Monsters Inside Me Full Episodes | S03E010 Killer in My Neck | Medical Examiner 2026

[00:00:06]nature's deadliest organisms.

[00:00:09]His head was elephant manmike. It just was grotesqually swollen.

[00:00:14]>> They can hijack our bodies.

[00:00:16]>> It was the most awful feeling I've ever experienced.

[00:00:21]disable our immune systems.

[00:00:24]>> And that can cause numerous problems for the host >> and eat us from within.

[00:00:31]>> I'm really, really, really scared. Now, >> for those infected, Lesie [music] and Patrick Abrams, Senior, head up a bustling household in Fontana, California.

[00:00:44]The Abrams have their hands full raising three [music] young boys, but look forward to visits from their oldest son, 21-year-old Patrick [music] Jr., who is living with friends and following his dream of becoming an artist.

[00:00:57]>> Patrick really enjoyed drawing. He would draw these [music] elaborate designs. I think he might have even surprised himself at um how well he could do it.

[00:01:09]he was headed in a general direction I believe of some type of computer graphic artist. So he was exploring different colleges that um might offer those types of courses for him to uh further [music] his uh his knowledge and uh interest in it.

[00:01:24]>> One spring afternoon, Patrick Jr.

[00:01:26]arrives at his family's house for a weekend of babysitting while his parents head out of town.

[00:01:32]>> Patrick was dressed in a red hoodie sweatshirt and uh some dark sunglasses.

[00:01:38]His face was kind of shrouded. I noticed he seemed to be kind of moving a little bit slow. Maybe something's not quite right. He simply [music] stated that he felt achy, feverish, and he had a really bad sore throat. I wasn't overly concerned. It was just I thought a matter of and getting some good medication and some food in him and some rest and uh that [music] he would, you know, that he would be okay in a couple of days.

[00:02:04]But a few moments later, something changes Patrick Senior's mind.

[00:02:09]>> At that point, he had removed the hoodie from his head, and I noticed directly underneath his chin on the right side, all the way to the top of his head, just it almost was elephant manlike. It just was grotesqually swollen and disportioned in shape.

[00:02:28]>> According to Patrick Jr., the strange symptoms have plagued him for weeks.

[00:02:34]Concerned, Patrick Senior investigates further.

[00:02:38]>> I removed his glasses. At that point, I noticed that his eyes were very yellow.

[00:02:44]I was very puzzled as to what could be going on.

[00:02:50]I knew that we were in trouble and that we needed to get Patrick to an emergency room as soon as possible.

[00:02:56]I loaded him up as quickly as I could.

[00:02:59]On our way there, I kept peppering Patrick with questions. Were you in a fight? Did you go to a party and maybe somebody slipped something in your drink? He emphatically denied, you know, any drugs, any alcohol, any head trauma, what he was saying [music] versus the way that he was carrying himself. It it didn't it didn't add up.

[00:03:22]>> 20 minutes later, the Abrams arrive at the hospital and Patrick Jr. is rushed into the ER.

[00:03:29]The only information that anybody could really tell me or that they were certain of was that the yellowing of the eyes indicated that the liver was shutting down.

[00:03:39]Some type of infection was attacking his organs.

[00:03:44]It's very frightening.

[00:03:47]>> Over the next few hours, doctors work furiously to determine what's causing Patrick Jr.'s bizarre symptoms.

[00:03:55]It was getting rapidly worse. I noticed in talking that he was laboring when he talked and answered questions. I hadn't really realized though that he was having trouble actually breathing. So, they were concerned with uh with his lungs and what might be going on in the chest area.

[00:04:13]>> Doctors take Patrick Jr. in for an emergency CAT scan of his chest.

[00:04:18]When the CT scans results came back, it revealed that Patrick was suffering from double pneumonia. Both lungs were riddled with pockets of infections.

[00:04:29]He's not getting any better and they still didn't have any answers.

[00:04:34]I had to come to terms that whatever was uh was inside of him basically was killing him.

[00:04:44]With his condition worsening by the minute, doctors transfer Patrick to the ICU and start him on IV antibiotics to combat the pneumonia.

[00:04:56]Lesie joins the family in the hospital and they spend the rest of the night waiting for test results.

[00:05:04]But the next morning, the Abrams receive some devastating news. Nothing that they saw or tested or anything that they did revealed what this cause was or what this infection was. And I'm really, really, really scared now.

[00:05:23]>> The doctor [music] said, "Patrick doesn't know how sick he is.

[00:05:30]He doesn't realize how sick he is."

[00:05:34]And I said, "Well, what do you mean?"

[00:05:37]The doctor explained that the infection just took charge of everything inside of him. It just was consuming him and of his organs.

[00:05:49]>> As he watches his son deteriorate, Patrick Senior is haunted by some heartbreaking memories.

[00:05:57]Blessie and I in 1995, we had a child, David, who was born born a little premature, and he'd only [music] lived for about three and a half weeks.

[00:06:08]So, I've kind of been down that road [music] before with a young one. I asked the doctor if my son was going to make it or [music] if he was going to die.

[00:06:17]And she said, "If we don't find out what's wrong, you will lose your son.

[00:06:25][music] At that point, all we could do is just pray for a miracle that somebody's going to diagnose this and figure out what's wrong with him. [music] >> At a loss to explain the symptoms, the on call doctor reviews Patrick's case with Dr. Jeffrey Roberts. [music] >> I was discussing the case with my resident. [music] He had told me some of the things that were going on with Patrick, and something came to mind that I heard about when I was a resident. I had never seen it, but um it was something that I was considering at that point. Following this hunch, Dr. Roberts examines Patrick's many CAT scans.

[00:07:00]>> I found that he had a clot in his right internal jugular vein. And this was the thing that really cinched the diagnosis.

[00:07:07]He had Lemma syndrome.

[00:07:11]Lemr syndrome is usually caused by a bacterium called fusobacterium necroorum. When the bacteria enter the bloodstream, they trigger a chain of events that can end in death.

[00:07:24]Inside Patrick's jugular vein, specialized cells surrounded the fusoacteria to kill off the infection and prevent blood loss. As more and more cells amassed around the bacteria, they formed a clot.

[00:07:38]Now, as blood passes through the vein, pieces of the infected clot splinter off and travel through Patrick's body where they block smaller vessels, causing swelling and form abscesses in the liver and lungs, resulting in organ failure.

[00:07:54]At this point, Patrick was getting worse. Without the right treatment, he would probably die.

[00:08:01]That was very scary. It was a deadly disease. It would kill you. For a father to be in that situation, helpless doesn't even begin to describe it. It scares the living daylights out of you.

[00:08:14]>> We prayed that he would hold on, but we were afraid that he was going to die.

[00:08:33]Lesie and Patrick Abrams senior are in the intensive care unit with their son Patrick Jr. who is fighting for his life.

[00:08:41]A bacterial infection called Laamir syndrome is ravaging Patrick Jr.'s body, shutting down his lungs and liver in the process. [music] >> Now we know what it is. Now, how you going to make it better? There were just so many things wrong with him at that point [music] that I wanted to make sure they could bring him back to health.

[00:09:00]>> Dr. Jeffrey Roberts starts Patrick on a specialized IV antibiotic to target the bacteria.

[00:09:08]But with the infection ravaging his body, the doctor must take more extreme measures.

[00:09:13]>> Because the infected clot that was in his jugular vein was continuing to shower these septic particles throughout his body, causing abscesses. And the decision was made that we would remove his internal jugular vein.

[00:09:26]>> The next morning, doctors prepped Patrick Jr. for surgery.

[00:09:31]>> The surgery itself was pretty risky.

[00:09:32]there was a chance that with manipulation of the vein that the clot could dislodge and travel through his heart into his lung, which would kill him.

[00:09:42]Knowing that he was going to have to have throat surgery, it was quite alarming. Anything can go wrong. So, it was something that we weren't looking forward to, but at least we knew that successful surgery would mean that they would remove the source of this infection.

