming a big issue right now. I mean some people go as far as being excluded from their own community or society. Let's take for example the Italians. Most we all know that most Italians I know most Italians are very very hardworking. They are very loving. But a lot of when a lot of Italian women's when you see an Italian woman dating a black man, she is such she is I think um they always call her the excluded one. She's always excluded from their community and society simply for choosing a black man for dating a black person. And it is really really becoming a serious issue right now. A lot of white men are angry about the whole thing and um um I was reading the comments on Twitter today and some of them were absolutely hilarious. I saw um some black folks talking about how um when a white guy sees um uh a white woman dating a black man, he thinks um that that black guy 400 years ago used to be his property. And so he can't stand the fact that they used to be racially dominant and now they are in an equal society um and everybody is free to do whatever they want and did whatever they want. So I was really broken down by that comment that that person left and and um I don't really think that's true if some people out there still think that I mean you you must be really sick in your head to think that kind of a thing. But I just feel like everybody should be able to choose and date whoever they want to date. I mean, it is a free world and you have just one life. You have one shot.

[00:18:14]If he makes you happy, girl, go for him.

[00:18:16]If he makes you if she makes you happy, make sure you go for him. Don't let nobody tell you what to do. And uh um your happiness is is is your is the first thing you should prioritize. So that is it. You have just one shot. And a lot of black folks and black guys out there are doing their best and they're giving the best their utmost best in their relationships. And trust me, most of them will treat you good. So I will approve that if you have um a person of color which whom you're dating right now, be it brown, black, um treat them with utmost respect and love. And u okay guys wanted to cover that in this video. So um thanks for watching this video up until this point and uh I'll see you in the next video so we can talk about I mean a lot of issues that are happening in society right now and the interracial data. I mean, that's what this channel is all about.