[00:09:57]>> Dr. Roberts puts Patrick under general [music] anesthesia and carefully removes the infected portion of the jugular vein.

[00:10:06]An hour later, the Abrams receive a status report.

[00:10:11]>> Thankfully, the surgery went off without a hitch and we're able to remove the infected area.

[00:10:16]>> It was just a matter now of how soon the antibiotics would start to work [music] and uh we'd be able to get him out of there, you know, hopefully in a couple weeks. I was very relieved.

[00:10:28]But just [music] 4 days later, Patrick Junior's recovery comes to a grinding halt.

[00:10:34]>> He began complaining of his head hurting to the point where it was hurting him so badly, it was just unbearable.

[00:10:42]>> I went to the side of his bed and I noticed that his right eye was protruding from the eye socket. It almost looked like if you would have kind of patted him in the back of the head, his eye would have just fallen out. I became very scared that something was a miss and not right.

[00:11:02]>> Doctors perform an emergency MRI on Patrick's brain.

[00:11:08]2 hours later, a neurosurgeon visits the Abrams. The source of the protrusion was a large infectious pocket in the brain.

[00:11:17]And they were very concerned that if that medication didn't stop it from growing that he would start to have possible seizures, brain damage.

[00:11:28]>> The doctor said that surgery would need to be done.

[00:11:32]>> With Patrick's brain riddled with fuso bacteria, doctors prep him for emergency surgery.

[00:11:40]Patrick Senior remains by his son's side until the very last moment. We were both scared out of our minds.

[00:11:48]All I wanted him to know was that I loved him.

[00:11:52]And he doesn't say that he loves he doesn't say he loves you back a lot. But I remember he squeezed my hand and he said, "I love you, too, Dad."

[00:12:04]During the surgery, the medical team opens up Patrick's skull and drains the abscesses that have formed in his brain.

[00:12:14]3 hours later, doctors wheel Patrick Jr.

[00:12:16]back to his room in the ICU. First time I saw him after the brain surgery, I was really worried. Even though they tell you, you know, they're not going in the part that affects memory or or anything like that. We went into the ICU room where he was. He was smiling. [music] Said, "Hey, Dad." And he didn't have any memory loss. So, I was overall just very, very happy and relieved.

[00:12:41]>> Patrick remains in the hospital while the antibiotics work to rid his body of the lingering infection. But the Abrams are left to wonder how their son became so sick in the first place.

[00:12:53]Like many other bacteria, fusobacterium necroformum is often found in the mouths of healthy individuals. While in the mouth, the bacteria are relatively harmless. But if the person has a sore throat, the bacteria can move through the inflamed tissue in the throat and into the jugular vein. And if the bacteria do reach the jugular vein, they can be deadly.

[00:13:17]>> 3 weeks later, with his [music] body clear of infection, Patrick Jr. finally goes home.

[00:13:26]And one year after his harrowing ordeal, Patrick is back in pursuit of his dream of becoming a graphic artist.

[00:13:33]>> And my ultimate goal is to keep working and hopefully save up enough so I can attend school somewhere and get my degree in some sort of graphic arts design. almost losing a child gives a parent a really strong appreciation for your kids. I just cherish and love every minute that I have because I know um through experience that it could be taken away from you in a heartbeat.

[00:14:02]Laamir syndrome is extremely rare. It's thought that the chances of contracting the disease are less than one in a million. While not much can be done to avoid contracting the fusabacterium itself, early diagnosis can prevent an infection from progressing to Laamir's syndrome.

[00:14:21]>> I was scared that my child had a mental illness. I knew that I wasn't making these symptoms up.

[00:14:28]I knew that something was wrong with me.

[00:14:38]Britney Goff [music] is an active 13-year-old growing up in Damascus, Maryland with her mother, Patty.

[00:14:44]The 9th grader enjoys school and hanging out with friends, but always looks forward to coming home to explore the Maryland wilderness.

[00:14:53]There was a huge woods behind my mom's house and I just absolutely loved going out there every single day and playing in the creek back there.

[00:15:06]I spent the majority of my time outside in the woods.

[00:15:11]>> But there's another outdoor environment where Britney also feels at home, the soccer field.

[00:15:18]>> She was a great player. She was on her uh school team and [music] on two other teams. They used to call her a gazelle because she would run from one end to the other and she had really long legs.

[00:15:27]>> I loved playing soccer. It was my favorite sport. My ultimate dream was to get a scholarship for soccer to go to college.

[00:15:38]>> One Saturday afternoon, Britney's soccer team is playing a semi-final match against their arch rival. I was doing very well through the first half of the game, but after about halfway through, I just felt completely out of breath and fatigued and just worn out. I had no energy. I felt really weak, which was not normal for me. [music] I was concerned because it was very unusual for Britney to slow down until she laid down to go to sleep at night. She was always moving. Over the course of the next few months, the unexplainable fatigue persists.

[00:16:15]>> Practice was becoming a lot harder than it used to be. And after soccer practice was over, I'd come home, I would just plop [music] down on the couch and take a nap.

[00:16:26]>> It got to the point where Britney was pretty much a permanent fixture on our couch. She went from this energetic little [music] girl to this lethargic pre-teen.

[00:16:36]That's when it hit home to me that it was time to start seeing the doctor and getting to the bottom of what was going on with her.

[00:16:45]>> Patty [music] takes Britney to the family physician who orders a battery of tests.

[00:16:52]>> A week later, the results are in.

[00:16:54]>> He sat us down and he told me that something did come back on my blood work.

[00:16:58]>> He said something is not right. I was really worried that something serious was going on with her.

[00:17:15]After 6 months of suffering from chronic fatigue, 14-year-old soccer player Britney Goff barely has the energy to make it off the couch.

[00:17:26]Now, after running a battery of blood tests, Britney's doctor thinks he has uncovered a reason for her mysterious symptoms.

[00:17:34]He told me that something did come back on my blood work and he told me that I have a disease called hemocchromattosis.

[00:17:42]Hemocromattosis is a genetic condition which causes the body to absorb too much iron from food. As a result, patients commonly suffer from extreme fatigue.

[00:17:55]>> The doctor explained to usually in your mid4s you start having symptoms. that she was very young to be showing this.

[00:18:05]I did think it was unusual that she was showing symptoms that [music] someone in their 40s would.

[00:18:12]>> Britney is put on a treatment program to remove excess iron from her blood.

[00:18:18]By her junior year, Britney's constant fatigue is wearing her down and her dreams of a normal high school life begin slipping away.

[00:18:28]weekends all my friends would go out and hang out, but I just stayed home just wanting to go to bed early and sleep. I wanted anything in the world just to be a normal teenager.

[00:18:39]>> Her levels of iron were coming down in her blood and she was still tired as she ever was. I wasn't quite sure what was going on.

[00:18:48]>> My health started getting so bad.

[00:18:52]I had to quit soccer. It was just heartbreaking to me having to quit the sport that I absolutely loved. I just felt like I was being robbed of my life.

[00:19:06]>> Patty continues to search for [music] reasons for her daughter's health problems.

[00:19:11]>> Every doctor wanted to blame it back on her that she was making this up and that she was doing this for attention.

[00:19:18][music] I was torn. I wasn't sure if this was real symptoms or if they were in her head. I was scared that my child had a mental illness.

[00:19:30]I wasn't really sure of anything anymore.

[00:19:34]>> I was really hurt that nobody would believe me, but I knew that I wasn't crazy. I knew that I wasn't making these symptoms up. I knew that something was wrong with me.

[00:19:43]>> Over the course of the next two years, Britney trudges [music] through high school, barely managing to graduate. In the fall, the 18-year-old enrolls in a local community college.

[00:19:53]>> My alarm went off for class one morning and my entire body. Just felt like I had been hit by a truck. It was like a sharp joint pain in my entire body.

[00:20:07]It was the most awful feeling I've ever experienced in my life. I was in tears crying. I had to call my mom to come and get me. I had never seen Britney in that much pain. She was sobbing and crying and crying to me like a little girl how bad she hurt. That was a terrifying moment for me [music] and I realized that I had to find out what was wrong with her.

[00:20:32]>> Patty immediately schedules an appointment with a new physician.

[00:20:35]>> She sat with us and [music] listened to Brit's entire story. After listening, she said she might have a few ideas and she wanted to do some blood work.

[00:20:45]I was so desperate to just finding an answer. It just felt like my world was falling apart.

[00:20:52]>> 4 days later, Britney returns to the doctor's office for the results.

[00:20:57]>> My doctor told me she had some news.

[00:21:00]I tested positive for Lyme disease.

[00:21:04]>> Lyme disease is caused by the bacterium Burellia Burgdorpherai.

[00:21:09]Inside Britney's body, the bacteria has traveled through the bloodstream and settled in the tissue surrounding the joints. Now, her immune system is continually attacking the bacteria, producing a series of chemical reactions that result in joint pain and extreme fatigue.

[00:21:27]>> I was really scared. I'd heard horror stories of people being crippled from Limes disease.

[00:21:34]I was very worried about what her future looked like with these type of symptoms.

[00:21:41]>> Britney's doctor prescribes a 3-week course of antibiotics.

[00:21:46]>> After I completed my 3-we course of antibiotics, I felt worse. I was really confused and I had no idea why it was happening.

[00:21:56]>> For the next 2 years, Britney is in and out of doctor's offices in a desperate search for help. But her condition only deteriorates.

[00:22:05]>> I ended up having to drop out of school because I just wasn't capable of even getting up and going to class.

[00:22:13]I felt like a 20-year-old trapped inside a 90-year-old's body. I could just [music] slowly feel myself dying each day.

[00:22:25]She was just sitting at home wrapped up in a blanket. It was almost like living with a shell of a person. She just wasn't there. It's the most painful thing to watch your own child suffer.

[00:22:36]>> It was terrifying knowing that I was going to live the rest of my life like this. I told myself [music] if the pain gets worse, I just didn't even want to live anymore.

[00:22:57]For nearly 5 years, Britney Goff suffered at the hands of a mysterious illness that left her chronically fatigued and in constant pain. But after being diagnosed with Lyme disease, she thought she'd found an answer to her health problems. Now, 2 years after that diagnosis, the 20-year-old's condition is becoming intolerable.

[00:23:18]I told myself if the pain gets worse, I just didn't even want to live anymore.

[00:23:27]>> At the end of her rope, Britney makes a lastditch appointment with Dr. Daniel Jller.

[00:23:32]>> Her symptoms were compatible with a diagnosis of chronic Lyme disease, but I began to suspect there might be something else going on in addition to Lyme disease.

[00:23:44]>> Dr. Jller orders a series of blood [music] tests to confirm his hunch.

[00:23:50]One month later, Britney and Patty get the results.

[00:23:54]>> Britney's test results, it showed that not only did she have persistent Lyme disease, but also confirmed that she was suffering also from besiosis.

[00:24:04]>> I had never heard of besiosis before in my life. I was completely shocked.

[00:24:12]Babesziosis is caused by a protoonean parasite called besia microi. When a person's infected, the parasite targets red blood cells which transport oxygen throughout the body and that can cause numerous problems for the host.

[00:24:29]Inside Britney's bloodstream, the bzzia parasites continue to invade red blood cells where they feed and reproduce.

[00:24:37]Eventually, [music] the parasites destroy the red blood cells, flooding the body with their offspring. As the besia parasites wipe out the cells, Britney's oxygen levels decrease, resulting in extreme fatigue.

[00:24:51]>> It was very frightening and scary to know that I've had [music] a parasite living in my body for the past 8 years, and I didn't even know it.

[00:25:03]In many cases, those infected don't experience any symptoms because their [music] spleen is able to remove the infected cells from the blood. But when the body's immune system is compromised by another condition such as Lyme disease, the spleen can become overworked and the besia parasite takes hold. If that happens, the consequences can be dire.

[00:25:26]The main fear that I had was that I was going to die because it can greatly affect you and kill you if you have a compromised immune system, [music] which I had because I had Lyme disease that wasn't treated for so long.

[00:25:43]I was very scared. I was just concerned with what the treatment was. How long would it take? Uh would she be better?

[00:25:50]Would she be worse?

[00:25:52]>> Dr. Jawer prescribes a course of long-term antibiotic and antiparasitic medications to rid Britney's [music] body of foreign organisms.

[00:26:04]But as she begins her recovery, Britney's haunted by one question. How did she become infected in the first place?

[00:26:13]Besia parasites and Lyme disease bacteria are often found in the salivary glands of deer ticks. When an infected tick bites a human, both the parasite and the bacteria can enter the bloodstream and infect the host.

[00:26:31]>> I started [music] thinking back and remembered the deer tick that I pulled off of her when she was about 6 years old. After my mom picked the deer tick off of me, a few days later, I got a huge bullseye rash on me. So my mom took me to the doctor and they put me on a short course of antibiotics and everything was fine after that.

[00:26:51]>> Doctors think that this is how [music] Britney contracted the diseases.

[00:26:57]>> Both besiosis and Lyme disease can lie dormant for several years after a person has become infected. In these cases, the onset of symptoms can be triggered by a range of factors including stress, trauma, or other illnesses.

[00:27:14]With the cause of her daughter's chronic illness now clear, Patty reflects [music] on the years of uncertainty.

[00:27:20]>> When I look back at Britney's entire childhood, I have a lot of guilt for feeling the feelings that I had that maybe it was in her head. It was hard for me to [music] come to grips with knowing that my child was in such pain and there were times that I didn't have compassion for her. And I feel like I should have been a uh you know a more compassionate mother in those times.

[00:27:48]>> During my recovery, I have had some angry and frustrating [music] feelings towards my family for not believing me.

[00:27:57]But I've just kind of learned to let them go and forgive and put it in my past.

[00:28:06]>> Today, Britney remains on her medications and is seeing improvement every day. Currently, I am a student. I enrolled back in college. I go to a 4-year university. I'm finally starting to put my life back together. It's the best thing in the world for me to see my daughter actually living her life actively the way she was meant to be. I feel like I actually have my child back.

[00:28:35]Ticks that spread Lyme disease and besiosis are endemic to the American Northeast, but cases have also been reported in the Mid-Atlantic and other US states. To avoid becoming infected, check for ticks after participating in outdoor activities in endemic areas and wear repellent that contains DE.

[00:28:57]>> I thought my whole JS was going to rot.

[00:29:02]My biggest fear was she would die if she didn't get it taken care of.

[00:29:10]>> Candy Negrante is a healthy 48-year-old [music] living in Modesto, California.

[00:29:15]An avid hiker and swimmer, Candi likes staying in shape, a trait that aids [music] her in her job, working in shipping and receiving for a large software company. It [music] was part of my job to be physical constantly, non-stop.

[00:29:29]No matter what it was, I had to move it and take [music] it and deliver. I had so many friends from so many departments.

[00:29:39]I just loved it.

[00:29:41]>> But there's another reason Candy enjoys going to work every day. Romance.

[00:29:47]>> Well, I was the only woman and nothing but construction men. Everybody knew me.

[00:29:52]I met Dewey there. Candy was always talking to people and funny and I thought she had a nice set of legs.

[00:29:59][music] Everybody did.

[00:30:02]>> A month later after we started seriously going out, he asked, [music] "Will you move in with me?" "Sure."

[00:30:11]Pack my things and here I go.

[00:30:15]>> One morning on a rare day off, Candy is getting ready for a long hike. So, I [music] was in the shower. When I put my hand to my breast, it felt very weird, like somebody put marbles inside of me.

[00:30:29]What do I have growing inside [music] of me? Cancer is the the first thing that came into mind. [music] I was scared.

[00:30:39]>> Later that day, Candy [music] visits her doctor and underos a series of X-rays.

[00:30:44]There was a cluster of cysts on my right breast and there were several large ones on my left breast. The doctor told me that he wanted to remove the clusters.

[00:30:56]I was very concerned what the outcome would be. Are they going to go in and find out it is cancer?

[00:31:03]Then what? I thought of dying.

[00:31:10]A week later, Dwey drives Candi to the hospital for her surgery.

[00:31:15]>> You don't want to think chemo and radiation and all of that. You hope nothing would happen, but things do happen.

[00:31:24]Candi is wheeled into the O where the surgeon carefully removes her collection of cysts.

[00:31:31]2 hours later, Candy wakes up in the recovery room where her doctor delivers some encouraging news.

[00:31:37]The doctor had mentioned to me that it was no big surgery. It was just little incision and he said you would heal quick. You go to work in a couple days, no problem whatsoever.

[00:31:50]I was relieved.

[00:31:52]>> You still got the thoughts of the biopsies coming back and the idea that something still might be wrong, that's always in the back of [music] your mind, but I was hoping that was the end of it.

[00:32:03]>> Candy returns home and begins her recovery.

[00:32:07]But the next morning, she wakes up to a peculiar sensation.

[00:32:12]>> Felt like I was cold, like I was wet, like somebody had dropped water on me. I open my eyes and I pull the sheets up and I I see this spludge of red. And I just jumped out of the bed. The bed was covered in blood. My right breast was oozing through the incision.

[00:32:32]It just kept pouring out through the stitches. I just I just freaked out.

[00:32:50]Less than 24 hours after a procedure to remove cysts from both her breasts, Candy Negrete is [music] waking up to a living nightmare. Her right breast is bleeding and oozing pus.

[00:33:03]My breast was so huge. I mean, huge and purple. I thought it was going to burst.

[00:33:12]>> I thought my whole chest was going to rot.

[00:33:16]I couldn't understand why my my right breast would be like that and not my left.

[00:33:22]>> It looked like she'd been in a wreck. I didn't know what to do or how to take care of it. And I'd never seen anything like this before.

[00:33:31]Dwey rushes Candy back to the hospital where she's immediately taken to the operating room. When >> the doctor cut the stitches, my breath just exploded and this fluid just kept flowing everywhere and he couldn't have enough gas to clean it all up.

[00:33:49]It was a living nightmare.

[00:33:54]>> The doctor drains and cleans the infection in Candy's [music] breast.

[00:34:00]An hour later, she's released.

[00:34:03]>> At that point, they still hadn't figured out what was really going on. But I took her home and hoping for the best that it was just going to go away. And that was just a a fluky thing that things happen.

[00:34:18]>> Candi stays home from work and slowly begins to feel relief from her constant pain.

[00:34:26]3 days later, the doctor brings her [music] in to review her biopsy results.

[00:34:31]>> My doctor told me the biopsies was fine.

[00:34:35]There was no cancer, but there was no explanation what caused the infection. I was ecstatic. Great. I'm going back to work.

[00:34:46]>> As her breast [music] begins to heal, Candy returns to work.

[00:34:52]>> I was changing boxes. my arm brushed around my right breast and I felt a lump and it just freaked me out. It felt like I had half a tennis ball inside of me and it was frightening to have uh that sensation.

[00:35:10]What is growing inside me now? My mind went back [music] to cancer all over again. I started crying and and carrying on. I was hysterical.

[00:35:22]>> That night, Candy returns home and tells Dwey about her strange new symptom.

[00:35:29]My thoughts right from the beginning were, "What's in there?

[00:35:35]What caused this?" She didn't have that before. And I kept telling her, "Maybe you need another doctor to look at this thing."

[00:35:42]>> I didn't want to go back to the doctor.

[00:35:45]I didn't want to be cut open again and go through the pain and suffering.

[00:35:50]>> For the next eight weeks, Candy does her best to grin and bear it.

[00:35:54]>> The lump kept growing. It got bigger and bigger where I couldn't even bring my arm down. It started like I'm I'm growing another breast. I thought, how big is it going to get? What is this thing growing out of me if it's not a tumor?

[00:36:10]>> My biggest fear was she would die if she didn't get it taken care of. I mean, it was obvious. This thing keeps growing and growing and growing. You can't have that. Something's going to give.

[00:36:22]>> Then one day, Candy finally breaks down and makes a lastm minute appointment with a new doctor.

[00:36:28]>> The doctor felt my side of my breast.

[00:36:33]And right off the bat, he said, "There's something inside of you."

[00:36:38]I was shocked. What do I have [music] inside? There was something growing inside of me, eating me alive like a parasite.

[00:36:46]What could it possibly be? What's growing inside? It was very scary to hear that.

[00:36:53]He did not emphasize what it was.

[00:36:56]He was going to call my doctor who performed the surgery the first time. I started going really hysterical. [music] I thought I really was dying, you know.

[00:37:10]Candi is immediately sent to the hospital where her first procedure was performed. Dwey races to meet her there.

[00:37:18]>> At that point, I was panicking. It's a really scary thought. You know, there's something in there that's just as bad as having cancer. It could kill you just as quick, if not quicker.

[00:37:27]>> The surgeon opens Cand's right breast once again and carefully removes the strange lump. 3 hours later, Candi wakes up in the recovery room. When I [music] came to after the surgery and the first person that was leaning over me, looking down [music] at me was my doctor.

[00:37:47]He just said to me, "We remove the problem."

[00:37:51]When he told me what he had found, I just couldn't believe it.

[00:38:07]After a procedure [music] to have cysts in both her breasts removed, Candy Negrete was left with a mysterious infection that left her right breast swollen and oozing pus. But just as the infection disappeared, a large lump began growing in its place. It's only when Candi underos further surgery that the source of her ordeal is finally revealed.

[00:38:30]>> He just said to me, um, we remove the problem. I was thinking the worst. I didn't know what was going on.

[00:38:40]>> The doctor told me that two surgical sponges were left inside of me from the first surgery.

[00:38:49]I was speechless.

[00:38:51]>> A surgical sponge is a sterile pad used by doctors to control bleeding during surgery. Very rarely, patients are sewn up with these sponges left inside them.

[00:39:02]When that happens, the body's immune system tries to destroy the sponge. But when that fails, the immune system walls it off from the other tissues >> inside Candy's breast. The immune system sent specialized cells to attack the foreign object. These cells incited inflammation in the tissue around the sponges, but the cells were unable to break down the massive sponges. So the surrounding tissue began forming a protective barrier around them, trying to prevent harm to the body.

[00:39:36]>> Retained surgical sponges often cause no symptoms at all and can remain unnoticed for decades. But in some cases, sponges that are left behind can lead to organ failure, blood poisoning, and even death.

[00:39:50]>> To me, it was unbelievable. Very unbelievable. I felt very angry for all the pain and suffering they put me through. I cannot understand how careless can you be. I felt sorry for Candy because she went on so long with this thing. I didn't know [music] whether somebody had made a mistake there, not knowing the procedures to go through. Something happened, something slipped and nobody saw it.

[00:40:20]Surgeries involving the chest, stomach, or pelvis usually require between 250 and 300 tools. Medical professionals are required by law to count all the instruments in and out of the surgical area, but accidents can happen.

[00:40:39]>> I felt relief because it was not cancer and it was not a tumor. It was not a parasite. I don't have the words to tell you how much hate I felt. It's unreal.

[00:40:52]Nightmare.

[00:40:56]>> Today, with the help of her husband, Candi is trying to put the past behind her.

[00:41:02]>> Die and I, [music] we finally got married after se several years. He's been very supportive, [music] you know, encouraged me to do better, to overcome this ordeal. Everything seems [music] to be going great now. She makes me jealous because she's got so much energy anymore. I see her bouncing around like a kid. I I can't believe it. The incidence of retained foreign objects following a surgery is very rare, but it's estimated that this may happen in as many as one out of every 9,000 surgeries. Today, some hospitals are developing innovative techniques such as scanning barcoded instruments during operations to reduce the chances of surgeons leaving their tools inside their patients. Have you ever wondered if there's a way to make your later years more fulfilling, peaceful, and free of unnecessary burdens? What if I told you that by letting go of just a few things, you could unlock a life of greater joy, purpose, and serenity? As we age, we often carry with us emotional baggage, outdated beliefs, [music] toxic relationships, and physical clutter that hold us back. But here's the good news.

[00:42:13]It's never too late to create the life you deserve. In this video, I'll walk you through the eight key things to let go of after age 70 and why releasing them will not only help you live longer, but also empower you to live better.

[00:42:27]You'll discover how decluttering your home can transform your environment into a peaceful sanctuary. How setting boundaries with toxic people can preserve your emotional health and how letting go of unnecessary responsibilities can give you the freedom to embrace the things that truly bring you joy. If you've been carrying regrets or unhealthy habits, I'll show you how to release them and reclaim your selfworth so you can focus on what matters most. Plus, I'll share why shedding outdated beliefs and financial worries can help you embrace new opportunities and live with confidence and abundance. By the end of this video, you'll have the tools to make lasting changes in your life, bringing more happiness, peace, and freedom as you move forward. So, stick around until the end because this could be the most liberating decision you make today. If you are not subscribed, I recommend subscribing and activating the notification bell so you don't miss any videos. Your support means a lot to me.

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[00:43:43]Now, let's begin. One, physical clutter and unused belongings. As we journey through life, collecting memories and experiences. We also gather physical objects, things that hold pieces of our hearts. The worn out rocking chair in the corner might remind you of quiet evenings spent with loved ones. A stack of old letters may bring back the laughter and tears of moments now past.

[00:44:10]A dress that once fit perfectly could whisper stories of a different time, a different you. These objects, once cherished, often reflect the richness of our personal history. But as we grow older, we begin to realize that the weight of these items can silently bear down on us. Not just in the physical sense, but on our hearts and minds as well. The process of living, particularly as we age, inevitably leads us to accumulate more than we need, more than we can use, and more than we can store in our limited space. And with each [music] item, the burden grows heavier. It's easy to hold on to things because they hold memories or represent some part of who we once were. But when we reach a certain age, after 70 for instance, we must ask ourselves an essential question. Do these things still add any true value to my life? Or are they merely occupying space, silently distracting me from the life I want to live today? Not every object should be discarded. Of course, there are treasures, irreplaceable pieces, memories that deserve to be honored. A photo album brimming with the faces of friends and family. A keepsake passed down from generation to generation. Or that old armchair where you spent countless hours reading or reflecting.

[00:45:29]These things matter and they should be kept close. But there are so many other items. Those extra sets of china, the collection of magazines you never had the time to read, the old clothes that no longer fit and never will again.

[00:45:42]These things don't serve us in the present and their silent accumulation can weigh on our souls more than we care to admit. Letting go of physical clutter is not about forgetting the past or disrespecting the memories that these things hold. It's about making space for the life you're still living. It's about honoring your journey, both the one you've traveled and the one you're still on, by releasing the things that no longer serve your purpose. It's a deeply personal act, an act of self-care. When you clear the clutter, you aren't just clearing your physical space. You're making room for peace, for joy, for simplicity. Start small. Maybe tackle a drawer or a shelf in the basement.

[00:46:26]There's no rush. As you sift through the items, let yourself feel the weight of each one. Ask yourself, "Does this bring me joy? Does it remind me of something that lifts my heart? Or is it simply a piece of forgotten baggage? It can be emotional. There's no shame in shedding tears for a thing that once meant so much. But the real beauty lies in the release. Imagine walking into your home and feeling the lightness of it, the clarity, the peacefulness. Every corner of your home is filled with purpose, with meaning. Every object around you adds to the richness of who you are now, not who you were decades ago. When you part with these items, it's not just about creating space for yourself. It's about sharing your blessings with others. Your unused treasures could be just what someone else needs. Maybe a family starting, a young couple setting up their first home, or a charity in need of gently used goods. When you donate, you create a ripple effect of kindness and generosity that transforms your act of decluttering into something much larger. The process of letting go is a metaphor for life itself. A reminder that we must release what no longer serves us to make room for the new, the fresh, [music] and the exciting. Just as we shed old habits, outdated fears, and past regrets, so too must we shed the things that weigh us down physically. When you release those burdens, you allow yourself to rediscover a sense of freedom and vitality. You allow your home, your heart, and your mind to become sanctuaries of peace, embracing the joy of simplicity. [music] It's liberating.

[00:48:09]Truly, to walk into a space that reflects who you are now, unencumbered by the past, yet deeply enriched by it.

[00:48:17]Letting go of physical clutter isn't just about tidying up. It's a celebration of the present moment, a declaration that you're ready to embrace the fullness of your life today without the excess that slows you down. It's a gift you give yourself. A beautiful, meaningful act of self-love, of honoring your worth, of creating the space you need to feel lighter, freer, and more connected to the life you're living right now. Two, toxic relationships.

[00:48:46]Life, especially in our later years, is far too precious to spend in relationships that drain us, that leave us feeling diminished or that bring negativity into the peaceful world we've worked so hard to build. When you reach your 70s, you've had decades of experience with relationships. Some have been filled with love, kindness, and mutual respect, while others have been marked by conflict, resentment, or even the heavy chains of obligation. By this stage in life, it's time to [music] reflect deeply with compassion and honesty on the people in your life. You must take a step back and ask yourself, which of these relationships nurture my spirit, and which ones have I been clinging to simply out of habit, guilt, or fear? Toxic relationships come in many forms, often disguised in subtle ways that are easy to ignore or rationalize. It could be the so-called friend who only reaches out when they need to vent. draining your emotional energy with their endless complaints and never once asking how you're doing or how your heart feels. Or perhaps it's a family member whose words or actions make you feel small, unimportant, or downright unworthy, leaving you questioning your value after every interaction. Sometimes the most insidious toxicity isn't even open hostility, but sheer indifference. A relationship where your presence is barely acknowledged, where you're made to feel invisible or irrelevant. These types of relationships, as quietly damaging as they are, [music] can steal your joy bit by bit until you wonder who you are and what you're even doing in such a relationship. If you are still watching this video and find these lessons useful, please comment one below to let me know that you are still here with me. Choosing to release these toxic relationships is not a matter of acting out of anger or revenge. It's a deeply loving decision, one that you make for yourself. It's a recognition that at this beautiful stage in life, you've earned the right to peace, respect, [music] and kindness in every single interaction you have. Walking away from toxicity or setting firm boundaries isn't an act of abandonment. It's an act of profound self-love. It's saying, "I deserve better." And acknowledging that your emotional well-being matters more than keeping up with a facade or fulfilling a duty. Setting those boundaries is not selfishness. It takes incredible courage to stand [music] up for your peace of mind. It's a bold declaration that you will no longer allow your spirit to be chipped away by people who drain you.

[00:51:19]That you will no longer place the expectations of others above your own soul's need for calm and nurturing.

[00:51:24]Letting go of toxic relationships doesn't always mean completely severing ties with someone. Sometimes it's about creating distance or simply redefining how you interact with them. You may choose to spend less time with certain people, not out of bitterness, but as a means of protecting your peace. Perhaps you'll limit your conversations to neutral topics, avoiding the emotional mindfields they often create. This is a way to regain control to ensure that your interactions do not continue to weigh down your spirit or undermine your sense of worth. Now, picture this.

[00:52:01]Imagine the freedom that comes when you surround yourself only with people who truly uplift you. People who love you for exactly who you are. [music] Imagine a life filled with laughter, with meaningful conversations that nourish your heart, and with a quiet, comforting presence of friends and loved ones who bring warmth and a sense of belonging to your life. This is the incredible gift you give yourself when you choose to release toxic relationships. You create space for love, for genuine connection, for the relationships that deserve to occupy your precious time. And in doing so, you open the door to a life where you are truly seen, valued, and celebrated. You deserve that kind of life. You deserve to feel at peace in every relationship, and you have every right to let go of anything or anyone that no longer supports your well-being.

[00:52:51]Three unnecessary responsibilities.

[00:52:55]As the years pass and you step into the golden chapter of your life, there comes a time, a quiet yet profound moment when you pause and reflect on the journey that brought you here. You think about the many roles you've taken on, the responsibilities you've shouldered with love and dedication for so many decades.

[00:53:13]Those duties, whether it was raising a family, managing a demanding career, or giving your all to your community, have been the defining threads of your life's tapestry. But now, as you enter your 70s, you may find yourself asking, "Do these responsibilities still bring me joy? Do they fuel my spirit? Or have they morphed into heavy burdens that I no longer need to carry?" It's easy to overlook how unnecessary responsibilities quietly infiltrate our lives over time. They slip in unnoticed like the soft rustle of leaves in the wind. You might have become the reliable one in your family, the person they turn to when there's a problem to solve.

[00:53:56]You've been the fixer, the problem solver, always ready to dive in and mend things, [music] even when you no longer need to play that role. Or perhaps there are traditions, promises, or [music] commitments that you continue to uphold out of habit, not because they nourish your heart. You may still tend to a large house or a garden that once brought pride, but now feels more like a relentless to-do list. And even though the joy may have faded, you carry on.

[00:54:23]These responsibilities, like uninvited [music] guests, sneak in and steal the precious moments that could be yours to savor.

[00:54:31]But here's the truth. Letting go of unnecessary responsibilities is not about abandoning your loved ones or walking away from what's truly important. It's about creating space for the things that truly matter now for the things that light up your soul. It's about recognizing that you deserve to prioritize your well-being. For instance, [music] if maintaining a sprawling property has become too much to handle, imagine how freeing it would be to downsize to a smaller, more manageable home. one that doesn't drain your energy but allows you to truly enjoy life. Or if you find that family members have come to rely on you too heavily, it's okay to gently set boundaries. In doing so, you empower them to step up and you release yourself from the weight of expectations. The decision to release these burdens is without a doubt deeply personal. There may be a tinge of guilt that comes with it, especially when you've spent years defining yourself by your ability to care for others. You may feel a sense of loss or worry that stepping back means you care less. But I promise you, letting go is not a sign of indifference. It is a profound act of self-love. It's about choosing to care for yourself in the same way you have cared for others all these years. By lightening your load, you create room for more joy, more presence, and more connection. Your relationships can deepen, and you will find yourself more engaged in the activities that bring you true happiness. Imagine waking up every morning without that long list of obligations hanging over your head.

[00:56:07]Picture the sheer relief of knowing that your time is yours, truly yours, to do with as you please. Whether it's curling up with a good book, taking a stroll in the park, or sharing a quiet moment with a dear friend, you'll find that [music] life takes on a new, more vibrant quality. When you release the unnecessary, you make space for what truly fills your heart, for what helps you feel alive. Life after 70 should not feel like an extension of endless chores and obligations. It should feel like a celebration, a beautiful recognition of everything you've accomplished and a hopeful embrace of the many joys still ahead. You've earned this. You've more than earned the right to let go, [music] to breathe deeply, and to embrace each day with a heart full of gratitude for the experiences that have shaped you and the ones yet to come. Letting go of unnecessary responsibilities is not just a practical decision. It's a [music] gift you give to yourself. a long overdue gift. You've walked this road with strength and grace, and now [music] it's time to allow yourself the luxury of simplicity, peace, and joy. You deserve it, and you've more than earned it. Four, negative self-t talk, and regrets. As you step into your 70s, life gives you something truly precious. The chance to sit quietly and reflect on the vast mosaic of your past. The vibrant joys, the painful challenges, the quiet victories, and the heart-wrenching mistakes all interweave to form the tapestry of who you are today. It is an opportunity to appreciate the wisdom and resilience that have grown from every moment. Yet, for many, this period of reflection is often marred by the persistent weight of regret and the harsh sting of negative self-t talk.

[00:57:56]These feelings, like silent thieves, creep into your thoughts and cloud the beauty of self-compassion and peace you so deeply deserve. Regret can feel like an uninvited guest that never truly leaves. It lurks in the corners of your mind, whispering about missed opportunities, paths never taken, dreams left behind, and relationships that slipped away, leaving you wondering what could have been. Those moments when you say to yourself, "What if I had done this differently?" Those haunting whatif thoughts can feel suffocating, as though you're trapped in a cycle of if only scenarios. But the truth is, life isn't about chasing perfection. It's about the [music] growth that happens within the mistakes, the lessons learned from the wrong turns, and the understanding that everything, even the [music] pain, has shaped you into the resilient person you are today. And then there's the poison of negative self-t talk, which often becomes a far more insidious thief of joy. It's the voice inside your head telling you that you didn't try hard enough, that you could have been better, or that somehow you don't deserve happiness because of your past choices.

[00:59:04]It can feel so loud and so constant, creating a cage around your self-worth.

[00:59:09]But here's the thing. Ask yourself, would you ever speak to a friend, a loved one with such cruelty? Of course not. So why would you allow yourself to be spoken to in such a heartless way?

[00:59:22]You've lived a life of courage. You face struggles and heartaches. And every step you've taken has shaped you into someone deserving of love, forgiveness, and compassion. The very qualities you so generously offer others are the ones you deserve to give yourself. Releasing regrets and silencing that relentless inner critic isn't about pretending that mistakes never happened or minimizing the impact of your choices. It's about choosing to forgive yourself. It's about offering yourself the same grace and kindness you'd extend to anyone you deeply care about. Forgiveness doesn't erase the past. Rather, it liberates you from the weight of the should have and could have that keep you shackled to old narratives. It's an act of freedom that allows you to stand tall with a lighter heart and be open to the possibilities of the future. To truly break free from the grip of regret and negative selft talk, you must actively shift the story you tell yourself. Instead of focusing on where you feel you went wrong, celebrate the incredible courage it took to make decisions in the first place.

[01:00:28]Recognize that each misstep, each setback has made you stronger, wiser, and more compassionate. Your life is not a story of failure but a testament to your resilience, your growth, and your unwavering ability to navigate life's twists and turns. Every hardship you faced has been a stepping stone that has led you to this moment of understanding and depth. Moreover, learning to be present, truly present in each moment is vital. Regret pulls you into the past while negative self-t talk chains you to a future of imagined missteps. But when you bring your focus to the here and now, when you allow yourself to just be, something beautiful happens. You begin to see the life unfolding before you, [music] not as a series of burdens or disappointments, but as a journey still brimming with potential. Practices that encourage mindfulness. Journaling, [music] meditating, or simply being still in nature can help you reconnect with the beauty of today. [music] When you're grounded in the present, you remember that you're not defined by what's behind you unless you allow it.

[01:01:34]The past, in its many complexities, no longer has to hold dominion over you.

[01:01:40]Letting go of regret and the harsh criticisms you've inflicted on yourself is not just an act of self-love. It's an act of reclaiming your story. It's about seeing your life not as a collection of mistakes, but as a vibrant, evolving journey of self-discovery, one that is woven with resilience, love, and invaluable wisdom. [music] By choosing to offer yourself grace, you carve out space for peace and contentment to flourish in your heart. You've earned the right to live with a heart that is no longer burdened by the past, but open to the joys and blessings that are still yet to come. So take a deep breath, forgive [music] yourself, and remember your journey is not over. There is so much life still waiting for you to live it fully and unapologetically.

[01:02:26]Five, unhealthy habits. As we move through the years, we accumulate not just the passage of time, but a wealth of wisdom.

[01:02:35]wisdom that quietly whispers to us, urging us to recognize the impact of the small, seemingly insignificant choices we make every single [music] day. These decisions, often unnoticed in the rush of life, gradually shape the course of our health, our happiness, and our very experience of growing older. When you reach your 70s, your body is a remarkable vessel, one that has carried you through decades of joy, pain, challenges, and triumphs. Now, it humbly asks for the care and love in return.

[01:03:07]But unfortunately, unhealthy habits, habits that we've justified, ignored, or simply resigned ourselves to can silently chip away at the vitality, joy, and peaceful heart we long for in these precious later years. Unhealthy habits don't always wear the obvious masks we think of, those tied to diet, exercise, or sleep. They often linger in the subtle corners of our daily routines.

[01:03:33]The small choices that we make out of convenience or comfort, or worse, out of fear. Perhaps it's the habit of skipping meals because you're too busy or too tired, or reaching for processed foods.

[01:03:45]After all, they're quick and familiar.

[01:03:48]Maybe it's the way you sit for hours at a time, convinced that it's easier or safer than moving. Or perhaps you've gotten into the routine of skipping those yearly doctor visits, telling yourself that it's too inconvenient, too much trouble. Yet, these seemingly insignificant actions over time accumulate into something that can drain the life from you physically and mentally. [music] But these unhealthy habits don't just undermine our physical health, they also weave their way into the emotional and mental fabric of our lives. How many of us have found ourselves trapped in patterns of endless worry, obsessively checking negative news, or isolating ourselves from those who love us, believing it's easier to be alone than to face the world. These habits, so ingrained over the years, feel like they are part of us, like they are simply the way things are. But they don't have to be. It's not too late to change. Even the most deeply entrenched habits can be shifted with effort and commitment. And in doing so, we open the door to a life filled with more energy, more joy, [music] and a sense of balance that we may have forgotten we deserve. If you are still watching this video and find these lessons useful, please comment two below to let me know that you are still here with me. The beauty of this stage in life is that change is always possible.

[01:05:09]It doesn't matter how long a certain habit has been a part of your routine, the door to transformation is still open. Start by taking a deep breath and reflecting on your daily habits. Ask yourself, are these habits serving me?

[01:05:24]Or am I simply falling into them because they're easy? Perhaps instead of skipping breakfast, you could start the day with a nourishing bowl of oatmeal or a piece of fresh fruit. Instead of staying stationary for hours, what if you could take a short walk around the block or stretch gently? Instead of diving into a spiral of negative news, could you spend that time listening to music that lifts your spirit, reading a [music] book that inspires you, or picking up the phone to call a friend?

[01:05:53]These small, thoughtful shifts may seem insignificant at first, but they have the power to change the trajectory of your day and in turn your life. Letting go of unhealthy habits doesn't happen in an instant. Change takes time and it requires patience. Most of all, it requires self-compassion. [music] It's easy to feel discouraged when the results don't appear immediately. But remember, each small victory is a triumph. Whether it's choosing a healthier snack, taking an extra step, or simply turning off the television early and getting a good night's sleep, these little changes compound over time.

[01:06:31]They create a ripple effect, a wave of wellness that touches every area of your life, one decision at a time. It's also important to remember that asking for help is not a sign of weakness, a profound strength. Seeking guidance from a doctor, a physical therapist, a nutritionist, or even a friend who will walk alongside you on this journey can make all the difference. You're not alone in this, and there's nothing more empowering than realizing that you don't have to face the challenge of change by yourself. Just imagine the freedom that comes with taking control of your health. The lightness, the energy, and the pride you'll feel as you wake up each day with a renewed sense of vitality, [music] ready to embrace the activities and moments you cherish.

[01:07:16]Picture the joy that will blossom as you realize that your body and mind are precious, deserving of every ounce of care and kindness you can give them.

[01:07:25]Letting go of unhealthy habits isn't about feeling regret for the past. It's about hope for the future. It's about embracing the possibility that you can live this chapter of your life with passion, joy, and a deep sense of fulfillment. As you make these healthier choices, you're not just adding years to your life. You're enriching those years with meaning, joy, and [music] a profound sense of gratitude for the gift of growing older. Each small step you take towards wellness becomes a step towards a life full of vitality, purpose, and a deep appreciation for all that you are and all that you still have yet to experience. It's never too late to begin and the journey is worth every effort. Six outdated beliefs. Life is not a destination but a continuous beautiful journey of growth and self-discovery. As we travel through the years, our beliefs act as the compass that helps us navigate the world, guiding our choices and influencing how we perceive ourselves in the world around us. These beliefs formed through our families, cultures, and experiences offer a sense of structure, security, and stability. But as time passes, those very beliefs that once served us may no longer align with the people we've grown to be or the life we truly want to live.

[01:08:44]As we enter our 70s, it becomes essential to pause and reflect. Are the beliefs I've carried with me for decades still serving me? Or are they holding me back from fully embracing the vast potential of this next chapter of my life? It's easy to cling to outdated beliefs because they've been there for so long, like old friends or worn out shoes. But sometimes those familiar beliefs can turn into invisible barriers, walls built from well-intentioned ideas that no longer align with the vibrant, wise person you've become. Perhaps it's the belief that aging means decline, that you are too old to learn something new, or that asking for help is a sign of weakness.

[01:09:23]Maybe it's an ingrained societal belief that your worth is tied to always putting others needs ahead of your own, or that you must avoid change because it might disrupt the safety and stability you've worked so hard to create. These beliefs often feel like safety nets, but in reality, they can limit your growth, prevent you from embracing new possibilities, and rob you of the richness that life still has to offer.

[01:09:46]But here's the profound truth I've come to understand. You are not the sum of the outdated beliefs you've carried with you. You are not confined by the thoughts that once shaped you. At any age, you have the profound power to question, reshape, and even release the beliefs that no longer serve your highest good. Letting go of old beliefs doesn't mean you are rejecting your [music] past or disregarding the wisdom you've earned along the way. Quite the opposite, it means you are honoring the depth of your journey, recognizing that the lessons of the past can be transformed into something that empowers you to live an even more authentic and fulfilling life today. Take a moment and reflect on the stories you've been telling yourself. Do they reflect possibility or do they impose limitations?

[01:10:33]For example, if you believe you're too old to learn about technology, challenge that thought by reminding yourself of all the older adults who've embraced smartphones, social media, and even online learning to stay connected with the world. If you find yourself thinking that change is too much to bear, think back to the countless changes you've navigated throughout your life. Each one was a testament to your resilience, your adaptability, and your boundless capacity for growth. You've already weathered storms, overcome challenges, and emerged stronger. And there's no reason why you can't continue to do so.

[01:11:09]Letting go of outdated beliefs also means stepping into the unknown with all its beauty and wonder. Growth does not stop with age. It evolves. There's always more to discover, more to explore, to contribute. Whether it's picking up a new hobby, forming meaningful connections with people from different generations, or redefining what happiness looks like for you, allowing yourself the freedom to think beyond old limitations opens up doors [music] you never imagined. And those doors, they lead to uncharted adventures, to parts of yourself that have been waiting to be discovered, to moments of joy and fulfillment that you might have dismissed long ago. Imagine the deep, soul stirring liberation of replacing I can't with I'll try or it's too late with now is the perfect time.

[01:11:59][music] Envision stepping into each day not with trepidation about what you might lose, but with a sense of exhilaration for what you might gain.

[01:12:07]This shift in mindset is more than just a mental adjustment. It's a transformative act of self-love and empowerment. It's about taking back the reigns of your life. Choosing joy and possibility over fear and limitation.

[01:12:21]Letting go of outdated beliefs is one of the most healing, nurturing acts of self-care you can offer yourself. It is a way to shed the heavy weight of unnecessary expectations and instead embrace the limitless freedom to live life on your terms. In doing so, you are not only honoring the wisdom and beauty of the years you've lived, but also opening yourself to the incredible untapped potential of the years still to come. The story of your life is far from over. [music] It's still unfolding, and the most vibrant chapters might just be waiting for you to turn the page. Seven.

[01:12:56]Financial worries that no longer apply.

[01:12:59]By the time you reach your 70s, you've likely spent decades managing your finances with meticulous care. always thinking ahead and making sacrifices to ensure a stable future. You've worked hard to save for retirement, made thoughtful choices to provide for your family, and maybe even endured difficult times, all while staying focused on creating a secure life. These habits forged during years of financial struggle are a testament to your discipline and commitment. But now, as you enter this new phase of life, it's important to pause and ask yourself, are these financial worries still necessary?

[01:13:35]Or have they become invisible [music] chains keeping you from fully embracing the peace and freedom you so deserve?

[01:13:41]For many, these old financial anxieties can cling to us long after they've ceased to be relevant. [music] You might find yourself hesitating to spend on the things that bring you joy or comfort because of that ingrained frugality. A quiet, almost unconscious guilt may settle over you when you use the savings you've worked so hard to build. Even though those very savings were meant for this time, the time when you should be able to enjoy the fruits of your labor, these lingering worries whisper to you.

[01:14:10]What if there's an emergency? What if I run out? What if I become a burden to my loved ones? But here's the truth. While it's wise to remain mindful of your resources, clinging to financial caution in an almost paralyzing way can rob you of the very joy you've earned. This is your time to evaluate your situation with clarity and confidence, not fear.

[01:14:34]You've spent years planning, and it's time to trust in that planning. It's time to release the anxiety that has become a constant companion and breathe freely again. Perhaps it's worth consulting with a trusted financial adviser to gain that final peace of mind, knowing that your finances are solid. And it's okay to live without constantly looking over your shoulder.

[01:14:55]When you understand your financial reality, when you embrace it with calm confidence, you can replace that anxious grip with a sense of empowerment. The numbers, the facts, they no longer feel like a threat, but like a foundation upon which you can confidently build the rest of your life. Money, after all, is just a [music] tool. It's meant to enhance your life, to allow you to create memories, to embrace the things that make you happy. Maybe it's something as simple as a comfortable chair to relax in, a leisurely lunch with friends that fills your heart with laughter, or supporting a grandchild's education. These aren't just things you spend on. They are investments in your happiness, in the legacy you leave behind. Letting go of financial fear doesn't mean you're being reckless or careless with your resources. It's about trusting yourself, about honoring the years of effort you've put into getting here. You've already shown great wisdom and restraint in managing your finances.

[01:15:54]Now is the time to trust that and live freely. Imagine living without that constant nagging worry of what if.

[01:16:02]Picture yourself making decisions not from a place of fear, but from a place of abundance and gratitude. This shift in mindset can be profoundly liberating.

[01:16:12]The peace that comes from realizing that your resources are a means to a fuller, more joyful life rather than a lifeline to cling to is immeasurable. And with that freedom, you'll find a [music] deeper appreciation for the relationships, the experiences, and the simple joys that make life so precious.

[01:16:31]Releasing unnecessary financial worries is an act of profound self-love. It's about reclaiming your time, your energy, and your capacity for joy. It's about moving beyond scarcity and into a life filled with abundance. The abundance of happiness, love, of memories. You've worked so hard for this moment, for this season of life. Now is the time to savor it, to enjoy the peace of mind you've earned, and to embrace the beautiful, well-deserved freedom that comes with it. Let go of the weight of what if, [music] and step fully into the life you've worked so hard to create. It's yours to enjoy, and [music] you've more than earned the right to do so. Eight, fear of change. As we grow older, change can feel like an unwelcome guest.

[01:17:20]Knocking at the door with an unsettling sense of uncertainty. It's especially true as we reach our 70s [music] when the mere thought of something new, something different, can stir up a deep fear, one that shakes our very foundation. The routines we've built over a lifetime, the familiar faces, places, and habits, become our comfort zones, our safe havens. The unknown, however, feels like an unpredictable storm, [music] and we may find ourselves desperately holding on to what we know, even if it no longer serves us. Yet, I truly believe that change isn't the enemy we make it out to be. It's the very thing that brings growth, [music] renewal, and even liberation. Change is an opportunity to evolve, to shed old skin, and to transform into someone better suited to the person you are today. Fear of change often arises from our longing to cling to what feels comfortable, even though we know deep down that we have outgrown it. Maybe it's the thought of downsizing your home, a place filled with years of memories, or learning new technology that feels foreign and intimidating.

[01:18:28]Maybe it's the physical changes that come with age, aches, limitations, or the feeling of being left behind in a world that moves too fast. And of course, there's the inevitable shifting of relationships, both social and familial, as you try to navigate new roles. If you are still watching this video and find these lessons useful, please comment [music] three below to let me know that you are still here with me. It's completely natural to resist these shifts. Change is frightening, especially when you feel as though you're being pulled away from everything you know. But here's the thing. Holding on to the old, even if it feels safe, can trap you in a life that no longer nourishes your soul. Clinging to what once was, can prevent you from discovering what could be. Each change, even the most uncomfortable ones, carries with it the seed of possibility.

[01:19:20]A chance to rediscover yourself, to connect with new people, and to embrace opportunities you may have never considered before. In my journey, I found that letting go of the fear of change begins with shifting the way I view it. Instead of focusing on what I'm losing or leaving behind, I now think about what I stand to gain. Downsizing may seem daunting, but it could mean fewer chores and more time to focus on the things that bring me joy. Trying something new might feel scary, but it could open the door to unexpected happiness, [music] to new friendships, to a fresh sense of purpose. Change isn't about losing control. [music] It's about rediscovering your strength, your resilience, and your remarkable ability to adapt. Even when you find yourself standing on unfamiliar ground, I imagine the freedom that comes with embracing change with curiosity, not dread. I picture myself stepping into each new experience with an open heart, finding strength in the wisdom that life has so generously gifted me. Each new chapter offers the opportunity to create lasting memories, [music] find joy in the simplest moments, and experience peace in places I never expected to find. Letting go of the fear of change is not just about the practical aspects of life. It's about reclaiming my right to live fully, embracing each moment as it comes, and letting go of the limiting beliefs that held me back. As I reflect on life after 70, I believe it's a time to embrace freedom, joy, and simplicity. It's a time to release what no longer serves you. Whether that's physical clutter, unhealthy habits, toxic relationships, or outdated beliefs. Letting go doesn't mean you are losing something valuable.

[01:21:05]It means you are making room for something far greater. Clarity, peace, and the space to truly enjoy the things that bring happiness into your life.

[01:21:14]This is not a time for regret or dwelling on what's gone. [music] It's a time to celebrate the richness of your journey. Honor the lessons learned and step forward with lightness and purpose.

[01:21:24]This is your time to live with intention. It's a time to savor the small, beautiful moments that make life worth living, to cherish the people who bring you joy and to cultivate experiences that nourish your spirit.

[01:21:37]Every day, no matter what age you are, is a gift. Every choice you make can lead you closer to a life of peace, contentment, [music] and fulfillment.

[01:21:47]You've worked hard. You've loved deeply, and you've learned countless lessons along the way. Now you have the right to live on your own, unburdened by fear, unafraid of the unknown and deeply fulfilled in every moment. This is your life, beautiful, full, and waiting to be lived with open arms. As we come to the end of this discussion, I want to ask you, what have you learned so far?

[01:22:13]Reflect on the ideas we've shared and think about how embracing change and letting go of what no longer serves you can truly transform your life. What's one thing that stood out to you today?

[01:22:24]Something you'll carry forward and practice in your journey. I'd love to hear your thoughts. Please take a moment to share in the comments below. And if you found value in this video, please leave your comment. And don't forget to like, share, and subscribe to our channel for more insightful content like this. Let's continue this journey together, embracing change, living with purpose, and finding peace in every stage of life. Thank you for watching and I look forward to connecting with you in the next